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I've recently become friends with a neighbour, but she wants to see me and talk to me waaaaaay more than I want to see and talk to her. How to get her to cool her jets without making her feel bad? [more inside]
posted by anonymous to Human Relations at 11:10 AM - 17 answers

I love Oli Julian's theme music for the Darren Boyd sitcom "Spy." It's got a great zingy, swingy sound. Please recommend me anything that's like that. Thanks!
posted by kristi to Media & Arts at 10:06 AM - 7 answers

I want this: Pyle Universal Keyboard Heavy-Duty Electronic Organ Holder Rack Portable Piano Stand w/ 2nd Tier, Adjustable Height and Width, Rubber Discs PKST64 but in black. Doesn't seem to be an option. I play seated so this geometry is nice because there is nothing in the ways of human legs. What can you suggest?
posted by falsedmitri to Media & Arts at 9:43 AM - 7 answers

I'm in the market for a new-to-me laptop. Budget $400. Must be Linux compatible. Used is fine. What do you recommend? [more inside]
posted by mr_bovis to Computers & Internet at 8:44 AM - 18 answers

I have a sensory processing disorder. I don’t have good aural and visual “filters”. Do you know of a good resource that I might give HR or possibly any others to briefly explain this disorder? I am thinking of one page or less. Ideally, the resource wouldn’t be focused on autism, but I am open.
posted by NotLost to Health & Fitness at 8:00 AM - 4 answers

My daughter has announced she's engaged, getting married next year. Instead of a shower, she's asked that I go with her to try on wedding dresses. We live in different states and I have lots of left over frequent flyer miles. But where can we find lots of in-person dresses to try on that isn't the $10K type stuff in NYC? She's looking for old-fashioned lacy, not fashion designer and mostly wants the mother/daughter bonding experience. [more inside]
posted by Gucky to Shopping at 6:24 AM - 14 answers

I’m searching for a personal website I once visited but can’t seem to find again. Here are some key features I remember: Branching (AI-generated?) Narratives, with a unique timeline interface for moving through them at the bottom of the page; a dark, minimalist theme, with lots of gray; blog posts about AI and potentially literature. [more inside]
posted by matkline to Computers & Internet at 4:02 AM - 0 answers

I've been taking classes for a hobby (ceramics) for about a year now and been quite enjoying the long, slow process of learning a new skill. It's been a few weeks into my most recent "semester" and it's become apparent to me that my current instructor and I are a bad fit. I've still got a month and a half left of classes and I'd rather not drop out, so how can I make the most of this time without having my new passion smothered by negativity? [more inside]
posted by btfreek to Sports, Hobbies, & Recreation at 12:07 AM - 24 answers

I'm trying to track down an essay or blog post from the past couple of years that analyzed Apple marketing collateral through the lens of the people and their lives depicted in the texts, emails, messages to each other, photos, etc. shown in Apple ads, demos, promo videos, etc. It used screenshots to make its point. It noted a few recurring names of characters in the product shots. I recall that it suggested most of the messages you see are about parties and social events.
posted by Pudding Yeti to Media & Arts at 7:45 PM - 4 answers

Over an extended Memorial Day vacation, we're cruising up the eastern seaboard through Canada. The cruise "excursions" are yawn-worthy or cheesy, so we're rolling our own. Help us figure out the best places to BE for our particular combination of dates and stops. Snowflakey details inside. [more inside]
posted by cross_impact to Travel & Transportation at 7:13 PM - 6 answers

I used to travel very frequently, but then I changed careers and there was that whole pandemic thing, so I'm going on a proper trip for the first time since 2020, and I want to make the experience as non-awful as possible. My beloved Sennheiser noise-canceling headset has seen better days, plus my devices now don't have headphone receptacles. I'm seeking suggestions for what's good for travel noise canceling in the modern era. Snowflakes within. [more inside]
posted by LadyOscar to Travel & Transportation at 7:10 PM - 21 answers

