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How Can I Grow Old With Less Anger

How Can I Cope with Old Age?
posted by SPrintF to Ask MetaFilter on May 16 at 7:03 PM
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Looking for casual tops

I have plenty of t-shirts and work tops. I'm looking for tops to wear when meeting friends, going out to eat, a casual party, etc. when I want something a little more interesting. "Fancier" t-shirts or other tops, not too girly, sleeveless, short sleeve, or 3/4 are all OK. Size 6/8, small/medium, under $75, US-based. Would love some color, prints are fine too. Please presume I've looked at the usual suspects (Loft, Old Navy, Target, Lands End, etc.). Specific brands/websites/style recommendations appreciated.
posted by XtineHutch to Ask MetaFilter on May 17 at 8:12 AM
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The best for the beach

I never liked the beach before last summer. Now that I’ve come to love the beach, I’d like to make the absolute best beach experience. I’ve got a couple of things in my beach toolkit, but wondered whether those who have a lifetime of beach going can recommend other things and practices to make my visits great.
posted by Admiral Haddock to Ask MetaFilter on May 17 at 5:24 AM
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Quality, Smart Romance

I'm trying my hand at writing romance for fun and looking for examples of fantastic romance novels to show me the way! Within the bounds of the genre is ideal, but if there are books that have a strong romantic themes but don't quite fit, I'm interested in those too.
posted by switcheroo to Ask MetaFilter on May 16 at 11:50 AM
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Best short short stories for high schoolers that stimulate discussion

Hi! I am looking for some recommendations for short short stories that are great for getting students talking. I have had great success with The Lottery.
posted by maca to Ask MetaFilter on May 18 at 11:51 PM
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What are some games to play on my iPhone?

I'm looking for games to play on my phone at work during slow times. Any suggestions? In the past I've enjoyed Reigns: Her Majesty, Stack the States, I Love Hue, and Duolingo (not technically a game, I know, but it feels like one).
posted by The corpse in the library to Ask MetaFilter on May 19 at 12:19 PM
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Can this potato salad be improved?

THIS is BBQ legend Rodney Scott's recipe for Southern potato salad, and it's pretty much everything I want a potato salad to be. I'll sub part of the sweet pickle relish for dill pickle, add finely diced mini bell peppers, and a wee bit of celery seed. Besides bacon (because a lot of people don't eat pork), how would you make this salad even more delicious? Thanks!
posted by cyndigo to Ask MetaFilter on May 16 at 4:35 PM
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Where do you find left-wing STEM news and communities?

Looking for communities (virtual or otherwise) that focus on lefty/radical/anti-authoritarian uses and development of science and technology. Like open-source organizing software, post-capitalist robots, DIY biology - that kind of thing, where the focus is on empowering people rather than making profit.
posted by woofo to Ask MetaFilter on May 18 at 5:22 PM
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Have we met?

I (woman in mid-thirties) have a really, really hard time with all three components of remembering people I meet - I have a significant amount of face blindness (I will literally see and forget a face in minutes), I will either forget to get the name/forget it after some time, and sometimes, the faces and names are islands with no bridge connecting the same. This is especially bad when it comes to introductions at work. This, when I work in an industry where this is practically an essential skill. Why is this and how do I fix this?
posted by Nieshka to Ask MetaFilter on May 18 at 4:05 AM
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Can be Reviewer #2 professionally?

I'm a former academic. I'm unhappy in my current academic-adjacent job. The nature of my unhappiness is making it clear to me that my ideal job is basically being Reviewer #2. I would like to do a mix of editing and commenting/critique on various research products (grant proposals, methodological plans and instruments, articles, presentations, anything) for the purpose of making this research better. Can I be paid to do that? How do I find that job?
posted by Anonymous to Ask MetaFilter on May 20 at 11:26 PM
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Total beginner's guide to buying a house

We are millennials who assumed we would never be able to afford to buy a house, so have no idea how to do these things. This weekend, a townhouse that is surprisingly reasonably priced has appeared on Zillow. I want it. The problem is, I have no idea how to make this happen. Help?
posted by EllaEm to Ask MetaFilter on May 15 at 7:00 PM
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Fun connection games for couples

My partner and I are going through a challenging season and we’re getting into conversations that leave our nervous systems “jangly”.
posted by vividvoltage to Ask MetaFilter on May 17 at 8:35 PM
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Looking for a specific kind of dress

Looking for a dress similar to one I own but can't find replica: decent quality, soft comfortable fabric (nothing flimsy or itchy), stretchy and slightly clingy at top with flowing lower portion; v-neck or scoop neck. Pretty casual. open to different colors/patterns and lengths. Prefer under $100 but may be willing to pay more.
posted by bearette to Ask MetaFilter on May 21 at 6:59 AM
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Great things in Japan to fit around other plans

I'll be going to Japan in August and all the main points have already been nailed down, what else can I fit in around them? For example I'll be going to the Ghibli museum, maybe there's a great restaurant or shop nearby I should check out?
posted by any portmanteau in a storm to Ask MetaFilter on May 18 at 6:56 PM
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Are the kids alright?

