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Strength exercises for someone out of shape to compliment Couch to 5k

I am trying to improve my body and my relationship with it by running three times a week, and I'd also like to be strong. What is a good strength routine/workout I can do at home to compliment running that won't make me feel so badly about myself that I stop doing it? I'd be especially interested in weightlifting but I don't want to join a gym so that might be out.
posted by Mrs. Pterodactyl to Ask MetaFilter on Nov 13 at 9:26 AM
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Resources to Unlearn Things

My New Years Resolution for 2018 involves the idea of "unlearning" a lot of harmful paradigms, traditions, dynamics, etc, that I was exposed to while growing up in WASP-y, middle class, capitalist, patriarchal America. I'm looking for any recommendations of books, articles, movies, shows, and any other material that might help challenge my perspectives or introduce me to new and better ways of thinking/being in this world. Have you ever come across something that totally changed your perspective or made you rethink everything you've known about a specific domain? Send it my way!
posted by carlypennylane to Ask MetaFilter on Nov 10 at 7:17 PM
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Your favorite recent streaming documentaries?

Looking for people-focused documentaries made within the last five to ten years or so, available on streaming video--ideally inspiring, uplifting, or (non-violently) mysterious, please!
posted by stellaluna to Ask MetaFilter on Nov 9 at 2:03 PM
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Help me find something funny to watch in about three hours?

Some friends and I are getting away from various stresses by making dinner and watching something together tonight. We need something funny to watch that's available right now on Netflix or Hulu. My mind is blank because I have gloomier taste in media. Help?
posted by centrifugal to Ask MetaFilter on Nov 9 at 3:49 PM
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What is the weirdest, most obscure national organization you know of

that's better than "National Association of Parliamentarians"?
posted by Ms Vegetable to Ask MetaFilter on Nov 9 at 6:51 PM
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What is the opposite of an Ice Breaker?

What are some fun conversation starters that you've had with your very good friends who you know very well?
posted by JenThePro to Ask MetaFilter on Nov 7 at 11:55 AM
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Just now discovering The Essex Green and the Minders, so....

I am a massive fan of this kind of retro-pop goodness. Not so big on the rest of the Elephant 6 crew (except for early Of Montreal), and I've already been down the Belle & Sebastian road. Let me know what else I'm missing out on!
posted by Lipstick Thespian to Ask MetaFilter on Nov 10 at 8:13 PM
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Calibre/Ebooks Organization, How do you Organize?

I have a massive ebook collection from multiple platforms (3000+). I currently use Calibre to store them, but it's impossible to sort through unless I know the exact title. How do you people organize efficiently?
posted by crankytalking to Ask MetaFilter on Nov 9 at 8:46 AM
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Where does “WPA style” fit in art history?

What was the relationship (if any) between the “WPA style” used to promote the US’s National Parks in the 1940s, and other artistic movements like shin-hanga in Japan? Was there any influence - in either direction - between the posters and Yoshida Hiroshi’s work, especially his own prints of National Parks?
posted by chappell, ambrose to Ask MetaFilter on Nov 9 at 6:12 AM
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How to have a good weekend

Work has been busy/more chaotic than usual, and I'm having trouble disconnecting/relaxing on the weekends. What are your tips for having a good weekend, especially one where you feel like you've had a chance to decompress and feel rejuvenated entering into the new week?
posted by ellerhodes to Ask MetaFilter on Nov 10 at 12:20 PM
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Mindfulness without the woo?

I am trying to cope with a personal situation that cannot be changed any time soon (possibly never?) and find myself getting really angry about other things in my life. It's like having a very very short fuse -- things that I would normally laugh or roll my eyes at, now make me want to punch a wall. I think this is a reaction to my feeling so powerless about the personal situation. Mindfulness/meditation isn't helping. What will?
posted by basalganglia to Ask MetaFilter on Nov 7 at 5:07 PM
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Ways to treat myself for better sleep and earlier mornings

I have developed a taste for getting up early, but I need a nudge or two to stick with it. How can I make sleeping early and waking up early more luxurious?
posted by stoneandstar to Ask MetaFilter on Nov 14 at 2:51 PM
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Web content about sex and stuff

Looking to beef up my RSS feed with good stuff about sex and sexuality. What are the best, most reliable sources of content out there?
posted by 2or3whiskeysodas to Ask MetaFilter on Nov 10 at 9:05 AM
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How to be a modern stoner

Weed is legal in Canada! And I have so many questions. Stoners of AskMe, help me out with the basics here.
posted by Kitteh to Ask MetaFilter on Nov 7 at 1:28 PM
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Product recs just because

What's a product that you swear by and you would totally recommend to anyone?
posted by pleasebekind to Ask MetaFilter on Nov 5 at 12:12 AM
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How can I chill and accept the slight grossness of my human loved ones?

