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Give us your easiest, no-hassle sauce recipes

Looking for dead simple sauces I can make by stirring things together and then add to something that is already cooked/prepared. In other words, these sauces shouldn't require cooking, or much chopping, or hauling out appliances like the blender or the food processor. (Brief heating in the microwave is fine, as is chopping a small sprinkling of herbs or maybe pressing some garlic.) I want sauces I can put on something that is already cooked--not something I need to cook other things IN. So stirfry sauces are out.
posted by CiaoMela to Ask MetaFilter on Oct 10 at 11:21 AM
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Essays/Articles That Opened Your Mind

In search of nonfiction that makes you go, "Huh. Never thought of it like that before.” Suggestions, please!
posted by xenization to Ask MetaFilter on Oct 1 at 8:16 AM
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Fun feminist songs

Hi there internet friends! I've really been craving some poppy, fun, feminist songs. Please share!
posted by hotchocolate to Ask MetaFilter on Oct 9 at 2:16 PM
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Give me your savory / easy / efficient recipes, yearning to be baked.

Baking is a particularly effective daily therapy to me. What savory recipes might replace my love of baking desserts from packaged mixes? Think the red-packaged Betty Crocker brownie and cookie mixes that only require a few staple additional ingredients (eggs / oil / butter / water). Satisfying, customizable, cheap, un-fussy, requires only a few staples on hand. For reasons, I really need to cut down on sugar. Are there similarly easy (less than ~10 ingredients) and quick (less than ~15 minute prep time) savory recipes that I could be baking instead?
posted by seemoorglass to Ask MetaFilter on Oct 7 at 2:32 PM
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Disappointed Millennial to Despairing Doomer

It's the Millennial from this question. Five years later, I've gone from disappointment to out-and-out despair. I'm not sure how to move forward.
posted by MetaFilter World Peace to Ask MetaFilter on Oct 11 at 12:01 PM
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Hopeful, kind, non-snarky podcasts needed

Help me survive the next few days? A few hours ago I said goodbye to my 13 year old dog Pippin for the last time - he was euthanized today. One of my best coping mechanisms is listening to podcasts but I need some new extra-strength-soothing podcasts to help me through this time.
posted by Zumbador to Ask MetaFilter on Oct 7 at 8:23 AM
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e-book libraries with privileges for nonresidents?

Are there e-book lending libraries I can join that I don't have to show residence? I'm not talking about the public domain stuff like gutenberg. I know gutenberg, I love gutenberg, but that's not what I mean. I mean a lending library where I can check out e-books like I do from my local libraries.
posted by fingersandtoes to Ask MetaFilter on Oct 12 at 8:24 PM
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What is the green thing reading

Not entirely sure if this is too broad of a question, but I've picked up some really good books that get mentioned here, like When things fall apart by Pema Chödrön and The gift of fear by Gavin de Becker that i probably wouldn't have come across them otherwise. what are books that you recommend or have seen recommended on the green that rock? I'm basically open to any genre. TIA!
posted by speakeasy to Ask MetaFilter on Oct 11 at 10:14 AM
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Coping with disability

Being disabled doesn't fit my internal narrative as a high achieving, fitness oriented person. I am in therapy and we are addressing this, but I wanted to hear from others that transitioned from able bodied to disabled physically to see how you made that process happen on a mental level.
posted by crunchy potato to Ask MetaFilter on Oct 10 at 6:12 AM
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No-Fail Fall Albums

It’s finally fall, you have the windows open to the sunny, chilly breeze, you can hear the fallen leaves scattering along the street, and along with your morning coffee and maybe an apple cider donut, you think “I know the perfect album for this time of year: it’s ___________!”
posted by sallybrown to Ask MetaFilter on Oct 6 at 8:32 AM
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Looking for water-resistant, office-appropriate, no-heel women's boots

What the title says. What do women-presenting people wear in the office in the fall and winter when it's too cold for flats and they don't want a heel? I would like help finding a pair of dressy/office-appropriate black boots that are reasonably OK getting wet and have little to no heel. I've read over previous questions and unfortunately links are broken or the shoes aren't right. Boring is OK, even preferable, because I'll ideally only be wearing these.
posted by schroedinger to Ask MetaFilter on Oct 9 at 4:33 AM
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Best freeware for PDFs

Has anyone sorted through the Adobe Acrobat-mimicking freeware (or "cheap-ware?") to figure out which is best? Here is literally all I want to do: highlight words; add comments; and insert, delete, and rearrange pages. Even any one of these would be super helpful. Is it possible to get this for less than $8-15/month in some way? I'm willing to pay some small one-time cost. Thanks for any recommendations!
posted by salvia to Ask MetaFilter on Oct 11 at 12:14 AM
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Looking for songs about letting the world go by, help me out.

