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Fun shows set in the past

My husband and I are looking for a series to watch on Netflix or Prime that we both enjoy. This is difficult. We've narrowed it down to a) must be set in the past and pay attention to historical details, and b) should have interesting characters you can root for and intelligent plot. Humour is also good. So far we have enjoyed Mad Men and Life on Mars (British version) as well as House of Cards (British version).
posted by Omnomnom to Ask MetaFilter on Nov 11 at 2:21 PM
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Give me some good, weird books to read.

I've been having trouble finding books that interest me lately, until I realized that I'm really looking for weird, spooky books. The one that really scratched that itch was Shirley Jackson's We Have Always Lived in the Castle. What should I read next?
posted by Paper rabies to Ask MetaFilter on Nov 16 at 12:59 PM
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Holiday coziness for kids

Life is chaotic right now, and we need some coziness and together time. Unfortunately, I'm not in the easiest place, mentally, for making that happen effortlessly. I need a list, and I need inspiration. Can you share your favorite seasonal activities for creating a cozy atmosphere?
posted by annathea to Ask MetaFilter on Nov 13 at 8:49 AM
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Do I live only so that I may die?

What is the purpose of my life? - this is a question I have been thinking a lot about.
posted by 8LeggedFriend to Ask MetaFilter on Nov 11 at 3:22 PM
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honest, narrative, and straightforward

I am almost done with Normal People and I want more.
posted by quadrilaterals to Ask MetaFilter on Nov 15 at 6:24 AM
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Stealing the show

I'm looking for videos of people who are very good at what they do stealing the show. The best example I have is this video of some good guitarists performing a boring cover of While my Guitar Gently Weeps, until Prince swoops in and performs SO HARD and leaves everyone else in the dust.
posted by pintapicasso to Ask MetaFilter on Nov 13 at 9:20 AM
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Non-white futuristic interior aesthetics!

Please recommend examples of non-White futurist aesthetics (Afrofuturism, Indigenous futurism, etc) - particularly as it relates to interiors!
posted by divabat to Ask MetaFilter on Nov 14 at 2:42 PM
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Catching up on sexual experience and skills

For reasons, I have not had much sex in my life. I am looking to learn now the kinds of skills and experience that you would expect a late 30s female (heterosexual) to have. Practice is the obvious answer, but seeing as I can’t control who wants to sleep with me, can you also lead me to books, videos, podcasts, anything like that that I can look at on my own beforehand to lessen the rejection from Tinder dates when they figure out I am bad in bed. Please assume I have really absolutely no idea about anything (if I know it already I will happily ignore that advice)
posted by EatMyHat to Ask MetaFilter on Nov 12 at 8:04 PM
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Really gripping biographies

Having just read Romantic Outlaws and been blown away by it, can anyone recommend other biographies or autobiographies that are written in such a gripping, page-turning style, please? I'm looking for books about any subject or time period, but they should be well-written and the subject should be likeable.
posted by hazyjane to Ask MetaFilter on Nov 16 at 6:57 AM
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Not being the smartest one creates self-hate

I would like to handle being bad at things (not perfect at them) better. I would like to not feel a sense of shame and worthlessness if someone is smarter than me. More below.
posted by crunchy potato to Ask MetaFilter on Nov 13 at 6:56 PM
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In search of searching...or something

My wife is looking for a new hobby/activity which scratches a particular problem solving/puzzle-ish itch. We've tried looking but honestly aren't even entirely sure what we're looking for so I suggested we see what kind of ideas the hive mind might offer up. She's mostly looking for stuff that can be done indoors/at the computer but all suggestions welcome! Her thoughts inside.
posted by Mister_Sleight_of_Hand to Ask MetaFilter on Nov 12 at 8:18 AM
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Self-therapy

I can't get therapy. What's the next best option?
posted by Anonymous to Ask MetaFilter on Nov 12 at 1:40 PM
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Ideas for "Cozy" birthday evening

Hi! Next weekend I'm having a cozy night in for my birthday with some friends. I am having a lovely hot stew, homemade bread, a cocoa bar, & a fire. I would like 1) ideas for making things feel cozier, & 2) ideas for things to include in the cocoa bar that are yummy. Thanks!
posted by fairlynearlyready to Ask MetaFilter on Nov 17 at 4:52 PM
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Fun newsletters to read?

