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Are there any tips for finding a therapist who is ready for a more "advanced" patient who doesn't want to talk about the importance of drinking tea when sad? Or do you have any direct recommendations now that geography doesn't seem to matter anymore? [more inside]
posted by bleep at 1:59 PM - 17 answers

I have enough income and funds to buy a small condo in a face-meltingtly expensive area. But I'm single. How does owning a recently-purchased home affect dating? [more inside]
posted by Hollywood Upstairs Medical College at 12:24 AM - 31 answers

Despite being reasonably far along in age (late 50’s) and career (UX design director), I struggle with being comfortable and confident in my role as a “leader.” I want to change this so I can grow as a leader, a manager, a mentor, and man. My desire to be a leader is not motivated by a narcissistic desire for rank and status but rather a logical step in my professional, personal and spiritual development. [more inside]
posted by nandaro at 2:06 PM - 12 answers

I'm having some issues with my roommates and I'm stuck here because of Covid and unemployment. I need coping strategies! [more inside]
posted by christiehawk at 12:17 PM - 17 answers

This stupid year, December 48th 2020 edition. My mom died on Christmas, a victim of corona. We buried her on 12/31. As you can imagine, times are grim on a micro level as well as the macro. Give me your ideas on celebrating something during the "yo, the holidays are over, man" period of the bleakest winter days. [more inside]
posted by Gyre,Gimble,Wabe, Esq. at 3:43 PM - 28 answers

FIL is giving his bereaved nephew a hard time with his anxiety...any advice for my husband? [more inside]
posted by Omnomnom at 1:29 PM - 16 answers

Would I be wrong to walk away? [more inside]
posted by unstrungharp at 1:15 PM - 29 answers

I'm out of work and narrowly losing job offers because I can't disguise my resentment over my past workplaces and disappointment with the state of work in general. I need coping strategies and mental hacks to reframe this when I interview. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 12:02 AM - 16 answers

Am I being unreasonable by choosing my mom over my ex to be there with me when I deliver my son? [more inside]
posted by CosmicSeeker42 at 9:23 AM - 56 answers

My wife and I are struggling to find a way to divide up the to-do list in a way that is both fair and maintainable. Added difficulty: I'm like 90% at fault, in part because my lack of executive function makes me terrible at doing chores. Do you have (or are you) an ADHD partner, and did you find a way to divide up the list of stuff to do in a way that felt fair to both of you, and then find a way to keep it working? [more inside]
posted by Mayor West at 9:08 AM - 42 answers

My aunt passed away very suddenly last week. For various reasons, I came to an acceptance of her death very quickly, and my grieving process hasn't involved much sadness. The rest of my family is struggling mightily with this, and I'm wondering if I'm a monster for not being more sad. Please help me assess. [more inside]
posted by nayantara at 10:08 AM - 27 answers

I feel like I have a lot of difficulty with people in positions of authority who feel like they can comment on me or my life. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 8:43 AM - 22 answers

i work in a vet clinic with a diverse clientele. i have a SUPER basic knowledge of spanish, and no clue about chinese and vietnamese. [more inside]
posted by megan_magnolia at 5:12 PM - 14 answers

Metafilter loves therapy. Help me understand why. [more inside]
posted by unstrungharp at 6:06 AM - 40 answers

When I am disrespected or alpha-male'd as an adult (US Midwest, 46, SWM), especially by a fellow man, I become absolutely furious very quickly. I suspect part of this is due to bad childhood physical peer abuse. What I am looking for is how to basically pour one of those helicopter-buckets of water upon the fire. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 10:35 PM - 20 answers

I'm just curious: For those of you who have romantically signed your initials and a loved one's in a public place (e.g., not your backyard or your own driveway), where did you do it and are you still with your co-signer? [more inside]
posted by ubiquity at 4:26 PM - 12 answers

I’m devastated. This morning my 12 year old daughter left a note on my desk telling me that more than once she unwittingly saw porn on my iPad, and this has damaged our relationship. Damaging our relationship is the last thing in the world I would ever want to do — I love her more than anything in the world. How can we recover from this? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 2:11 PM - 54 answers

I (28F) just realized that my girlfriend of 3 years seems to be more in the "maybe no" camp than "maybe yes", while I've been clear from the beginning that I want kids, and am now panicking about breaking up with her. [more inside]
posted by Anon4689 at 8:01 AM - 25 answers

I have three nephews/nieces (to two siblings) on the other side of the world, all under 5, and I'd like to have a meaningful relationship with them as they grow older. If you had an excellent aunt/uncle who lived far away, what did they do that helped build that relationship? Or if you that relationship with a newphew/niece, what tips do you have? [more inside]
posted by twirlypen at 12:48 AM - 9 answers

How do I diplomatically tell my cousin that, no, she can't borrow grandma's (my) piano that I inherited and I have in storage? Even if you are willing to pay to move it to your house yourself and "back again" later. No. We all know once it's in her house that it's never coming back. [more inside]
posted by Che boludo! at 3:51 PM - 46 answers