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Advise Me on Advice Columns

I love advice columns. I want more of them to read. Please share your favourites!
posted by hepta to Ask MetaFilter on Jul 16 at 7:00 AM
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Quirky, Indie Greeting Cards

I hate most greeting cards with a passion. So kitschy! So middlebrow! Suppose I've exhausted all my Rifle Paper Company and David Shrigley options over the years. Where else can I find well-designed cards that are not the usual Hallmark schlock?
posted by dis_integration to Ask MetaFilter on Jul 16 at 8:26 AM
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Getting back into Yoga

Hello! I would like to get back into Yoga. I used to go to classes - but I'd prefer a really well done home-video solution. Is there anything that's just like going to classes, but in the on-demand video format? Ideally free. Thanks!
posted by bbqturtle to Ask MetaFilter on Jul 19 at 10:09 AM
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Making over Oscar the Grouch

If you were a formerly messy person who is now decent at keeping things organized, how did you do it?
posted by sprezzy to Ask MetaFilter on Jul 16 at 3:45 PM
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Hot Cleaning Tips

I haven't cleaned my house for years (to be clear, someone else was doing it - I wasn't living in filth). I recently bought a new house and I'm feeling a pleasant sense of accomplishment in taking care of it myself. For however long this is the case, I'd like to ride it out rather than hiring someone.
posted by something something to Ask MetaFilter on Jul 17 at 6:45 AM
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Online language study for dilettante language nerd

I want to do some online foreign language study, basically for fun. Have done some Duolingo but getting increasingly dissatisfied. Recommend me some good sites. Details below.
posted by huimangm to Ask MetaFilter on Jul 18 at 5:24 AM
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Clean a little now, so I don't have to scrape a lot later

What little, relatively easy cleaning jobs can I do on a regular basis that would be A LOT harder to clean if I let them go?
posted by lunasol to Ask MetaFilter on Jul 18 at 4:53 PM
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Old timey medical terms

In some novels and other books I've read, characters suffer from lumbago, catarrh and apoplexy. Today, we would call these lower back pain, postnasal discharge, and a stroke. What are other older, now disused, medical terms? And what do they mean?
posted by the man of twists and turns to Ask MetaFilter on Jul 17 at 1:05 PM
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Best audiobooks for someone who doesn't listen to audiobooks

I really need to cancel my Audible account, but I have 5 credits to use up. Help me out?
posted by yueliang to Ask MetaFilter on Jul 17 at 10:41 PM
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The sweetest songs

What are the sweetest songs you know? The kind you might sing to a newborn while puppies nuzzle your toes underneath fluffy pastel clouds? Sometimes at work, I snuggle newborn babies (including ones who are detoxing and otherwise uncomfortable) and the sort of song I'm thinking of encapsulates the feelings I'd like to give the baby, if that makes sense.
posted by stillmoving to Ask MetaFilter on Jul 22 at 2:52 AM
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Discussion-based Podcasts

It finally dawned on me that the common thread among podcasts I've enjoyed is that they're people talking to each other and not to the listener. Unfortunately this does not seem to be the direction the medium has taken, so I come looking for recommendations. I'm fairly agnostic as to subject. I would like podcasts that are either regularly recorded or have extensive back catalogues. Examples and non-examples inside.
posted by hoyland to Ask MetaFilter on Jul 19 at 3:58 AM
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Coping with ongoing fatigue

Looking for ideas on managing my life while coping with intermittent fatigue.
posted by bunderful to Ask MetaFilter on Jul 19 at 6:16 AM
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I want to help Democrats in swing districts on/just before Election Day

This is also motivated by a suspicion that I will very much need to be doing something active if I don’t want to completely lose my mind.
posted by schadenfrau to Ask MetaFilter on Jul 20 at 12:19 PM
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I am compiling a playlist about lonesome losers. Help me populate it.

I have become semi-obsessed with Danny O' Keefe's early 70s country folk mope "Good Time Charlie's Got the Blues" and want to find more in its vein.
posted by Senor Cardgage to Ask MetaFilter on Jul 18 at 3:59 PM
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Recipes with large (at least 1/2 C) quantities of nutritional yeast?

