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You can thank me later!

What things do you do to make things easier for future you?
posted by stillmoving to Ask MetaFilter on May 30 at 3:54 PM
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Proofreading for love and for money

These days, is it possible to make anything like a living wage as a proofreader or copyeditor of text?
posted by cat friend to Ask MetaFilter on May 29 at 7:49 AM
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Books for boys that aren't about farts, butts, or "no girls allowed"

I need a new series of books for my son. He is six (AND A HALF! as he would proudly tell you), and we have finished several book series and he's eager for a new one. We've read the entire Ramona Quimby set (which he absolutely loved), the entire new Amelia Bedelia set (which was fun but he didn't love them), and all the Harry Potter books he's able to handle so far (which he loved but they were getting too scary for him). When we finished the final Ramona book, he asked what series was next, and I have no idea what to try.
posted by erst to Ask MetaFilter on May 29 at 3:57 PM
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Talking about BLM protests with my white partner

My husband is white; I'm Asian-American. We live in New York City. We are trying to talk about the BLM protests happening in our country. I'm troubled by his responses. I know one of the best things we can do right now is have these difficult conversations with loved ones and confront our own bias and racism--- but I'm struggling and need help.
posted by selene_sophia to Ask MetaFilter on Jun 1 at 12:08 AM
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Imaginary Mapmaking Utility

Is there a program -- free or paid -- that allows you to basically draw an imaginary landmass and plop some mountains on it and then will tell you "what's the climate downwind of these mountains" or "where does it snow and rain on this landmass"? Smashing tectonic plates together to get volcanoes and mountains would also be nice.
posted by Eyebrows McGee to Ask MetaFilter on May 26 at 9:39 PM
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Sing To My Northern Sky

Playlist filter: I am in search of dreamy, ethereal music about the night sky, suitable for stargazing.
posted by EmpressCallipygos to Ask MetaFilter on May 27 at 1:37 PM
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bralettes for rack of doom

I have a rack of doom. It's getting hot here in New York and since I am mostly housebound for COVID-19 reasons, I don't want to have to wear one of my heavy duty underwire bras all day long. Help me find a comfy alternative for home.
posted by nayantara to Ask MetaFilter on May 27 at 3:14 PM
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How do I reconcile this?

How do I reconcile my beliefs with my actual experiences ?
posted by gt2 to Ask MetaFilter on May 28 at 9:39 AM
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Small farm content

I'm looking for YouTube channels that feature day-in-the-life content of small scale farmers. Whether it's livestock, growing, digging, fence-building, or whatever, I'd like channels that focus on the actual doing as opposed to instructional or informative. Minimal voiceover is a bonus.
posted by Think_Long to Ask MetaFilter on May 26 at 10:51 AM
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How do I become a person who hosts gatherings and parties?

Please help me get over my anxiety about hosting gatherings. I have huge anxieties about inviting people over because I’m worried that they don’t really want to come, or they’ll say no. This question is mostly to people who are hosts. Do you ever get scared no one will want to come? Do you just keep hosting parties and having gatherings whether people come or not? Do you ever deal with rejection, and if so, how?
posted by katypickle to Ask MetaFilter on May 28 at 8:01 PM
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Where can I get really good mangoes from an online order?

A friend has been helping me out with some nonsense, and I'd like to get him a gift. A different friend recently sent me apricots from Frog Hollow Farm in California, and they were frankly amazing. I would like to send my helpful friend mangoes because he loves them. I do not want cheap gift basket fruit. I want really, really good fruit, and just mangoes. Anyone have a source? They'd be shipping to New York.
posted by Alex Haist to Ask MetaFilter on May 27 at 11:25 AM
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Art History Book Suggestions

I want to learn more about art history, and require your book recommendations. Assume I have a base level of knowledge (I've been to some museums here in the US and in Europe and took the audio tours, etc.), so something akin to a college-level textbook (though it doesn't need to be one). If you need more particulars, I'd probably prefer something about art history over a variety of periods vs. diving deeply into one. I'd also love for it to encompass art globally, but Western art would be were I'd concentrate if I had to narrow down the scale. What are your suggestions?
posted by po822000 to Ask MetaFilter on May 28 at 2:37 PM
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What is my decor style? Do I have one? Please give me inspiration.

