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In Post-Soviet Russia, media trumps you

How do I communicate to my older leftist American friends and relatives that criticism of Russian propaganda and international meddling is not neo-McCarthyism? [more inside]
posted by moonlight on vermont on Dec 4, 2016 - 10 answers

How even do you talk to people?

Being around actual people over Thanksgiving weekend showed me exactly where my weaknesses are in conversation. While I'm keenly interested in others' lives, I have no idea how to express such without feeling like I'm conducting an interrogation over pumpkin pie. [more inside]
posted by The Almighty Mommy Goddess on Nov 30, 2016 - 17 answers

After the Accident

My father committed a serious lapse in judgment and now wants to act like nothing's changed. What do I do? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 24, 2016 - 15 answers

gift idea future bro-in-law

What should I get my future brother-in-law for Christmas- he's a farmer, it's my first time at the family Christmas. [more inside]
posted by freethefeet on Nov 24, 2016 - 22 answers

My brother is becoming radicalized; how do I bring him back?

So, following this election and its disastrous results, I've decided to heed the calls of liberal commentators and take some responsibility for talking to my family who contributed to it. Specifically, I want to connect with my younger brother and bring him back from the brink of anti-government militia-like conspiracy thought. [more inside]
posted by inky_the_pinky on Nov 23, 2016 - 9 answers

How do I Thanksgiving now?

Tomorrow, family Ruki will be spending Thanksgiving with at least three out of four Trump voters. My immediate instinct is to walk out if the Trump praising begins, but that would be bad for family relations (although good for me and Kid Ruki's well being). How do I get through this?
posted by Ruki on Nov 23, 2016 - 20 answers

Do I save my father, or save myself? Can/should I do both?

My father was going to use all of the money in our joint savings account on a business. The money was originally intended for me; I just survived a mental health crisis that almost killed me, resigned from my job, broke up with my SO, and am recovering at one of my sister's homes in a new state. So I seized what was left of it And? From what I can extrapolate from a relative, now homeless and too prideful to go get help. I don't know what to do. Snowflakey and complications inside. [more inside]
posted by Ashen on Nov 20, 2016 - 26 answers

Should I ask my parents if they voted for Trump?

My dad and stepmom are historically conservative, but not Obama-hating Bible-thumpers. I am hoping they held their noses and voted for Hillary (or at least Johnson) but I fear the worst. I am a trans gay guy, which they know, and a Trump administration will be likely disaster for me and my friends. I have been physically ill with stress since the election and seeing my family is making me more anxious. Should I ask them? Or how can I function without knowing? [more inside]
posted by AFABulous on Nov 18, 2016 - 59 answers

Away We Go - It's The Final Countdown

We're looking to relocate our family and have narrowed down our options (with the help of Metafilter) to Buenos Aires (Argentina), Toronto (Canada) and Melbourne (Australia). We've done our due diligence with on-line research, but we'd like to hear some personal anecdotes/experiences from people who've lived, worked or traveled to any of the above. [more inside]
posted by givennamesurname on Nov 16, 2016 - 16 answers

Thanksgiving aka Presidential Debate round IV

Holding my head up high at Thanksgiving, with the majority of my relatives as Hillary supporters. But, of course, there's at least ONE person who is fiscally conservative and has been following conservative & libertarian blogs / news. I can't turn back time, but I intend to fight misinformation as much as I can at the dinner table. [more inside]
posted by hampanda on Nov 15, 2016 - 14 answers

Resources for student/family Thanksgiving discussions?

I'm on the faculty at a small liberal arts college, and I'm hoping you can point me toward resources to help students get through this post-election Thanksgiving break. [more inside]
posted by brozek on Nov 15, 2016 - 3 answers

Comfort when your hero "dies."

Snowflakes inside. [more inside]
posted by weeyin on Nov 13, 2016 - 14 answers

Does this behavior have an actual designation?

