How do I let someone down easy?
April 14, 2008 12:49 PM Subscribe
BreakupFilter: How do I let someone down easy? How would you prefer to be told that someone just isn't that into you?
posted by anonymous to human relations (27 answers total) 48 users marked this as a favorite
I've seen a lot of questions about dealing with being dumped, but haven't noticed much advice from the other perspective.
The quick background: I've been seeing a guy for a few months; on paper, we look like a good match--we have a lot of the same interests--and all my friends who have met him adore him, but I've come to realize I just don't enjoy spending time with him. It's not something I'm going to "get over," as my friends think...it's just clear to me we're not going to work out.
One point of concern for me is that he's the type that gets very attached very quickly, so while I'd like to end it before he makes any surprise plans for us, I also don't want to hurt him.
Bonus complication: he's been out of town for work for a bit, so how can I express that I am interested in how his trip went while also making it clear that I'm no longer interested romantically?