April 27
DIYFilter: what's the best way to make a ceramic mosaic on wood?
I want to stick pieces of ceramic to a wooden frame. What's the best way to do it? [more inside]
Day wear - Crone Island edition
I'm the forest crone your father warned you about. Where do I buy my clothes, shoes and jewelry? Feminine-ish to neutral presentation, 5'3" and 140lbs. Inspo pics very much appreciated.
Is there a video platform that allows for asynchronous commenting?
Has anyone ever seen a video platform that allows for asynchronous commenting/reactions that are similar to the time-stamped comments/reactions on a Facebook Live video? I.e., can I post a video, send it to a group, they ask questions/post comments whenever they're watching, and then come back back in later and answer all the questions? And then the questions and answers are all visible, time-stamped, in the feed? Bonus points if the first showing of the video CAN be a live feed.
Make my brain un-mute this person
I work closely with a person who talks at high speed and interrupts a lot without communicating much new or useful information; they have a tendency to derail meetings and not notice that they're the only one who has been speaking for several minutes. There's a shared expectation (that they are fully on board with) that everyone else has to help manage this person's tendencies and prevent them from derailing meetings. I have minor social anxiety and have a hard time processing spoken information, so doing this on a daily basis is exhausting for me. After a few years of working with this person, my brain has started coping with this by tuning them out when they speak. This is not good. How do I start hearing them again? What tricks can I use to make myself listen?
Help me figure out the right down payment on a condo
My wife and I have just signed a purchase contract on a condo in a smaller European city with a dynamic, growing economy and rising home prices. We have about two months to decide on the shape of our mortgage and size of our down payment, and, as a first-time home-buyer, I would appreciate some advice. [more inside]
Parents are leery of the C19 vaccine. Help.
My parents are wary of getting vaccinated for various reasons. I'm looking for how to present it as a reasonable decision. [more inside]
settle, baby, settle!
You, a compulsive overthinker and career-angst-haver, decided to "settle" in a job you rebelled against at times over the first couple of years. What was this like for you in the long run? [more inside]
🎶 Comeback Songs 🎸
I’m looking for songs to listen to when you’re down but not out. Any genre!
under-desk exercise thingies: anecdata
Have you tried any of the under-desk exercise thingies, like the bike wheels? Are they useful? Are there other types? [more inside]
Let's play Name That Dog!
It's time for another round of AskMe's favorite gameshow! I just rescued a chihuahua mutt who hails from the back roads of Mississippi, and now it's time to Name! That! Dog! Step inside for pictures and the current names in the running. [more inside]
Fabric stores in NYC.
I'm going to hit the fabric stores in NYC later this week. Yippee! Yahoo!! I have a few specific questions inside. [more inside]
Babyfoot in a Bottle
Getting a break from my ADHD brain
I have ADHD and my brain is buzzing with thoughts and ideas and feelings all.the.time. Even when I try to relax my mind is picking out little details in the ceiling, or thinking about what the melody in the music reminds me of, or trying to solve the world's problems, etc. etc. [more inside]
Japanese (I think...) watercolor paintings
Can you help add context to my framed paintings? [more inside]
Alternatives to Cheap, Attractive Office Chair
Been looking at getting this Ikea Chair for the past month but it has been out of stock at my local IKEA. What other chairs fit the characteristics: A) Price (up to $250), B) aesthetics (doesn't look too-officy) C) Ergonomics (High back, adjustable height and tilt) D) Fabric
Feeling ragged holding two jobs, want options for my retail job.
I'm currently holding down two jobs (for reference: the priority job is full-time; and the 2nd part-time retail), so am working 7 days a week. I'm running ragged, and my mental heath is suffering somewhat. I don't want to outright quit my retail job. I want help navigating options. [more inside]
Putting the ‘Tourism’ in ‘Bangkok Medical Tourism’
My girlfriend is having a major surgery in Bangkok in December. We’re looking for interesting and fun things to do both before and during her recovery! [more inside]
What microphone(s) do I want?
What is the best affordable omnidirectional microphone for recording? And is that even what I want? [more inside]
How to proceed again?
We would be grateful for some more advice regarding this incident https://ask.metafilter.com/353621/Common-assault [more inside]
April 26
I'm looking to find volunteering websites from Francophone countries.
I'm located in the California time zone and am trying to find remote volunteers who speak both French and English. [more inside]
Giant Outdoor Origami Paper (or equivalent)
I want some very large waterproof material that will hold creases, and can be folded/unfolded lots of times without breaking. Bonus points for not plastic or other petrochemicals. [more inside]
Un-gross my floors
My textured laminate flooring never quite feels clean. What am I doing wrong? [more inside]
Just diagnosed with mild sleep apnea. Questions about life with a CPAP
After having felt overtired for several years with no good explanation, I finally did an at-home sleep study and turns out I have moderate sleep apnea. The doctor explained the treatment options, with cpap being the recommendation and the most successful treatment for the problem.
Right after talking to the doctor I was scheduled for a consultation for a 30 day cpap trial.
My next questions are for anyone who has gone through this process. [more inside]
Can I watch this movie online?