Almost two weeks ago I got a memory foam bed wedge and was a bit flummoxed by the size of the box when it arrived. Turns out it was very small because the wedge had been rolled up and compressed like a swiss roll. Instructions on the box said it would resume its initial shape after 48 hours. 12 days later, it has not. [more inside]
posted by Athanassiel to Grab Bag at 6:18 PM - 6 answers

Is there a way I can stain parts of an image in Photoshop? [more inside]
posted by pxe2000 to Computers & Internet at 6:06 PM - 3 answers

I need to rip the mask off: I need a quick peace of mind (or not) on Covid risk and apparently remedial Covid education 2024 edition [more inside]
posted by floweredfish to Health & Fitness at 4:27 PM - 35 answers

My dishwasher flooded my kitchen and it's looking like I'll be needing new flooring, cabinets, and possibly a countertop. I am not a home remodeling type of person. How do I figure out what I want? [more inside]
posted by The corpse in the library to Home & Garden at 3:48 PM - 8 answers

I have a folder with a list of .txt files in it - file list example (imgur). I would like to create a folder for each file name and to name that folder after the filename. [more inside]
posted by unearthed to Computers & Internet at 3:18 PM - 7 answers

How hard is it to get around East Sussex (Lewes/Alfriston area) without a car? [more inside]
posted by Awkward Philip to Travel & Transportation at 1:57 PM - 3 answers

I have a favourite, workshopped to hell and back, endlessly adaptable gluten free brownie recipe. I want to make blondies. [more inside]
posted by cabbage raccoon to Food & Drink at 1:10 PM - 10 answers

I have an old macro lens for my phone which I had to stop using when I got a new phone, because I couldn’t get a case to fit it. I found someone selling a 13mm-17mm adapter ring for it, and want to know the best way of firmly attaching the adapter to the lens. [more inside]
posted by Bloxworth Snout to Technology at 1:05 PM - 3 answers

I am working to make my business more marketable, so I've found someone who was recommended to me that does brand development and marketing. [more inside]
posted by CollectiveMind to Computers & Internet at 12:22 PM - 7 answers

Is there anywhere in New York City (or near New York City) where I can get Hungarian cherry soup?
posted by andoatnp to Food & Drink at 11:37 AM - 3 answers

Several years ago, I saw (and heard) a video essay on YouTube, and now I'd like to see it again. Unfortunately, I haven't been able to find it on my own, so I'm writing this question in the hope of getting some help. [more inside]
posted by WalkingAround to Media & Arts at 11:30 AM - 4 answers

I'm attending a beach wedding this year, I am looking for ideas on an outfit that meets these criteria: comfortable in warm weather / ethically sourced/manufactured / hat recommendation: I typically go with ballcaps on the weekend but anything classy with a brim (for the sun) would be good / I'm an adult male. Links to suggestions are welcome, thank you.
posted by elkevelvet to Clothing, Beauty, & Fashion at 10:13 AM - 3 answers

A cartoon in the 1980s or 90s depicted a brick and was captioned something like "thousands of works of art, music, etc. compressed into a 3x4x5 inch brick". It might be by Mick Stevens. (I was reminded of it by the new ad for the iPad showing works of art and musical instruments in a hydraulic press.)
posted by neuron to Media & Arts at 10:07 AM - 3 answers

The CDC recommends adults have a tetanus booster every 10 years. The NHS doesn't think adults need a tetanus booster if they were fully vaccinated as kids. As an oldish person working on a farm at high risk of small dirty wounds, I got the NHS to give me a tetanus booster 10 years ago but they seemed bemused that I wanted it. Do any medical MeFites know why the recommendations are so different?
posted by Rhedyn to Health & Fitness at 10:02 AM - 15 answers

I know very little about microscopy or imaging of small things, but I have a need for something greater than the stereo microscopes we use at my job. Do you know what I need? [more inside]
posted by AbelMelveny to Science & Nature at 9:59 AM - 5 answers

