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Recipe request: tasty bean dishes
So last night we had marinara sauce with turkey sausage and chickpea pasta from Costco. I'm wondering what are some rich and tasty recipes that forgo the charade of alt-pasa and just have delicious sauces combined with beans? We make a good chili, of course, but what am I missing? Help me get on the bean train. What is the bean dish that you bring out when you want to summon the love and praise of strangers? [more inside]
How do I stop being hyper-aware of how other people are feeling?
It turns out I make a lot of assumptions about what other people are thinking and feeling and then I react with unfounded guilty and anxiety. Also, when people I love are feeling negative emotions I take those emotions on and feel them myself. How can I stop doing these things? [more inside]
Any recommended reading or advice on how to stop procrastinating?
I have an exam tomorrow morning. I'm only half prepared because I have spent significant amounts of time procrastinating by watching pointless YouTube videos. [more inside]
Recommendation for fostering a trustworthy inner circle
How do you invest in relationships? How do you create a trustworthy inner circle? Is having a trustworthy inner circle at the end of the day a matter of sheer luck? I am looking for insights and/or book recommendations on these questions. [more inside]
What's like a lava lamp but isn't a lava lamp?
Are there any cool, mesmerizing lamps out there OTHER than lava lamps (and their various generic versions)? If I could put six lava lamps on this bookcase, I probably would, but the shelves are too short, and there's nowhere to plug them in. What might I look to buy instead? Bonus points for remote operated, fine with USB or battery. I feel like a lot of LED lamps are just kinda dorm-y or gamercore, and I want something funky and festive....
How to automatically share one row of a Google Sheet?
I have about 200 students. Each student will be completing about 75 tasks. I want to have everyone's progress in one place (ideally, on a Google Sheet). I also want each student to be able to see their progress and no one else's (ideally, automatically integrated with Google Classroom). I do NOT want to have to update everything in multiple places. I would rather not do any action 200 times. Is this possible? [more inside]
Could I make money selling public domain books on Amazon?
I was looking for a copy of the Mysterious Stranger by Mark Twain on Amazon, and I noticed that there are a ton of low-quality self-published versions on there. I have master's in book design, and I design KDP books for a living, so I could easily do a lot better. [more inside]
What bean-based meals aren't bland?
With a few exceptions*, most bean-based recipes I've tried turn out almost inedible because they're so bland and boring. Especially beans and rice, but other recipes too. The reviews will always say it has tons of flavour but it's a lie. I want to eat more beans but I need flavour. Do you have a recipe with a lot of beans that actually tastes like something? [more inside]
How to get quality, zero VOC furniture without breaking the bank?
I'm going to be furnishing a large space starting from almost scratch. How can I get furniture that is high quality (solid wood, all or mostly hardwood, joins instead of screws everywhere when possible), zero VOC (cushions that are filled with wool, cotton, latex, down, etc. rather than foam), and ideally no synthetic fibers (upholstery that uses wool, cotton, linen, silk) at the best possible price? The ideal style would be mid-century modern. [more inside]
Please send me your best marginalia!
A friend has given up print books for e-books (hand issues). She misses the marginalia she used to find in the library and used books she read, something I learned when I told her about a note I I found in a library copy of Ivan Turgenev's First Love. Please help me amuse and divert my lovely, literate friend by sharing your best marginalia discoveries. [more inside]
My eyes!!! My phone!!!
Do you have a smartphone, eyes over 45, and no hatred of texting? What is your secret? The right phone, screen protector, usage patterns, special exercises, keyboard attachment, a commune with no cell phones but miraculously good health care...any, any creative thoughts welcomed. This is a safe space for your synesthesia-SMS, I-only-text-the-dead, totally off the wall approaches. [more inside]
Where there's a will...
Have you ever been the executor for a will that covered assets in several different countries as provided for by the Uniform International Wills Act ? I would like to hear from you. [more inside]
What program can I use to do a joint video/screenrecording for TikTok?
There is a genre of TikTok videos where it's half video of a person and half screen recording of their computer screen. Like these. How do I do this? What programs can be used (Mac or iPhone) and what is the process to combine them? Thanks!
What do I send to a Grieving Japanese Colleague?
An executive member of my organization's board of directors is mourning his mother's death (she was quite old, and had been ill for a long time, if that helps you frame your answer). He is Japanese and lives in Japan. The rest of the board and org staff are spread all across the globe, and no one will be able to physically be there. What is the right way for our organization to thoughtfully and respectfully let him know we are thinking of him? [more inside]
Am I a fraud or imposter if I write an academic book without a degree?
I have published an "academic" book and would like to publish another one. Does this make me a fraud or imposter since I don't have a degree? [more inside]
Are there accessible careers that aren't stressful and that pay well?
A while ago, I was in a Reddit thread where someone said, basically, "I want this job, but it sometimes requires a really hard skill. That sounds stressful. I just want a career where I don't need to worry about it." I often remember it because it puzzled me a little. Are there careers like that currently? Have there ever been jobs that pay you enough to live comfortably, that are easy enough to obtain without difficult training or nepotism, and that don't cause stress? [more inside]
Ideal job for the academic who doesn't want to work anymore
I am currently feeling incredibly burned out at my current academic non-tenure track faculty job ( I have a masters and not a PhD). Feeling inspired by this question on laid back jobs that also have decent pay. Like, what would you recommend if you were exiting academia and wanted to work as little as possible but you have a mortgage to cover? [more inside]
Handling unplanned, unexpected unemployment
I've suddenly (as of last night) found myself unexpectedly unemployed, and I'd appreciate any and all pointers and suggestions about self-care, resilience and keeping busy during my job search. (I'm not an ex-Twitterer, btw) [more inside]
I Lost My Job. I’m Middle Aged. What Now?
I just lost my job after a decade with the company. I now have to figure out what’s next. Details inside [more inside]
How To Use Stable Diffusion Models?
I successfully followed a tutorial to download Stable Diffusion 1.5 locally. I want to use lotsa community made Checkpoint models now. I'm looking at a list of models on HuggingFace (link below), but I don't know how to install. // Also, how do I take Screenshots on Windows? "Windows-key + G to take screen captures" method isn't working anymore. [more inside]