For my entire life, my dad has enjoyed (as far as I can tell) needling me, winding me up, essentially picking a fight over politics. When I heard this Story Corps story, I cried because it felt so close to home. [more inside]
posted by Medieval Maven on Nov 13, 2016 - 16 answers

How to Have Difficult Conversations

What do we already know about how to talk with people who are closed-minded to own own (admittedly pretty close-minded) points of view? [more inside]
posted by 10ch on Nov 11, 2016 - 7 answers

My mother is "Minnesota Nice" and it is driving me crazy

My mother (my kids' grandma) drives me crazy. She acts like she is interested in her grandkids, but honestly she wants nothing to do with them. How do I respond to her constant texts asking how everyone is doing if she really doesn't care and isn't going to help and is just texting out of guilt? [more inside]
posted by tangomija on Nov 11, 2016 - 48 answers

Understanding the Trump-Voting Relatives

Yes, I saw this question. My question is somewhat different - I AM planning on attending Thanksgiving with a mostly Trump-voting family, and am trying to figure out how to discuss the things that will undoubtedly come up in a way that allows me to understand their point of view (whether it's rational or not), and effectively communicate my point of view. [more inside]
posted by Jaclyn on Nov 10, 2016 - 24 answers

What practical things do I need to be concerned about?

South Asian female permanent resident with African American citizen partner - we have a child together. How concerned should I be about our future prospects in this country? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 10, 2016 - 27 answers

A Donald Trump Thanksgiving?

I'm in the "racists and murderers" group, according to our President elect, and though I am a US citizen, he has promised to deport 11 million people who look like me. I incredibly angry and upset at the results of the election. My family is not in my ethnic group, and voted for this person. I've been invited to Thanksgiving, which I go to pretty much every year. It's an eight hour drive each way, along with a long weekend, and I only see them a couple times per year. Snowflakes inside, but should I go? [more inside]
posted by cnc on Nov 9, 2016 - 36 answers

Away We Go - Again?

Almost three years ago, we asked for suggestions of family-friendly, queer friendly, and senior friendly locales to set down roots. In light of recent events we'd like to revisit the question, but with a specific focus on areas outside the USA - though if you know of/live in a particularly staunch bastion of of our criteria on our native soil, we'd still like to hear about it! [more inside]
posted by givennamesurname on Nov 9, 2016 - 13 answers

How to host a visit from my estranged father to meet his grandchild

I haven't spoken to my father in 10 years. I now have a 22 month old and emailed him saying "Hey you have a grandkid. Come visit our town if you want to meet him." He wants to come for 4 days and stay at our house. I already know such a request is more than I could handle but I don't know what to tell him is more appropriate or logistically feasible. How do I plan this visit so that I don't cry too much or feel suffocated by awful feelings the whole time? [more inside]
posted by beekept on Nov 7, 2016 - 15 answers

How to Preschooler: Getting Dressed Edition

Our charming and funny three-year-old has chosen getting dressed as her battlefield for asserting her independence. This is...not good. While we have plenty of time to eat and play and enjoy our family in the mornings. But lately we have been spending that time battling over whether mini-rainbow will wear clothes to school. We adults always win, but not without feeling like we have already maxed out our interpersonal patience reserves. We both work in people-centric jobs so it would be helpful if we could leave the house in a better interpersonal space. [more inside]
posted by songs_about_rainbows on Nov 7, 2016 - 33 answers

Relationship bridge with older siblings

I've always felt like the odd (wo)man out when it comes to my siblings. Past attempts to address this have not gone over well. We're all regionally co-located again and I'm upset by missing out on another meet up that I would have gleefully attended if invited. What can I do to change this situation? [more inside]
posted by toomanycurls on Nov 6, 2016 - 19 answers

The long (and expensive) road back to school...

As a follow up to my previous question, I'm thinking that going back to school for a masters in public health would be the most rewarding solution. Advice on weighing the pros and cons of this decision appreciated. [more inside]
posted by Everydayville on Nov 1, 2016 - 3 answers

Creating a grandparent journal... for someone else.

Help me help my aunt and uncle create a memory journal for their grandkids. Snowflakes inside. [more inside]
posted by Tamanna on Oct 26, 2016 - 4 answers

Al Capone's hidden son, or was this whole theory a fraud to sell books?