I would like to read some more email newsletters (whether from Substack or somewhere else). Currently I subscribe to Nicole Cliffe and Anne Helen Peterson's newsletters, but I would like to read some different things and perspectives.
posted by toastyk to Ask MetaFilter on Nov 14 at 8:59 AM
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no-egg vegetarian savory pies

I'm seeking tasty recipes for savory pies that are vegetarian and do not contain eggs. (Dairy is very welcome though.) Thanks!
posted by dusty potato to Ask MetaFilter on Nov 14 at 2:15 PM
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Step into my shoes and tell me where to go.

You're a single middle-aged gal with a couple of (non-negotiable-gotta-live-with-them) cats and have a stable, salaried job you love and do remotely and no particularly strong ties to anyone/anything beyond the day-to-day. Where in the world would you choose to live for a few months to just try something new, preferably on the cheap—or at least cheaper than Chicago?
posted by heyho to Ask MetaFilter on Nov 15 at 6:41 PM
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Strategies for managing with ADHD in a new and challenging job?

I have ADHD for which I take regular medication. 2 months ago I relocated out of state to take a more challenging position at a larger and faster-paced company. I now feel completely overwhelmed. My distractability is very high and I am struggling with basic executive function—tracking and following through on tasks, synthesizing and retaining new information, proactively and regularly communicating. Unsurprisingly my anxiety level is now high also. It's like I've gone back to my pre-diagnosis state. I need strategies to keep the lid on my head, maintain focus, and restore good performance.
posted by 4rtemis to Ask MetaFilter on Nov 16 at 1:25 PM
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Books from and set in Mexico

Please hit me with your Mexican literature (in English translation) suggestions. Any genre, time period, etc. Just looking for good readin'
posted by latkes to Ask MetaFilter on Nov 15 at 10:11 PM
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Hack for making cold brew coffee and lattes at home

We would are working on getting financially fit and we need to cut our coffee budget. I am interested in making cold brew coffee and lattes at home so that we can ditch Starbucks. Any tips on the best cold brew system to buy? And, an inexpensive and easy to use latte maker? I heard about Aeropress, any thoughts and advice?
posted by TRUELOTUS to Ask MetaFilter on Nov 11 at 9:42 AM
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I know it sounds absurd but I am NOT crazy

