When cleaning out the garage, we found this big plastic thing [photos] and would like help figuring out what it is. My best guess is it attaches to a plastic tricycle (already given away), but why would it have the yellow segment?
Parents of MetaFilter: What are some things you commonly find yourself wanting/needing from your friends when it comes to interacting with your children, especially as the kids get older? What are some of the most valuable things the long-term honorary aunts and uncles in your lives have done for the kids that has help them feel loved and supported growing up? [more inside]
You are not my divorce attorney, but perhaps you can 1. recommend one in the Houston, TX area and/or 2. tell me if my plan to request that the court change our existing divorce decree has a reasonable chance of success. [more inside]
My parents are in their mid-sixties. I'm in my forties. I want to be the best daughter I can be while I still have them around. What things do you wish your adult children would do more of (or less of) to make you feel loved and supported? I know what's needed and possibly appreciated may vary based on people's physical abilities, income levels, etc. I just want to get some ideas from people who have children my age of things they've appreciated that I may not have thought of, so all ideas welcome. Thanks!
My six year old put his hand in his cousin's pants and touched his butt on Christmas. It wasn't sexual to him. I'm worried about what this means for him, for family. I don't know how to make sure this doesn't happen again, how to correct the situation and I don't know how to react as the parent. [more inside]
We're relocating from San Jose to San Diego and while we're pretty set on most of the details, there are a few specific questions that we need help with since the last time we lived in San Diego we were single/newly-in-love and now we're married-with-preschooler. [more inside]
My older daughter taught my 2 year old to say " Rock and rolll baaaaby". It Is very amusing. What other phrases can we teach her that are fun?
Finally dipping my toes back in the waters after years of separation and divorce proceedings (see previous AskMe posts ...). I don't need dating tips as such - it seems complicated at this age and stage in my life - what I am really interested in here is what happens if any dating turns into something more serious, and how to bring a partner into an existing household with a kiddo. So: How can I think about introducing any new partner to the current household? Thank you! [more inside]
My five-year-old nephew likes building traps and contraptions. I know he uses tape and bungee cords, and presumably stuff from around the house. What could I give him for Christmas that would help support this hobby? Do you have kids that like to build? What're their favorite scraps and fancy things to create with? [more inside]
How can we provide the best experience for my (age 5 & 6) children as we travel Central and South America for 7 months? [more inside]
I'm 99% sure I don't want children. I'm not maternal, I've never had any desire to go down that route. The more I think about what it means to have kids the less I'm interested in it... for a number of reasons. I just turned 35 so I'm really at that awfully clichéd "Now or Never" stage in my life and it's made me start thinking about the future and whether or not I'll regret NOT doing it. [more inside]
I am looking for books/sites/groups/etc that offer parenting support beyond the intro level. My wife and I are good parents, in a calm and happy marriage, we both have graduate degrees in psychology/sociology, and we are struggling so hard with our 4.5 year old that we cry in each other's arms nearly every day from the stress of it. [more inside]
My same-sex partner has been asked to father a child - how do we make this decision? [more inside]
We're looking to relocate our family and have narrowed down our options (with the help of Metafilter) to Buenos Aires (Argentina), Toronto (Canada) and Melbourne (Australia). We've done our due diligence with on-line research, but we'd like to hear some personal anecdotes/experiences from people who've lived, worked or traveled to any of the above. [more inside]
I am seeking animal documentaries for kids aged 6-8 years old. Ideally, I am looking for ones that talk about animal senses: how a dog's nose works, how bats use echolocation, how elephants communicate subsonically, how cat whiskers work, etc. Ideally as well, these would be available on a publicly accessible video stream online: YouTube, Vimeo, etc., or hosted on an educational site that is offering them for free.
I've seen requests from multiple acquaintances for materials suitable for 10 to 12 year olds the history of civil rights struggles and also in philosophy. Please help.