I fell down a bit of a Wikipedia rabbit hole today: Al Capone and his family. As in, whatever became of Al Capone's son? Along the way I unexpectedly found some stuff from 2009-2010 about a dude who claims he's Al Capone's grandson by a second and unacknowledged son, despite acknowledged Capone family members and assorted historians to the contrary. And other than several interviews from 2009-2010, plus a single book Christopher Knight Capone published in 2012, I can't find out much. [more inside]
posted by easily confused on Oct 25, 2016 - 3 answers

My parents forgot I was raped - really confused about how to proceed

So, in the wake of all the conversation about triggers/sexual assault happening in the USA right now, I shared an article about how this campaign has been demoralizing to survivors of sexual assault and briefly mentioned my own story (basically, I was sexually assaulted by an acquaintance. My parents responded to my post saying "WHY DID YOU NEVER TELL US?" The thing is, I did. 10 years ago. And 3 years ago. And I have no idea how to proceed. [more inside]
posted by socktothepuppet on Oct 25, 2016 - 29 answers

What you said upset me, because I actually do care

On the phone the other day, my mom, after complaining (perhaps justifiably) that I didn't call her enough, said, "Sometimes, I think you don't really care that you have a family." I can't stop thinking about this and I want to figure out a way to address it with her. [more inside]
posted by pretentious illiterate on Oct 24, 2016 - 28 answers

After seperation with child, do you consider ex family still?

I have been seperated, and have lived seperately for 3 months from my ex, we have a 14 month old daughter. Looking through my past questions, it's clear I have a hard time setting and sticking to boundaries, and especially hard now in this instance when I'm trying to co-parent with someone who acts as if we are still together, and tells his family we are, and doesn't really listen or believe me when I say I have nothing left to give or hope for. Am I terrible for feeling as if he is not part of my family and I don't want to be part of his due to the fact that we are seperated now? [more inside]
posted by MamaBee223 on Oct 24, 2016 - 22 answers

Raising kids in a ski/ mountain town vs a large city??

We recently moved from Brooklyn to Lake Tahoe and love it... but we're starting a family soon and i'm freaking out a little. Is a small mountain/ski town really a great place to raise kids? Is it "better" than raising them in NYC? [more inside]
posted by nightdoctress on Oct 23, 2016 - 16 answers

What to get for the man who is giving us everything

My wonderful father is turning 70 next year, and for his birthday he is flying a big group of family and friends to Mexico to celebrate. He is covering most of the costs for everyone. I would like to coordinate a gift from the group - something really special - and I need ideas! Details inside... [more inside]
posted by GoldenEel on Oct 20, 2016 - 9 answers

i've got major mama drama, and i need help

I grew up with two severely mentally ill parents, but my mother's rejection is what has scarred me for life. Details within.. [more inside]
posted by a knot unknown on Oct 17, 2016 - 17 answers

How can I support my girlfriend as she begins therapy?

She's never been and she wants to tackle a lot of deep issues. [more inside]
posted by morning_television on Oct 17, 2016 - 11 answers

What to ask an aging relative?

There is a project I have been pushing off for a long time now of sitting my loved ones down and interviewing them, maybe on tape. What questions am I going to most appreciate having their answers to, some day in the (hopefully distant) future when I can no longer ask them? [more inside]
posted by Cozybee on Oct 10, 2016 - 14 answers

You kiss your mother with that racist mouth?

At a family gathering, my brother made a casually racist joke to me about my partner, out of his earshot. How do I nip this in the bud? [more inside]
posted by Sara C. on Oct 4, 2016 - 22 answers

How can I deal with problematic family while being a good ally?

As has been noted in many places, including in a recent comment I made on the Blue, this idea of cutting problematic family members loose is weighing heavily on my mind. [more inside]
posted by witchen on Oct 3, 2016 - 46 answers

Surviving a family holiday with pregnant SIL after a miscarriage.

So this was me a month ago, but sadly my story doesn't have a happy ending. I got pregnant but miscarried shortly after. I'll soon-ish be spending a week on a family holiday with my pregnant sister-in-law and honestly don't know how I'll cope. [more inside]
posted by daybeforetheday on Oct 3, 2016 - 19 answers

How to deal with gun-loving dad as a liberal daughter who hates guns?

My staunch Republican father is even more right-wing and also suddenly into gun ownership in the midst of Trump madness leading up to the elections. I'm in my 30s, liberal, and always have been. I hate guns and violence. He knows this. I text and call him only rarely, but when I do he now manages to pop a note about the gun he bought, how much fun he had with friends shooting at a range over the weekend, etc... into every conversation. I almost think he does it because he thinks it's "funny" to get under my skin. Guns are more than just politics, though. They scare me. When he first told me he got a gun, I emailed him about my fears and linked him to an article about gun accident statistics. Of course, he had a rebuttal for it all and says he's very safe with it, all of that. So far my tactic has been to stay silent if it's in a text (I just don't reply) or I'll say "OK" and move the conversation along to something else if it's over the phone. But the whole thing is tiresome. How do I get this all to stop? How do I respond to him when he tells me about his shooting range plans? [more inside]
posted by figgy on Oct 2, 2016 - 27 answers

