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October 22

Philly-area Rehab Centers

My friend's son (8yo) was in a serious accident last weekend and sustained injury to the right side of his brain stem, resulting in extremely limited mobility on his left side. He's in the trauma unit at CHOP, but they will be moving him to an inpatient rehab facility in the next few days and the parents are looking for a comparison of two possible facilities. [more inside]
posted by jshort to Health & Fitness at 6:38 AM - 0 answers

What's the best low-cost mini-PC/HTPC solution in 2014?

My wife and I watch a little bit of TV and are trying to figure out if there's a solution that uses the least amount of hardware and that's affordable for us. We are neither video nor audiophiles and thus 1080p etc. is not a crucial component for us, over minimizing cost, hardware and ease. [more inside]
posted by buoys in the hood to Technology at 6:10 AM - 4 answers

How to stop being polite and start getting real

I consider myself an exceedingly polite and considerate person, but often this makes me seem overly formal and has the (unintended?) effect of keeping people at arms' length. How can I reduce this behavior and act more casual and normal with people? [more inside]
posted by anonymous to Human Relations at 6:08 AM - 3 answers

When to step in for a dog

I'm pretty sure my boyfriend's dog has an ear infection. How to proceed? [more inside]
posted by anonymous to Pets & Animals at 6:07 AM - 6 answers

What if it doesn't help?

This is a sensitive question about childhood sexual abuse and whether to tell or not tell my husband, 25 year after the core of the incidents. [more inside]
posted by anonymous to Human Relations at 2:43 AM - 11 answers

Productivity coaching via phone?

I've hit a slump. I am in a very high performing profession in an executive role, but my productivity has plummeted. I'm looking to find a phone coaching resource to keep me on my game. [more inside]
posted by anonymous to Work & Money at 2:42 AM - 4 answers

Simple and practical steps to regain a sense of wonder and possibility

I was reflecting last week on how I felt last time I fell in love. Aside from a motherload of the strong feelings for the other person, I remember a strong sense of wonder and possibility. I'd like to feel this way again - but without the need to fall in love with someone. [more inside]
posted by Gwendoline Mary to Grab Bag at 2:26 AM - 10 answers

October 21

How can I develop emotional resilience, in a teaching context?

As a graduate teacher assigned to a difficult class, I felt like the students were personally attacking me. The general advice given to me was "Don't let it get to you" or even "Don't let it show if it does". How do you do that? More info inside. [more inside]
posted by tworedshoes to Human Relations at 11:44 PM - 9 answers

what shall i do with the ex i work with in the same office 3 feet away?

my ex and i have been working together for 3 or 4 years, and we dated for 1.5 year. he broke up with me a year ago. the post break up year is full of drama. i couldn't let go. the chemistry we had was awesome, and before we dated we used to be the best friends at work. sex is mind blowing good too. at the spot when we broke up we were pretty seriously. neither of us could actually move on given the fact we still see each other everyday. the reason why neither of us has left the company yet is because both of us got some tremendous opportunity or reward for our hard working in the past years for this company. i can't give it up for this break up. so i stuck to it for a year. [more inside]
posted by Freyaaaa to Human Relations at 11:32 PM - 8 answers

Full-blown panic mode

Lost job. Without a net. I am SO screwed... [more inside]
posted by Soap D. Spencer to Work & Money at 10:56 PM - 18 answers

Deep inhalation causing me to feel weak (& the breaths are 'shuddering')

Wondering if anyone can help me identify the cause of this sudden change to my breathing? I don't think it's serious, and it seems to be subsiding somewhat, but I'm very curious about this phenomenon right now. Googling didn't help. Personal details inside. [more inside]
posted by onehundredand80 to Health & Fitness at 10:01 PM - 4 answers

Toaster oven or panini press?

Our toaster oven is about to die, and we're considering replacing it with a panini press. We use the toaster oven for: toast, bagels, sausages, baking microwaved potatoes, mostly for single people meals when we don't want to heat up the big oven. We grill in the oven or a cast-iron grill pan but the press looks like it'd be better. We're concerned about ease of cleaning (we don't clean our toaster except to replace the foil lining when it gets gah) and whether it can make regular toast and baked potatoes. Small kitchen so we don't want to get both. Advice?
posted by viggorlijah to Food & Drink at 8:48 PM - 17 answers

