August 15

Documentary on the tenor change of the GOP?

I came across a clip from the Reagan/Bush presidential debates and it was staggering how much they sounded like “centrist” Democrats. That’s the Republicanism of my youth (Gen-X). Has anyone put together a sequence of how the messaging has evolved (especially with the impact of Fox News’ arrival) and the extremely tenor shift of GOP messaging and tactics? Happy for anything that collates similar material relative to the Democrats.
posted by amanda to Society & Culture at 11:03 AM - 6 answers

Is this just phishing?

Hello. Please explain these two spam-like emails I received, which did not get routed into my spam folder. Usually I ignore such stuff, but I know next to nothing about this sort of thing. Please explain it like I'm a toddler. [more inside]
posted by BlahLaLa to Computers & Internet at 10:51 AM - 4 answers

Vote for the Metafilter Steering Committee!

🗳Just a quick note!🗳 Voting has begun for the inaugural Steering Committee (SC) for Metafilter! Come on over to MeTaTalk for a list of candidates and explanation of the voting process and help determine the future of the site!
posted by Brandon Blatcher to Grab Bag at 10:35 AM - 0 answers

Understanding civil/criminal court cases

I know plaintiffs and defendants (and by extension, their attorneys) are discouraged from discussing pending court cases publicly (for reasons I don't fully understand). But what about after a case is decided or settled? Where are the victors bragging about justice served, or the angry losers railing against an unjust legal system? I'm interested in both civil and criminal cases. [more inside]
posted by commander_fancypants to Law & Government at 8:49 AM - 17 answers

Steady state heat transfer - calculating delta T

I need to know how to calculate the delta t between "inside" and "outside" given a u factor of either .0555 or .0333. Inside of the cooler is to be at 1 degree Celsius, ambient outside the cooler is 23.5 degrees Celsius. I used to know how to do this, but I cannot remember
posted by rudd135 to Science & Nature at 7:45 AM - 6 answers

Are thick men's dress socks a thing?

I work in an office environment where classic, business casual is the dress code. I have noticed over the years in buying classic dress socks that all men's dress socks are thin. What gives? [more inside]
posted by uncannyslacks to Clothing, Beauty, & Fashion at 7:09 AM - 14 answers

Copyright - use part of a painting for company logo

I want to use a part of a painting for a logo. It is a painting from Picasso, let's say this one: and I want to incorporate the head of the horse into my logo. What rules do apply here? Picasso died 1972 so his paintings are still copyrighted, so I can't reproduce them without auithorization. Is my case special? Is it relevant that I only use a small part? [more inside]
posted by SweetLiesOfBokonon to Media & Arts at 5:45 AM - 4 answers

Taking care of yourself when the chips are down

When things are going well, I'm good at taking care of myself, but I neglect my physical and emotional health badly when things are tough. How do I change this? [more inside]
posted by unicorn chaser to Health & Fitness at 12:35 AM - 8 answers

Have I been out of the relationship game too long?

I haven't had a relationship or really a date since before Covid. I'm a male in my 30s, and I've been talking to a woman in her late 20s but I've been getting very confusing signals and the nature of the relationship has changed. Should I ignore her or pursue it? Details within. [more inside]
posted by anonymous to Human Relations at 12:16 AM - 19 answers

What is your favorite song covered by another band?

I'm creating a new exercise playlist, after getting burned out on the ones I have. I came across the song Ring of Fire, originally by Johnny Cash, covered by Social Distortion. I was blown away by how good it is! What is your favorite song that was covered by another band? Thanks!
posted by racersix6 to Media & Arts at 12:11 AM - 55 answers

transmasc pregnancy

I need resources on how transmasculine people deal with pregnancy - deciding whether to do it in the first place, keeping dysphoria at bay during and after, etc. [more inside]
posted by anonymous to Human Relations at 12:11 AM - 9 answers

Relationship used to be abusive but not anymore?

The past was scary. If I knew what I know now, I would've broken up a long time ago, back when the worst happened. It's never okay for a partner to call you in the middle of the night for days just to tell you to fuck off. But now we've both grown. We're happy. Do I still leave? [more inside]
posted by anonymous to Human Relations at 12:11 AM - 13 answers

August 14

Learning about gender online: Is it possible to avoid drama/trolls?