My spouse’s grandmother lives with us, and will be entering hospice care at home soon. She’s 100 years old and has end-stage COPD. We have two young kids, and I need to figure out how to talk to them about what we are all about to experience. [more inside]
posted by hovey to Health & Fitness at 9:05 AM - 15 answers

The short story is that decades ago I had some stock escheated by the state of Massachusetts. I have questions about how/why the state was able to do this. I may be too late on this, but the stock has increased in value and I'd like to talk to a lawyer about how everything went down and if there's any hope of reclaiming it. So I'm looking for recommendations for either specific lawyers or types of lawyers (securities?) in Massachusetts that I could consult. [more inside]
posted by fiery.hogue to Work & Money at 8:36 AM - 5 answers

I've booked two weeks in July in Panama. We will be travelling with our 5 yr old and an 18 month old. Flying into Panama City. Looking for your ideas, tips, tricks, and general thoughts. [more inside]
posted by sid to Travel & Transportation at 7:46 AM - 2 answers

Hi all - I figured I'd get better feedback here than spending hours on Google (you all know your stuff :)). A friend and I want to do a road trip and see some cool sights this July. He's in Seattle and I'm in Raleigh and we're thinking about going north. We've been to Calgary which was beautiful but looking to try something different. We don't mind a manageable road trip but we'd like to see some towns/cities that have cool bars, restaurants, decent crowd, etc. We also want to hike and do some outdoor stuff. We'll consider it all - from Alaska to Quebec City :) Are there are trips or routes that you'd recommend we look at?
posted by matt755811 to Travel & Transportation at 6:03 AM - 11 answers

I'm in a largeish US-wide Facebook group for mail-based buying, selling and trading of used gear for a mildly niche interest. I would like to also casually sell a few items, but as a newbie I feel clueless about the nuances of security, risk management and etiquette for this type of thing. Any tips, or a good online primer for how to sell one-offs and not get scammed? [more inside]
posted by Bardolph to Computers & Internet at 5:39 AM - 6 answers

I want a free space online to post stuff I would ordinarily send to my husband via email or dm, and I don't want to fiddle with it at all (just sign up, boom, go) or get updates, ads, promos, etc., etc. from the site. (like maybe the site itself has some ads, which is okay, but I don't want to get ads, mail or notices from them.) [more inside]
posted by taz to Computers & Internet at 4:34 AM - 14 answers

Something's eating all the leaves off certain specific herbs in my community garden. But who? [more inside]
posted by EmpressCallipygos to Home & Garden at 3:40 AM - 12 answers

According to my late dad my family on his mom's side was from a town on the border of the two countries that was one country and then became another. I'm assuming it would have happened a while ago (at least +60 years) but that's all I've got.
posted by rileyray3000 to Society & Culture at 1:14 AM - 3 answers

I would like to hear about recipes you like that are easy to learn. By "learn", I roughly mean "memorize". That is, if I make the recipe enough times, I won't need to look at the recipe anymore, because I will have it in my head. Ideally, you like both making and eating these dishes (or drinks, even). [more inside]
posted by NotLost to Food & Drink at 10:43 PM - 30 answers

This is, I believe, my fourth round in a boot. I was ok until I forgot to get new runners, whomp whomp. Sick of it though. How has your AT healed? [more inside]
posted by cotton dress sock to Health & Fitness at 9:28 PM - 3 answers

My wife is a fantastic, intuitive cook and does most of our dinners, but occasionally she wants me to cook instead. My skills are basically 'can follow a recipe'. My family has a range of preferences. Any suggestions on what I can add to my quiver? [more inside]
posted by jjderooy to Food & Drink at 7:59 PM - 19 answers

