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Questions to share with a partner as a conversation starter, redux

Many years ago my (now) wife put together a list of questions from Metafilter (perhaps this question) and other sources, printed them out, and cut them up into individual questions. I'd like to update our collection.
posted by unus sum to Ask MetaFilter on May 19 at 12:40 PM
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Recommend a fantasy novel?

Becoming a bit bored with all the sci-fi - can someone recommend a fantasy novel? (Specific interests inside)
posted by UMDirector to Ask MetaFilter on May 22 at 9:25 AM
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Motivation to save small amounts of money when goal feels huge?

There are a ton of personal finance/saving questions on AskMe but I couldn't find one in this particular flavor: what are ways to motivate yourself to save tiny amounts of money when the goal you're trying to get to is nebulous, and not achievable for many, many years? Not looking for specific budgeting tips like "cut out Netflix," rather looking for successful perspectives/thought patterns that could make saving $5 here and $10 there seem more significant if the goal is mid-six figures or more.
posted by rogerroger to Ask MetaFilter on May 19 at 5:13 PM
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Starting to run again—good habits?

Literally 20+ years ago, I got into a good routine of running five or more miles almost daily. I stopped running totally about 10 years ago. Other than walking 3-8 miles daily, I really haven’t exercised aerobically in maybe 7 years. I want to start running again (at age 44), and did my first run yesterday. It was ok—though with some knee pain. Can you help me get on the right foot and hopefully make this program stick?
posted by Admiral Haddock to Ask MetaFilter on May 20 at 5:51 AM
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[Generic Gourmet Cola] is It!!!

I like cola but I don't like buying it ready-made, for many reasons. I am having a hard time making a syrup that tastes right. Can you recommend a ready-made syrup or, ideally, a recipe, for a very spicy, rich, old-fashioned-tasting cola? The goal here is not to make Coke, but to make something better.
posted by blnkfrnk to Ask MetaFilter on May 21 at 7:04 PM
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Where can I find old handwriting worksheets on the Internet?

This is the sort of thing I assume exists in the droves on this Internets of ours, but an initial search has been lacking. I'm looking for an archive of scanned (preferably high-res) images of old hand-writing exercises. You know, the type you had to do in grade school when learning how to write, like this. Either handwriting or cursive is fine.
  • I'm specifically looking for older historical versions from the US. The older the better, but lets say 1920-1970 would be ideal.
Any help appreciated!
posted by jeremias to Ask MetaFilter on May 20 at 3:07 PM
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Best Reads in Behavioral Science

I'm looking for recommendations for engaging reads, both books and longform articles, about how people can change their physical and mental habits.
posted by capricorn to Ask MetaFilter on May 16 at 8:11 PM
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Is it a song? It's probably relevant!

I am teaching a graduate course (social sciences) on music and social justice in the coming Fall. It's a cool course, one not offered in a long time, and I am trying to drag it back to relevance from the depths of my department's catalog. What songs do you think should go into the 'course playlists'?
posted by still bill to Ask MetaFilter on May 20 at 1:20 PM
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R-E-S-P-E-C-T

I'm looking for books (or maybe articles) to boost my marriage. Specifically, about how to treat my husband and things I can do to set my marriage up for lifetime success.
posted by DoubleLune to Ask MetaFilter on May 16 at 7:25 AM
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One week meals for one

I love the kitchn's weekly meal plans for breakfast, lunch, and dinner, but I live alone. Are there other meal plans like their "How I Prep a Week of Easy, Satisfying Meals for One"? I'll list the features I like inside.
posted by sockermom to Ask MetaFilter on May 22 at 8:30 PM
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Show me your favorite and best designed one pagers.

I’m looking for design inspiration for one pagers. If you’ve come across a beautifully designed one pager that describes an org, process or team - particularly if it’s for a specific audience - I’d love to see it.
posted by melodykramer to Ask MetaFilter on May 16 at 4:04 PM
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Give me deep, random, funny, stupid, and personal questions to ask.

My partner and I want to fill a hat with as many questions as possible, so that we can pull a couple of questions out of it each time we're together. We chat a lot but we both think it'd be great to have something else to spark conversations. I think it'll work best if neither of us know what most of the questions are. Hence why I'd like your lists of deep, funny, stupid or random questions to ask that will spark a conversation.
posted by Ranting Prophet of DOOM! to Ask MetaFilter on Sep 6, 2013 at 5:28 PM
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What games for Nintendo Switch would I like?