Do you have any advice for avoiding overly heated responses when attempting to learn about gender identity online? Is it just part of the package I have to learn to deal with? [more inside]
posted by Zumbador to Human Relations at 10:36 PM - 6 answers

What's The Easiest Way to Manage Photos Across Devices?

I take a lot of photos. I like to edit those photos on various different devices. I am looking for an easy/streamlined way to store my photos in a way that I can access them from whatever device I want to use, in a way that doesn't lose file quality. More details about devices, current cloud storage situation, etc, inside! [more inside]
posted by carlypennylane to Technology at 8:47 PM - 6 answers

Perfect hotel for a writing retreat, if the writer in question is weird

Toying with the idea of using some vacation time on a solo or pair writing retreat later this year. I could go to a standard cute B&B but if I'm going someplace specifically to stay in my room/in the building, I'd rather stay somewhere that was at least a little strange. [more inside]
posted by babelfish to Travel & Transportation at 8:32 PM - 8 answers

Outdoor Work clothing for the South East USA

Got a great job working for a local farm, where I'll be delivering their produce. Any recommendations for outdoor clothing? [more inside]
posted by clocksock to Clothing, Beauty, & Fashion at 7:27 PM - 6 answers

sometimes you have to dig deeper, but sometimes you have to let go

i am genderfluid presenting as male due to work and society pressures but i prefer to present as female when possible. last night i uploaded several pics of both gender presentations to Bumble in the process of creating an account, and they keep deleting my cutest female picture with a generic non-explanation saying it's breaking their photo guidelines. [more inside]
posted by glonous keming to Human Relations at 6:31 PM - 3 answers

What's the easiest way to sort a huge list of words by part of speech?

I have a Mac and a Raspberry Pi. I have a text file with a list of a few thousand words. I want the list split into separate lists of all nouns, verbs, adjectives, etc. If a word can be used as multiple parts of speech, it should end up in multiple lists. This is just for a silly project and it only needs to be done once, so the way it gets done can be sloppy or hacky. I'd rather not do it manually since it would take way too long.
posted by 2oh1 to Computers & Internet at 5:59 PM - 5 answers

Best sheets and towels, non-linen, non-Turkish towel edition

I need to replace some towels and should probably get a set of sheets. I would like to shell out for sort of the best in a middle-class-boring sense. What should I buy? [more inside]
posted by Frowner to Home & Garden at 5:51 PM - 22 answers

Help me not get a brain-eating amoeba

Can I do neti-pot / nasal rinse with bottled water, if it's not labeled "distilled"? [more inside]
posted by cnidaria to Health & Fitness at 5:01 PM - 16 answers

Fun, safe sites for tweens

With Mini McGee entering high school, we have entered the Brave New World of children with phones. What are some interesting sites we could add to his browser's "allowed" list? [more inside]
posted by Eyebrows McGee to Computers & Internet at 4:52 PM - 12 answers

Renter's Insurance that Covers Pet Damage

My landlord says I can have a cat but only if I provide proof that I have renter's insurance that covers pet damage. [more inside]
posted by firemonkey to Pets & Animals at 4:50 PM - 3 answers

Non-Asshole Running Shoe Forum or Subreddit?

Is there a forum or subreddit where a guy can ask a question about running shoes and not get flamed/piled-on/etc. by divas and assholes? [more inside]
posted by Thorzdad to Health & Fitness at 2:08 PM - 11 answers

Grocery shopping list app/template

How to build a grocery shopping list by selecting from a list of items that I have previously…listed [more inside]
posted by Triumphant Muzak to Computers & Internet at 12:45 PM - 12 answers

How, besides roasting, can I turn pumpkin seeds into food?

I have grown pumpkins! They are delicious! They are super full of big fat pulp-covered seeds that also look delicious! I want to eat the seeds somehow, but I do not have the manual dexterity/endurance to de-pulp, wash, and dry the seeds so that they can be roasted. There's gotta be some other way I can turn them into food, right? ..... Right? [more inside]
posted by some_kind_of_toaster to Food & Drink at 12:43 PM - 6 answers

Fine dining w/Potomac River view?

