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October 14

How to pretend among (emotional) vampires

How do you handle vampires you can’t stand because your spawn have taken a shine to each other? And how do I make this not weird for the spawn? [more inside]
posted by starelephant at 11:56 PM - 9 answers

Resources for elderly parent getting scammed

See my previous question about my elderly mom being scammed online. The situation has not improved, and she has now lost a few thousand dollars to this scam. She refuses to believe that her 'boyfriend' is fake, and I'm at my wits end. I've done a lot to try to report this, but nothing has happened. Are there any resources to help with this kind of thing that maybe I haven't tried? [more inside]
posted by tryniti at 4:02 PM - 17 answers

October 9

Can't turn great meetups into anything more - suggestions?

I moved to a new city this year and seem to be having a hard time making connections ever since. It is not for lack of meeting people, however! A few times in recent months I have met someone, really enjoyed talking to them, and spent the better part of the day or night together with (I think!) a clear mutual interest. However, it always falls apart after that and I'm not sure what I am doing wrong. For context I am a straight dude. [more inside]
posted by MtRChem at 7:32 PM - 26 answers

I think I am not fully attracted to the girl I am dating

I think I am not fully attracted to the girl I am dating, but I really like her personality and we get along great. I've been dating this woman I met online now for about two months now (1-2 times a week) and I'll be honest, I do not feel the ‘spark’. The girl is beautiful to me, and I really liked her when I saw her first time with that wonderful smile. Actually I though “Damn I will have problem with that smile”. [more inside]
posted by kazabubu at 3:00 AM - 18 answers

October 8

Help me make a long distance fuss!

My best friend turns 50 in January. She likes a bit of fuss made for her birthday. How do I do this from faraway? [more inside]
posted by Kitteh at 7:29 AM - 9 answers

How can I help my father to be safe from falling?

My father is in his late eighties. He's been falling for a while now, and hurt himself quite a few times, but neither he, nor my siblings seem to understand how dangerous this can be for his autonomy and quality of life. My question is: what practical things can I do to make his environment safer? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 12:47 AM - 25 answers

October 7

Calmness during conflict

A colleague has upset me at work. I have written to my boss about this. I might discuss the issue during a video call with one or two of my superiors. (We are remote from each other.) Do you have any mind tricks to help me be calm and even during such a discussion? [more inside]
posted by NotLost at 10:58 PM - 11 answers

October 6

Reconnecting to break up with a friend?

Reconnecting with an old friend, but I don’t think I want to be friends anymore. I’ve never done a friend breakup and usually do a mutual fade away, but I don’t think I can do that this time. I also want to give reconnecting a chance, but I have a hunch it’s not going to work out. [more inside]
posted by socky bottoms at 10:15 AM - 28 answers

October 4

Might move in with my boyfriend?

I'd love some help thinking through whether I should move in with my boyfriend of 2 years when my lease ends early next year. For context, my ideal would be to do Living Apart Together forever, but for him, moving in together is an important milestone in a serious relationship. My idea of home is somewhere I can be by myself, for him home doesn’t feel like home unless there’s loved ones to return to. His wanting this holds a lot of weight in my consideration because I really care about him and the relationship, so I’m thinking I might move in. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 10:31 PM - 57 answers

How Do I Learn to Manage People, Over Email and From a Distance?

I am out of state and am trying to help my elderly relative - for whom I have power of attorney - with various aspects of their estate, but I'm finding that some folks just don't follow through with email replies - leaving me high and dry - and I'm realizing I don't know how to manage this (at work I just escalate to my boss). How do people with people management skills manage these types of situation/ what actions do you take when you're not getting a response or what you need, and how do I learn how to do this? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 6:15 AM - 11 answers

October 3

Tips for Living with a Chaos Muppet

My mother is a chaos muppet. I am an order muppet. Thus far, I have not been very good at protecting my lovely simple order-muppet world from her chaos. Have you mastered this art in your own life? Do you have some advice for me? (Obviously the simple path is "disappear and never contact her again" but this is not a practical thing at the moment.) [more inside]
posted by We put our faith in Blast Hardcheese at 10:15 AM - 19 answers

October 1

Addressing issues at long term care facility

I am concerned about issues I have witnessed at a long term care facility where a loved one resides. The issues are related to the physical condition of the facility and could pose safety issues for residents. The issues are already listed as violations in their latest state inspection which was posted several months ago. My loved one has been well cared for in this facility, and I don't want to jeopardize their situation. They can not move. But I am uncomfortable with these unaddressed building safety matters. What can I do to help? [more inside]
posted by fies at 7:58 AM - 12 answers

September 29

to flirt or just to shoot my shot?

I’m a mid-twenties woman, I like a mid-twenties guy who is an acquaintance/friendly but not close friends and I’ve been overthinking what to do! [more inside]
posted by cruel summer at 7:16 AM - 9 answers

September 28

not so much grief as a moral injury

How do you hold the moral injury/grief of a sibling not acknowledging what you went through was abuse? Dead father, big blowup, I-also-made-mistakes edition. [more inside]
posted by Sock Meets Body at 10:08 PM - 16 answers

Should I move in with my dad and break up with my boyfriend, or no?

I am 31F and at a cross roads. I am living alone check to check and dating a man for 2.5 years. I am 20k in debt and he is 54k in debt. We were going to move in together in November when my lease is up, but I’ve woken up a bit and think I maybe should move in with my dad instead. I’m not sure if our financial situations will work together or lifestyle. [more inside]
posted by anon1129 at 4:03 PM - 72 answers

Understanding why psychologists say "Don't Share you own Story"

Stories have an amazing power to connect and empathise with people. However, psychologists often recommend NOT to sharing your own story when empathising with people. [more inside]
posted by jacobean at 5:23 AM - 42 answers

September 27

How do I become better at noticing what's going on around me?

I often miss things around me that I would otherwise have reacted to or let someone else know. This causes a great deal of frustration to my partner, who feels I should be more aware, and that that would make me more dependable, and life less stressful. This can be leaving an illuminated iPad in the front seat of a parked car, not considering if the area was safe or risky, more trivial things like not noticing a door isn't locked, or just asking them about things I would have known if had I noticed. Does anybody have good ideas or experiences of improving their ongoing awareness of their surroundings, and how to achieve that?
posted by LngGrnd at 7:12 PM - 24 answers

Name this attitude / worldview

“I suffered, so you should suffer too.” Does this attitude or sentiment have a name? [more inside]
posted by skookumsaurus rex at 3:47 PM - 16 answers

September 26

tell me what you find when you read my mind

I feel a bit ridiculous but here goes. When I ask my romantic partners to do something that would make me feel cared for, the act of me asking for it negates any special feelings from them doing it. It then doesn't feel like they're doing it because they care, they're doing it because I asked them to. But they're obviously doing it because they care and want me to be happy. How do I solve this in my brain? (examples inside) [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 5:09 AM - 32 answers

September 25

Any states that require licensing of non-therapist social workers?

Are there any states in which all social workers are required to be licensed, not just therapist social workers? In California, most social workers do not have to be licensed because they are not trained as therapists, and they have no master's degrees. This creates tremendous potential for abuse of power by unlicensed social workers, with no oversight, unlike doctors, lawyers, nurses, and other persons who have power over poor, disabled and elderly persons. If something goes wrong in those and other licensed professions, the family has recourse to discipline by the state authority. I'm looking for a state that has full licensing for social workers so that I can get help to advocate for such a system in California, where I have been shocked by the abuses of unlicensed social workers for the last 15 years. [more inside]
posted by KayQuestions at 3:56 PM - 8 answers

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