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Coping without having parents?

Coping without parents in your adult life? [more inside]
posted by thelivingsea on Feb 21, 2015 - 21 answers

All aboard the therapy bus

How do I help my girlfriend get the help she needs? [more inside]
posted by switcheroo on Feb 10, 2015 - 18 answers

Looking for info on the impact of having children on happiness

Does having children impact men and women's happiness differently? [more inside]
posted by orsonet on Jan 23, 2015 - 5 answers

Buying Life Insurance and Funeral Insurance for Parents?

Is there a way I can purchase life insurance and/or funeral insurance for my parents, and if so, which would be the best way to do it? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 20, 2015 - 4 answers

affectionate videos for a toddler

I'd like to show my toddler videos/tv shows/movies/books that include genuine affection - parents, families, friends all giving hugs or smiles or other close, positive interactions. Any good ideas? [more inside]
posted by jillithd on Jan 16, 2015 - 17 answers

What can my parents do in NYC this Saturday?

My parents will be in NYC this Saturday and Sunday, to celebrate their anniversary. They already have a hotel room in Midtown East. What's a fun activity/show they can attend that isn't too expensive? [more inside]
posted by silverstatue on Jan 14, 2015 - 8 answers

Talking to My Narcissist Parents After a Psych Hospitalization

I've posted here plenty seeking help related to mental health issues (bipolar depression, PTSD, irritability) and also with help talking to my parents. Now those two have merged and I'm trying to figure out how to talk to them while I am also readjusting to the outside world after spending 8 days in an inpatient psych ward. That readjustment is so very hard, and I don't want them pushing my buttons so I have to go back. I'm hoping someone here can help me strategize. Here's what's going on, with apologies for the length. [more inside]
posted by mermaidcafe on Jan 8, 2015 - 23 answers

Perfect storm of familial dysfunctionality--need solutions for sanity

Family dynamics are slowly driving me up the wall, but I can't bear to let things wind destructively. How can I cope without being caught in the storm? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 2, 2015 - 13 answers

My dad uses meth and I don't know what to do.

I just found out my dad does meth and I don't know how to approach him and/or his fiancé. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 31, 2014 - 24 answers

Do I put myself on hold to honor my parents wishes?

I have a great guy and we see a life together, I have the perfect opportunity to move closer to him and growing my career at the same time- however the parents are not cool with it all. Details below. [more inside]
posted by BeSumr on Dec 25, 2014 - 60 answers

Family Drama Filter: Help me distance myself from a parent

I've come to realize over the years that while I love my father, I am so different from him, and do not share his and his wife's (he is remarried) lifestyle and values and really wish I could come to accept it and completely distance myself from them. Please help me do this. [more inside]
posted by SanSebastien on Dec 21, 2014 - 7 answers

Help with belligerent but not elderly Parent

My father is 58 years old and recently diagnosed with type 2 diabetes. He also may have issues with his colon but that hasn't been confirmed. He has become very aggresive, angry and hostile towards me and my family since the diagnosis. He has a history of acting like this in times of high stress but now he is been extra hurtful. As a result I have stopped talking to him. I feel bad about not being there for him in this difficult time but feel I still deserve respect and that he should be responsible for his words. How do I deal with this? [more inside]
posted by The1andonly on Dec 19, 2014 - 15 answers

Sarasota downtown or "nice walks" lodging with kitchen-type facilities?

Sarasota Where-To-Stay: We want to stay in Sarasota, Florida, USA, Dec. 27-30 to visit with my dude's parents. Can anybody recommend a nice place to stay with kitchenette-type facilities (i.e., at least refrigerator/microwave - or maybe a friendly BNB) with _somewhere_ nice to walk, i.e., not located on a high-traffic road with nothing nearby but uninteresting industrial stuff, nail salons, or chain stores? I'm working with a travel agent, and have looked around a bit myself, so this is a long shot. [more inside]
posted by amtho on Dec 1, 2014 - 3 answers

Should I avoid supporting my aging father?

