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I am conflicted on leaving my very long marriage with my sometimes abusive husband, who has also been an addict throughout our marriage.I also still love him very much ,and am financially independent enough to leave.My teenage child who adores their dad ( he is a great dad ) is pushing for me to leave and I really do not think I can ever do that ....I feel weak ,hopeless ,very fearful , miserable and stuck despite having a good job and knowing what the right thing to do is....I just can't do it more details inside. [more inside]
posted by SarahSarah at 2:17 PM - 23 answers

So, I ask about this in part because I want to move to another country. In general, I've never had to deal with racism. I'm white, and I would be moving to a place that is white as well, I doubt people could tell where I was from. The only way they could find out is if I told them. The other part is that I have a racist homophobic father, and some relatives from his side, that say some wild things about other people who are different. [more inside]
posted by Tarsonis10 at 1:36 PM - 13 answers

How do you avoid getting bitter at work when the ideas you propose are shot down by your management chain, and then a few months later, the CEO proposes a similar set of ideas, and the project is given to a peer? [more inside]
posted by FlatHill at 11:43 AM - 16 answers

With all the protests going on, I'm seeing a lot of ACAB (All cops are bastards) and similar type sentiments on my feed, particularly from close friends and people I admire. However, every time I see the acronym I have a sudden urge to immediately fight back on the statement (which I have never done). I'm looking for some perspective here. I don't usually disagree so much with my community and am having a real hard time understanding why my compass is not aligning on this. [more inside]
posted by eisforcool at 7:36 AM - 59 answers

Beloved niece turning 12 in quarantine, looking for gifts for her fun, silly tastes that I can deliver by internet. [more inside]
posted by latkes at 11:30 AM - 4 answers

Have you been the full-time caregiver of a parent with dementia? What did it do to your relationship with your partner? Any advice on minimizing fallout? Best practices? [more inside]
posted by cotton dress sock at 8:07 PM - 5 answers

What is the best way to support my black colleagues here in a extremely apolitical environment? [more inside]
posted by sandmanwv at 7:57 PM - 11 answers

My husband is white; I'm Asian-American. We live in New York City. We are trying to talk about the BLM protests happening in our country. I'm troubled by his responses. I know one of the best things we can do right now is have these difficult conversations with loved ones and confront our own bias and racism--- but I'm struggling and need help. [more inside]
posted by selene_sophia at 12:08 AM - 58 answers

My son really wants to read comic books but the ones we have (Uncle Scrooge) are way above his head. What are some good comic books for early readers? He is just getting to the stage of sounding out three letter words. [more inside]
posted by Vatnesine at 7:12 PM - 14 answers

How have you gained personal benefit from a formal professional diagnosis of high-functioning autism / Asperger's? [more inside]
posted by chiquitita at 7:08 AM - 8 answers

Difficulty level: shared custody [more inside]
posted by unstrungharp at 3:38 PM - 41 answers

My partner and I would really like to be as supportive as possible to their youngest child, who has told us they identify as non-binary and their preferred pronouns are they/them. They are a teenager, so above and beyond the usual understanding that it is not the responsibility of the person coming out to educate others, it especially is not this particular person’s responsibility to educate us! I would be immensely grateful to any resources this community might suggest for parents or relatives of teenagers that identify as non-binary (or for the teenagers themselves!) so that my partner and I can bring ourselves up to speed and help this amazing person accept and really be themselves. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 6:17 AM - 5 answers

You're becoming friendly with someone in a non-romantic context. They communicate with you fairly consistently when you send messages. Then their response pattern changes significantly. What are the rules about this scenario? [more inside]
posted by crunchy potato at 5:31 PM - 17 answers

Curating a video program for myself and my friends to educate ourselves on anti-racism and white priviledge. There's great resources here and here but would love to know of other talks and videos that have resonated with team metafilter. [more inside]
posted by wowenthusiast at 11:49 AM - 4 answers

I'm feeling super awkward about a check I received as a gift and didn't cash in a timely manner. Can you help me out of this pickle? [more inside]
posted by mosst at 6:29 AM - 12 answers

Well, my mother has been admitted to the hospital (see previous question). My stress level is at 100 and I'm just frustrated. I took vacation time and this is what happens? My birthday is on Saturday, is there anyway to make it... less awful? [more inside]
posted by VirginiaPlain at 6:04 AM - 10 answers

I would like to know what happened to someone I vaguely knew at Essex University. [more inside]
posted by Quillcards at 4:10 AM - 9 answers

Please help me get over my anxiety about hosting gatherings. I have huge anxieties about inviting people over because I’m worried that they don’t really want to come, or they’ll say no. This question is mostly to people who are hosts. Do you ever get scared no one will want to come? Do you just keep hosting parties and having gatherings whether people come or not? Do you ever deal with rejection, and if so, how? [more inside]
posted by katypickle at 8:01 PM - 20 answers

How do I reconcile my beliefs with my actual experiences ? [more inside]
posted by gt2 at 9:39 AM - 46 answers

Big wedding has been postponed, and we're considering having a small reception with the wedding party in lieu of having our original 150 person wedding "when things reopen". Trying to gauge the viability of this... [more inside]
posted by orangesky4 at 4:45 AM - 24 answers