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True stories of emotionally supportive men

Do you, a heterosexual woman, receive verbal emotional support from your partner? Can you provide a typical example with specifics (preferably including what was said)? I'm not looking for that one heroic time they really came through but more what you've come to expect day to day. The point of this question is to better understand the range of possibility in real life.
posted by HotToddy to Ask MetaFilter on Apr 10 at 4:44 PM
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Feed my family: quick and easy meals

I need to get dinner on the table in 30 minutes or less. What are your favorite/go-to quick and easy recipes? One-pot wonders, favorites, meal hacks all welcome. Bonus points for quick, easy meals that also make leftovers (6+ servings).
posted by carrioncomfort to Ask MetaFilter on Apr 13 at 6:46 AM
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Ethical, sustainable, *cheerful* clothes?

I'd like to buy more clothing from ethical/sustainable brands, but I also like bright colors and cheerful prints. Where should I look?
posted by tchemgrrl to Ask MetaFilter on Apr 12 at 6:26 AM
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Googling "cult movies" does not help

I really loved "Midsommar" and am now really enjoying a horror novel about a fictional religious cult. Are there other movies/shows/books about "creepy stuff that happens in cults"? (It has to be fiction though. I don't want to watch anything about real people getting hurt.) Thanks!
posted by AngerBoy to Ask MetaFilter on Apr 10 at 8:35 PM
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Rehabbing feet to avoid lifetime of $$ shoes- possible? Your experience?

Half a lifetime of wearing crappy shoes and not challenging the feet = plantar fasciitis, pain, dysfunction. I'd like to strengthen and rehabilitate my feet, curious about your experience and recommendations.
posted by 4midori to Ask MetaFilter on Apr 13 at 7:45 AM
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School of Hip Hop

I'm 50, grew up on rock and roll. I've always liked hip hop, but don't really know my way around it. How to fill this gap?
posted by signal to Ask MetaFilter on Apr 13 at 12:34 PM
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cold reading like psychics do: I need to read about it

This is for research. I need books on, like, fortune-telling, psychic readings, etc. Scenarios where a client seeks answers about their inner world, and the professional demonstrates magical-seeming insight.
posted by fingersandtoes to Ask MetaFilter on Apr 13 at 4:16 PM
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If therapy isn’t working, what’s next?

I’m having an extremely hard time grasping what my issue is, and how exactly to treat it. I feel like I’m not a person.
posted by saturday sun to Ask MetaFilter on Apr 11 at 12:49 PM
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How to book travel for the 2024 solar eclipse

Hi! My girlfriend and I are trying to get a head start on planning for the total solar eclipse that will pass over a good swath of North America on April 8, 2024. How can we book travel plans as early as possible?
posted by DavidNYC to Ask MetaFilter on Apr 12 at 11:38 AM
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Growing up with depressed parents.

Resource request.
posted by ihaveyourfoot to Ask MetaFilter on Apr 15 at 10:44 PM
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On rest, productivity, spontaneity, and balance; how to schedule time?

Hello. I am curious to know how fellow humans balance their time. Do you purposefully plan rest days? Do you work your butt off and only rest when you burn out? Do you set aside a chunk of time each day to relax, or every week? Month? How do you turn off the “productive” / hustle mindset when there’s always something to be done?
posted by sucre to Ask MetaFilter on Apr 15 at 11:30 AM
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Examples of positive unintended outcomes of design?

Designers of the world do you have any examples of positive unintended outcomes of design?
posted by turtlefu to Ask MetaFilter on Apr 12 at 7:47 PM
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yoga makes me homicidal. what else helps flexibility & balance?

My doctor told me I'd better figure out a yoga practice, or I'll be sorry in just a few years. I think she means I need something for flexibility and balance, and I agree, 100%. But skinny ladies telling me to hold uncomfortable poses, and think calm thoughts and visualize or whatever, drive me into a hulk-smash rage. What else can I try?
posted by fingersandtoes to Ask MetaFilter on Apr 7 at 8:19 AM
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Well I've been afraid of changing...

Going through some pretty big life changes, and I'm experiencing quite some anxiety about it. What are your favorite sayings, quotes, song lyrics, scripture, essays, etc. about embracing change? The inevitability of change? The importance of accepting change? Anything that discusses or presents change in a positive light, please!
posted by keep it under cover to Ask MetaFilter on Apr 13 at 11:26 PM
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I cannot get the words out of my head and into my mouth...