This question may offend if of a particular religion and if so I deeply apologize. I have been in my life deeply haunted by something and I dont know any other way to ask without sounding like a loony. I'm wondering if my belief that I am among ghosts and spirits and that I have a slight touch of ESP may be possible, or could it be proven? More on that ...
posted by The_imp_inimpossible to Ask MetaFilter on Nov 14 at 3:39 AM
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Kurt Vonnegut's commentary on this matter always resonated with me: “I work at home, and if I wanted to, I could have a computer right by my bed, and I’d never have to leave it. But I use a typewriter, and afterward I mark up the pages with a pencil. Then I call up this woman named Carol out in Woodstock and say, “Are you still doing typing?... [more]
posted by whisk(e)y neat to Ask MetaFilter on Nov 11 at 4:14 PM
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This isn't what you're asking for, but as someone with ADHD I can't not say it. Do not exhaust yourself doing this for him. This is his battle to fight, and the hard truth is that he may fail hard for a while. You are worth too much to fall with him. Sometimes the best lessons in life are the really, really hard ones, and he needs to learn that on... [more]
posted by Amy93 to Ask MetaFilter on Nov 16 at 7:42 AM
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Child also has anxiety issues which I don't want to exacerbate, but I think it may be easier for me to manage these when my ex isn't around. As someone who has been a child in this kind of scenario, I would like to offer a 95% certain assurance that your child's anxiety issues are being exacerbated by the current situation. This... [more]
posted by chiquitita to Ask MetaFilter on Nov 17 at 2:58 AM
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I wanted my ex to move out With all due respect, you ended the relations, you have moved on with a new partner, you are not struggling with anxiety, and have stable employment (is this perhaps because they provided the majority of child care while you were employed, or their visa situation made employment complicated?). Perhaps you... [more]
posted by saucysault to Ask MetaFilter on Nov 17 at 8:42 AM
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there is literally no possible way that you and your ex living apart could somehow be MORE traumatic for your child than having to watch one parent happily dating while the other parent creepily and bitterly stalks them around the house. [view]
posted by poffin boffin to Ask MetaFilter on Nov 17 at 7:05 AM
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Wow, this is much worse for the kid than a clean break with two households would be. Much worse. What are you modeling for your kid here? Dishonesty, keeping up appearances that have no relation to reality, and the cruel hypocrisy of simultaneously kiiiind of living like a family but at the same time bringing your new partner around -- a... [more]
posted by fingersandtoes to Ask MetaFilter on Nov 17 at 6:13 AM
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Are other people aware of these (at least to me) very distinct states or at least poles on a continuum I have been aware of it in other people who felt these things for me or who evidently functioned that way with regard to other women. I find it alienating and conceptually terrifying. I don't mean that either state is terrifying on... [more]
posted by queenofbithynia to Ask MetaFilter on Nov 11 at 6:53 PM
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One of my friends tackled this very issue by leaning into the Grinch persona. She decorated her cube with photos of the Grinch, Ebeneezer Scrooge, Oscar the Grouch, Nightmare Before Christmas (spider opportunity!), and lumps of coal. She was cheerful about it, and her colleagues were amused. YMMV. [view]
posted by Orange Dinosaur Slide to Ask MetaFilter on Nov 15 at 5:36 PM
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Her SD card was corrupt out of her control I'm of the opinion that a wedding photographer that isn't using dual card slots is decidedly unprofessional. If both of them failed, sure. But if there was just one card, this is definitely on the photographer. [view]
posted by zamboni to Ask MetaFilter on Nov 12 at 9:27 AM
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It's impossible to know if the tattoo artist is clean enough. Alternative: offer to pay for the difference between this home-brew BS and getting the tattoo in a proper shop. [view]
posted by notsnot to Ask MetaFilter on Nov 13 at 7:51 AM
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I am an existentialist. I believe that I create my own meaning in life. This belief is important to me because, by the standards of the capitalist society in which I live, my life is not meaningful, given that I currently don’t work and am housebound due to disability. But my life is generally happy and fulfilling because I find my meaning in... [more]
posted by Ruki to Ask MetaFilter on Nov 11 at 6:11 PM
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I would personally be incredibly disappointed that I had to ask about the missing photos before she said anything. I'd ask her to pay for a solid attempt at recovering images by a professional service, and if that doesn't work, take the discount. [view]
posted by Rock Steady to Ask MetaFilter on Nov 12 at 9:42 AM
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Chiming in as someone with ADHD: I don't think it's healthy for you to act as your boyfriend's problem-solver, life coach, and/or accountability partner. It's not healthy for the relationship either. You'll be setting up an overfunctioner-underfunctioner dynamic between the both of you if you take on the responsibility of being his... [more]
posted by MiraK to Ask MetaFilter on Nov 16 at 9:59 AM
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I have to quietly say "wed-ness-day" to myself when spelling Wednesday and if anyone here claims they don't they are LIARS [view]
posted by DSime to Ask MetaFilter on Nov 13 at 12:37 PM
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We *all* want something that feels meaningful and creative. No one wants to get "stuck" in a mediocre job. Meanwhile, employers have specific needs. I recommend jobs where interruption is part of the job - tech support. The phone rings, you respond, document, the phone rings, you go visit and fix something, document,... [more]
posted by theora55 to Ask MetaFilter on Nov 16 at 7:04 AM
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Currently, it seems your purpose is to find or discover a purpose. That's legit. [view]
posted by amtho to Ask MetaFilter on Nov 11 at 3:28 PM
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I am diabetic and my mother and dad and grandmother were diabetic. High and low blood sugar does not cause us to harass people. Quite the opposite: it causes us confusion. But not to be harassers. That is definitely NOT an excuse to harass people, ever. You should believe the people who have said they have experienced problems with this person,... [more]
posted by Marie Mon Dieu to Ask MetaFilter on Nov 13 at 5:21 PM
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You know, if this were me it would depend on how much I needed the money. If I didn't need it, I'd let the money go. This wasn't her fault and she did work those hours taking the photos. And also I feel like on a joyous occasion it augers better to be open-handed if you can. [view]
posted by Frowner to Ask MetaFilter on Nov 12 at 9:20 AM
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I am not going to share a pithy quote or try to jolly you out of this. You sound sad and in deep thoughts but to me, this sounds like depression talking, not philosophy. Just waiting to die does not sound healthy or happy. Find a therapist. In the meantime, get a dog or cat. Having something to care for gives many people a reason to live,... [more]
posted by yes I said yes I will Yes to Ask MetaFilter on Nov 11 at 4:29 PM
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I know this isn't super helpful but I made a "pffft" sound, out loud, when I read 100k. Your fiancee wants to be with you and you want to be with her. Her mother will come around or she will not, and you have very little control over that. Who's to say that even if you made it to that goalpost that it wouldn't find a way to move?... [more]
posted by sibboleth to Ask MetaFilter on Nov 11 at 6:34 AM
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