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How can I learn to be less set in my ways? [more inside]
posted by unicorn chaser at 4:42 PM - 9 answers

I have a rocky relationship with my father and he's getting an MRI next week. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 11:24 PM - 13 answers

After almost six years and two children I'm finding it incredibly hard to be the parent and father that I want to be / know I can be. Weekends, which once were my time to recharge and grow have turned into two days that I dread the most and sap me of my energy because I simply don't know how to simply 'be' with my kids at the ages they are at. Looking for suggestions on how to make it through this tough time. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 11:23 PM - 25 answers

In my relationship, I feel like we fall into some patterns. I feel like my emotions are received as attacks, and I feel like I'm pushed into an emotionally responsible 'lead' role by my partner. I don't want this. Help! [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 11:17 PM - 9 answers

My partner’s family member is a depressed alcoholic who has been on a downward spiral as of late. How can I best support my partner when it feels like they are completely checked out? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 5:16 AM - 21 answers

I recently became aware of Skirt Club, and was wondering if there was a version for bicurious men. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 7:08 PM - 4 answers

My dad and I have had a turbulent relationship for years. My mom died a few weeks ago. He is struggling and asking for more of me than I am able to provide. Help me with strategy and tactics, please! [more inside]
posted by Kwine at 8:41 AM - 29 answers

I live in a lovely, walkable neighborhood with tons of stuff within a half-mile radius: a library, grocery stores, fun parks, wading pools, pet food stores, lakes, etc. My 6-year-old thinks that walking places is a special kind of torture I have designed especially for him. Please tell me how you get your children to willingly leave the house and walk places with you. [more inside]
posted by Maarika at 8:54 PM - 38 answers

This thread got me started on a journey of discovery of kd lang’s discography. It has been like therapy. Help me find more of queer people living all the aspects of normal lives and expressing normal emotions? [more inside]
posted by flannel at 10:47 AM - 19 answers

Your partner's libido is not as high as yours, what do you do? [more inside]
posted by passionate at 6:45 AM - 34 answers

My wife and I are in need of some good recommendations for (probably shortish-term) marriage/couples counseling in NYC, with a focus on communication issues. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 5:44 AM - 1 answers

My step-niece has just turned 15 and I'd like to get her a good YA novel series as a gift but have no idea where to begin. If you please, I'd love some recos from the good people on the green! Inside is some additional info in case it's helpful as well as some past gifts listed below. [more inside]
posted by tealeaf522 at 6:30 PM - 33 answers

My sister has non-smoking lung cancer. She is on a special drug right now which is working great and is her usual self, but her prognosis is 2-5 years. It is really easy to forget about it, right now, and act like nothing is wrong. When I find myself doing this, I feel like I'm being fake and doing her wrong...but then I think this is what she wants and I should follow her lead. Have any of you been in a situation like this?
posted by cgs at 2:58 PM - 14 answers

What's the best approach to adjusting toddler to Grandparent's moving out of state? [more inside]
posted by MamaBee223 at 10:45 AM - 8 answers

My Mom and I (who I’m currently living with, and also writing this question with) have had issues with enabling and codependency for as long as I can remember; we’re now finally trying to build an equal relationship in which both of us are (more or less) pulling our weight around the house and in general. The problem is that we’re starting to overanalyze every situation, and so would like to come up with some hard and fast rules to follow so we don’t have to discuss whether or not something is enabling a dozen times a day. We’re having a hard time coming up with the rules ourselves, and could use MetaFilter’s help. For those who have gone through a similar situation either via a parent, child, spouse or some other loved one - what constitutes enabling in your eyes, and what ground rules worked for you to address this issue? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 11:19 PM - 34 answers

What are some poems and songs about honorably abbreviated love? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 11:19 PM - 21 answers

How do I tune out the anxiety and focus better on the tasks at hand? [more inside]
posted by Crookshanks_Meow at 8:25 PM - 9 answers

So I think differently. Always have. Given the same evidence as others, I’ll come to a different conclusion. This makes me the target for online trolls, criticism and people who believe the opposite to what I’m saying, which is, well, a lot of people. I hold my beliefs passionately, same as anyone else, and get really fed up of being criticised and told I’m wrong because I am different. [more inside]
posted by EatMyHat at 3:18 PM - 35 answers

I'm due to fly 3,000 miles back to the east coast tomorrow. A bit worried because I came down with a cold last week. I'm over the cold but am still congested, with thick mucus coming from my nose. Bonus point: holding my nose and exhaling on the flight might not work, because my nose is very raw from continuous blowing, and even the littlest touch hurts. [more inside]
posted by dubious_dude at 12:30 AM - 41 answers

I’m hoping to read some novels or accounts of daughters growing increasingly disillusioned with their fathers. Think: the opposite of Scout Finch.
posted by jefficator at 8:47 PM - 21 answers