I am getting a Nintendo Switch through an employee recognition program at work. I'm not a big gamer and never owned a console system before. I'm looking for some game suggestions to get me started.
posted by jazon to Ask MetaFilter on May 19 at 10:49 AM
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how to be more chill

I am always the social initiator in my friend groups and among 1-to-1 friendships. 80% of the time I don't mind this but the other 20% I wonder if people would bother organising to meet up if I didn't, and what that says for the quality of my relationships. Do I need to scale back on initiating / "be more chill"? When do I know that it's time to take a step back?
posted by unicorn chaser to Ask MetaFilter on May 22 at 8:23 AM
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Seeking sff where the main character is a parent

Looking for fantasy/sci-fi stories (whether online or off, short stories or long, whatever) where the main character is a parent
posted by Cozybee to Ask MetaFilter on May 19 at 6:52 AM
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Looking for beautiful, live a cappella performances

Inspired by this Bon Iver video, I'm looking for videos of live a cappella performances, with an emphasis on beautiful melodies and harmonies in contemporary songs.
posted by too bad you're not me to Ask MetaFilter on May 16 at 11:17 AM
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How do I just spend time with people?

When my friends invite me to spend time together )or vice versa), it's always to do something - watch a movie, go to a show, and so forth. Mostly, I appreciate this norm, but I feel like this is the expectation when asking people to spend time with you and it feels like I need a pretense to say "hey, let's spend some time together." There's evenings when I just want social time with people and I don't know how to ask them for that without it coming across as too wanting.
posted by LSK to Ask MetaFilter on May 17 at 4:36 PM
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Mental crisis - help?

I'm paralyzed by anxiety and it's hurting myself and my family. I want to run away from everything.
posted by Anonymous to Ask MetaFilter on May 18 at 1:38 AM
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Microscope for young child

My soon-to-be-five-year-old has declared that what she really wants for her birthday is a microscope. "Not a toy microscope that's just for pretending to be a scientist, but a real microscope that will make things look bigger. But not so hard to use that I can't do it by myself." Among other things, she wants to use it to look at rocks and shells, but insists that she wants a microscope and not a magnifying glass.
posted by Kriesa to Ask MetaFilter on May 17 at 12:06 PM
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What is the volume of a pigeon?