Grandpa's Old Spice and grandson's Ax Body Spray

I distinctly remember Drakkar Noir as being the cologne of choice in my high school years, and suspected that it was a kind of rite of passage to manhood. I don't think that many of my male classmates actually had to shave often enough to justify the purchase of other fragranced items, but they definitely sprayed Cool Water and Drakkar Noir when going to dances or on dates. Is this something that young guys still do and why did everyone in my age group (mid-30s) stop wearing cologne? Is there a U curve to men's fragrance usage over time? Are guys in their late teens and retirees over 70 years of age the most likely fragrance wearers or is that just a sampling error in my universe? What are the social norms for using cologne? How have those norms changed over the last 50 years?
posted by spamandkimchi to Clothing, Beauty, & Fashion at 8:48 PM - 14 answers

Southwest US in February -- where to go?

We (my wife and I, that is) are tossing around the idea of a trip somewhere to the Southwest in February, when I get a week off from teaching and we'll need a week off from winter. Ideally with a mix of the outdoorsy and time spent in nice scenic towns with good (vegetarian-friendly) food, on a non-lavish budget. Never been anywhere in that part of the world. Where should we go and what should we see? [more inside]
posted by irrelephant to Travel & Transportation at 8:16 PM - 11 answers

Start walkin'.

I'm a guy in Los Angeles. I need some sexy, funky, S&M/leather-friendly, ankle-height black boots for rocking out on go-go platforms, cruising around at Burning Man, and generally pairing up with scandalous outfits at club nights. My budget could be up to $350 for the right pair. In-store only, because I'd really like to try them on. Where shall I go?
posted by mykescipark to Shopping at 8:09 PM - 7 answers

Ruud furnace clicks

We have a Ruud Achiever 90 Plus with variable speed motor. It works great heating up the house, but when it's trying to maintain the temperature (say it's set for 65 and it's currently 65), it constantly clicks. The sound is very annoying. Does anyone know what would cause this? [more inside]
posted by joebakes to Home & Garden at 7:38 PM - 4 answers

Data Base Administrators: Please lend a hand to a new assistant DBA

Quick question about using MS ACCESS. Can you direct me to an online tutorial that quickly illustrates how to create or edit/manipulate and an existing report from excel data? I do have an existing report that can probably be modified, but I've never used access before. [more inside]
posted by snsranch to Work & Money at 7:03 PM - 3 answers

High processor usage for Chrome under OS X Yosemite.

How can I stop Chrome from killing my battery? [more inside]
posted by modernnomad to Computers & Internet at 6:37 PM - 9 answers

"What has Luis Suarez done now?!"

I want to be Vampire Luis Suarez for Halloween. I have the soccer kit, I have the fangs, I have the soccer ball. I just need some good fake blood to put around my mouth - blood that won't stain a polyester soccer shirt. [more inside]
posted by spinifex23 to Sports, Hobbies, & Recreation at 6:22 PM - 7 answers

Can I eat it, eggy edition?

I'm a dummy and left 2 dozen raw eggs in the carton overnight in my car; I forgot to bring them in after grocery shopping. They've been unrefrigerated for about 24 hours, and my car's been in various garages the whole time, probably 15-20 C. The carton says to keep refrigerated, but do they really mean it? [more inside]
posted by cgg to Health & Fitness at 6:21 PM - 29 answers

Naming my new kittens after Game of Thrones characters-No Spoilers!

Hi, after the sudden and unexpected death of our beloved pet cat on Sunday, we've decided to adopt two kittens. We are finalists for the adoption and will meet them on Saturday. The kitten we are basing the adoption around is a white male shorthair. We are working on finding him a littermate or bonded kitten to come home with him. I want to name him Jon Snow after the Game of Thrones character because he is one of my favorite characters (also...winter is coming, people!). [more inside]
posted by Goldfinch to Pets & Animals at 5:58 PM - 9 answers

But which John?

I'm currently using Facebook group chats in some of my community organizational work. The "seen by" function is really helpful for more timely items, but the problem is that it only shows first names - but we often have multiple people in the group with the same first name. Is there a way to tell which John or Jane has seen the message? Googlefu is failing me.
posted by Conspire to Computers & Internet at 5:56 PM - 2 answers

Do I want a unicorn? To-do lists (Oct-2014).

Looking for a cross-platform to-do list/outliner with the option to work offline/save locally on desktop (Mac) and Android, and to export to Google Calendar and Excel (or Word) for Mac 2011. I hate Evernote. More within! [more inside]
posted by cotton dress sock to Computers & Internet at 5:25 PM - 4 answers

Car engine smoking on engine surface after repair--normal?