Seeking recommendations for fine dining restaurant with Potomac River view. Located between Old Town Alexandria to the south and Georgetown to the north. Bonus points for rooftop dining.
posted by John Borrowman to Food & Drink at 12:15 PM - 5 answers

Most current protocol for covid test? (YANM Epidemiologist..or whoever..

I'm getting conflicting information on the latest covid test. [more inside]
posted by Rumi'sLeftSock to Health & Fitness at 10:59 AM - 9 answers

Cooling off instead of sweating all day

I do cardio in the morning but to prevent excessive sweating all day I take significant steps (cold water, cold shower, air-dry in cold air, ice packs in key spots) to bring my core temperature to the point where I'm only lightly sweaty. But now I'm wondering how much of the benefit of raising my heart rate and forcing my body to cool itself I'm losing, particularly in terms of calories burned. Anyone know?
posted by Tell Me No Lies to Health & Fitness at 10:45 AM - 7 answers


Is there a type of person I can hire who will come to my condo, figure out what needs to be fixed/maintained/etc., and then do those fixes? A handyperson would do the fixes, but I really need someone to say something like 'oh, that gap really needs some caulk soon" or "that needs to be replastered" or "you're going to need a new water heater in X years" or whatever because I have no idea WTF I'm doing or what needs to be done to maintain my condo. Is this a thing? Is it a thing in NYC specifically? What is it called?
posted by Rock 'em Sock 'em to Home & Garden at 10:30 AM - 10 answers

Securing My Stuff At Coney Island

Yes, it's an NYC-filter, and an NYC-beach-filter to boot. But I'm having a devil of a time finding this out - are there lockers I can use as a solo visitor to Coney Island to secure my stuff while I'm swimming? [more inside]
posted by EmpressCallipygos to Travel & Transportation at 9:49 AM - 6 answers

Leaving Google Mail and ecosystem in 2022

I have been meaning to migrate my personal email and calendars from Google for a while...but I keep being intimidated by figuring out the logistics. I'm hoping the hive mind can help! [more inside]
posted by philosophygeek to Computers & Internet at 9:16 AM - 5 answers

Examples of real speakeasies with rotating rooms?

A common theme in film and television are speakeasies that turn into a reputable establishment with a flip of a switch. Is this a reference to a specific movie or were there actual speakeasies that had some sort of mechanical means of changing their appearance? I'm not talking about speakeasies that require a code to get in, but physically turning into something they're not. [more inside]
posted by geoff. to Society & Culture at 6:43 AM - 7 answers

Are mug warmers safe?

I want to buy mug warmers to keep on my bedside table and desk to keep my drinks warm but I am worried about safety, given that I am super forgetful (hence cold tea) and have a lot of cats around. How hot do these get? If a pillow fell on top of one, would it catch fire? Would the cat??
posted by dorothyisunderwood to Shopping at 3:24 AM - 13 answers

How best to renew a leaky cement-lined pond?

We have a cement-lined pond that hasn’t held water for a long, long time. We’ve removed the dry plants and earth from it and would like to make it watertight. What would be the easiest and/or best way to do that? [more inside]
posted by fabius to Home & Garden at 2:04 AM - 8 answers

August 13

Can you plant trees next to retaining walls?

We have a wooden fence in our backyard with a small garden bed next to it which is held up with a ~25 cm thick stone brick and mortar retaining wall. The garden bed is about 1 m measured from the retaining wall to the fence. We want to plant a couple of trees in the garden bed to hopefully provide some privacy, as neighbors are currently able to see over the fence into our backyard. But we want to make sure that the trees don't damage the retaining wall. [more inside]
posted by strekker to Home & Garden at 11:00 PM - 12 answers

Help settle a disagreement about masking and covid

My wife wants to give up masking for covid. I think we should continue. [more inside]
posted by NotLost to Health & Fitness at 8:28 PM - 57 answers

Tell me about your experiences with group travel for "solo travellers"

I've been seeing ads for Flash Pack, Intrepid travel and other group travel packages for what they call "solo travellers", what are these actually like? [more inside]
posted by Ensign to Travel & Transportation at 8:13 PM - 7 answers

Has this film technique found in The French Dispatch been used elsewhere

In The French Dispatch, there's a moment (18m30s) where a transition happens and I'm wondering if it has been used previously in any other films (to avoid spoilers, I'll detail it below) [more inside]
posted by gwint to Media & Arts at 6:40 PM - 9 answers

What is it like to work in IT support?