Sister's Wedding Present

Best wedding present you received from a sibling or other close family member? [more inside]
posted by essenescence on Sep 30, 2016 - 24 answers

Ideas/advice for pain-free family visits

I live in a different country than my parents and in-laws, and my wife and kid are able to visit once a year. How can we restructure this annual trip home to maximize quality time without everyone going nuts/bananas? Details inside! [more inside]
posted by elected_potato on Sep 29, 2016 - 13 answers

Where to do a family dinner in Toronto, with a moblity impaired senior?

My brother is turning 60 in late November, so we want to do a family dinner out. There will be 3 siblings and spouses, 4 teens 15-19, one a vegetarian, and our mother. She's 89 years old, with very limited mobility. (walker with help, but no wheelchair) [more inside]
posted by Pablo MacWilliams on Sep 22, 2016 - 4 answers

Erasing myself from the narrative

I need a divorce from what's left of my family. I just can't figure out how to do it. The ending is the part I always thought would be easiest, but it turns out to be worse than the waiting part was. [more inside]
posted by kythuen on Sep 21, 2016 - 22 answers

MIL is sick and won't let FIL leave her side

I am looking for suggestions on how to help. My husband's family seems to be stuck in a pattern. His parents are older and his mother's anxiety is so bad that she can't be left alone for a minute. [more inside]
posted by crunchy_cereals on Sep 20, 2016 - 14 answers

At almost 25, my former life is falling away - how can I cope better?

I've lost friends to life changes and two people to bereavement. Childhood is officially over, adulthood is here to stay. How do I find some comfort? [more inside]
posted by Ariel432 on Sep 20, 2016 - 7 answers

Picasa alternative or DIY solution to share photos & videos?

I used to use Picasa to share family photos and videos. Then I switched to Dropbox. But now Dropbox doesn't have comments on photos anymore, so I'm looking for a better slideshow/gallery solution for the grandparents. [more inside]
posted by gakiko on Sep 14, 2016 - 6 answers

How can I learn to stop and smell the roses?

Like most human beings, there are people and things I cherish. Why do I keep neglecting them in favor of work and school? I am talking about basic things like eating for example. Is there anything I can do to get my priorities straight? [more inside]
posted by Tarumba on Sep 10, 2016 - 15 answers

Help me plan a whirlwind tour of London

We're flying into Gatwick on a Friday morning in October and heading out Sunday to visit family in Cardiff. Looking for advice on everything in between. Where to stay? Where to eat? What to do? And how to get around? [more inside]
posted by samhyland on Aug 30, 2016 - 12 answers

New friend who is obsessed with her health issue

New friend is obsessed with her rare health issue. I need to set some boundaries for discussions around this. Special snowflake details below :) [more inside]
posted by JoannaC on Aug 28, 2016 - 18 answers

Post-partum disappointment with family

I have a beautiful baby girl who I love like crazy but the circumstances surrounding my pregnancy, her birth and the aftermath were more stressful than I anticipated and I feel some residual resentment towards my family for not being more supportive. [more inside]
posted by kat518 on Aug 27, 2016 - 19 answers

How do I deal with this relative? It's complicated.

My mother's (much younger) cousin V is a doctor. She moved to the US from Britain this year. When my father was hospitalized, she and another couple of my mother's cousins spent a week with us. I'm grateful for what she did for our family during that time, but V's behavior towards me was sometimes humiliating and condescending. I need help figuring out how to manage my relationship with her going forward because now that I live near my parents again, I'll see her more regularly than I'd like. [more inside]
posted by orangutan on Aug 27, 2016 - 38 answers

Helping adult family with mental health

Interested in hearing from 1) adults who have suffered from mental health issues for most/major part of their lives (depression/schizophrenia in particular) and were persuaded* by family to seek help (aka go to a psychiatrist). 2) family of the adult who was suffering from mental health issues and recognised that something was off/not quite right/blatantly bizarre/had classic symptoms of mental health issues (isolation, hygiene, job loss, distorted thinking and more). Additional twist- the adult in question can't stand immediate family and is convinced they are "toxic". [more inside]
posted by xm on Aug 27, 2016 - 13 answers

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