I had some work done on my car today. It's a 1994 Nissan Altima. I had a belt and pulley replaced, the engine gasket replaced, and the plugs and wires replaced. The oil was changed as well. Oil had leaked through the gasket and gotten on the engine, which they cleaned off. I drove 10 miles with no problems. [more inside]
posted by Slinga to Travel & Transportation at 5:07 PM - 3 answers

Name that snake.

What kind of snake is this? My son captured a video of it today on the way home from school. Rattlesnake? King snake? Poisonous or not? It's moving its tail like a rattler but it otherwise doesn't look like any i've seen. Video here. This was in southern Utah. (And yes, he's been warned about approaching snakes in future...)
posted by mmoncur to Pets & Animals at 4:25 PM - 10 answers

Lodging options in the Florida Keys, late December?

We have tickets to fly to Fort Lauderdale in late December and are planning on driving south and spending the week in the Florida Keys. Looking for lodging recommendations, preferably with kitchen facilities. [more inside]
posted by mcstayinskool to Travel & Transportation at 2:47 PM - 2 answers

Stop hurting your sister!

11 month old "Grabby" touches 3,5 year old "Argh"'s toys, Argh reacts by pushing or dragging Grabby away. Inevitably, Grabby ends up hurt. Mom yells, banishes Argh to room. Everyone feels bad. Cycle repeats. Oviously, Mom is Doing It Wrong. What now? [more inside]
posted by Omnomnom to Human Relations at 2:05 PM - 33 answers

What does skin biopsy reveal in lab tests?

Hi MeFi, I've asked about skin issues before sometime last year and I still haven't found what it could be. My dermatologist said that I have become immune/resistant to topical treatments (benzyl perox, clindamycin, clindamycin, erythromycin) and that he needed to take a sample and conduct a skin biopsy. On a first whim, he said I likely have 'Folliculitis' but he's not sure since my skin didn't respond to topical treatments. So today he did a skin sample and I'm just curious to what exactly do lab-results show when it comes to skin biopsy. Do they look for certain bacteria or do they get an overall result of what has been in my body as far as food, drugs, liquids go? All I really use 'recreationally' is marijuana through a vaporizer to treat my neck pain but this dermatologist is sorta ultra-conservative and a friend of the family so I'd hate have to explain stupid things to him should they even come up during the test results. TL;dr - Do Skin Biopsy lab results show drug use or just skin bacteria? Thanks everyone!
posted by bostonhill to Health & Fitness at 1:58 PM - 6 answers

Disneyland Filter: Disney-themed iPhone game app to play in queues?

Having read every previous wonderful Ask about Disneyland in Anaheim, CA, I've discovered that some of the game apps that folks here recommended a few years ago are now nowhere to be found on iTunes or the App Store, etc. Please help me find a cool, Disneyland-themed app to play on my iPhone with my 7-year-old DS while we wait in the lines during our upcoming trip to Disneyland. [more inside]
posted by hush to Computers & Internet at 1:23 PM - 4 answers

The best web toys

I'm looking for the best browser-based toys and/or games that encourage exploration or play without necessarily having a goal or purpose. [more inside]
posted by overeducated_alligator to Sports, Hobbies, & Recreation at 1:17 PM - 6 answers

How to fairly divide time between child and new husband?

I recently got married, having been a single parent beforehand for a long time. My daughter is used to a lot more of my time than she gets now. But my new husband has also never raised a child before and is also used to getting more time from partners than he gets now. How can I fairly resolve this? I feel like I'm being torn down the middle. [more inside]
posted by sockeroonie to Human Relations at 1:16 PM - 34 answers

Apportioning ownership to creative ideas polished through collaboration

For very low budget, collaborative efforts, where the script is an outline and you are told to act like yourself, where there is no pay and no craft services and you are doing it because you enjoy being together, how is ownership usually apportioned? [more inside]
posted by GregorWill to Media & Arts at 1:01 PM - 8 answers

Job Search Blues

I've been looking for a "real job" (as they say) in my field since May and, honestly, I've had no luck so far. I've had a handful of interviews, but nothing beyond that. Now that it's October and just over five months since I've finished my program I am feeling supremely depressed about this job search. [more inside]
posted by modesty.blaise to Work & Money at 12:55 PM - 11 answers

What's the best place to buy a heritage turkey in Los Angeles?

