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February 4

How to get out of Circular Conversations?

Yesterday I was stuck in one for 20 plus minutes! A fellow volunteer was telling me how their previous session went and they repeated the same 5 sentences about 5 times each. I can't leave, I tried to change the subject and even bring in a third person to help, but they kept circling. I need tips on how to stop that in the future. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 7:45 PM - 17 answers

Risk averse parents who use emotional blackmail

Tomorrow night, I will be delivering several pieces of *big* news (happy, exciting news - for me, anyway!) to my parents. I’d prefer not to disclose too many specifics here at this time, but it’s the type of news any loving parent in a healthy relationship with their children would be overjoyed to hear. The problem? My parents are risk averse, suspicious people who use emotional blackmail when they’re personally uncomfortable with a decision one of their children has made. [more inside]
posted by nightrecordings at 5:20 PM - 35 answers

Help with rejecting unwanted advances

A younger relative (in her late 20s, but emotionally/mentally more like a teenager due to a mild disability) attends a weekly community group. An older man has started bringing her flowers and saying she is the only reason he attends the group meetings. Last week he asked for a kiss and she compromised with a hug although not really wanting too. My question is, can you think of some simple things she can say to him to firmly head off these advances? Ideally I will practise saying them with her so she feels confident. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 4:56 PM - 18 answers

February 3

Should I break up with my friend?

I am totally frustrated with my friend and I don't know if the source of my frustration is going to change. [more inside]
posted by mermily at 5:56 PM - 20 answers

Adjusting to major metro area after life in a college town?

I grew up on one coast, went to college in a rural town on the other, and am slowly but not particularly successfully readjusting to life not far from where I began. Snowflakes after the cut, I guess. [more inside]
posted by salientstars at 5:11 PM - 10 answers

How early is too early for sax practice?

I play the saxophone and practice at home. It's a loud instrument, but so far none of my neighbors have complained and I'm hoping to stay on a friendly footing. So, what in the hive mind's opinion is the earliest time of day that no reasonable person would be likely to complain about sax practice, (a) on weekdays, (b) on weekends and holidays?
posted by zeri at 10:24 AM - 35 answers

February 2

I think friend went in for a kiss but I want to know for sure

I've (26F) been hanging out with a new friend (~30F) once every couple of weeks since September. We knew each other online for maybe a couple of years before we met in person. We hung out last night and as we were hugging goodbye, I think she wanted to kiss, but I'd like to know for certain, mainly because I wouldn't be opposed to that possibility. [more inside]
posted by lilies.lilies at 7:44 PM - 33 answers

Refund blues

I paid a friend for a ticket to a concert three months ago for a concert that will happen at the end of this month. I learned around Christmas that my job required me to fill in for a conference the same day as the concert. I asked my friend to sell the ticket but I think they may just keep the money. Should I push more on it or is it fair for them to keep the money? [more inside]
posted by buttonedup at 11:32 AM - 32 answers

What angles am I missing here?

Apparently it's not that easy to have it all. Help a not-so-young-anymore woman prioritize career and the other stuff. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 4:49 AM - 26 answers

February 1

Is my relationship as toxic as I worry it is?

My long-term relationship almost completely lacks intimacy, and sometimes feels stifling. My attempts to fix it haven't gone well. I'm 40 and afraid of being alone. Help? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 7:21 PM - 36 answers

Dealing with Long-Ago Shame at a Joyful Event

Two of my dear college friends are getting married (from two different friend circles that later found each other). Several folks from my younger days will be there, including one that I hurt really badly. I'm feeling overwhelmed with anxiety and shame, and I'm trying to find somewhere to put that shame that isn't harmful. [more inside]
posted by socktothepuppet at 6:19 PM - 17 answers

January 31

How do I screen potential roommates?

Difficulty level: Bay Area, below-market rent, but somewhat undesirable location. [more inside]
posted by ziggly at 4:54 PM - 12 answers

January 30

My precious?

I found a hobby/class I like in a new city, where I have the possible opportunity to stick with and make friends. My partner wants to tag along (because he is also interested in this class.) Is it wrong that I would rather him try another class because I would like to have my own hobby time? [more inside]
posted by socky bottoms at 5:37 PM - 15 answers

Do I have an obligation to foster a child?

Someone I know may lose custody of his young son. Circumstances mean that the child will be placed in foster care if this happens. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 5:13 AM - 24 answers

Smoker friend

Friend who is crashing at our place started smoking and we are not ok with it [more inside]
posted by uncreative at 2:22 AM - 23 answers

January 29

Friendship fallout from divorce: should I stay or should I go?

I'm having a hard time deciding what to do with a friendship that's been seriously impacted by my divorce: cut and run or hold out hope of revival? [more inside]
posted by El Curioso at 3:05 PM - 38 answers

How do I let go of my need for my family's approval?

Basically what it says on the tin; a few snowflakes inside. [more inside]
posted by coffeeand at 12:07 PM - 17 answers

January 28

Self-absorbed friend, fed up. What are some good strategies?

I'm in an imbalanced friendship, and would like some strategies on letting go. [more inside]
posted by dubious_dude at 7:28 PM - 14 answers

January 26

Substitutes for the internet etc. when anxiety strikes

I have been wondering who have developed something like an addictive relationship with the internet and have gotten over it (ok, maybe not an overrepresented demo hereabouts) do when that urge to kill four hours by clicking around strikes? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 11:16 PM - 18 answers

January 24

My husband's ex contacted him to wish him a happy birthday. Is this bad?

My husband's ex contacted him to wish him a happy birthday. Should i be worried and should i tell him to block her? [more inside]
posted by direct1 at 7:26 PM - 36 answers

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