My father is aging, with heart problems and developing dementia. I am generally a conscientious person, but I'm staring down the necessity of supporting him like the barrel of a gun. Special snowflake details inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 13, 2014 - 39 answers

Imposter syndrome on a massive scale

I'll be turning 25 in two months' time. For a variety of reasons, some of which can be teased out with a thorough reading of my ask history ( chief among them the fall-out of a cerebral palsy diagnosis, namely a llifelong sense of otherness and a lack of familiarity with what it means to be the author of one's own life), I feel like there's a huge discrepancy between that number and the ccoping skills, initative, emotional balance and vision for the future that I have to show for it ( a lack thereof, in my case). How do I adult when I feel so stunted? Vaguely Freudian wall of snowflakes inside. [more inside]
posted by marsbar77 on Nov 2, 2014 - 14 answers

Tracking Parental Mobile

Is keeping a copy of a Parent's iTunes password ok - so we can track them via iDevice without their knowledge in an emergency. Fill bit icky about it - but special snowflake details inside [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 20, 2014 - 14 answers

Hereditary plate of beans: coping strats for overthinking family.

My overthinking things was making me unhappy... so I cut way back on it, and now I'm enjoying life more. Yay! But now I'm way less tolerant of the same behavior in family and loved ones; trying to ignore it leads to awkward, anxiety-producing silences. Boo. Insert your advice here. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 9, 2014 - 6 answers

Helping my mum cope with my father's death

My father passed away two days ago of a sudden heart attack. I'm in my late twenties and wondering how to go about supporting my mother through this nightmare. [more inside]
posted by miaow on Oct 1, 2014 - 20 answers

I strongly advise you to stop giving me advice!

Please help me come up with some polite but firm ways of asking my father to stop giving me nearly constant unsolicited advice. I see him so rarely as we live in different countries, and I don't want the rest of his visit to be ruined. [more inside]
posted by hazyjane on Sep 28, 2014 - 30 answers

Plan to move to across the country for love. How do I tell my parents?

Since having a manic episode about a year and a half ago, my parents started treating me like I was a minor again (I'm almost 30 now). How do I most respectfully tell them that I'm am going to move without turning it into "I'M NOT ASKING FOR PERMISSION, DAMMIT: I'M MOVING AND YOU CAN'T STOP ME"? Thanks, mefites. [more inside]
posted by defmute on Sep 25, 2014 - 33 answers

My mother is financially irresponsible, is there anything I can do?

My mother is likely to have a lot of upcoming expenses; she is nearing retirement age, she has significant health problems, and she needs to sell a house that needs a lot of expensive repairs. But she is spending amazing amounts of money on things she doesn't need, and I am really worried about her future. I am living paycheck-to-paycheck and won't be able to help her at all. Can I or should I say anything? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 24, 2014 - 15 answers

Parental drama - and we're supposedly adults.

My (divorced) father is having a family party in a few weeks to celebrate his retirement. Due to recent actions he has taken against my mother, my younger brother will not attend, and is in fact not speaking to our father right now. Several people at the party are liable to bring this all up. How do I diffuse this drama so it doesn't blow up? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 24, 2014 - 42 answers

Can/Should We Get Past This?

We moved in together, but things are going poorly. Not sure where to go from here. [more inside]
posted by Gray Skies on Sep 17, 2014 - 39 answers

Screen vs physical books: parents modeling reading

Looking for writing (books, articles, blog posts, etc) about parents reading on screens instead of in physical books, and how that might impact kids' impressions of reading [more inside]
posted by Ideal Impulse on Sep 7, 2014 - 2 answers

Help me prevent parental visit from turning into an apocalyptic event

Emotionally abusive parents are coming to visit. Difficulty level: boyfriend introduction. How do I deal with the fallout? [more inside]
posted by phoenix_rising on Aug 29, 2014 - 67 answers

Spending quality time with my parents

My parents, while still active (in their 50s), are getting older and some days I feel acutely aware that time is finite. How can I best spend time with my parents and show them that I care about them and that I am grateful for all they have done for me? This can include gifts they might appreciate, but I'm mostly asking about things I can do to maximize the quality of the time and the relationship I have with my parents. [more inside]
posted by gemutlichkeit on Aug 23, 2014 - 21 answers