Planning ahead for Thanksgiving dinner in a new city. On Long Island my parents used to go to a local turkey farm where you could choose your bird and they'd slaughter it fresh for you. I'd love something similar in the Los Angeles area; failing that, I'm looking for the best place where I can reserve a fresh, heritage bird -- happy to pay extra for it.
posted by tweebiscuit to Food & Drink at 12:50 PM - 6 answers

DIY: Old ceiling light, no ground -- what's the worst that can happen?

I replaced a ceiling light in a 1950's-wired apartment. There are insulated black and neutral wires, but no ground connection (fixture has ground wire but just connected it to mounting bar). If wired backwards, what happens when I flip the switch? When I touch the fixture while power and/or switch are on? [more inside]
posted by ArgyleGargoyle to Home & Garden at 12:13 PM - 10 answers

Matching a sport coat with pants

How do you match a sport coat worn with a dress shirt (without a tie) to pants (not jeans)? [more inside]
posted by roaring beast to Clothing, Beauty, & Fashion at 12:09 PM - 9 answers

Lunch Rotation Apps

I have a rotation of about 15 places to eat for lunch. I'd like an app that does the following: Ranks the APPs in any order, length of time (I can create the order). Whenever I eat at one of the places, I check it off and it goes back to the bottom. This exist? I have an iPhone
posted by sandmanwv to Food & Drink at 11:56 AM - 4 answers

What are the risks/rewards to moving to a new town and "starting over"?

Married couple with small child considering moving several hours away from "home". Pros/Cons/Things to consider? [more inside]
posted by Sara_NOT_Sarah to Human Relations at 11:46 AM - 22 answers

Help me identify this bar/citrus knife!

I'm trying to track down a specific bar or citrus knife that has an unusual, square shape. [more inside]
posted by gumtree to Food & Drink at 11:39 AM - 2 answers

ADHD meds making me sleepy--but only sometimes.

Vyvanse makes me debilitatingly sleepy, but only occasionally. Has this happened to you? Is there another medication option I should try? [more inside]
posted by cosmic osmo to Health & Fitness at 11:33 AM - 5 answers

Inexpensive sources of freeze dried meat vegetables?

I am making pouches of "just add hot water" meals, and find most freeze dried food to be very expensive-- a serving of spinach could easily cost 4-5 dollars, if I buy a big bag! Where can I find some cheaper alternatives? [more inside]
posted by atetrachordofthree to Food & Drink at 11:21 AM - 8 answers

Wawanesa or Mercury car insurance

Has anyone in California used Wawanesa or Mercury car insurance? They're offering significantly lower rates than the big guys but are they sketchy? [more inside]
posted by lewedswiver to Travel & Transportation at 11:07 AM - 7 answers

Aftermath of a fire

A fire broke out in my apartment early Sunday morning. Thankfully, my cat and I both escaped (we both were treated for smoke inhalation) and I had a neighbor call 911. Now I have a ton of things to do as I try to move forward, and I'm hoping some of you know of helpful resources and ideas. ( The Red Cross is taking care of my immediate needs.) More info below. [more inside]
posted by mermaidcafe to Grab Bag at 10:30 AM - 10 answers

Who leases a car for 15 years?

Back in June I bought a "special interest" car, MY '85. The story from the seller was that it was originally his neighbor's car since new, and when the neighbor passed away, the car was sold to his brother, then to him. Autocheck and Carfax, though, report the car as a leased vehicle as late as 1999. Who leases a car for 15 years? Or, once a lease, it always gets reported as a lease? Original titling state is Ohio. [more inside]
posted by hwyengr to Work & Money at 10:28 AM - 7 answers

Coffee, Tea, or...

As a life-long heavy coffee drinker rivaling the Gilmore girls, about two months ago I switched to tea. I still start each day with a delicious strong cup of coffee, then switch to tea for the rest of the day. But a weird thing happened: I don't feel energized after the coffee, and it's not until my first cup of tea (whether green or black) that I feel awake. Is it the different ways caffeine act in coffee as opposed to tea? Is it psychological? What could explain this? [more inside]
posted by redwaterman to Grab Bag at 10:28 AM - 11 answers

How dead is my computer?

My PC, a Lenovo roughly 3 years old, froze this morning while I was navigating a web page. [more inside]
posted by jon1270 to Computers & Internet at 10:18 AM - 14 answers

Another "Help me find this story"

The core of the story is that a (possibly Indian) guy falls asleep (or is knocked out {during a robbery?}) (possibly near a river) and lives the whole lifetime of a separate existence in a dream. He wakes up (or comes to) at the end (and tries to integrate the experience). [more inside]
posted by achrise to Writing & Language at 10:12 AM - 15 answers

Am i in the right here, or is what she did okay?