I've been able to find sources on approximate weight of a pigeon and how much blood a pigeon has, but what I would like to find is the mean volume of a typical, uncompressed, dry, London pigeon. (as in area that a pigeon takes up, not how loud it is).
posted by Just this guy, y'know to Ask MetaFilter on May 20 at 7:48 AM
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The mindset that works for me is "pay yourself". That hits my reward centers. Instead of asking if paying $5 for a Lyft will help buy a house, I ask myself if I'd walk half a mile if someone paid me $5. Another recent example... Cheaper flights are always at awkward times of day but instead of asking myself about saving $200 on... [more]
posted by McNulty to Ask MetaFilter on May 19 at 5:28 PM
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I have no advice about healing but I've never heard of anyone being put off by a scar on a hand (and this one even comes with a cool story - dragon boats?! That's a great conversation starter, if anything). I think putting off dating until next year just because of a scar is on the extreme end of possible reactions, you know? It sounds like this... [more]
posted by trig to Ask MetaFilter on May 18 at 2:09 AM
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Your mother in law has two things going on: a daughter that's been living with her for twenty years, and what you consider to be an inability to appropriately budget her money. Five hundred dollars isn't going to change either of those things, not by a long shot, and hanging it over her head contingent that she suddenly wise up, kick her daughter... [more]
posted by griphus to Ask MetaFilter on May 21 at 10:59 AM
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I would go to the courthouse and get married before buying a house together. Whether and when you choose to have a wedding celebration is up to you, but ironing out all of the legal details of purchasing a house with someone you aren’t married to will cost several grand. The law knows how to handle married couples. And to be clear—I’m not... [more]
posted by suncages to Ask MetaFilter on May 18 at 2:37 PM
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Also, leggings reduce focus/concern re: leg-shaving (or lack thereof). [view]
posted by unknowncommand to Ask MetaFilter on May 17 at 5:10 PM
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Do what provides your child the most harmonious upbringing possible. In this case that looks like this: As it stands, we're thinking we'll break up and he'll go back to Fla and come back to see baby as often as he can. That means your child has a loving parent and extended family most of the time, and another loving parent when he... [more]
posted by headnsouth to Ask MetaFilter on May 20 at 8:55 AM
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There are many men who have no idea how to self-soothe (or to seek comfort in mutually supportive, emotionally intimate, nonsexual relationships in their lives) and expect there must be some woman, somewhere, who will do it for them. It would be sad if it weren't so exploitative. [view]
posted by praemunire to Ask MetaFilter on May 19 at 11:37 PM
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I see a lot of people smoking and loitering around a church near me. There are AA and NA meetings held in the basement and these folks are often waiting for the meeting to start or on a break. Nthing don't call the cops. [view]
posted by pilot pirx to Ask MetaFilter on May 16 at 10:40 AM
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The reason they're denying it is because you are asking them directly. Gross men like this rely on cover and plausible deniability. They're wanting it to happen in some way where they don't have to own it - now or in the future. They absolutely do want you back for some no-strings sexytime. [view]
posted by stoneweaver to Ask MetaFilter on May 19 at 11:09 PM
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Leave them alone and don't mention it to anyone, so nobody has to get fucking shot by police over something as simple as selling drugs? [view]
posted by odinsdream to Ask MetaFilter on May 16 at 10:31 AM
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I am so sorry this is happening to your family. Rapidly progressive dementias like CJT are horrible. One thing that I see a lot with adult children of people with dementia is that it is frightening and upsetting to them to see their smart, capable parents confused and disoriented, and they try to force the parent to remember things. This in turn... [more]
posted by The Elusive Architeuthis to Ask MetaFilter on May 20 at 12:22 PM
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I have had this happen under a wide variety of circumstances and my best theories are these: these cards are cheaply bulk-produced and don't "hold" their encoding very well, or the keycard programming system is sort of crap and the locks forget/lose network contact/malfunction/get wiped pretty frequently in certain establishments. [view]
posted by Lyn Never to Ask MetaFilter on May 18 at 6:06 PM
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He's inflexible about relocating here even though our families are here & we have a nice life with daycare, our kid-friendly neighborhood, etc. No matter what you see as the benefits, you cannot reasonably call him inflexible for not wanting to go along with a complete change of life plans because you changed your mind about... [more]
posted by Smearcase to Ask MetaFilter on May 20 at 9:47 AM
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I actually REALLY get why he's mad at you -- you said you'd move with him and then you changed your mind and said you assumed it would "all work out," presumably via his deciding he didn't actually want to do what he told you he specifically wanted to, and had to, do. He DID lay it all out for you and you agreed and now you are reneging,... [more]
posted by Countess Sandwich to Ask MetaFilter on May 20 at 10:50 AM
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We can't possibly answer this without pictures. Not great photos but can I present mum and baby. The baby photo I took the other day after almost squishing the poor thing with the garage door....it was wedged up hard against the door when I opened it and just starting dropping the door again when I noticed some ears popping up. [view]
posted by inflatablekiwi to Ask MetaFilter on May 21 at 12:14 PM
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Shorts bunch up, that's why I prefer leggings. [view]
posted by acidnova to Ask MetaFilter on May 17 at 4:59 PM
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There's a change in staffing (says this university staffer) that isn't well understood. Direct support staff (secretaries, junior accountants, mail room staff, janitors, food service, repair and maintenance) are the support staff who are getting cut and cut and cut and whose wages are under pressure. I hear complaints from everyone about this... [more]
posted by Frowner to Ask MetaFilter on May 22 at 1:04 PM
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I'm going to issue a dissent about bees in the specific, or at least point out something that I definitely thought as a child - bee stings hurt. Getting hurt is not fun. You want to not get hurt again. It makes sense to try to avoid things that get you hurt. That is what your son's mindset is right now, and it makes perfect sense, and... [more]
posted by EmpressCallipygos to Ask MetaFilter on May 16 at 6:31 PM
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these are dumb useless men who want attention and since they remember successfully using you for it in the past they are hoping to continue that pattern now. some douche i hooked up with like 20 fucking years ago txted me today and i was like "lol no". it's not you. it's men. [view]
posted by poffin boffin to Ask MetaFilter on May 19 at 10:07 PM
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I think one reason a lot of women are put off by this is because, in our culture, men sing and write about the woman who "doesn't know she's so sexy" and how great it is for them, how attractive they find it from their perspective. Whereas when a woman doesn't know "how sexy she is" it causes a... [more]
posted by Hypatia to Ask MetaFilter on May 16 at 6:29 AM
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