I'm buying a house (yay!) and moving soon, and for the first time in my life I can make PERMANENT CHANGES to my living space only to please myself. What to do, though, what to do...
posted by phunniemee to Ask MetaFilter on May 27 at 9:26 AM
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National Parks in Utah

Please share your advice and experiences visiting Arches, Bryce Canyon, Capitol Reef and/or Zion National Park!
posted by smorgasbord to Ask MetaFilter on May 31 at 2:18 PM
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Anti Racism for Brown People Resources

Are there good resources like this for someone like myself, a privileged Asian Indian American who is married to a white person and lives in a white world with basically all white or east Asian friends? This is in regard to police violence against black and latino people.
posted by sandmanwv to Ask MetaFilter on May 28 at 9:04 AM
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Free the nipple?

I am a very flat-chested ciswoman, with especially visible, protruding nipples. I want the comfort of going braless, with the modesty factor of nipple coverage. What bras, nipple covers, pasties, or other solutions should I try?
posted by TrixieRamble to Ask MetaFilter on May 29 at 8:31 PM
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I think I have depression

Can I self treat mild depression?
posted by Asian_Hunnie to Ask MetaFilter on May 26 at 7:21 AM
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DIY Charcuterie for the Time of Coronavirus

In my quest to make myself ever more enticing food to keep away from my cat in my one-bedroom condo, please help me build a great DIY Charcuterie board for myself.
posted by Medieval Maven to Ask MetaFilter on May 27 at 1:26 PM
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ISO a very basic laptop that won't be e-waste in 12 months

What should I prioritize in a basic laptop that I want to hang onto for a while?
posted by geegollygosh to Ask MetaFilter on May 30 at 5:52 PM
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More Soulful Bluesy Groovy Fast Tempo Rock