Ever since I was kid, I've been very easily irritated by the physical habits of other people I'm close to and whom I actually love very much - my mom eating with her mouth open, my dad making a mess in the bathroom, my partner not washing his hands before he prepares a meal, my brother sneezing into his hand, my best friend clearing her throat because she has a cold.
posted by Brain Sturgeon to Ask MetaFilter on Nov 13 at 8:36 PM
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Can I get some resources on the retail apocalypse?

Do any of you know about good articles and books about the decline of US brick and mortar fashion retailers in what appears to be an otherwise thriving economic landscape? I periodically see the "what" in the news, but I want more information about what economists and industry people think about the "how" and the "why" of it. If anyone has any information about the decline of the suburban mall that addresses closure of the stores therein and not just a shift in presentation to open air markets, that would be good too.
posted by Selena777 to Ask MetaFilter on Nov 11 at 9:05 AM
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Head clearing retreat needed ASAP!

Hive mind take me away! I need a 2-3 day retreat within 3 hours drive of Western Mass that I can go to in the upcoming weeks. Requirements/details below the fold.
posted by a22lamia to Ask MetaFilter on Nov 8 at 8:35 AM
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Socks for people with calves

I am in search of socks - regular and fuzzy - for people with non-toothpick calves. I have tried a bunch of brands and they all eat into my legs like nobody's business. Especially the ones with bands around the top - I find them unwearable. The three main categories I am interested are: plain black trouser socks for work; fun socks; and soft fuzzy slipper socks. I am 100% certain that I do not have the largest or the most delicate calves on metafilter, so fellow calf-having people, WTF do you put on your feet???
posted by telepanda to Ask MetaFilter on Nov 8 at 9:46 AM
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What makeup product am I looking for?

