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Best obscure book you've read

Jumping off this Fediverse thread: what is the best book you've read that very few other people have even heard of? All genres and languages welcome, fiction and nonfiction. Would definitely appreciate a quick description and a thought or two on what makes it so great.
posted by brainwane to Ask MetaFilter on Jul 17 at 5:29 AM
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Engaging sci-fi, fantasy, romance, etc. book recommendations

I am looking for engaging sci-fi, fantasy, romance (especially if combined with one of the others), or similar books that are generally positive in tone/ending. Some bad things can happen, but I want to feel much more happy than sad or mad once I'm finished. Some example authors are T. Kingfisher, Ilona Andrews, Malka Ann Older, and Martha Wells.
posted by unus sum to Ask MetaFilter on Jul 19 at 5:02 PM
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Teaching emotional reslience

How do you teach a child emotional resilience without invalidating their feelings? Trying to help a sensitive tween who cries over a lot of small things, gets easily discouraged and hurt by minor inconveniences or offenses without telling them "it's just not that big a deal" or "just don't let it bother you". How do you be supportive, but at the same time teach them to be stronger in the face of life's (small) challenges?
posted by roaring beast to Ask MetaFilter on Jul 18 at 12:44 PM
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SLIGHTLY DIFFERENT request for science fiction book recs.

I love science fiction stories in which it turns out that everything we know is wrong. A big discovery, a big secret, or a big truth is revealed...
posted by Sing Or Swim to Ask MetaFilter on Jul 21 at 11:38 AM
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Adulting Task List for Independent Living

My cousin (22 years old, nonbinary) is getting started with independent living. They are very smart, but have been delayed in achieving independence because of chronic health issues. They are also not neurotypical (ADHD and on the autism spectrum). They LOVE lists. I want to make them a list of the tasks they need to think about now that they are living in their own apartment and are responsible for their own car. The tasks I’m most concerned about including are the things that are both PERIODIC and REQUIRED, like changing the oil in your car.
posted by ocherdraco to Ask MetaFilter on Jul 22 at 9:13 AM
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So Many Chickpeas

I recently came into possession of a freebie ten pound bag of dried chickpeas. Now I need to find ways to use them up. What are your favourite chickpea recipes?
posted by orange swan to Ask MetaFilter on Jul 17 at 6:27 PM
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I want to "minor" in a new field on my own time. How?

Thinking about what I'm missing in my life, and what gives me the most pleasure, I realized I want to learn something new at about the same depth as an average liberal arts college minor -- in neuroscience, say, or history (more academic than applied). This can take place over a long period of time like 4 years. I do have a pretty packed life, so it is going to be purely on a hobby schedule (~ 8 hours/week). What's the best way to do this?
posted by redlines to Ask MetaFilter on Jul 19 at 1:53 PM
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'Trippy' Horror Movie Recommendations

My wife is looking for horror movie recommendations. She's looking for more obscure stuff, trippy/weird - the best description of what she wants that she can give me is "The kind of movie Tool would make if they were making a horror movie."
posted by eternalhedgehog to Ask MetaFilter on Jul 18 at 3:54 PM
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Rituals for working at home?

As someone who feels sluggish and demoralized when working (alone) at home all day, I am wondering what tips you all have for working from home effectively and happily?
posted by justsomebody to Ask MetaFilter on Jul 22 at 1:47 PM
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Lifestyle changes for pre-diabetes

I am now pre-diabetic (I was expecting this) and advised by my doctor to try and reverse it with ‘lifestyle changes.’ Looking for authoritative non-faddish advice on what that might be.
posted by ficbot to Ask MetaFilter on Jul 23 at 6:57 PM
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Books for 5 & 8 year olds with max reread value?

I have the opportunity to augment the English-language book collection of two sisters, ages 5 & 8 (equivalent of U.S. kindergarten and grade 3). The family’s country of residence does not have a wide selection of children’s books in English. Therefore, the books I bring need to have maximum reread value for big sis, little sis, and their parents. These books will be traveling via a carry on suitcase, so the (paperback) form factor is another significant consideration. Recs for both new and old classics are welcome, but any recommendation should meet the standards of discerning families in the 2020s.
posted by oceano to Ask MetaFilter on Jul 18 at 6:55 AM
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Places to buy jigsaw puzzles NOT designed by AI?

