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Inspired by, and related to, this question previously. I've been seeing a therapist for eight months now and am frustrated at the lack of progress. Is it time to try something else? [more inside]
posted by beigeness at 5:01 PM - 3 answers

Sadly, I find that we need the help of a family/parenting therapist at our house. In the briefest of terms the problem concerns a mom in the SF east bay area who is painfully missing a daughter who is away in her first year of college on the east coast. There was plenty of tension before college to be sure but it has now escalated to the point that the young scholar is refusing contact and is being very rude, even deliberately hurtful. Both have agreed to attempt counseling/therapy during her next trip home. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 11:54 PM - 15 answers

I feel like I self-censor a lot. Talking helps, but I feel like there's such an abundance of thoughts and feelings that it's weird to dump it onto others.. [more inside]
posted by Crookshanks_Meow at 8:03 PM - 7 answers

I have a bad habit of texting friends multiple texts in a panic whenever I have an anxiety attack. It's annoying. How do I stop? [more inside]
posted by Penguin48 at 5:33 PM - 12 answers

Have you filed a code of conduct complaint and been happy with the outcome? If so, can you share whatwas done and/or what outcome you most wanted or requested? Secondarily, if you’ve watched a code of conduct investigation unfold, can you share outcomes that were considered and what eventually happened? Of course, negative examples can helpful here too. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 10:22 AM - 1 answers

I recently said something to the daycare teacher about my son’s fear of dogs. She was quite surprised to hear this as they go for walks every day and see tons of dogs. How can I promote this behaviour at home? [more inside]
posted by ficbot at 8:04 AM - 23 answers

My partner has decided to pursue the same career path as me. Why am I so upset about this and how can I be supportive instead? [more inside]
posted by noxperpetua at 10:03 AM - 35 answers

I keep hurting her feelings inadvertently [more inside]
posted by winterportage at 9:52 AM - 9 answers

My wife is a moderator of an online community which has both occasional problematic behavior that needs to be called out (the usual sexism racism transphobia etc) and also community members who sometimes do the calling out in a way that is hostile to the point of damaging the community. My wife is looking for a way to articulate policies on call-outs that don't discourage people from bringing up issues or quibble about their tone when they do so, but also make it clear people have to be respectful of other community members. Any pointers or suggestions?
posted by inkyz at 8:44 AM - 9 answers

I've always been a bit of a pushover in relationships. Recently (aided in no small part by diligent reading of Ask.Me) I've started drawing better boundaries about what behaviour I find acceptable and what I would walk away from. I've no doubt that this would be a great thing long-term, but the short term sorta sucks and I would appreciate some help in navigating it. Details below the jump. [more inside]
posted by Nieshka at 5:18 AM - 8 answers

Please help me help a friend. [more inside]
posted by yoyo_nyc at 6:14 AM - 14 answers

In view of events in Mozambique and beyond, I was wondering if there are Mefites who are knowledgeable about the region and who can advise on help. [more inside]
posted by doggod at 4:39 PM - 4 answers

For year's I've used alcohol in moderation, but almost every day. Now that I'm not drinking, I'd like to find resources and support that help me change the ways I think, act, and cope with difficult feelings. I'm looking for memoirs, novels, self-help books, etc. about what it means to live in "sobriety" - but defined more broadly that simply abstaining from alcohol. [more inside]
posted by TrixieRamble at 1:57 PM - 8 answers

So back in 2015, I posted that we might have to leave Jacksonville in the next five years due to Mrs. Mosley's career. Four years later, it looks like time might be up. Back then it looked like it might be Dallas, but a new and exciting career opportunity has presented itself to her in somewhere we weren't looking: Denver. [more inside]
posted by AlonzoMosleyFBI at 1:07 PM - 14 answers

My son is a year old. We were at a public play area for kids 5 and under. He was playing when a girl who looked to be about 7 came over in between us at a table and started playing with some toys. [more inside]
posted by jj's.mama at 4:19 PM - 31 answers

Parents of teens or young adults--how did you successfully (or unsuccessfully) guide your teenager with their phone use? I know about some apps and we had a phone contract at some point, but the whole situation has slid into 24/7 phone time now that I'm working more. Help! [more inside]
posted by biscuits at 1:52 PM - 10 answers

I don’t want to be the center of attention anymore, even though that’s what got me through hard times—friends and family recognizing that I was in crisis and showering me with love and support. The hard times are probably over; how do I keep myself from reliving the patterns I’ve been in? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 6:55 AM - 12 answers

Coworkers are gossiping that something happened between a male coworker and myself, but we don't even talk. Snowflakes inside... [more inside]
posted by lawgirl at 7:33 PM - 19 answers

The bride had a problem with me, should I still go? [more inside]
posted by dadaxiang1204 at 2:10 PM - 20 answers

My sibling has stopped speaking with me under typical-sounding but (and?) genuinely unfathomable circumstances. Most of the advice on the internet feels hurtful because it's always invalidating towards the estrangee and unconditionally supportive of the estranger. I need different help and recommendations! [more inside]
posted by Aarti_Faarti at 10:29 AM - 56 answers