What is it like to be a teenager right now?
posted by gold bridges to Ask MetaFilter on May 20 at 11:07 AM
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any zookeepers in the house?

anyone got zoo keeper stories of what it was like working behind the glass/fence/cage/tank? weird logistics people don't think about? the strangest tasks someones gotta do but work no one sees? the more mundane the better!
posted by beanman to Ask MetaFilter on May 16 at 8:04 PM
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Bike-filter

What is a google maps-like website for city biking that isn't horrible?
posted by Toddles to Ask MetaFilter on May 15 at 6:11 PM
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How do I re-enter the world after covid?

I went through a lot of personal upheaval immediately before the pandemic started...which then made everything worse. I'm struggling to re-enter the world now and find a purposeful daily life. Help?
posted by Anonymous to Ask MetaFilter on May 19 at 10:11 AM
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How do I rephrase "the answer is white male patriarchy"?

I'm creating a presentation to use in classrooms at high schools for a leftist climate organization (Sunrise Movement) and am looking for a better way to phrase my current answer, "injustices in our system", as the answer to "why do we have the climate crisis, actually". Without just blatantly saying that the answer is "white male patriarchy/capitalism/etc." how can I phrase this better to answer the question while also minding the context in which I will be presenting (high school classrooms as a guest speaker)?
posted by defmute to Ask MetaFilter on May 17 at 6:56 PM
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Album recommendations for summer playlist.