I’m trying to watch When the Bough Breaks and can’t fine it streaming. There are several movies with this name, this one is a 1986 TV movie based on a Jonathan Kellerman novel. I think it’s probably not online but if anyone can fine it, it’s you guys. [more inside]
I hate my job, how do I grin & bear it?
I might sound like a brat for saying this in the midst of a pandemic, but I hate my job (school library technician). I'll probably be working in it until I can find a new one and who knows when that will be? How do I grin & bear it? [more inside]
Name that aesthetic: 80s-90s edgy pastel collage-y something
Inspired by this post about the Aesthetics Wiki on Metafilter, I am wondering if anyone can identify a term for a certain design style (one that may only exist in my mind.) I associate it with late-eighties and nineties book design and illustration that features manipulated photos, often black and white with colorized elements, especially in pastels, often making use of collage. It may contain romantic or whimsical elements but there's often an off-kilter or counterculture edge to the overall design. [more inside]
How much hassle is involved in a change of name?
Partner has been using ex's last name... wants to make it a middle and take mine for the last name. How much administrative follow up will be involved? [more inside]
What is in this wine(ry), Paso Robles edition?
I'm planning our small group's first wine tasting day in the Central Coast in the near future, but am novice with wine in general. I'd like to know (1) what things I should be cognizant of when looking for wineries, and (2) best practices for planning a wine trip. Initial research has overwhelmed me, and I don't know what things I should consider. [more inside]
Delicious coconut treats by mail
Is there a small business in your area you love, that makes amazing coconut treats, and can ship to Washington State? Please recommend and describe! [more inside]
Was I being rude?
Please help me to better understand an interaction/argument I had with my mom. [more inside]
Buying a home from a friend
Have you ever purchased (or sold) a house directly from a friend or someone you know? What was the experience like? Did it chance your relationship with the person? Would you do it again, or would you do anything differently? [more inside]
Relationship sex & intimacy workbook/resource suggestions
Partner & I have been together a decade and our relationship has lost some of its thrill and 'spark,' particularly around sex but also when it comes to expressing affection and intimacy more broadly. Suggest resources for us! We're especially interested in workbooks (and other things that offer a semi-facilitated approach), but suggestions of podcasts and other low-stakes tools are welcome too. Resources intended in part or whole to titillate are great, and so are ones meant as entirely therapeutic. Bonus points if you've used it before and can vouch for it. [more inside]
An album tells a story that I want to hear from beginning to end
Is there a good tool that will convert an album into an audiobook, with each song marked as a chapter? I want to listen to albums from beginning to end, possibly skipping or repeating songs. But if I get interrupted, I want to resume just where I stopped. And I never want to shuffle. Does this thing exist? [more inside]
Gallery of NYC vaccination stickers
It seems like many of the city and state-run vaccination sites in New York City have their own custom stickers. Is there an online gallery somewhere where I can see all the sticker varieties? [more inside]
Non-religious funeral readings
Asking for a friend, who is having to sadly plan a relative's funeral. She's after some nice poems or readings to choose from, that befit someone who didn't practise a religion. They may be especially fitting if there's some reference to travel, which was one of the relative's main interests. Thanks for any suggestions!
How to avoid "wasting" the COVID-19 crisis?
SARS, MERS, COVID-19... The next viral outbreak is inevitable. What should nations be doing to prepare? What should individuals be doing to encourage these preparations? [more inside]
Record Stores Within 12 Hours of Los Angeles That Buy Used CDs
Hello! Can you tell me of record stores within a 12 hour drive of Los Angeles that definitely purchase used CDs from people in 2021, either for store credit or cash? (I also know all I need to know about stores in Fresno, Oakland, Berkeley, and San Francisco, so no need for those.) [more inside]
Help Me Plan a Remembrance
Short version: My mother passed away last summer in the midst of the Pandemic. I am finally able to plan a small, close-family remembrance for her this summer during the last week of July at her favorite place - Cannon Beach, Oregon. I have never planned anything like this, and I (who lives in Central Florida) have not been to Cannon Beach since 1993. I have SO MANY QUESTIONS. [more inside]
Help finding a community for trans and nonbinary women
I’m looking for a comfortable community and/or support group that welcomes trans folks who are beginning their transition. Online communities are great (and really the only option just now), but communities local to the SF Bay Area that do meet in person would also be nice for post-pandemic times. [more inside]
Carob Internet: bulk email edition
Looking for one ethical emailing list provider. Just one, but it must meet these basic requirements. [more inside]
Ape social communication
Do non-human apes have ways of expressing to each other where they want to be groomed?
Is this sexual behavior respectful and okay?
On a hike in a semi-populous area, we stop for a rest. He gently pushes me back behind a tree and puts his hands down the back of my pants. On another hike (this time with no one around) we stop to admire the view and he sticks his hands up my shirt. I gave him a birthday card and he said, "I'd like to have you in your birthday suit for my gift." This kind of stuff goes on all the time. It just feels like sex is always on his mind, and not in a romantic way. It feels like he's always pawing and grabbing at me. In other relationships, we did the sex thing and then after that we spent time together without sex always being in the air - without the groping and the sex-related remarks. Is his behavior normal and acceptable or not? Do some couples enjoy this? Are he and I just not a good match?