My birthday is coming up next week, and I'd really like to create a playlist of songs about being fine with NOT trying to keep up. In the vein of John Lennon's Watching the Wheels. The wide and varied tastes of the Ask crowd would be super handy at adding some flavor to this endeavor.
posted by DigDoug to Ask MetaFilter on Oct 9 at 6:02 AM
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books books books

Looking for books (also open to movies or tv shows) that are set in boarding schools/residential college campuses/artist residencies. NOT interested in dude main characters. Other preferences below.
posted by tan_coul to Ask MetaFilter on Oct 7 at 1:45 PM
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Best programming toy for 8 year old?

My daughter is turning 8 soon. I'd love to get her a programming toy as she's expressed a lot of interest in coding.
posted by smoke to Ask MetaFilter on Oct 7 at 2:19 PM
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what actually IS flirting

What is the difference between friendly conversation and flirting? Recently I was told that I am a flirt but I am not aware of being one or of going into conversations with the intention of flirting. What are some key hallmarks of flirting as opposed to regular friendly conversation?
posted by unicorn chaser to Ask MetaFilter on Oct 11 at 7:43 AM
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Help me find my perfect online art class

I'm looking for an online art class that meets some particular specifications. Snowflakes within!
posted by shadygrove to Ask MetaFilter on Oct 7 at 8:05 PM
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Favorite achievable experiment videos (YouTube, etc)?

My son's current favorite thing to do is to watch "experiments" on Youtube, e.g., attempting to blow up a watermelon, make a lantern, etc. He wants to try experiments but most of these videos are "do not try this at home". I am aware of the classic baking soda/vinegar volcano. Are there any experiments, preferably video series (books acceptable), that would be achievable for young kids (7-8)? Non-Youtube video sources welcome!
posted by typecloud to Ask MetaFilter on Oct 8 at 9:57 AM
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Ashkenazi history

Why did so many Yiddish-speaking Ashkenazi Jews migrate from Central Europe to Eastern Europe in the 16th to 18th-ish centuries?
posted by dusty potato to Ask MetaFilter on Oct 8 at 11:15 AM
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Positive stories about overcoming a career setback