I'm cleaning out my pantry and have a bunch of nutritional yeast that I need to use up. Most of the recipes I'm finding online only use 1 or 2 tablespoons -- does anyone have healthy-ish recipes that use at least 1/2 C of the stuff? No dietary restrictions, so open to vegan or non-vegan dishes.
posted by rogerrogerwhatsyourrvectorvicto to Ask MetaFilter on Jul 17 at 4:38 PM
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Help me find a cute butch haircut

Hit me up with pics of cute butch/tomboy haircuts. Specs: am forty+, am a white lady with kinda babyfine dark brown hair that is now shot with a small-medium amount of silver/grey, of similar but slightly coarser texture. I’m a bit overweight and a jeans and t-shirts kinda person.
posted by Iteki to Ask MetaFilter on Jul 20 at 2:10 PM
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Need suggestions for most popular comedians and their most famous bits.

I'm organizing a party where I want to screen all the most well-known comedians of the last 50 years and screen a "signature" bit that each one of them does. Maybe their most famous bit. I haven't really watched much standup, but I imagined this almost like a university survey course of comedy. A funny anthology. Any suggestions would be welcome! Also Youtube links! Thanks in advance.
posted by Sully to Ask MetaFilter on Jul 22 at 9:57 AM
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Congratulations on your fine gaggle of courgettes

I'm going to need courgette recipes.
posted by biffa to Ask MetaFilter on Jul 19 at 9:01 AM
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How can I guarantee my evening ritual will happen?

I have a form of PTSD that screws my sleep. If I follow a fairly strict evening routine, it activates my parasympathetic nervous system and makes a good sleep highly likely. The trouble is, I find it hard to be consistent every single night. Does anyone have any tips/books/practices for sticking to some fixed actions regardless of whether or not I feel like it?
posted by King_Wang to Ask MetaFilter on Jul 19 at 12:55 AM
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Management Filter: How to ask for project and task updates?