I have a problem that I'm getting really sick of. My mind is always teeming with thoughts and I have a constant internal monologue, but I have a lot of trouble *speaking* them. How can I begin to explore what this is all about and possibly improve? Do you experience this?
posted by kitcat to Ask MetaFilter on Apr 15 at 10:00 AM
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Art of beginning and feeding a conversation

I need ideas for starting, extending, deepening, and sometimes salvaging a conversation.
posted by ebesan to Ask MetaFilter on Apr 15 at 8:22 AM
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Board/card games for kids + adults?

I'm looking for board or card games that are fun for both kids (ages 8 & 12) and adults.
posted by gottabefunky to Ask MetaFilter on Apr 14 at 10:32 AM
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Help me copycat these green beans!

A local restaurant makes these green beans that are really delicious. Please help me figure out how to replicate them.
posted by Serene Empress Dork to Ask MetaFilter on Apr 14 at 6:33 AM
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what helped you grieve?

What book or piece of writing helped you to grieve? I wish to gift a book to a distant friend who is about to lose their mother after a swift illness. Here's some characteristics i'm looking for, but please don't let it limit your sharing of ideas: - written by a woman/NB/queer person/people - feminist approach - philosophical or sociological e.g. not a self-help book, or a 'science of grieving book'... more like an Audre Lorde or bell hooks style. - poetry or prose or graphic novel - could be old or contemporary
posted by MT to Ask MetaFilter on Apr 13 at 10:03 PM
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How can I recreate a relaxing fancy hotel stay but at home?