What it says on the, erm, "box." We are a dedicated jigsaw puzzle family, and it's become incredibly difficult to find puzzles that don't have an AI-generated feel. We do not like the hyper-bright colors, or compositions that feels generated, not intentionally designed. I miss the days of photos of real, beautiful places that haven't been made cartoonish through hyper-color saturation. Another family member enjoys the Americana style paintings (Jane Wooster Scott); in general, things that look natural or painted by a human. Where can we still find these??
posted by Silvery Fish to Ask MetaFilter on Jul 23 at 10:57 AM
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ISO movies depicting happily married couples

I need to watch some movies about people, fictional or not, who fell in love, got married, and had genuinely happy, healthy marriages for as long as they were together. I'm especially eager to see scenes of married couples having supportive conversations and moments of sweet, non-sexual affection. Examples inside.
posted by The Adventure Begins to Ask MetaFilter on Jul 21 at 4:44 AM
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Optimizing my once-in-a-lifetime Amtrak sleeper tour of the USA

In a few days I’m leaving for a 7-day Amtrak Vacations trip around the US from Washington DC to Chicago, LA, New Orleans, and back to Washington DC. I'd love any advice, recommendations, and suggestions on how to ensure I get the most out of my dream vacation.
posted by kinsey to Ask MetaFilter on Jul 17 at 8:27 AM
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I think I need a new pillow.

I'm falling out of love with my pillow, and want to look for a new one, but the pillow world is complex.
posted by pdb to Ask MetaFilter on Jul 19 at 12:17 PM
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Is there such a thing as a high-end drinking bird toy?

Are there fancy versions of a drinking bird toy for sale somewhere? Ones with... metal parts? Blown glass? Anything that makes it a bit less "classroom science demo"? I'd also be interested in other solar-powered art objects/design pieces that would make good gifts.
posted by sagc to Ask MetaFilter on Jul 23 at 5:14 AM
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How to plan the minimum effective dose of internal meetings?

Is there a tool, methodology or approach that has helped your organisation to plan the least possible number of cross-functional and/or team meetings?
posted by Weng to Ask MetaFilter on Jul 23 at 1:12 AM
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Help me learn to be kind to myself

At the age of 43 it's starting to become apparent to me that I have some pretty incorrect internal beliefs about myself. Trouble is that I don't know how to spot them. I'm in therapy at the moment, which is great, but it's dealing with other things — this feels like I need to reprogram myself and I don't really know how.
posted by gmb to Ask MetaFilter on Jul 17 at 8:31 AM
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How to win friends and influence people, hard mode

When my nervous system is well regulated, people love me. I can have a good conversation with anyone, and people like to give me things and bend rules for me. When it's not, people don't seem to like me at all, and even seem to want to pick on me.
posted by wheatlets to Ask MetaFilter on Jul 20 at 10:33 AM
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How to change my mindset because I can't change much else!