I'm trying to consciously build good systems and habits as a manager. My current effort is to think about how to ask for task and project updates without sounding demanding or making people feel defensive. Any favorite strategies or phrasing?
posted by mercredi to Ask MetaFilter on Jul 20 at 9:09 AM
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I'm 48 and remembering the situations you are describing literally make me cringe. The only strangers who hit on me in public at your age were predators. I think your disappointment is entirely misplaced! I suspect decent humans worth meeting for dating purposes are finding each other in ways that are mutually fair, I'm 100% certain being... [more]
posted by jbenben to Ask MetaFilter on Jul 18 at 7:43 PM
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The men who hit on women in public do not make much of an overlapping venn diagram with men who make good partners. Getting hit on does not in any way equate to love or your ability to be loved, and certainly not your worth as a woman or a person in this world. Now, I will say...I've noticed you've asked several questions here along the same... [more]
posted by phunniemee to Ask MetaFilter on Jul 18 at 7:50 PM
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The fastest way to chase this guy away is by telling him who he's allowed to be friends with. It already sounds like you're concerned about who has the "upper hand" in the relationship (you think you're "out of his league"? Really?). A real, adult, healthy relationship is a team effort, not a competition. And if you don't trust... [more]
posted by biscotti to Ask MetaFilter on Jul 15 at 2:39 PM
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I am NOT ready to accept this at all. I can't handle this ''alone'' thing. They can meet at concerts with other people, they can see each other at work but please no more. You can stop ALL of this immediately by breaking up with this man. This is clearly not the relationship for you. For the record, I know people who have broken... [more]
posted by DarlingBri to Ask MetaFilter on Jul 15 at 2:45 PM
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Please tell me your honest opinion about this. As a general principle having nothing to do with you, I think the idea of restricting your partner's interactions with members of the opposite sex is childish. It's what kids do in fifth grade when they're first exploring "dating." The nation made fun of Mike Pence last year for his... [more]
posted by cribcage to Ask MetaFilter on Jul 15 at 2:52 PM
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She explained to me that if someone is in a relationship, they are in a "contract" with the other person to remain the same, and if one of them changes, the other person has the right to leave anytime This is, totally not exaggerating, the stupidest thing I’ve ever heard a therapist say. This person is either actively malign... [more]
posted by holborne to Ask MetaFilter on Jul 22 at 8:09 AM
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They're friends. This speaks really well of both of them, that they had the maturity to realize that the relationship wasn't working but that they like each other as people, and to become friends instead. This says your boyfriend can communicate and cares about people and isn't that guy who treats women badly. It's not okay to tell someone... [more]
posted by bile and syntax to Ask MetaFilter on Jul 15 at 2:48 PM
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Honestly if he's actively disinterested in cats, but not objecting to you getting a cat, I'd cool your jets and let him develop a relationship with the cat when it comes. If you come to him with a ream of cat videos, memes and social media account, he's most likely to feel like you're getting in his face and become actively hostile toward them. I... [more]
posted by ominous_paws to Ask MetaFilter on Jul 19 at 12:38 PM
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No, fuck her. She can go to hell. You owe her nothing. [view]
posted by chesty_a_arthur to Ask MetaFilter on Jul 16 at 5:57 AM
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Stop telling people you work at a bank. Tell them you do accounting, or business analysis, or whatever. I suspect what's going on here is that you're in investment banking or the Fed or something, and talking to people who've only dealt with retail banks and think they can follow up with small talk about how the manager at the local branch... [more]
posted by meaty shoe puppet to Ask MetaFilter on Jul 20 at 7:29 PM
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Wow, everyone is being really kind, but I'll be more blunt. I don't think the way you're acting is very thoughtful or mature. Their relationship isn't about you. They've been broken up and non romantic for a year. They had a year to get back together, and they didn't, and now he has gotten into a relationship with you. Everyone tells you... [more]
posted by salvia to Ask MetaFilter on Jul 15 at 3:48 PM
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I have heard it said that a lot of straight people feel uneasy with the word "lesbian" because there are so many unconscious cues in our culture that it is dirty/pornographic or unacceptably anti-men - that this feeling derives not from a concern about rigidity but from homophobic and misogynist socialization. Straight people treat it as... [more]
posted by Frowner to Ask MetaFilter on Jul 20 at 8:31 AM
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This guy sounds manipulative and immature. It's good you're broken up because it sounds like the relationship was mostly stressful for you. You don't have to wear lingerie or stay skinny forever to keep a man! Find an adult partner who sees you as an equal and not a project for his boner. [view]
posted by masquesoporfavor to Ask MetaFilter on Jul 22 at 7:17 AM
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She explained to me that if someone is in a relationship, they are in a "contract" with the other person to remain the same, and if one of them changes, the other person has the right to leave anytime Yes, partners in a relationship have a right to leave at any time, but no, no no no no, a romantic relationship is not a... [more]
posted by lazuli to Ask MetaFilter on Jul 22 at 7:39 AM
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Theoretically, this kid of 12 could be in a short time a kid of 15 at 6 feet and 200 pounds and stop being a creep and become a threat. Boys should be taught that women (family members, friends, and strangers alike) have boundaries and that they should respect them. Whether this kid is neurotypical or not, whether he's bored or not, whether he... [more]
posted by greta simone to Ask MetaFilter on Jul 15 at 4:38 PM
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Can you avoid the question entirely by answering "where do you work" with what you do, instead of where you do it? "Oh, I do commercial loans" or "I'm a credit analyst!" Those answers give your conversation partner more threads than "this is the location of where I work." If you must respond... [more]
posted by missmary6 to Ask MetaFilter on Jul 20 at 7:43 PM
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> TOP TIP: Don't quickly like and unlike someone's photos if you don't want them to know you're spying on them. He wants you to know. Or not. Instagram has the horrible UX where a double tap on a photo likes or unlikes. With virtually every other image site on earth, double tap zooms in and out. I constantly like/unlike by... [more]
posted by NotMyselfRightNow to Ask MetaFilter on Jul 19 at 6:35 PM
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I mean, as a counterpoint to the idea that he needs rehab and this is a Big Serious Emergency, have you considered just encouraging him to get a boring or dumb job so that he can live in an apartment with a few other aimless young men who enjoy video games and weed, which they buy at their leisure and without the opprobrium of their parents? A few... [more]
posted by Snarl Furillo to Ask MetaFilter on Jul 20 at 4:45 PM
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POSSIBLE UNPOPULAR OPINION WARNING: It's great you are thinking about this. I also think we've gotten a bit hand-wringy as a society about cultural appropriation. It is supposed to mean taking a sacred or important aspect of the culture and using it in a way that is disrespectful, mocking, or deliberately insulting to that culture. . i.e. Don't... [more]
posted by ananci to Ask MetaFilter on Jul 17 at 1:11 PM
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I believe you. I also think dudes in this thread should maybe back off on telling OP she’s wrong about whether or not this is creepy or threatening. The hard thing about a 12 year old boy is that he’s a kid, but that doesn’t mean he’s not a threat. And even if his relative lack of inhibition control isn’t violent, it’s enough that he’s... [more]
posted by schadenfrau to Ask MetaFilter on Jul 15 at 5:36 PM
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