I've just had a major career setback and am heartbroken. I'd like to hear stories, ranging from personal anecdotes to published works, about how people dealt with this failure and moved on. I don't want stories of people who had massive success afterwards- just regular people who managed to learn from the experience.
posted by daybeforetheday to Ask MetaFilter on Oct 7 at 2:09 AM
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Nope. It's good that you wrote it. I'd shorten it to literally three sentences "Dear Founders, I will be resigning my position effective November 1st as I originally stated. I do not feel like it would be constructive for me to stay on beyond this point. I will document my work to the best of my ability before this time. Thank you,... [more]
posted by jessamyn to Ask MetaFilter on Oct 11 at 5:07 PM
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Let me get this straight. You said that the person you are dating is of Swiss ancestry and your friend's reaction was to start going off about Nazi sympathizers and blood money? The actual fuck? I hope none of her ancestors owned slaves. [view]
posted by It's Never Lurgi to Ask MetaFilter on Oct 12 at 4:35 PM
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she reminded me that after that event, she had asked me to give her some resources I made, which she now uses as a resource in some classes she teaches for money. I felt weird about this Whoa, this is not fucking okay. If you're still using these resources, can you attach some sort of trademark or watermark to them? Can you make your... [more]
posted by unannihilated to Ask MetaFilter on Oct 9 at 8:18 PM
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Writing as a middle aged woman remembering her 20s: everyone telling you that it is projection from the wannabe flirtee is correct. Don't underestimate the chilling impact this has on a young woman's ability to be vigorous and unselfconscious in the world. Male desire is projected onto the young woman and she is essentially blamed for it. It's... [more]
posted by nantucket to Ask MetaFilter on Oct 11 at 8:27 AM
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Your question is premised on normal cat behaviour and evil being different things. I question your premise. [view]
posted by jacquilynne to Ask MetaFilter on Oct 9 at 9:14 AM
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Or to put it another way: telling animated women that they are flirting is a form of policing women's self-expression. Making her wonder if her smiling is provocative is the other side of the coin of telling her on the street to "Smile!" when she's lost in thought. [view]
posted by nantucket to Ask MetaFilter on Oct 11 at 8:38 AM
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This man is not responsible for things his ancestors may have done. Needing him to take responsibility is not normal. He is respectful of you and Jewish people on general. That is what matters. Your friend is demanding this guy take responsibility for something he had no part or say in. Scold your friend and if she doesn't listen, consider how much... [more]
posted by Kalmya to Ask MetaFilter on Oct 12 at 4:14 PM
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Hoooooold up. Is your friend white? Because "the only acceptable way to act as a descendant of a white person in the U.S. is to channel your money into funds that support blacks, because otherwise you’re benefitting from blood money" is, frankly, a significantly more defensible proposition. (I don't think either is... [more]
posted by praemunire to Ask MetaFilter on Oct 12 at 4:38 PM
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Cats are a social species and a major part of status in the cat world is who gets to hang out in the best spots - often the highest but also sometimes the warmest or the comfiest. So part of what's going on may just be that she's the top cat in this situation, and is exercising her rights as such. Cat societies, eg feral cat colonies, aren't cruel... [more]
posted by Acheman to Ask MetaFilter on Oct 9 at 9:44 AM
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I'm a 42 year old woman. I was raised in California, as a valley girl, encouraged to be gregarious and friendly. When people make eye contact with me, I smile. When I meet new people, I ask them questions about themselves. When they talk to me, I nod vigorously and emphatically to show that I'm listening intently and I care about what they're... [more]
posted by pazazygeek to Ask MetaFilter on Oct 11 at 7:58 AM
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NOOOO don't send it! It won't make them change. It won't make them apologize. It won't make them regret treating you badly. It won't make you want to stay. It won't make you any money. It won't make you feel less burnt out. It won't even make you feel better, because waiting for their response will be super stressful and suspenseful,... [more]
posted by nouvelle-personne to Ask MetaFilter on Oct 11 at 5:21 PM
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Becky is taking advantage of you. Dave either doesn't understand your profession or doesn't realize what Becky's doing. Of course you feel taken advantage of, but there's absolutely a way to help people without giving away the store. I have an email template that gives some basic information anyone starting in my profession (if they'd done the... [more]
posted by The Wrong Kind of Cheese to Ask MetaFilter on Oct 9 at 9:01 PM
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Okay, deep breath. This is a lovely trip and not nearly the remote wilderness experience you seem to be envisioning. I lived in the southern Appalachians for several years and here are my thoughts: Are you talking about the Blue Ridge mountains generally and/or areas along the Blue Ridge Parkway? Or maybe Great Smoky Mountains National Park?... [more]
posted by bluedaisy to Ask MetaFilter on Oct 7 at 6:08 PM
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In my view, your friend is having a problem with boundaries. She shouldn't be telling you what your own rules for dating are, or what your boyfriend should do. If she has that general position, fine, I guess - though even if it's a general position, it is a "should" about what others should do in her eyes - in other words, it's her... [more]
posted by Miko to Ask MetaFilter on Oct 12 at 4:41 PM
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There is a wide gulf between condoning what an ancestor you may never have met did in 1938 and wearing a hairshirt over what an ancestor did in 1938 every minute of your life in 2019. There is even a continuum of behavior between creating injustice and fighting it. We mostly all fall somewhere in that continuum. Please, evaluate your new... [more]
posted by crush to Ask MetaFilter on Oct 12 at 4:20 PM
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I don’t know that I even agree with charging them for the information. I wouldn’t give it away at all. I mean, how much could you possibly charge for your IP to make it worth it for them to steal your clients off you by using it? Say you charge them $200 for an hour and half mentoring session. Three months later you find out that this new Becky has... [more]
posted by Jubey to Ask MetaFilter on Oct 9 at 9:11 PM
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"I am youngish, female" Gonna stop you there. This is the root. There's a perception that any friendly behavior from youngish females is flirtatious. [view]
posted by kevinbelt to Ask MetaFilter on Oct 11 at 8:22 AM
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Leave them in an unguarded icebox labeled FOR BREAKFAST. More seriously, make plum jam, or give them to someone who will make plum jam and give you some. [view]
posted by zamboni to Ask MetaFilter on Oct 6 at 8:06 PM
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Man do I hear you. I moved my young family back to Florida (because, mired in graduate school debt, we couldn't afford NYC any more) with this idiotic glimmer of hope that maybe climate change would get solved somehow and then like six months after we bought our house Trump was elected president. There are days when the sense of doom is almost... [more]
posted by saladin to Ask MetaFilter on Oct 11 at 1:32 PM
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My sincere advice is don't write your father anything at all. If you've already sent it well, it's done, but boundaries are not generally set by talking about them but about doing them. I think the hard thing here is your parents are wrestling for control - of you and your sibling, of their marriage, of the narrative of who is the worse person.... [more]
posted by warriorqueen to Ask MetaFilter on Oct 12 at 1:13 PM
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