My sister gave me a thrift shop print of geese that was mounted on a faded mat board and the frame didn't go with my décor. I tried to take the print off the mat board in order to remount and reframe it, and in the process I damaged the print in one place and tore it in another. I could crop the image, but it would look odd and it would mean sacrificing the handwritten title, artist's signature, and print number and date. Does anyone have any tips for repairing damaged or torn watercolour paper?
posted by orange swan to Grab Bag at 3:52 PM - 6 answers

We have a relative who has Parkinson’s disease, and also has cats. There’s no family history of Parkinson’s disease so they need to particularly avoid further exposure to pesticides. However, they also have pet cats. It’s obvious that people who hold and pet their cats do get some exposure to any of the spot-on treatments that are the mainstay of flea treatments these days. Are some of them safer than others? [more inside]
posted by metonym to Pets & Animals at 2:41 PM - 7 answers

I'm traveling to Mexico next week and instead of buying the (expensive) international data pass through my American cell provider, thought I'd see about getting a Mexican plan with an eSIM, but it's horribly confusing (which maybe speak more to the general poor state of web search.) Looking for recommendations. Thanks!
posted by rhymedirective to Travel & Transportation at 1:09 PM - 12 answers

Please recommend a book or two for someone looking to get a better understanding of the origins and historical context of the Israel/Palestine conflict. Being "unbiased" or "objective" is less important than being interesting, but I'm not looking for a polemic (unless it's a really informative polemic).
posted by lex mercatoria to Society & Culture at 12:38 PM - 7 answers

I taught myself how to swim freestyle about 15 years ago and have been swimming intermittently since then. I went from barely being able to swim 25 yards at the start, to swimming 2000 yards 4x a week at my peak. Last winter I injured my shoulder when I tried to scale up my training, and I've been having a hard time swimming since. I'm seeking advice on how to address the issues I'm dealing with now. [more inside]
posted by spacebologna to Health & Fitness at 11:35 AM - 16 answers

My kid is graduating at the end of the month, and will be studying statistics at university. It has been suggested to me that a really high end calculator would be a good graduation gift and useful in their secondary education. 1) is this true? (they did not need one in HS) 2) If so, what would be the Cadillac of handheld calculators for a stats kid?
posted by anastasiav to Shopping at 11:00 AM - 18 answers

How does a SodaStream & similar "make pop at home" devices dissolve CO2 into water so much faster than a soda siphon? Is it the nozzle and a regulator? [more inside]
posted by ASCII Costanza head to Science & Nature at 10:15 AM - 8 answers

I received a snail mail at my home addressed to "Estate of [my dad's name]." Thing is, my dad is still very much alive. [more inside]
posted by ZenMasterThis to Work & Money at 9:57 AM - 11 answers

If all goes well, in a couple of months I will be moving in with my partner to a place slightly smaller than my current one. My mind is going blank as I try to work out how to schedule this move. Would love some thoughts/strategies! [more inside]
posted by We put our faith in Blast Hardcheese to Home & Garden at 8:26 AM - 11 answers

I'm one of those insufferable people who has always been "naturally thin" but since having my first child a few years ago, I am still 20-25 lbs over my normal weight and I've tried changing my diet and exercise level and it will not come off. I have also developed prediabetes, with an A1C of 5.8. [more inside]
posted by Forty-eight to Health & Fitness at 8:17 AM - 27 answers

I'm trying to remember the name/author of a story that I'm fairly sure I read in a 'Best Horror of the Year' anthology (edited by Ellen Datlow). It concerns a spy or member of some security force in the UK trying to get someone to take seriously the presence of an alien or monster that security forces had been tracking, but had now lost track of due to retirement or bureaucracy or similar. I think the monster lives in a suburban house and was impossible to kill. There may have been some kind of code word that would set it on an unstoppable killing spree? I also remember something about how it could walk through oceans? I've had no luck googling, and I can't currently access my big pile of BHOTY anthologies. Does this sound familiar to anyone? It's driving me crazy and I'd love to re-read it.
posted by sedimentary_deer to Society & Culture at 7:45 AM - 3 answers