Almost three years ago, we asked for suggestions of family-friendly, queer friendly, and senior friendly locales to set down roots. In light of recent events we'd like to revisit the question, but with a specific focus on areas outside the USA - though if you know of/live in a particularly staunch bastion of of our criteria on our native soil, we'd still like to hear about it! [more inside]
The kiddo, who I have 50% custody of, and who is in elementary school and after school care in the US, has acquired numerous bedbug bites at The Other House. Nothing at my place that I can see. What should I be thinking about here?
My 6 year old has started bringing home reading homework from her grade 1 class. She quickly gets frustrated with it and shuts down, which I in turn find very frustrating. It is complicated by the fact that she is in a french immersion school and while I speak decent french, it is definitely a second language for me. Give me ways to help her that she will respond to. Or give me some insight into her behaviour so that I can do better at keeping my cool about it. [more inside]
I have been seperated, and have lived seperately for 3 months from my ex, we have a 14 month old daughter. Looking through my past questions, it's clear I have a hard time setting and sticking to boundaries, and especially hard now in this instance when I'm trying to co-parent with someone who acts as if we are still together, and tells his family we are, and doesn't really listen or believe me when I say I have nothing left to give or hope for. Am I terrible for feeling as if he is not part of my family and I don't want to be part of his due to the fact that we are seperated now? [more inside]
Want to identify a book I loved as a kid in the 50's. I think it involved 2 kids, a boy and a girl, who spent some time on ranches in Montana and New Mexico. There were lots of illustrations of horse tack and cowboy gear. I think it may have been about 9"x12". That is really all I can remember. If you can think of anything even close, I will happily explore all suggestions,
Hi! I'm wondering if you all can recommend some children's rhymes and songs that are positive or at least free of ghastly, scary, and offensive things? [more inside]
My 10-year-old son's friend moved to Spain permanently. We're looking for some online games that they could play together. [more inside]
So someone told my six-year-old daughter that bad people take little kids and kill them. I wish I could say it's not true. It's just so unlikely. But kids don't understand probability. What can I say to put her mind at ease? She's been scared to be away from me (like, in another room even) for three weeks now and I just found out that this is what has been bothering her. [more inside]
I am excited to be spending a couple of days sight-seeing in Paris in late October. I've never been before, I may never go again. How can I make the most of my visit - which will be accompanied by a four year old and an infant. I expect the bébé will spend most of her time eating or sleeping, but what memorable, Parisian activities can we take part in? [more inside]
The daycare we've been using suddenly announced they were closing with 30 days warning. In our community, this is ridiculously little time to find a new place. Miraculously (and with connections), we found a place, but need to start next week to keep a spot. All good, no? But when we tell old daycare, they tell me that we're contractually obligated to pay them for 1 month after we announce we're leaving. YANML, TINLA but does this make any sense? [more inside]
My (possibly-autism-spectrum) three-year-old and his 14-month-old brother are at the stage where nearly every interaction breaks down at some point. I’m looking for some tools for how to deal with some of the typical scenarios that arise. [more inside]
I notice a trend: kids I know from loving, religious families (Chabad Lubavitch and Christian in particular) are, even in the tricky teen years, lovely, kind, respectful. How does this happen? What are the parents doing right? [more inside]
How can I address the following problems with the YouTube Kids app: (1) no whitelisting, (2) no downloads and (3) stability problems? The solution can be another app that offers similar control over viewing, or any other tips or configuration options, but the end result must be suitable to put in the hands of a young toddler. Thank you!
What are your absolute favorite seasonal or holiday children's books? Bonus points: lovely illustrations; likely out of print or otherwise not on the front page of the relevant section of Amazon. [more inside]
Do you ever use your full initials including middle name(s) for anything? If a person's full initials spell out a common... ummm, mildly risqué word is that going to be a problem? [more inside]
My partner's mother has had a size medium case of the Alzheimer's for years now. The father passed away long ago, there are no other blood family to speak of, and my partner is feeling pretty crushed by feelings of guilt and anxiety. Short of a support group (no time) or a therapist (already got one), what're resources, techniques, and tools, from cognitive tricks to fictional books, that will help my partner deal with the serious guilt and anxiety of feeling like they're not doing enough? (Just to be clear: A) the mom is doing physically fine and has a great set up, this is not about her, but about their child, my partner, and B) my family and I are pretty great and help as much as we can, which is a lot; again, this is not about how to help the mom more, this is about helping my partner deal with feelings of guilt and anxiety that they are not doing enough.)