I am in a Bad Place mentally, and I am unable to change much of my environment or circumstances So, I think I need to change my mindset. What kind of therapy should I seek?
posted by Ms. Toad to Ask MetaFilter on Jul 17 at 12:36 PM
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"If everyone Travis cared about was in the wedding party, there would be 200 people standing up at the front of the church and no one sitting down in the pews" [view]
posted by chariot pulled by cassowaries to Ask MetaFilter on Jul 22 at 11:53 AM
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You know your family, but I think in most families, the odds of you being asked this question are very low. Very low. But if it happens, you can always say, “oh, you’d have to ask him! It can be so hard to find the right balance of groomsmen for bridesmaids,” which I think would end the conversation by making it clear you don’t know... [more]
posted by moosetracks to Ask MetaFilter on Jul 22 at 11:57 AM
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Do you maybe think this is part of why "open plan space" is hated by most office workers? You're right, it can be annoying to work right next to a loud typist/keyboard pair. And you're also right: you can't reasonably ask a worker to change the fundamental manner in which they type, just to suit your preferences. So my advice is... [more]
posted by SaltySalticid to Ask MetaFilter on Jul 17 at 6:21 PM
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"Oh, I think he made a great choice with his wedding party!" Smile breezily. Let the awkwardness sit. You didn't make it awkward. [view]
posted by disconnect to Ask MetaFilter on Jul 22 at 12:22 PM
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If I were a new employee in an office and my boss came at me because I typed too loud I would quit. Buy headphones. [view]
posted by Amy93 to Ask MetaFilter on Jul 17 at 6:28 PM
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Look I know it's popular/therapy coded to say things like your nervous system is dysregulated, and I expect that probably makes it easier to source things like mental health support on a broad and ongoing basis, but I don't think it provides a whole lot of functional utility. If you want to change specific interactions, you need to... [more]
posted by phunniemee to Ask MetaFilter on Jul 20 at 11:36 AM
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My favourite slogan T shirt of all time reads On a cellular level, I'm actually quite busy When we're sick it's twice as true. Rest your big self while all your little selves are still having to work overtime just to stop you getting dead. [view]
posted by flabdablet to Ask MetaFilter on Jul 23 at 1:40 PM
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Ear plugs Headphones + listen to music Moving your desk Allowing the employee to work from home You go work from home [view]
posted by phunniemee to Ask MetaFilter on Jul 17 at 6:01 PM
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What we try to do with our daughter is to commiserate about it being genuinely hard to regulate your emotions more than commiserating about the object-level thing that's setting her off at any given time. Like, it really is not a big deal that her brother wants to play with her or that other people get to use the TV sometimes, and it... [more]
posted by Polycarp to Ask MetaFilter on Jul 18 at 1:03 PM
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“Travis and I are close but we didn’t grow up together the way he did with Bob and Joe.” It’s generous, simple and honest. [view]
posted by vunder to Ask MetaFilter on Jul 22 at 12:51 PM
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I am a very loud typer. It's a function of learning to type on a mechanical typewriter. It can't be unlearned. I wish I could unlearn it - the force I apply is a contributing factor to my RSI. You pretty much answer your own question: " Like, I can't realistically ask them to change how they type. " I also think you're correct in that... [more]
posted by Jilder to Ask MetaFilter on Jul 17 at 6:02 PM
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She's 16, and camp is supposed to be for fun, not character development. If she hates it, the money is wasted regardless -- she isn't getting anything out of being there and she wants to be home. Quitting a bunch of stuff because you don't know what you're into, being more into your boyfriend than anything else, and wasting a bunch of time on your... [more]
posted by shadygrove to Ask MetaFilter on Jul 24 at 7:54 AM
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You could try telling her that Tomorrow is like a baby Today. Every day, after you sleep, a new Tomorrow is born. Tomorrows grow up overnight while you’re asleep, and when a Tomorrow grows up it’s called Today, just like when a kitten grows up it’s called a cat. (You did ask us to pretend we’re 6, that’s the best my emergency backup 6... [more]
posted by invincible summer to Ask MetaFilter on Jul 22 at 5:16 PM
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This psychiatrist who worked on Inside Out Two explains that puberty restructures the brain, starting with emotion and ending with things like perspective. This means that for a significant period of time, kids have adult emotions without the corresponding logic and perspective. It may help to have a shift of your own perspective here and know that... [more]
posted by CMcG to Ask MetaFilter on Jul 18 at 1:48 PM
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I'm reasonably smart and well-educated, but was embarrassingly old before I understood that "The king is dead; long live the king" meant long live the new king. Oh my god. You just taught me this and I'm 44 :) [view]
posted by kitcat to Ask MetaFilter on Jul 22 at 5:38 PM
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Editor here. Low sales are often more about your marketing strategy (or publisher's marketing strategy, if you're not a self-published author) than anything else. There are poorly written books that become "bestsellers" as well as amazing books that never left the shadow of obscurity. A book's true, inherent quality means something,... [more]
posted by nightrecordings to Ask MetaFilter on Jul 19 at 1:12 PM
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I was a full on adult well before I learned that 'good' American table manners all boil down to pretending that you are not even a little bit hungry, and that you are tasting the food simply to avoid hurting the feelings of your hosts. Tiny bites. Lots of pauses between bites, during which you sit back and put your utensil down. Approaching... [more]
posted by Ausamor to Ask MetaFilter on Jul 20 at 11:10 AM
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Also, I meant to say, congratulations on writing and publishing a book; that’s a big undertaking and something to be proud of in itself, IMO. [view]
posted by hurdy gurdy girl to Ask MetaFilter on Jul 19 at 12:51 PM
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I think mayyyybe you could pitch it not as "hey you're annoying me" but more like hey I happened to notice you type *really hard* (you know, no judgment, personal differences, whatever). Learning to be more efficient and minimum-force-necessary with your movements might reduce the risk of repetitive stress injury. Or something like that.... [more]
posted by ctmf to Ask MetaFilter on Jul 17 at 6:03 PM
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I grew up with parents who would withdraw me or bail me out from any commitment I didn’t want to do. As an adult looking back, I wish they had set up firmer boundaries and made me complete commitments instead of letting me quit when I didn’t like something. I think being allowed to easily quit things I didn’t like ultimately made my anxiety worse -... [more]
posted by rodneyaug to Ask MetaFilter on Jul 24 at 7:50 AM
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