Me and my friend had been planning to go back to a convention since it ended in March. She invited someone else to stay with us in our room, i feel uncomfortable staying with someone i've never met, and i told her all this and even linked her to the hotels website. The rooms aren't cheap enough for him so she's telling me he's going to have to stay with us. Is this right? I don't know what else to do, i've already bought my tickets and my cosplay outfit. [more inside]
posted by earthquakeglue to Human Relations at 10:06 AM - 60 answers

"Commercials" on NPR

I am looking for data on how many minutes there are of programming in a typical hour of public radio. [more inside]
posted by insectosaurus to Media & Arts at 9:47 AM - 4 answers

How can I stop eating free chocolate?

My workplace has free chocolate available 80% of the time (samples coming in from various parties that coworkers leave out for the department/floor to eat) and it will get even worse when the holiday season starts. How can I resist this temptation? [more inside]
posted by rebooter to Health & Fitness at 9:37 AM - 40 answers

Salt of the city

At what brick-and-mortar shop in New York (downtown) or Brooklyn can I shop for high-end gourmet salts? [more inside]
posted by greta simone to Food & Drink at 9:23 AM - 11 answers

Making an offer on a fixer-upper co-op apartment (NYC filter)

My husband and I are considering bidding on a fixer-upper co-op apartment in New York City, and are uncertain about how much to bid. More inside! [more inside]
posted by merejane to Work & Money at 9:10 AM - 4 answers

How to get around in Central Asia without knowing the languages?

I'm thinking of taking a solo trip to one or more of Uzbekistan, Kyrgyzstan, and Kazakhstan. What's the language situation like in central Asia? How dumb an idea is this if I don't speak any Uzbek, Kazakh, or Russian (but do stick to the larger and more touristy cities and methods of transportation)? [more inside]
posted by xbonesgt to Travel & Transportation at 8:53 AM - 4 answers

Adventurous travel with an infant in January?

We now have a baby, and are bemoaning the fact that we didn't do much adventurous travel before she was born. But now we realize we still can! So where should we go? [more inside]
posted by caoimhe to Travel & Transportation at 8:45 AM - 17 answers

Can a software company in California insist employees limit drinking?

Can a software company in California insist that employees participate in a system that limits drinking after hours? [more inside]
posted by anonymous to Law & Government at 8:43 AM - 13 answers

Are job fairs worth my time?

Should I attend my graduate school's job fair? [more inside]
posted by quadrilaterals to Work & Money at 7:42 AM - 14 answers

1.Membership list 2.??? 3.Non-profit!

I've taken over a position as a general administrator of an artist workshop with 400+ members, and set myself the task of automating what is still a manual or paper organisation. Looking for advice on membership software and good practices - getting a bit lost among all the CRM options and features. [more inside]
posted by monocultured to Computers & Internet at 7:29 AM - 2 answers

Video games about universities and academic life

I'm looking for example of digital or video games - either online, free, commercial, or bought from a shop, on a PC, mac or games console - which simulate the experience of being a student, academic, lecturer or professor from an academic, social, or economic perspective. For example, the Sims 3 University Life expansion pack gives a (relatively shallow) social perspective on academic life as a student. Are there any others, especially ones with more depth or accuracy?
posted by Wordshore to Education at 7:17 AM - 9 answers

career help: Art, Graphic Design, Marketing?? ?

Hello all!! I'm losing sleep over this.. 24 year old almost 25. My current situation is that I am teaching English abroad. I have a degree from a prominent university in an unrelated field (BA). I love art, especially illustration, and I also enjoy graphic design. But I can't decide between marketing and graphic design. [more inside]
posted by fueras to Education at 7:03 AM - 3 answers

Replacement for iPhoto (on iOS) Oil Painting and Watercolor filters?

The iPhoto app on iOS had two excellent photo filters that I liked a lot in certain situations: Watercolor and Oil Painting. I've seen nothing else as good as either of them in any other app (I am aware of the Waterlogue app, which also provides some interesting effects). Unfortunately, as of iOS 8.0, Apple no longer supports iPhoto for iOS. [more inside]
posted by Prawn to Computers & Internet at 6:43 AM - 4 answers

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