Last week I bought a new leather wallet from a luxury goods company. I've had it for less than a week and the leather smells like weed. Is there any way to get this smell out of the wallet? [more inside]
posted by VirginiaPlain to Clothing, Beauty, & Fashion at 7:15 AM - 3 answers

I recently attended two medieval fairs here in Germany with my 6 year old daughter and got thinking about what other fun shows or performances one could add. As I am working at a lab (life science, not chemistry) I naturally thought about playing an Alchemist. I guess an alchemy show would rely mostly on the same tricks that are done in chemistry/STEM shows, just with an old timey touch. Have you seen something done like this? Or have an idea which tricks or experiments would be a good fit? I found a discussion on a LARP forum with some nice ideas, like playing with gallium, using the stuff from a sparkler for a little fire effect, or the suddenly expanding worm reaction. Dry ice for nice smoke effect and blubbering. I would aim this at entertaining kids.
posted by SweetLiesOfBokonon to Science & Nature at 6:42 AM - 7 answers

So the Dead haven't been the Dead for a while now, but I assume that obsessive fans have been reprocessing old tapes. What are the best live shows -- soundboard or bootlegs -- in terms of audio quality and musicality and fun? [more inside]
posted by wenestvedt to Media & Arts at 6:16 AM - 21 answers

Our 20th anniversary is coming up and we're looking for trip ideas (not gifts). I'm not saying what we like, because we've already done the stuff we like--we're interested in how other people would choose to celebrate and what they'd do. So let us steal your dream idea! [more inside]
posted by limagringo to Travel & Transportation at 5:35 AM - 28 answers

I'm looking for a specific blog post/article about ethics/danger in software engineering. Content warning: potential military/bombing applications. [more inside]
posted by conkystconk to Technology at 4:01 AM - 2 answers

I have a memory that very early on, like maybe October 10 or the like, there was an IDF social media post featuring a very old veteran pitching in, wearing the modern uniform. It was then alleged by others that the same man was on the public record as having participated in a rather grievous crime. The problem: Lost in the flood of news, I can't find *anything*. At very least, the original post did occur, I'm confident I didn't hallucinate it whole-cloth. [more inside]
posted by Audreynachrome to Law & Government at 3:11 AM - 2 answers

I am looking for a modular system with big drawers that will mostly be a bookshelf. In the UK. Ideas? [more inside]
posted by caoimhe to Shopping at 1:52 AM - 4 answers

I'm looking for recommendations for shore excursions in Walvis Bay, Namibia. We are 3 adults on a cruise ship and this is our first time in Walvis Bay. Do you have any recommendations for activities or places to eat? Thanks!
posted by my_metafilter_account to Travel & Transportation at 9:32 PM - 2 answers

This came up in conversation and we had mismatched memories and could not look up the answer later. I remember blue glow sticks being special and new in the mid nineties. He remembers them available earlier alongside the other colors. [more inside]
posted by Mizu to Grab Bag at 8:48 PM - 7 answers

I have locked myself out, boo. But it’s a simple (I hope) button lock. I have called the maintenance company, but just in case… is there a way for me to pick the lock? [more inside]
posted by MonkeyToes to Grab Bag at 8:41 PM - 8 answers

I have accidentally deleted an important note in my iPhone Notes app - it must have been more than three months ago as it is not in the "Recently Deleted" folder. I backup my phone onto my laptop via iTunes (no cloud backup) - is there a hidden iTunes file or folder on my laptop somewhere where I can find my last Notes backup? [more inside]
posted by Naanwhal to Technology at 5:44 PM - 4 answers

I want to gift my father a hat for his trip around Asia this summer. It'll be very very hot, humid, and sunny. What's a good, stylish hat? [more inside]
posted by inevitability to Clothing, Beauty, & Fashion at 5:29 PM - 15 answers