Seems like the case numbers are reducing in Scotland, which of course is great news for people surviving but also for other reasons, but it looks like it will still still be a while before we can stay in a hotel for leisure purposes. While I am waiting, can anyone suggest a way to recreate a relaxing fancy hotel feeling of a break but within my own flat?
posted by AuroraSky to Ask MetaFilter on Apr 13 at 9:38 AM
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I would not buy any house in the US right now unless the seller would agree to deliver it vacant. Please consult a lawyer. The cost of evicting this tenant may dramatically increase the price of this house for you. It may be months or years, and tens of thousands of dollars before you can move in to this house. The current owner should pay off this... [more]
posted by KayQuestions to Ask MetaFilter on Apr 15 at 9:24 PM
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Frankly, I'd be calling the police. That isn't a case of a sporting injury or even bad sportsmanship. That adult assaulted your nephew. [view]
posted by Leud to Ask MetaFilter on Apr 10 at 12:35 PM
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The fact that you kissed him while he had visible shit in his teeth...dude. You've been super nice and it is backfiring with weird passive aggressive comments. I would not be EVEN NICER. That rewards this kind of pissy behavior. I would be less nice: "Look, I'm sick of the little comments. I was always gentle about this and you... [more]
posted by Rock 'em Sock 'em to Ask MetaFilter on Apr 13 at 1:57 PM
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My husband is fabulous at this and currently in the hospital with a medical crisis, so it warms my heart to get to say nice things about him. If I am crying, he just holds me. He lets me talk about it or not. He does not in any way--verbal or nonverbal--indicate discomfort with my emotions. He either hugs me as long as I want, or sits beside me... [more]
posted by gideonfrog to Ask MetaFilter on Apr 10 at 6:48 PM
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If you prefer humor, maybe “I want grandkids, but I don’t need to be there for their conception/you don’t have to create one for me RIGHT THIS MINUTE” or something similar. My MIL would pipe up “...I’ve got whipped cream and strawberries in the fridge if you need it” which made my spouse shrivel up and die in embarrassment, but we were college... [more]
posted by castlebravo to Ask MetaFilter on Apr 11 at 10:32 AM
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I am you, but I am you at 50- ish years old. I am 95% satisfied with my whole life now. I wake up happy every single day, even during Covid! There's still 5% of me that lives in the dark place, but it's completely handleable. What helped? Honestly, two things. One was a sentence in a book that I read. It said, "The only way to stop your... [more]
posted by WalkerWestridge to Ask MetaFilter on Apr 11 at 1:47 PM
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Unless there are some kind of extenuating circumstances that you failed to mention, I would not make any extra concessions to a stranger who has only lived there for a few years and is currently month to month with well below market rent. Find out what the law is and follow it. [view]
posted by Kwine to Ask MetaFilter on Apr 15 at 8:10 PM
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If I told my friend that I needed a break from them and to give me space and they ignored that, any reservations I had about ending the friendship would be gone and all they’d do is confirm that I’d made the right decision. We would definitely be over at that point. [view]
posted by Jubey to Ask MetaFilter on Apr 14 at 9:30 PM
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Several years ago in my area a parent reported a very long tenured Girl Scout volunteer who bemoaned the influx of "n—r girls" into the Service Unit in front her Daisy scouts. It was difficult and socially ruinous in several ways to remove this volunteer, but it got done. Some loyalists left in protest. Good riddance. Allowing an adult... [more]
posted by phunniemee to Ask MetaFilter on Apr 10 at 1:23 PM
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Person A sounds like a demanding asshole. Whether this is OK to Person B is up to them, but it would be a red flag for me. [view]
posted by pipeski to Ask MetaFilter on Apr 12 at 8:08 AM
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I would say that it is not safe for this child, or any child, to participate in an activity with this person nearby. The manager needs to go, and if he does not, then your sister needs to find another team for her kid to play on. Life long injuries could come from the existing situation (he almost certainly got a concussion from this incident). [view]
posted by rockindata to Ask MetaFilter on Apr 10 at 12:34 PM
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My partner argues that nature has a way of handling good/bad bacteria This naturalistic view, which is also shared by many anti-vaccine proponents and other groups, is entirely true in a sense. Nature does have a way of handling this, which is that sometimes bacteria and viruses can be successful at living within us, having the side... [more]
posted by epanalepsis to Ask MetaFilter on Apr 13 at 2:21 PM
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It feels awful that I could make him feel these things, or that Im actively trying to make him feel self conscious, or even unintentionally diminish his self esteem is excruciating. YOU DO NOT "MAKE HIM" FEEL ANYTHING. THIS IS NONSENSE. I am sorry to all-caps it but you were as nice about this as can possibly be expected,... [more]
posted by Rock 'em Sock 'em to Ask MetaFilter on Apr 13 at 1:59 PM
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Thank you all so much. I am so nervous getting "out" after a year (I am 70) and maybe just not trusting myself/the world/etc. very much yet. Much appreciate your expertise on this! [view]
posted by DMelanogaster to Ask MetaFilter on Apr 15 at 4:40 PM
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I know it's not fashionable to set aside the issue of boundaries, but let's say we do and say it's acceptable for you to reach out one last time. Consider: The kind of people who unilaterally end friendships are generally not the kind of people who can be swayed by "one last conversation" when they've explicitly made it clear they... [more]
posted by Sokka shot first to Ask MetaFilter on Apr 14 at 11:55 PM
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I'd start asking around to see if anyone happened to catch that on video. This sounds really bizarre to me. What kind of grown adult tackles a seven year old child?! [view]
posted by WalkerWestridge to Ask MetaFilter on Apr 10 at 12:25 PM
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This is sorta a mutual thing, but my husband and I thank each other for the small tasks/upkeep chores we do throughout the day. Whether it's making dinner, seasoning the cast iron, wiping down the bathroom counter, etc, we just give a quick recognition with "thanks for doing X". Showing gratitude is a somewhat minor emotional support... [more]
posted by hopeless romantique to Ask MetaFilter on Apr 10 at 5:31 PM
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This man is the most loving, considerate, giving, smart, compatible person Ive ever been with. On a daily basis he goes above and beyond for me. and yet he's not considerate enough to brush his teeth for others (that's half of why I do it!), he's not smart enough to read/research peer-reviewed research or learn outside of his narrow... [more]
posted by Dressed to Kill to Ask MetaFilter on Apr 13 at 4:57 PM
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I am on the side of your friend in this instance. You know they don't want to hear from you, so I'd think that reaching out at this point would only upset them. Give it a few months to let the situation cool down before contemplating this. [view]
posted by Alensin to Ask MetaFilter on Apr 14 at 9:25 PM
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I feel like a normal human interaction here would involve something like, rolling my eyes, laughing, and sort of half jokingly saying "oh my GOD, guys, please get a freakin' room this is gross ok!?" And they will go "ha ha omg sorry!!!" and hopefully get the hint? [view]
posted by windbox to Ask MetaFilter on Apr 11 at 10:30 AM
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