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I'm looking for stories from people who made the scary leap of bailing on an unsatisfying marriage, and what happened after they did. [more inside]
posted by myotahapea at 10:05 AM - 23 answers

After being on OKC for a really long time, and looking for greener pastures (following this question) I signed up for Match. I used to be on Match years and years ago, and it's obviously changed a fair bit. Also, all my recent online dating experience has been solely on OKC. My question: is there anything particular to the Match experience/character/interface that I should be aware of? How does Match differ from other sites? [more inside]
posted by Capt. Renault at 9:05 AM - 6 answers

I’m in a place where I’m dating two people for a while and getting stressed out by what to do. Complication factor: queer woman seeing man for the first time in a while. [more inside]
posted by treetop89 at 9:02 AM - 10 answers

It begins to appear that my dad is not actually immortal. He, my stepmom and my adult daughter are across the country. My dad is possibly in the process of dying. My stepmom is stressed to the uttermost and socially isolated. My daughter is an alcoholic. My adult son and I will be there in a few days for a week and a half. How can we help them? [more inside]
posted by pH Indicating Socks at 1:55 AM - 19 answers

Dear hivemind, I will be a bride at my very informal (by wedding standards) but very large wedding. I will need to make a speech. Difficulty level: public speaking anxiety and many attendees I've never met before. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 1:54 PM - 18 answers

You're in a job interview. What are some tactics you use to determine whether the interviewer/manager is someone you like and want to work for? I'm looking for anything... subtle cues to look out for, questions to ask, etc.
posted by onecircleaday at 1:25 PM - 26 answers

Since we put my almost 6 month old daughter in daycare two weeks ago, I've been a mess. I was fine when she was home with her father on paternity leave, but having her in daycare all day is really messing me up. Help me figure out how much is real and how much is anxiety. [more inside]
posted by oryelle at 10:43 AM - 8 answers

My 3.5 year old daughter has started throwing tantrums at naptime at daycare. I feel like her daycare is overreacting, but I'm really not sure. What do you think? [more inside]
posted by hought20 at 10:05 AM - 29 answers

I'd like to get better (more frequently, longer duration) at being in the state of mind where kindness/graciousness are joyful for me. Any tips? [more inside]
posted by Cozybee at 6:51 AM - 12 answers

I'm a man married to a woman, and we have two toddlers. We love each other, and for the most part we have a good relationship. Lately, though, I've come to feel that my wife's behavior is sometimes abusive, and I don't know what to do about it. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 4:42 AM - 66 answers

Completely unannounced, grandfather shows up at his grandsons home, for the first time seeing grandsons living arrangement, first time meeting his grandsons roommate. Surprise ensues; spoiler inside. [more inside]
posted by dancestoblue at 10:34 PM - 5 answers

I'm a woman in my late 20s. My entire life, I've never made it onto men's radars as a romantic option unless I've assertively positioned myself there. Even in online dating where women are supposedly flooded with male attention and interest, I sent out more messages than I received, and most of them went unanswered. What's wrong with me? Am I simply too ugly? Not womanly or desirable enough? [more inside]
posted by Penny Dreadful at 1:52 PM - 42 answers

I am stumped about how to navigate family relationships which to others might seem normal. [more inside]
posted by Ender's Friend at 10:16 AM - 25 answers

About three months removed from a toxic friendship, though only one week of no contact. He's still on my mind all the time and I feel empty, alone and unable to really connect with others. More details inside. [more inside]
posted by blackzinfandel at 3:19 PM - 14 answers

My previous partner had a whole other life going on online, which I only discovered after 1 1/2 years together. How can I better lay out my boundaries in future without looking unreasonable? [more inside]
posted by Willow251 at 1:23 PM - 12 answers

My son, who will turn 18 in July, plans to move to Las Vegas for the month of August before going to college in September. I think this is a terrible idea because (a) I'd prefer that he spend more of the summer working, and (b) if he's not going to be doing anything productive, I think there are places to travel he'd find a lot more rewarding/ enjoyable. How would you approach conversations about this with him? [more inside]
posted by metasarah at 1:09 PM - 42 answers

I have been seeing someone for a few months and need to decide in about 45 days whether we will get married. How can I spend this time getting to know him better in the areas that will be most crucial in laying the foundation for a good marriage? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 12:23 AM - 42 answers

My husband thinks my studying for a degree is selfish. How do I convince him otherwise? [more inside]
posted by Carravanquelo at 12:10 AM - 20 answers

This was my question seven years ago, about divulging to my dad that his recently-deceased mother had made a deathbed confession about having had a child and given it up for adoption as a very young woman. I’m revisiting my decision not to tell him, and seek perspectives. [more inside]
posted by goofyfoot at 8:12 PM - 12 answers

Explain this to me like I'm five. More details than anyone needs below le fold. [more inside]
posted by Amy93 at 7:25 PM - 14 answers