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posted by unstrungharp at 3:38 PM - 0 answers

My partner and I would really like to be as supportive as possible to their youngest child, who has told us they identify as non-binary and their preferred pronouns are they/them. They are a teenager, so above and beyond the usual understanding that it is not the responsibility of the person coming out to educate others, it especially is not this particular person’s responsibility to educate us! I would be immensely grateful to any resources this community might suggest for parents or relatives of teenagers that identify as non-binary (or for the teenagers themselves!) so that my partner and I can bring ourselves up to speed and help this amazing person accept and really be themselves. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 6:17 AM - 3 answers

You're becoming friendly with someone in a non-romantic context. They communicate with you fairly consistently when you send messages. Then their response pattern changes significantly. What are the rules about this scenario? [more inside]
posted by crunchy potato at 5:31 PM - 17 answers

Curating a video program for myself and my friends to educate ourselves on anti-racism and white priviledge. There's great resources here and here but would love to know of other talks and videos that have resonated with team metafilter. [more inside]
posted by wowenthusiast at 11:49 AM - 2 answers

I'm feeling super awkward about a check I received as a gift and didn't cash in a timely manner. Can you help me out of this pickle? [more inside]
posted by mosst at 6:29 AM - 12 answers

Well, my mother has been admitted to the hospital (see previous question). My stress level is at 100 and I'm just frustrated. I took vacation time and this is what happens? My birthday is on Saturday, is there anyway to make it... less awful? [more inside]
posted by VirginiaPlain at 6:04 AM - 10 answers

I would like to know what happened to someone I vaguely knew at Essex University. [more inside]
posted by Quillcards at 4:10 AM - 8 answers

Please help me get over my anxiety about hosting gatherings. I have huge anxieties about inviting people over because I’m worried that they don’t really want to come, or they’ll say no. This question is mostly to people who are hosts. Do you ever get scared no one will want to come? Do you just keep hosting parties and having gatherings whether people come or not? Do you ever deal with rejection, and if so, how? [more inside]
posted by katypickle at 8:01 PM - 20 answers

How do I reconcile my beliefs with my actual experiences ? [more inside]
posted by gt2 at 9:39 AM - 45 answers

Big wedding has been postponed, and we're considering having a small reception with the wedding party in lieu of having our original 150 person wedding "when things reopen". Trying to gauge the viability of this... [more inside]
posted by orangesky4 at 4:45 AM - 24 answers

I'd like to reach out to some old friends that stopped communicating due to an alcoholic spouse but I'm not sure how to approach this. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 3:43 AM - 5 answers

I’m noticing some things about my three-year-old during this quarantime. How do I know if these things are a problem? [more inside]
posted by ficbot at 7:01 PM - 14 answers

Can I self treat mild depression? [more inside]
posted by Asian_Hunnie at 7:21 AM - 31 answers

Online dating just sucks. I hate it. I'm trying to understand all my weird identities and I never know how much info to put in a profile. What are some ways you've found to date when normal dating isn't working? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 9:20 AM - 6 answers

I am a guy who likes fat women. I've recently gotten involved with a woman who happens to be fat. I want to make sure I don't treat her as a fetish object (or make her feel like one). [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 6:38 AM - 21 answers

I'm not a confrontational person, but sometimes it seems necessary. How do you approach and handle this? Details below the fold. [more inside]
posted by stillmoving at 11:42 AM - 15 answers

So, even though I live with a spouse and children, I am lonely. Would it be OK to ask a friend -- or even a somewhat friendly acquaintance who lives nearby -- to take a walk around the neighborhood with me for 20 minutes or so? (More inside) [more inside]
posted by PaulVario at 7:14 AM - 29 answers

Should I give up moderating in an online community because of one obnoxious person? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 12:41 PM - 25 answers

Title pretty much says it all. For lots of very good reasons, my partner, my head and I have decided that our family is complete. My heart feels entirely differently, and I can't stop thinking about more kids! Help? [more inside]
posted by caoimhe at 7:02 AM - 9 answers

I called my mother today and her latest medical calamity sent me into a spiral of anxiety. She's aging, she's mentally ill, she does the bare minimum to take care of herself, and... god... I'm just exhausted. It's one thing after the next with her all the time and, likely, always will be until she dies? Aside from therapy (which I'm in), what else should I be doing? I'd like to dial down my stress from, at least, an 8.5 to a 5. [more inside]
posted by VirginiaPlain at 9:58 PM - 21 answers