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I would love to know what you have the hardest time with in making new friends as an adult. [more inside]
Show to me all of the dips! [more inside]
Want lounge pants for those days when I get off work and do not want to be in normal human clothes. Or when it's the weekend and screw normal human clothes. Details for dream lounge pants inside. [more inside]
Angel on one shoulder, devil on the other? I think I have Fred Rogers on one shoulder and General Zod on the other. I swing back and forth more than I would like between my kinder/agreeable/respectful side and my contemptuous "This planet must be cleansed with fire" side. I'd like to find a way to practice mindfulness/meditation (not sure I am using those terms right) to tilt my temperament more towards ol' Fred, but I'm wary getting started because I'm resolutely non-religious/non-spiritual and I don't want to sift through a bunch of woo or corny self-help schlock. Still there must be some way for me to find inner calm. Anything you would recommend? Books, CDs, whatever.
What are some entertaining books, fiction or nonfiction, that focus attention on people doing things, such as walking, cooking, taking care of a farm or a house, exercising, working at their job or project, etc. on a regular basis? [more inside]
I read a lot of nonfiction in different formats, including online publications, digital books (on Kindle and other devices), videos, online courses, conversations, and print media. I want to start to be more systematic about organizing this information. What's worked for you? [more inside]
So, this is maybe a silly question, but I am looking for a replacement for instant ramen. I eat it pretty frequently but I am looking for a healthier option. When I make it, I usually throw in some fresh veggies and an egg and whatever leftover protein we have around. I work from home, so it's nice to have for a super quick, warm lunch. What other meals will scratch this same itch? [more inside]
What things should be on the shopping list for a vegan person who is overwhelmed by Trader Joe's and wants to make the most out of a trip? [more inside]
I'm set for meals of the healthy/quick weeknight variety, but I want to put together a roster of rich, luxurious, splurge-for-a-celebration vegan meals. Difficulty level: no soy. [more inside]
We love Madhur Jaffrey's Vegetarian India cookbook, but our one complaint: Not enough dishes with thick, flavorful sauces as you might find in an Indian restaurant. What are your most mouth watering, naan-dippingest vegetarian Indian dishes where the veggies/paneer/etc. are floating in a pot of delicious sauce?
I follow a Spotify playlist titled "Cleaning The House" which has over 28 hours of familiar songs. Are there others like it? [more inside]
I'm looking for books set before 1950 where the A or B plot follows queer characters who live, work, fall in love etc. and where I am better able to understand what being queer would look like in this historical context and where NOTHING SUPER TERRIBLE HAPPENS TO THE CHARACTERS. [more inside]
I've always had a ton of difficulty concentrating at work. I don't think I have ADD or executive function disorder, because I'm fairly good in other areas of my life. How do I fix it? [more inside]
Looking for podcast recommendations. I love listening to podcasts like Esther Perel's Where Should We Begin, Dear Sugars and Group which analyse relationships, involve a lot of emotional honesty and are really insightful when it comes to human behavior and why we do what we do. [more inside]
A while ago, I ran across an article about a Japanese (I think) man who approached depression from a sort of Stoic angle. The thing I remember was his focus on the outer world rather than the inner: his main question was something like "what has to be done?" or "what needs to happen?, meaning what things need to happen in your day, and focusing on the process of doing rather than on introspection. I know this is pretty vague. Any help is appreciated!
What contemporary thinkers have most influenced you and why? I want to familiarize myself with the contemporary intellectual landscape. Bonus for book, video, or podcast recommendations.
What kind of coping strategies can I use for managing adult ADHD if it's extremely unlikely I'll ever get a formal diagnosis? [more inside]
if you have been trying to improve your emotional labour / mental load skill set (or have already succeeded in doing so!!), i would love to hear some stories of what tangible tools worked for people. [more inside]
I know I need to lose weight, but I've spent half my life battling with my weight and the remaining half of my life battling with the psychological scars from that process. I would like to lose weight, for my health, in a way that does not trigger the demons of my childhood and early-20s to raise their ugly heads again. Can I do this? How can I do this? I am scared. [more inside]
I'm a talker. I interrupt, and I monopolize. I am generally an asshole in conversation, though I truly just get excited and want to share my thoughts in a helpful/open/fun way. I need some short, pithy things to tell myself in the moment to shut me up. [more inside]