Setting parental boundaries

My father and I have a complicated history that colors our present relationship. Help me figure out how to set compassionate boundaries. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 19, 2014 - 11 answers

How to talk to my parents about my special needs brother

I (24yo F) live independently here in DC and have a good life. I have a great full-time job that pays pretty well for someone my age, go to grad school part time, and have a happy social life. I have an excellent relationship with my parents, but I need to talk to them about how my special needs sibling (21yo M) affects my life in the present and the future. I get along very well with my parents, but I'm not sure how to broach this topic in a way that is productive and respectful. [more inside]
posted by schroedingersgirl on Aug 19, 2014 - 24 answers

How to beat new-parent isolation

I'm a few months out from having my first kid. I'll be staying home to care for the child for at least the first year, and the thing that scares me the most is how many parents who did the same thing report feelings of isolation and loneliness. How can I minimize this in my life? [more inside]
posted by ohisee on Aug 18, 2014 - 21 answers

Examples of adults complaining about the younger generation?

I am trying to find examples (essays, articles, etc.) of previous generations complaining about the work ethic of the younger generation. It doesn't matter how far back it i
posted by cherrybounce on Aug 16, 2014 - 11 answers

Immigrant parents won't drop the subject of their former country, help

It's been 32 year since they immigrated to this country, but pretty much the one and only thing my family ever talks about is the home country, and it drives me crazy. I can't change them, but I could probably handle it better. Details and the plea for help within. [more inside]
posted by tumbleweedjack on Aug 15, 2014 - 31 answers

Help my aging parents slow down

Any advice on how to convince my active, aging parents to slow down a bit and find that right balance between being active and overactive? [more inside]
posted by kalimotxero on Aug 5, 2014 - 24 answers

Keeping a kid entertained during grown-up dinners?

In the next few weeks, I will need to attend a series of late-running formal dinners... with a five-year-old in tow. Please recommend your most magical, engrossing, dinner-table-friendly activity books, games, small toys, etc. for the early school-aged set, so we can keep her quietly in her seat and out of everyone's hair. [more inside]
posted by Bardolph on Aug 4, 2014 - 28 answers

Tell me again why teenagers shouldn't be having sex.

My 15-yr old daughter recently told me she has been having sex with her boyfriend of 10 months (also 15 y.o.) [more inside]
posted by cherrybounce on Jul 28, 2014 - 78 answers

Kids flying from the US to the UK with an adult who isn't their parent

What precautions, if any, need to be taken in this situation? [more inside]
posted by terretu on Jul 25, 2014 - 12 answers

Family causes anxiety and I can't visit them.

My family causes me a lot of anxiety, to the point that staying away from them is a key part of keeping my sanity. They don't understand why I don't visit and won't discuss with me. How do I deal with the residual guilt? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 21, 2014 - 19 answers

My parents suck.

My parents are incredibly rude narcissists. This time they've turned their focus on my sister. What can I do to support her through this? [more inside]
posted by floweredfish on Jul 20, 2014 - 17 answers

My parents are slobs and it's making me sick.

I live about five hours away from my parents and visit them frequently. However, their house is so dusty and in such disrepair that the visits are exacting a toll. I have dust allergies that go berserk in their house, and my dust-free sleeping solution (air mattress) is starting to hurt my back. Whenever I try to raise these problems with them, I get a million reasons why nothing can be fixed, and often a giant guilt trip to boot. Not visiting: not an option. Inside: details to make Wilson Bentley proud. [more inside]
posted by the_blizz on Jul 20, 2014 - 44 answers

Web developer salaries: help me distinguish hyperbole from reality

I'm considering a career change into web development and I'm hoping AskMe can help me sort through the abundance of relevant information and get a sense of what reasonable expectations might be. To put it succinctly, I'd like to make about $75-80k a year so that I can support my parents while still being able to save money for my own future. Is it probable for a self-taught developer to earn a salary in this range? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 12, 2014 - 9 answers

Uploading photos to Facebook for the computer unsavvy

My dad is a HUGE fan of Facebook. However he's not hugely competent with computers. He's now asking how he can upload photos from his most recent holidays for his friends to see. There are over a thousand photos in the album. How can we streamline this? [more inside]
posted by roshy on Jun 9, 2014 - 10 answers

Great lenguage irrelevat activities?