During the summer, I spend a lot of time in the woods by a river. We have a campsite there and it is a private, very peaceful spot. I am seeking folk/indie/jazz/acoustic/singer-songwriter/soft rock/old country full album recommendations to add to a long playlist to accompany our lazy days sitting by the river.
posted by fourpotatoes to Ask MetaFilter on May 21 at 7:37 AM
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I studied environmental history in graduate school. White, male patriarchy can be blamed for a lot of problems, but the human capability to wreck our own environments through our own short-sightedness is something that transcends recent history. For millennia, people of all different cultures have done things with unintended consequences that... [more]
posted by jb to Ask MetaFilter on May 17 at 8:10 PM
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Please go get a physical. Your insurance should pay for it, including bloodwork, as part of your yearly wellness coverage. There are medical issues that no amount of therapy can fix, and you need to know if that's something that needs to be part of your plan. Just about anything sets me off. Someone moving my toothbrush or hair products.... [more]
posted by Lyn Never to Ask MetaFilter on May 17 at 11:28 AM
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My friend paid her kids not to fight. They got $1 a day for any day when the conflict didn’t bother the parents. (I think they got one warning before the dollar was forfeit). The dollar was shared and either kid could lose the dollar for both of them. If they got $5 in a row they earned a bonus $5. I think for the course of the summer the grand... [more]
posted by nouvelle-personne to Ask MetaFilter on May 20 at 4:35 AM
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Anger can be a part of cognitive decline. So I would focus on keeping up mental elasticity and see where you are with the anger after a couple months of brain exercise. It doesn’t have to just be like, sudoku and crossword puzzles. Try any kind of activity that even remotely interests you. You have mobility issues but there are many kinds of dance... [more]
posted by Mizu to Ask MetaFilter on May 16 at 7:46 PM
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It sounds like the concern about the W sitting is very overstated. https://www.chla.org/blog/health-and-safety-tips/w-sitting-not-bad-kids-chla-study-finds I double checked because I W sat all the way into my 20s and have had no problems. Also, kissing an ear canal is weird and who sucks that hard when they kiss anyway? I'm sure someone... [more]
posted by small_ruminant to Ask MetaFilter on May 19 at 9:28 PM
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Thanks to the atrocious doctrine of "Asset Forfeiture", the police can legally seize anything they want in the USA https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Asset_forfeiture. If this is your first time learning about this, you might naturally think "Well I have documents proving my ownership of this stuff! And I'm not involved in a crime, I... [more]
posted by rustcrumb to Ask MetaFilter on May 18 at 8:27 AM
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This is sounding like a pretty axe grindy presentation that will likely come off as one. These issues are very complex and aren't done justice by oversimplification. The problem is that there are no leftist explanations. There are just explanations, and while you might be itching to whittle it all down to "white male patriarchy/capitalism/etc.... [more]
posted by 2N2222 to Ask MetaFilter on May 17 at 9:15 PM
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An urban planner's answer is that it's decisions about the environment that are passed down to the future, and the world we live in now just reflects those decisions that were made by people in the past; either by small groups of powerful people, or broad societies preferring certain ways of life. And that's an answer that's rather... [more]
posted by Fiasco da Gama to Ask MetaFilter on May 17 at 7:22 PM
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It took me years to realize that I don't have an anger problem. I have an anxiety problem. I had followed the poor example of other men who react to anxiety by just hulking the fuck out and either making it everyone else's problem or having a pretty destructive round of self-condemnation. I had treated my anger like bad weather: completely... [more]
posted by DirtyOldTown to Ask MetaFilter on May 17 at 12:42 PM
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This note is incredibly obnoxious. Walking around in a unit is the definition of reasonable use. [view]
posted by NotMyselfRightNow to Ask MetaFilter on May 21 at 4:28 PM
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If your rice cooker is, for instance, a Zojirushi with a keep warm setting, the answer is "as long as the keep warm setting will stay on," which is usually 12 or 24 hours (often there's a choice between normal/extended keep warm). It sounds like that's the case here, as 150 F is right around the temperature rice cookers with this setting... [more]
posted by pullayup to Ask MetaFilter on May 16 at 2:00 PM
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What do you wish you knew earlier? That none of that stuff really matters and to take a chill pill. Also, stock the house with pinworm medicine. Enjoy your 4 year old! [view]
posted by Toddles to Ask MetaFilter on May 19 at 9:47 PM
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I am a domestic violence survivor. I am posting here, because my perpetrator was like this, and it took me many years to understand why, and I am hopeful that speaking up here can save people that you will ultimately interact with, as well as, possibly, yourself. First; you are an abuser currently, not just a potential abuser. Abuse is not... [more]
posted by corb to Ask MetaFilter on May 17 at 6:54 PM
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As a person who struggles with anxiety: You cannot reassure someone out of their anxiety. Reassurance breeds more anxiety. You can't argue them into a feeling of ease. Acknowledging that I'm an Internet stranger and don't know anything about you or your partner, I can say with certainty that the problem is the anxiety itself. Anxiety... [more]
posted by Zumbador to Ask MetaFilter on May 21 at 10:41 PM
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The days are long but the years are short. [view]
posted by fairmettle to Ask MetaFilter on May 19 at 10:35 PM
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All I can say is, I've been driving myself hard since spring semester 2020 and I am hella running out of -- never mind steam, steam departed long ago, let's say lukewarm water. I am running out of lukewarm water. Also I'm on a twelve-month contract and mid-to-late May or August are the only reasonable time for me to take a week off, which I am... [more]
posted by humbug to Ask MetaFilter on May 18 at 6:30 PM
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Oh my god, I'm a dumbass, I forgot about other apps! I just texted him on instagram and he said he just woke up, he’d smashed his phone screen last night when he dropped it and everything’s fine. Thank you so much for the idea, brainwane!! So, oops. Definitely freaked out over nothing. Sorry about that, y'all. Guess this is a strong sign that... [more]
posted by morningmist to Ask MetaFilter on May 16 at 8:53 AM
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Yeah, university prof in the US here; this year has been a dumpster fire in ways that even last year wasn't. Everyone got COVID during the first omicron surge this winter and if they didn't get it then they're getting it now. Student mental health is at an all time low, which has been compounded by adjusting to returning to campus. If you're in a... [more]
posted by damayanti to Ask MetaFilter on May 18 at 6:41 PM
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My brother and I are also very different personality-wise. And he picked on me a lot when we were kids (I didn't pick on him back, but largely because I'm not wired to pick on ANYONE really, I just sulked and stayed in my room a lot). It DID stop when we grew up; largely because we grew up. We're not super-close BFFs, and there was one uneasy... [more]
posted by EmpressCallipygos to Ask MetaFilter on May 20 at 4:12 AM
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As you may already have found out... There's no shortage of dubious child rearing advice. [view]
posted by 2N2222 to Ask MetaFilter on May 19 at 10:46 PM
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