I love music that has an atmosphere. It’s a combination of layers of instruments and the quality of the vocals. And lately I’ve been into more soulful, grungy, blues, country, fast tempo rock. Bands inside.
posted by Crystalinne to Ask MetaFilter on May 27 at 3:17 PM
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You send a picture of a cute dog meme and say hey hope you're good! This 99% has nothing to do with you, but if you send anything remotely close to what you wrote out above, it will start to be. This could be as simple as your friend started watching Space Force and would rather spend their free time tuned out on the couch for a few days than... [more]
posted by phunniemee to Ask MetaFilter on May 29 at 5:41 PM
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If “something called Skyrim” is indicative of your level of knowledge of his interests, maybe try spending some more time actually listening to him? It sounds like you’re actively disdainful of his interests, and I can’t imagine he isn’t picking up on this on some level. [view]
posted by a box and a stick and a string and a bear to Ask MetaFilter on May 30 at 6:21 PM
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In addition to the above I think you need to lay down the law a bit. What she's doing is dangerous, basically. If she does that to another dog she could get bitten in the face very easily, a bigger animal could kill her. You let her act this way because your particular dog hasn't bitten her and it's easier for you to lock the dog up than control... [more]
posted by fshgrl to Ask MetaFilter on May 28 at 8:49 PM
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You are allowed to hate multiple people! It's one of the things that makes humanity great. You have permission not to trust anyone or any group. My personal many years experience of...let's say a largely homogeneous group of conservative people...is that they've just been socialized not to be shitty to your face. [view]
posted by phunniemee to Ask MetaFilter on May 28 at 9:47 AM
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How old is your husband? I think one thing that’s important to remember (I am a WOC whose partner is white) is kind of - that the current way of analyzing race and privilege is very much not the way it used to be /even for people who considered themselves liberal and progressive/. Like: when my own partner was young and learning moral lessons from... [more]
posted by corb to Ask MetaFilter on Jun 1 at 1:15 AM
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I think what a lot of people want to see is the police - the union, local leadership, and national leadership - step up and state cleanly that an officer killing a citizen is never acceptable; that officers who do so are sullying the image and purpose of the police force and will be treated accordingly; that it is the duty of every officer to... [more]
posted by trig to Ask MetaFilter on Jun 1 at 1:23 AM
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I was similar to your son at that age, and also split my time between two households, although it was weekdays/weekends instead of every other week. I also grew up to be a professional video game programmer so that time was actually really important to my later life. So here are my thoughts from my personal perspective: In my opinion he is only... [more]
posted by JZig to Ask MetaFilter on May 30 at 4:37 PM
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Is it just a matter of information-sharing and ignorance? No, it is not. Let me show you by asking: why does he think now is the moment that people - including NBPoC and protesters and Black people - should be acknowledging the struggles of law enforcement officers? If he has legitimate grievances about citizens... [more]
posted by MiraK to Ask MetaFilter on Jun 1 at 5:57 AM
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Words I can say to help her understand that he doesn't spend more time with her because she's annoying him? But not that exactly, I don't want to break her heart. A seven-almost-eight year old child has the resilience to hear that she's accidentally causing pain to the creature she loves without having her heart broken, and if... [more]
posted by queenofbithynia to Ask MetaFilter on May 28 at 10:20 PM
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Also: birders and rule breaking dog walkers are natural enemies and the dog treat thing is not weird in that context. Its a pretty non-confrontational way to get someone to leash their-damn-dog. I would just have straight up told her to under those circumstances and not nicely. And I guarantee she wouldn't have fake cried to the police, although... [more]
posted by fshgrl to Ask MetaFilter on Jun 1 at 1:36 AM
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If I were invited to this gathering I would not attend. It sounds like you would do a bunch of safety theater things that wouldn't mean much, especially not with the chaos of small children. Are you going to mark out circles in the lawn that are six feet apart and wave to folks who want to congratulate you? Will the bartender have a line with six... [more]
posted by Mizu to Ask MetaFilter on May 28 at 5:06 AM
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I challenge your statement that "No Republican has ever harmed me" as it is utter rubbish. The right in general, and US Republicans in specific, are the architects of one of the meanest and most cruelly extractive "human capital" systems the modern world knows. Maybe no individual Republican has shined you on... [more]
posted by seanmpuckett to Ask MetaFilter on May 28 at 9:52 AM
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At the risk of being facile, people are people. Progressive values may be better, but that doesn't make the people better or more pure. One really important thing for me has been to get rid of the idea of "good guys" and "bad guys" altogether, especially when it comes to entire groups. It's become more... [more]
posted by lunasol to Ask MetaFilter on May 28 at 9:59 AM
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I don't see a win here. You should move. [view]
posted by blnkfrnk to Ask MetaFilter on May 31 at 11:31 AM
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Unless your debt is basically interest-free, no. Especially over such a short period and being unable to tolerate loss of principal in a time of extraordinary volatility, there is nothing you can put it into that can return more than the interest accruing. If, however, you don't have an emergency fund, I would set a modest amount of money aside... [more]
posted by praemunire to Ask MetaFilter on May 29 at 3:11 PM
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I have a friend who feels that way. I have three responses: 1. Even good people have biases, and even good people make mistakes. When those biases and mistakes are backed up by the power of the state, and there are not strong and effective systems of accountability and restitution, no one can trust that they will be treated fairly or safely.... [more]
posted by Nothing to Ask MetaFilter on Jun 1 at 4:35 AM
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"Hi Ted, hope you both well in the new pandemic era! I was wondering if you and Julie wanted to grab a coffee some time. Greta and I have called it quits, so it will just be me, but I'd love to catch up with you two." [view]
posted by DarlingBri to Ask MetaFilter on May 27 at 4:16 AM
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This happens about once a month. Call your local-est elected leader and explain the issue. Get your neighbors to call, too. Let them put up an official sign! It's a public safety issue and a liability issue, make your government work for you. [view]
posted by phunniemee to Ask MetaFilter on May 28 at 12:30 PM
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Yep- always pattern the desired behaviour. Role play with her: quietly saying his name, sitting down with him, touching gently, whispering, standing still. Physically rehearse the desired movements and vocal volume, so her muscles commit the new pattern to memory. Give her a rhyme: “When I see my dog, I stand still like a log!” Etc.... [more]
posted by pseudostrabismus to Ask MetaFilter on May 28 at 8:35 PM
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Planning a wedding reception in 2020 reminds me a little of the days when life was governed by astrologers: they would gaze into the heavens and determine when the stars had aligned in a particular manner - and that it was therefore time to hold a party. The celebrations would come, for sure, but not on any clear schedule. The whole point of a... [more]
posted by rongorongo to Ask MetaFilter on May 28 at 5:57 AM
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