My partner is dealing with a very difficult issue post-divorce. [more inside]
If someone has two kids, one of which has a child and one doesn’t, what’s the best way to split things up? [more inside]
What books would you recommend for a 10 year old girl who is not "into" reading? [more inside]
What more can I (or should I) do in this family situation? There is such an imbalance of love and affection going on, I don't know what to even do any more. [more inside]
On a recent trip to Mexico (like, last month), I was watching TV in my hotel room at night (maybe around 10 pm or later) and found a show that seemed to literally just be a puppet sleeping for about three or more hours. I cannot find anything that makes me feel like I'm not crazy for having seen this. [more inside]
I'm looking for recommendations of longer books to read to my 5yo daughter. We recently read The BFG and that was pretty much perfect - obviously I'll try some of Dahl's other books, although they do seem to feature an awful lot of cruel and abusive family situations. So, who's the Roald Dahl of the 21st century? [more inside]
In grade school, my friend read a children's book about a female allosaurus. "The basic story was that the allosaurus was extremely hungry and had to hunt other animals to feed itself, but she was also too old to catch any prey. So at the end the allosaurus starved to death. That was, literally, the plot. A dinosaur learns that life is cruel and then dies." Ring any bells?
My dear friend is battling a serious illness in Louisville, KY. She has two very young children. Hopefully she will be recovered in 3 months. I live far away. I would like to temporarily hire Alice from the Brady Bunch to help her and her husband manage their household chores and help them take care of their children. Barring that, looking for ways to support a young mom from a distance. [more inside]
I'm moderating a panel next month featuring researchers on areas related to domestic violence and working with survivors in a health care context. I've been asked to come up with questions for the panelists to prepare to answer. What should I ask them? What would you like to know, or what do you think is the most important problem in this area? [more inside]
Presently, I am going through one of the toughest times I have ever experienced: horrible heartbreak, and the loss of what was once my family and life. I am seeking recommendations on self help books possibly in the realm of self love, or learning to cope with loss and not blame yourself, not worrying, or getting out of your own head. What may be of more help is hearing other women (or mens) "survival," or that it DOES get better. [more inside]
I have a nephew, just shy of two years old, who has a rare autoimmune disease. It's very complex, and he is going through a battery of experimental treatments. The success of those treatments is far from guaranteed. Life is crushingly hard for him and his family. We are having trouble coming up with ways to help them. [more inside]
So I have a small child who is in the process of converting from a passive milk converter into some of actual human. Do you know of any sources I could look at which would enlighten me on how their brain develops and most importantly any fun experimenty things I could do to see how their perception is changing and to better understand how they are seeing the world. [more inside]
We (me, wife, kids 5 and 10) are traveling from Salt Lake City to Yosemite for 3 days of camping, and then to Monterey for 3 days. Help us plan the rest of a great trip. [more inside]
I have very young children. I'd love to get into some volunteer activity. BUT I am basically a stay at home mom now. It would be great if I could think of a volunteer activity that I could do with my kids in any form, esp. if the kids were an advantage! [more inside]
Need suggestions on stimulating, having fun and helping a boy with Asperger's Syndrome have a fulfilling life. More inside. [more inside]
Was playing at the park the other day with my son and two little girls were acting really strange towards him. I still can't decipher what they were up to. Details after the jump. [more inside]
Seeking popular children's books from outside US/UK/Germany! For small kids. [more inside]
I’m married, mid 30s, and of course, it feels like everyone I know is having children. I love children. I’ve told myself again and again that I’m not going to be a mother. I thought I had made peace with it, and was pretty convinced I did not even want to be a mother. That’s why this seems like a huge betrayal to myself and to my husband.... [more inside]