Acne-prone makeup-wearing people of Metafilter: What product can I buy that 1) won't break me out, 2) is extremely sheer and will help even out dry middle-aged skin without making it look even more haggard and unevenly textured like basically everything I've ever tried, and 3) is available at Ulta, Wal-Mart, Rite Aid, or Walgreens?
posted by HotToddy to Ask MetaFilter on Nov 14 at 8:59 AM
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But! If you have some tricks up your sleeve--not discipline, not intimidation, but just human skills to win an irate student over--I'd love to hear them. Other people will be able to articulate this more clearly than I can but you need to rephrase and emphasise. It isn't "sorry if I lost it" it's "I know you (did X Y Z)... [more]
posted by DarlingBri to Ask MetaFilter on Nov 13 at 2:50 PM
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Thank you all so much for your kind words, your great advice, and your encouraging and thoughtful comments. My eyes were opened in a way that they weren't before, and I was a bit surprised and embarrassed to realize I hadn't seen what was quite obviously right in front of me. It appears I have a tough road ahead of me, but this will not be the... [more]
posted by jspierre to Ask MetaFilter on Nov 8 at 7:16 AM
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Bojack Horseman the show is not a comedy, it is a deep dive into emotional damage, substance abuse, depression, and the ways people use and abuse each other - including, and often especially, the people they care about. I consider it one of the most overtly Feminist shows on television right now. I say this as someone who quit watching halfway... [more]
posted by Secret Sparrow to Ask MetaFilter on Nov 12 at 8:12 PM
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If you know you are about to be fired and your work record is negative (which it is because you’re on a PIP) you should take the job you have been offered. It will be harder to find work once you’re unemployed and relying on references from the workplace that fired you for poor performance. Don’t think they aren’t allowed to say negative things... [more]
posted by tel3path to Ask MetaFilter on Nov 10 at 1:07 AM
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Respectfully, I would suggest this way of thinking of a bat mitzvah gift could use some examining of your preconceived ideas of what this girl, who you say you don't know well, needs from you. Your secular world is not necessarily bigger, more open or better than theirs. You can open up her literary world just by giving her good literature that... [more]
posted by nantucket to Ask MetaFilter on Nov 12 at 11:34 AM
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I'm gonna go ahead and resolve this. Here's what I think: Between what Rock Em Sock Em and Lazuli are saying, both are absolutely at play in my gym. It's a pretty daunting place, there are regulars, there is an established gym culture, and it is a well-known and respected fixture in downtown Austin. Being new there is a bit overwhelming. ALSO,... [more]
posted by nikaspark to Ask MetaFilter on Nov 12 at 8:42 AM
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Just do...nothing? Like, you don’t need to do anything in these situations. Be your normal self. They know they’re nervous laughing too on some level. Trying to do anything further is micromanaging someone else’s personality. You can smile, I guess, if you don’t already do that. They almost definitely don’t care how you react. [view]
posted by stoneandstar to Ask MetaFilter on Nov 9 at 5:01 PM
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I think this exactly the kind of situation that you should be able to lean on your partner for support. Tell him! It's thoughtful of you to be concerned, but you shouldn't have to worry alone. [view]
posted by pinochiette to Ask MetaFilter on Nov 13 at 3:42 PM
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Oh my god. Please DO NOT rush to evict an elderly, disabled couple because one of them is screaming and crying at night. I can’t believe I even have to type that out. You will be actively amplifying whatever difficulties they have. You will be enabling unethical behavior, whether or not it’s legal. I am an architect. This is the fault of... [more]
posted by suedehead to Ask MetaFilter on Nov 11 at 7:22 AM
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You are almost thirty. If you'd like to see him again, propose a date, with a fixed time and place. If he turns you down, it will sting, but then you will know that, for whatever reason, he's gotten cold feet, and you should scratch him off. (Don't maintain casual contact in that scenario, because you will end up sleeping with him again, and at... [more]
posted by praemunire to Ask MetaFilter on Nov 12 at 12:45 AM
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Get rid of the roommate. Full stop. Get a new roommate who doesn't hate cats. says I keep him cruelly by having him as an indoor cat NOPE. You know what's cruel? Letting a cat onto the balcony, having the cat chase after a bird into the street, getting run over and dying. Outdoor cats in developed areas are not safe. I say... [more]
posted by DoubleLune to Ask MetaFilter on Nov 8 at 2:35 PM
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(I am a landlord on the side but my main business is in senior care.) Piling on the landlord to solve all social ills is not the solution under most circumstances and it is especially not the solution here. Elderly tenant screaming every night is WAY above a landlord's pay grade. I am especially aghast at people calling this... [more]
posted by rada to Ask MetaFilter on Nov 11 at 9:51 AM
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I haven't finished watching this show either, because although it's very funny and well observed, it is really just about one of these guys. Maybe I will someday; maybe I won't. I just wanted to tell you what it's taken me a long time to learn -- we don't have to engage with stuff that does this to our emotions just because everyone else praises it.... [more]
posted by Countess Elena to Ask MetaFilter on Nov 12 at 7:34 PM
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Woman here. Couldn’t abide it. Couldn’t choke down more than one episode. Still have all the super-woke-and-deep types in my circle evangelizing its virtues at me. I have reached peak “self-styled satire that’s really just bathos attempting to make you feel sorry for an unlikable male protagonist” sometime in the last little while. It’s a nice... [more]
posted by armeowda to Ask MetaFilter on Nov 12 at 9:16 PM
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People are weird about showers/locker rooms/etc. I cannot tell you what that person was thinking, but option 2 is absolutely something that would be possible for people I have known. Option 3, of just the worst type of small talk ever, is also certainly possible. [view]
posted by annabear to Ask MetaFilter on Nov 12 at 8:22 AM
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Why are you turning the lights on? [view]
posted by brainmouse to Ask MetaFilter on Nov 8 at 10:25 AM
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This makes him sound like a horrible, terrible person, but he loves me and I can feel that. I'm really sorry, but he does not love you. He loves the financial lifestyle you provide for him and the "love" and care you feel are him keeping you just happy/placated enough not to withdraw your considerable financial support. He has... [more]
posted by Snarl Furillo to Ask MetaFilter on Nov 7 at 12:13 PM
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Hi, Jilder, just to clarify - the cat was here when the housemate moved in. I advertised that the cat was in the flat, introduced her to the cat when she came to visit the flat, and explained that he is an indoor cat. My problem is that she moved in knowing there was this cat, and now (although she could move out at any point) doesn't want to move... [more]
posted by MarianHalcombe to Ask MetaFilter on Nov 8 at 3:01 PM
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Sending the letter is just an excuse to prolong contact and keep the drama going. You're using a lot of rhetoric to disguise from yourself that that's what you want to do, but that's what you want to do. Even writing this long a post about him is a way to ruminate on the drama and get other people to affirm it for you. This kind of... [more]
posted by praemunire to Ask MetaFilter on Nov 11 at 8:06 PM
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As a player, any pub quiz I went to that had selling hints as a thing would be one I'd feel really sour on ever attending again. I don't mean this to be mean but just realistic on how it'd make me feel. The bonus questions idea from holgate above feels much more player-friendly. [view]
posted by augustimagination to Ask MetaFilter on Nov 8 at 12:10 PM
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