Pretty much what it says on the tin. Context below the fold ... [more inside]
posted by threecheesetrees to Work & Money at 6:31 PM - 17 answers

Hanging out in Eugene, OR

I'm taking a workshop in Eugene OR for a few days at the end of August and am taking the whole week there to get out of the house. What are your recommendations for low key amusements and food? (difficulty level: vegan) [more inside]
posted by Advanced_Waffler to Travel & Transportation at 4:00 PM - 5 answers

It's my birthday and good things are coming, eventually

I’m turning 30 next week! But I’m in a weird transitional phase of life where I’ve just made a bunch of changes that will improve my life in the long term, but currently have me feeling weird and a bit sad. I’d like to do something for myself to mark the occasion and maybe cheer myself up a little, too. Do you have any suggestions? [more inside]
posted by sock here, sock there to Grab Bag at 3:19 PM - 12 answers

Can you make macOS Finder show image titles & captions in gallery view?

For reasons, I'd like to make it possible for someone to view a collection of photos in ordinary folders on macOS. The ideal solution would be if the gallery view in macOS Finder would show titles and captions. But I haven't found a way to make it do that. Is there? [more inside]
posted by StrawberryPie to Computers & Internet at 1:12 PM - 4 answers

What to do with extraneous wiring in bathroom fixtures?

I am swapping out old bathroom vanity lights that have an attached 3-prong grounded electrical outlet, but the new fixtures do not have the outlet. I have questions about what to do with extraneous wiring. [more inside]
posted by terrapin to Home & Garden at 12:22 PM - 4 answers

Keep the mouse out of the house!

A mouse has been visiting our apartment this summer. In my experience, the only way to really deal with mice in an apartment is to seal up the cracks and keep them out — but an exterminator has done this twice already and the mouse has chewed through the steel wool and plaster within a week! How can I keep these little shits (pun intended) out? [more inside]
posted by vanitas to Home & Garden at 12:17 PM - 14 answers

Best Antique and Vintage Shops Between Mendocino and Eureka

Next week (8/15-8/19) I will be traveling along the northern California coast, and I am looking for two things, between Mendocino and Eureka: 1. The best antique shop, specifically for someone who is in the process of remodeling their Victorian home. 2. The best vintage shop, specifically for someone (11yo girl) who is obsessed with "old timey" clothes. Yelp reviews are all over the place, so I would appreciate personal suggestions. Thanks!
posted by sacrifix to Travel & Transportation at 11:31 AM - 1 answer

What does REALLY wanting kids feel like?

I often hear the advice that people should only have children because they really, truly want them, not because our society says it's a necessary milestone in life. This seems very sensible to me, but got me wondering - what does really, truly wanting kids feel like? Is it one of those "if you have to ask, it's not for you" situations, or is there room for ambivalence? Particularly looking for perspectives from folks who are (or would be) the child-bearing partner in a family.
posted by btfreek to Grab Bag at 11:23 AM - 33 answers

What was this Brian Eno t-shirt in 2009?

On this day in 2009, I attended a concert and had a brief encounter with a Brian Eno-related t-shirt. Now I'm trying to find that shirt. What could it have been? [more inside]
posted by knile to Clothing, Beauty, & Fashion at 11:00 AM - 4 answers

List of Los Angeles animal rescues?

A couple weeks ago I found a web page with a long list of shelters/rescues in the Los Angeles area--but the key thing was the number of pets at each shelter was listed. Please help me find it again! It wasn't fancy, but I think had check boxes to choose which shelters to search. Mainly I want to see which locations have the most animals to go look for a new dog.
posted by lemonade to Pets & Animals at 10:46 AM - 1 answer

Finding good movies on Netflix and Amazon Prime etc.