My wife is finally going to meet my family. Problem, they don't speak English, She doesn't speak Russian. What are good non speech dependent fun activities we can all do? [more inside]
posted by Sentus on Jun 9, 2014 - 28 answers

How to stop needing my parents' approval?

I am trying to become more emotionally independent from my parents. I had a very traumatic experience with them many years ago, and I don't know how to resolve the lingering insecurity. Due to the nature of the trauma, I've had a lot of trouble using therapy to resolve this issue. What can I do to stop craving their approval? [more inside]
posted by elasticExplosive on May 29, 2014 - 14 answers

What's normal, in an abnormal situation? NICU edition.

Help me better understand our NICU experience last year. Our baby was overall healthy (just early), and he's doing great. But as my second pregnancy progresses, I've been thinking about some residual anxiety and discomfort I have that comes up when I think about my son's time in the NICU and how we felt we were treated. Since our odds of ending up there with #2 are increased, just by the fact of #1 being early, I'd like to be prepared just in case. So I'm interested in perspectives/experiences from anyone who's spent some time in a NICU, as a parent, volunteer, employee, whatever. [more inside]
posted by pennypiper on May 29, 2014 - 22 answers

Last minute parent gift question - liquor edition

Last minute help needed for a birthday and mother's day gift for my mom and dad - fancy alcohol advice needed. [more inside]
posted by ghostbikes on May 8, 2014 - 13 answers

How much did I contribute to my mom staying in her abusive marriage?

My dad is verbally abusive. My mother told me many times as a child that she want to divorce him but is staying for the kids. She said that when I grew up, she would leave my dad and come live with me forever. When I became an adult, I decided I don't want my mom living with me for the rest of my life. She is still with my dad, being verbally abused. Did I cause her to stay in her abusive marriage because I changed my mind? [more inside]
posted by cheesecake on May 7, 2014 - 60 answers

So the guy fills his foot with diesel fuel and...

When I was very young, I once heard my late father tell a friend a joke that was in the first person. Being an impressionable kid, I took it as a true story, to the point of retelling it at a family gathering only to have my father swoop in and scoop me up before I could finish the (presumably at least a little off-color) punchline. I remember his horror at seeing my repeat the joke, but I'm fuzzy on the setup and I have no recollection at all of the punchline. All I remember is that it involved a construction worker who steps on a nail that goes right through his foot and a cagey older worker who advises him to "fill the hole with diesel fuel." Does anyone know this joke?
posted by DirtyOldTown on Apr 28, 2014 - 1 answer

Healing and forgiving after traumatic childhood?

There are possible [triggers] inside. I'd like advice and resources on healing and reconnecting after past familial abuse, when I want to bond with my family and keep them in my life. [more inside]
posted by Pericardium on Apr 23, 2014 - 14 answers

Lovely bed and breakfast in the lower Hudson Valley?

I'd like to treat my parents to a night/weekend at a bed and breakfast, somewhere within an hour of the New Paltz/Kingston area of upstate NY. Any suggestions? [more inside]
posted by silverstatue on Apr 22, 2014 - 7 answers

Folks = parents?

Where you live, or where you grew up, do people commonly refer to their parents as "my folks"? Would that phrasing sound odd to you, or stand out in any way, if, say, a coworker used it? [more inside]
posted by mudpuppie on Apr 21, 2014 - 89 answers

99% chance of Alzheimer's Disease

Chatting casually with a bioinformatician yesterday, I was told that I have 99% chance of developing Alzheimer’s disease, based only on my mother and father’s nationalities. How should I take this claim? [more inside]
posted by mister_kaupungister on Apr 21, 2014 - 27 answers

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