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My good friend is a professional wedding planner. She has volunteered herself to do the day-of-coordination for my wedding and will not allow me to pay her for her time. I want to give her a thank you gift, but what would be adequate? [more inside]
posted by keep it under cover at 11:37 PM - 15 answers

I am talking about in when interacting with another woman socially. Would this be disrespectful to his wife? Would this bother you?
posted by mintchip at 5:29 AM - 38 answers

I'm in a small private group with people from all over the world. One member has confided in us that they need help - professional, help. I'm in the USA, without international calling. I don't know what to do. [more inside]
posted by bbqturtle at 12:20 PM - 9 answers

Looking for opportunities for someone who is autistic and can find large social settings very depleting, tiring or overwhelming, but is seeking ways to meet people IRL in the SF Bay Area. Young adult who is queer, enjoys nerdy pursuits, politically left, empathetic. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 7:50 AM - 3 answers

I saw a new doctor this week, and googled them afterwards. They have no social media, but their husband does, and he uses it to post truly vile missives against trans and queer people. I have no way of knowing if his wife agrees with him; is there anything for me to do here? [more inside]
posted by nancynickerson at 11:53 AM - 43 answers

One of the reasons we moved to where we live is to be closer to my mother-in-law, so she could help with the kids, but recently she got a dog. The problem is, my daughter is terrified of dogs? I need some help figuring out how I feel. [more inside]
posted by kevinbelt at 7:52 AM - 68 answers

Our twelve year old takes enormous risks online. She discloses her real name, age, and school, and has multiple accounts across many different apps. I believe she’s likely being groomed. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 10:24 PM - 38 answers

I am freshly divorced, only 5 months out. A couple of weeks ago I asked a guy out and we had a great time. Today he told me that he had been seeing someone when I asked him out and felt like he should see it through. I feel like I’ve been punched in the gut. [more inside]
posted by pintapicasso at 7:57 PM - 20 answers

My left-wing, socially-conscious best friend is suddenly terrified of the COVID-19 vaccine and is refusing to get it. She has been extremely careful and has followed all the guidelines during the pandemic, and is not an anti-masker nor part of right-wing circles. I assumed she was totally fine with COVID vaccination until today, so this is out of the blue. I've tried having a calm conversation with her about the facts and her fears, but I'm not going to change her mind any time soon. How do I emotionally and morally cope with this without cutting her off? [more inside]
posted by runnerfive at 7:08 PM - 27 answers

I have a friend on disability who is soon to be kicked out of their current residence. [more inside]
posted by PHINC at 1:48 PM - 9 answers

Our new home is currently under construction, and one of the next door neighbors has already proven to be prickly. What should we do to keep everyone happy? [more inside]
posted by keep it under cover at 10:23 AM - 38 answers

Hi friends! My husband and I have one toddler, one baby, and not much of a sense of what toddler behavior is normal. That makes it hard for us to know how to react when our toddler behaves in ways that worry us. So we thought we would poll this brain trust. How worried should we be that our toddler lies on the couch for hours sucking her thumb? [more inside]
posted by prefpara at 9:14 AM - 9 answers

I’m processing a very recent breakup and I'm feeling very pessimistic about my prospects for finding someone else. This is partly because things are so fresh, but I've felt like this for a while, because I’ve had really limited success in dating even though I think I have a lot going for me. I would appreciate some perspective and maybe some hope. [more inside]
posted by deus ex machina at 11:45 AM - 24 answers

I had a social interaction with a colleague the other day that seems to have turned out badly and I'm not sure why. I'd love for someone to try to help me figure out where (or if) I went wrong. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 12:03 AM - 26 answers

The friend in question and I have been close friends since we were 10 (we're 29 now, and also both female just for context). We've had major arguments before but this most recent one has just made me feeling like I really just don't want her in my life anymore. It's been such a significant friendship that ending it feels pretty fraught, and I've been struggling to figure out how to end it respectfully but still definitively, and also struggling to get over it. [more inside]
posted by toska at 1:20 AM - 26 answers

Someone I'm in a new relationship with expressed needing more time alone and asked if we could meet just twice a week. That combined with some previous patterns has me spiraling into doubt about their suitability as a partner. Hive perspectives much appreciated. [more inside]
posted by miaow at 8:33 PM - 24 answers

Please share your stories of love life post divorce. Good, bad, ugly and in between. I need to recalibrate my beliefs based on what others have actually experienced. It can also be the experience of someone you know, provided you know the situation well enough to confirm that it actually happened and isn't incredibly exaggerated somehow. [more inside]
posted by crunchy potato at 6:27 PM - 21 answers

I just got dumped out of the blue by someone who very consistently acted like he liked me, and said he really liked me, who I also really liked. I’m completely devastated. I’m having a really hard time making sense of what happened and am questioning my gut, and I could use an outside perspective. [more inside]
posted by deus ex machina at 2:35 PM - 33 answers

I have reached the point where I really need to make a decision regarding whether to pursue transfeminine hormone therapy. I feel very torn, and could really use some input/perspective/advice. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 2:55 PM - 14 answers

I've been friendless and alone for years, and it's starting to get to me. How do I stop being jealous and get back in the healthy mindset for making friends? [more inside]
posted by fern at 7:33 PM - 17 answers