Restaurants with outdoor seating in Charleston WV for tonight
We’re coming through Charleston, WV, and even OpenTable is not being helpful. Two adults and a picky 9yo so the cuisine we want is probably “kids’ menu. We need to eat outside. Covered would be great but isn’t necessary. Casual and non-chain preferred — brewery type food would be fine.
All things Maine: how to relocate?
I am moving to Maine to start a job in the fall. I am looking for tricks, tips, and advice. [more inside]
Recommendations and experiences with LifeLock
Missus Tchozz's father recently passed away and she is handling the estate and helping her mother. Her father had a LifeLock account for himself as he managed more or less all of the finances. Should we get a LifeLock account for his surviving spouse now? If so, do we cancel his and start a new one, or does it transfer?
Where do you find bold cheap jewelry?
The trend for most retail costume jewelry seems to be delicate stuff - I prefer large chains and pendants, big earrings, silver or gold or funky colors. What specific sites or artists (etsy comes to mind) feature this type of jewelry...for prices under $30 per piece?
Ghosts that haunt and daunt us -- a question about Goethe's Faust
I'm looking for insight into a particular passage in Goethe's Faust. Specifically, I'd like to understand the context of a line about the nature of signed documents and a reference to "wax and leather" in the scene where the notorious bargain is made. Hope me, scholars of MetaFilter! [more inside]
Troubleshoot my integrated webcam
I have a Dell laptop and was using my webcam without issues through Friday night.
This morning it stopped working with (at least two) conferencing apps, but appears to still be functioning when accessed by websites. [more inside]
Outlook for mac- randomly switching between classic and web app version
I use Outlook on my Mac (downloaded as part of a Microsoft 365 subscription). Recently it changed from the classic version to the new flat, bright web-app version - I think it happened when I downloaded the Teams app (which I hadn't used before). [more inside]
Good stylus that works with procreate pocket on an iPhone?
Because years of making awesome protest signs seems to be paying off, quite literally, but I can’t seem to do it with my finger, I need a stylus! And my husbands galaxy note stylus or my stylus-end cheapo pen don't work. What do I need? It’s an iPhone XS if that helps
April 25
This is the first five minutes of which British crime/drama series?
I watched the first couple of scenes, don't know the name, and can't find it for the life of me. It involved a young man helping a woman with some small issue on the tube in London, and then they both get off and end up in the same cafe, and he gets killed. Or something approximately like that. And then it switches to a closed court hearing about what happened in the cafe, and it seems like it was somehow linked to espionage/something classified. And then I stopped watching... Please halp?
Help me find powder coated colorful metal shelves I saw on Instagram
I used to get ads for specific shelving on Instagram a few months ago. I took a screenshot at one point, but I can't find it. But now I've got a spot in my place one would fit perfectly in. Shelving characteristics: powder coat, millennial colors (dusty pink, red, sky blue, I think a green variant, etc.), maybe a foot deep, 3 or 4 feet long, 30-ish inches tall, rounded edges, thin metal shelves connected by rounded metal pipe pieces, all powder coated. They were often shown with display items or shoes. Anyone remember this brand?
People who've had interfaith marriages:
How have they worked out for you, your partner/children, and the families involved? What have been some of your greatest challenges, rewards or regrets? And what advice would you have to give someone who might be considering going down a similar route?
Find this stuffed animal pig
My daughter really wants a stuffed animal pig that looks like this. It's a very pink cartoon pig, fuzzy and pretty weird looking. [more inside]
Future you says thanks question
Post-birthday, I’ve been asking this from friends and would love hivemind contributions: what would ten-years-in-the-future-you really appreciate today-you to start doing? I’ve gotten date more, spend much more time with my kids, take photographs every day, stretch for flexibility. I would like more ideas to inspire a new list.
soft soups
Please share recipes for soups that are vegetarian, soft, fairly mild in flavor, and have no onions or garlic. [more inside]
Play by Email… How?
Hi AskMe, this is a bit of a niche question, but I'd love any thoughts on hosting for old-school play by email games. They are meant to run on Linux or Windows servers, and communicate by sending email back and forth, with perhaps an occasional administrator running commands on the server itself. [more inside]
Should I shoot my shot?
And if so, how exactly? [more inside]
Real or fake, tarot deck from Teh Finder (S01E10 - The Conversation)
I'm trying to determine if a tarot deck from an episode of the TV series The Finder (S01E10 - The Conversation) is real, and if real, where I could find it. [more inside]
What is the end goal for COVID restrictions?
I am a person who follows my local COVID restrictions in my USA community. I wear a mask in any enclosed space with other people, and I wear a mask outside when anyone is nearby me (even >6 ft). I do not go out to eat in person, and have not ventured outside my state in over a year. I received my first vaccine dose the moment I was eligible. I believe in science, and I have had a family member die as a result of COVID. I'm starting to get very concerned that the USA has no end goal in mind for COVID, and I feel like I will not be able to keep up my concern about COVID much longer after vaccination is universally available. Should I? If so, please help me out. [more inside]