This is such an obvious question, but I couldn't find any answers. How Do I Get a List of all the Movies on Netflix and Amazon Prime with an IMDB Rating of 7+? With the heavy competition for streaming subscribers, you would think they would make it easy to find the good stuff!
posted by storybored to Sports, Hobbies, & Recreation at 8:59 AM - 11 answers

10 More Boston Location-Based Riddles!!

I'm still in a competitive scavenger hunt that takes me across Boston, to be the first to find a small token. They are placed in the last few days and just released. It's fun, but I'm in a competition where we are supposed to "use all of our resources". Askmi is a resource, right? [more inside]
posted by bbqturtle to Grab Bag at 8:46 AM - 16 answers

Please give my TV watching some structure.

I like challenges like the Seattle Public Library's summer book bingo, or re-reading all the Discworld books in a logical order. What's something I could do along those lines, but for TV? Not necessarily "Watch every episode of (this particular series)" but something more complex? [more inside]
posted by The corpse in the library to Media & Arts at 8:16 AM - 14 answers

Relational database of the DSMs?

I would like to see a Venn diagram of symptoms and diagnoses in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders. Has anyone created something like that? [more inside]
posted by ponibrown to Technology at 8:13 AM - 0 answers

Tell me about your version of "steak and eggs"

It seems like whenever I order a steak at a restaurant and take leftovers home, someone says "steak and eggs tomorrow morning!" Which sounds great, but I've never found a preparation of leftover steak + eggs that is really satisfying. Do you have a great version that works well with leftover steak? Tell me about it!
posted by primethyme to Food & Drink at 7:51 AM - 14 answers

I don't understand DALL-E ... can someone explain?

I feel like this might be such a dumb question that I'm going to get mocked, but please bear with me. I just tried this "DALL-E" image thing ... is it searching the universe for pictures that fit my description, or is it literally making them up from scratch? I asked for a picture of a bowl of oranges against a blue backdrop -- are these somebody's real oranges, or is this completely new and made up only after I asked for it?
posted by mccxxiii to Computers & Internet at 7:08 AM - 15 answers

I’m glad that you’re sorry now

I’m looking for songs sung from the perspective of someone who got dumped for someone else, and now the person who dumped them got dumped or hurt by the person they left them for. [more inside]
posted by southern_sky to Media & Arts at 6:26 AM - 25 answers

Thor (plot) point

I have a question about potentially triggering material in the most recent Thor movie, Love and Thunder. Inevitable spoiler alert so there's [more inside]
posted by Chairboy to Media & Arts at 5:43 AM - 11 answers

How do I become better at UX/web design?

I've worked with some top talent at design agencies that produced amazing web apps and website design. As in some projects I've been on have been nominated at Cannes and other big industry events. I've always been on the development side and was spoiled as I would always take these great designs and make them actually work. I often have projects I want to do on my own but I'm paralyzed by not being able to design anything myself. How do I get better at it? What tools do I use? [more inside]
posted by geoff. to Media & Arts at 5:28 AM - 12 answers

August 12

$200k for retirement - but already 65

I’m helping a relative figure out how to best invest around $200,000 which is going to be their retirement fund. The thing is, they are already 65 - not retired yet but not far off. Is it as simple as putting as much cash as possible into the 401k? [more inside]
posted by ukdanae to Work & Money at 11:19 PM - 11 answers

What’s wrong with my bladder?

I had a UTI two months ago that got better after treatment, but now I have the same symptoms and tested negative (including culture). WTF do I do now? Special snowflake details inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous to Health & Fitness at 11:17 PM - 16 answers

Anxious episode months ago has left me jittery and shaky

About two months ago, I had a reasonably severe anxious episode. This has now mostly passed, so why do I still feel shaky and jittery, and find myself with a tremor (unless I work to suppress it)? [more inside]
posted by anonymous to Health & Fitness at 11:17 PM - 6 answers