I have three credit cards, two are fairly maxed but ok and on time. The third is a closed account that has the highest balance and I can't seem to get a handle on it. I'm three months late on that card. The card company is offering me a 45% settlement offer. This is very attractive but I'm sure that paying a settlement carries some long term risk. Someday I would like to buy a little house for me and my daughter. [more inside]
Looking for any anecdata re: downloaded Netflix titles working in other countries. According to Netflix.....maybe you can? [more inside]
So my dear friend is heading to Iceland next week for a week. Staying in an Air BnB outside of reykjavik. She will have a rental car for half a week. Where should she go? Where should she eat? What is she do? No food restrictions. Both adventurous hikers and eaters.
I have a list of charges and need to figure out which went through based on the total. Can Excel do this? Could a different program? Example below. [more inside]
Congress just passed S.J.Res.34. So... I'm looking for VPN service recommendations/advice. I'm happy to pay (within reason) for reliability, privacy, and... any other considerations?
Can you help my friend find a good tailor? [more inside]
In medical dramas on tv, the doctor will approach an illuminated wall-mounted box and clip x-rays under the clip at the top, just by pushing it underneath. Is there something like this for an office, without the backlight, for displaying pieces of mainly A4 paper? What is it called?
For the last few months, I've been situationally depressed – I've been dealing with a breakup, shake-ups at work and other life stuff. I know that "this too shall pass" and I'm talking about all of this in therapy. HOWEVER, my therapist is not very good at giving me practical advice for keeping it together day-to-day, and that's what I'm asking about here. [more inside]
What are the stereotypes of Ivy league students and graduates? [more inside]
I got seats to the upcoming U2 show at Soldier field. But I ended up with 4 tix, 2 seated, 2 GA. But GA has a weird code I can't figure out (*GAFL21*). Can you help me figure out which tickets to keep? [more inside]
I will be in Seattle alone for one Friday night. Where can I get a decent, sit down vegetarian meal for one? [more inside]
My Dad (75, moderately computer literate) has an iPhone, iPad and a Mac. Tonight I tried to change his Apple ID password for him, but couldn't because 2-factor authentication is switched on; he says not by him. Has his account been hacked, and if so, what should I do? [more inside]
I need some suggestions for restaurants in Midtown that will accept a reservation of 15 people without going through the catering/special events departments and reserving a private room and all that. This is for a casual business meeting of high level execs who are not all that fancy, so a midrange bar & grill-type place is fine, but I'm not looking for like, TGIFridays in Times Square. Main priorities are 1. Not wildly expensive and 2. Have a liquor license. [more inside]
I am producing/curating a Artists and Fleas - like artisan faire in the Los Angeles area. Our flagship market is in South Pasadena and I'm dreaming of expanding it out to communities outside the DTLA/Westside center. It's time for a marketing assist and I would love to find a marketing/p.r. intern for the summer. My first thought is to approach FIDM (Fashion Institute) Calling on MeFites for suggestions for other local possibilities/solutions.
I have a ton of spices, and the tins I keep them in don't fit in traditional American spice racks. If you keep a wide variety of spice on hand, what do you use to organize and store them? If you've got a funky DIY solution for this, I'd like to know about it. [more inside]
I'm looking for some way to make a D&D style character alignment test (lawful good, chaotic evil, etc) that lays out the results of the test similar to the 2-axis political spectrum/compass test, with the two axis being law-chaos and good-evil. I'm having trouble figuring out a way to do this. [more inside]
How would you get rid of persistent mold in a dishwasher? [more inside]
You're not my doctor, but I can't get in touch with him right now. I typically take 15 mg of Prevacid (the only mg sold OTC that I can find) but I am having breakthrough heartburn a few days a week. I know prescription Prevacid comes in 30 mg, but the boxes of 15mg all say "Do not take more than 1 capsule a day." My plan was to take 30 mg all at once at the usual time I take 15mg (once a day.) Is this acceptable? Does the delayed-release aspect of the OTC Prevacid make this a bad idea?
Need a restaurant for Chicago, for dinner, this Thursday, for 7. Must have: good cocktails, at least one vegetarian option that is not pasta. Not be south of Congress, not be north of Montrose. Budget is pretty flexible, looking for nicer or something with a little wow factor, like a view. One diner really hates shared plates--so no small plate communal eating thing. [more inside]
We recently received a fruit basket that contained a container of what I now know were greengages. I had never seen them before, and now we want more. We go to Fairway on the Upper West Side regularly and have never run across them, and I've never spotted them in Whole Foods either. Hoping someone has seen them either recently or regularly, ideally in Manhattan? Dean and DeLuca? Chinatown?
In the last few months, I am often unable to sleep due to itching. Last night was the worst night, I think. I was up until 3am and woke up periodically through the night until I got up at 7am. [more inside]
I have a yard of wall to wall poured ~50 y/o concrete. I'm interested in removing an 18-24" deep strip about 15' long along one edge (to plant some greenery in). Is there a way to remove it cleanly? [more inside]
What exotic fruits could I grow (in US Zone 9)? [more inside]
When I need to rest my brain, I tend to play NethackW (the tile interface, not ASCII). As of yesterday, my computer's anti-virus software decided that only NethackW, and not the ASCII version, was infected with a Trojan or malware (gen:Variant.Jaik.15909), and promptly wiped it off my computer. [more inside]
I have a 5 year old, going on 6 who spends a lot of time on the internet. This has been pretty great for him- I'm sure his language skills, maths and general knowledge are far greater than they would have been without them. However I'm concerned that he will inevitably encounter things that I'd rather he didn't. Tools or rules for balancing giving him the freedom to explore without being too laissez-faire? [more inside]
I'm tired of trying to maintain a steady 78 rpm on my hand-cranked phonograph. Please explain wireless speaker systems to me like I'm some kind of Luddite. [more inside]
My child denies being tired in the morning and at night, especially when they clearly are. I am looking for age appropriate (7) tests or activities which they could perform periodically to measure their tiredness in a way which might illustrate to them that their mood or cognitive function is better when they are well rested. [more inside]
I am in a dire situation with my mother in law who is poor and (now) homeless. She has been in the hospital for the past month+ due to a suicide attempt, which has also resulted in her being denied return to her independent living home. The hospital has decided she is no longer a threat to herself and needs to be discharged. The hospital social worker has been unable to find her low-income assisted living and is now threatening to put her in a cab and send her to a homeless shelter unless my husband and I take her in. We can't. What can we do? [more inside]
I've been following an organization in my town closely for a while; they do awesome work in a field I'm interested in. A few weeks ago, they posted a job on their website. I sent in my resume and cover letter, but heard nothing. I checked the website a week ago and the job posting has been removed, replaced with "we are not currently hiring." I really want to work there, whether in that specific capacity, or another role. It's a small nonprofit (only 3 fulltime staff), so the staff wear many hats. I believe I have the skills and work experience to make myself a valuable addition. Assume this is my dream job. What can I do, if anything? Reach out to the director directly? Offer to volunteer? How much contact from a prospective employee (hopefully) is too much contact before they get annoyed?
I'm a woman in my early twenties who is experiencing attraction to women and I'm confused. I’m feeling attraction towards my best friend who is bisexual, but I’m not sure if I should act on it, due to morality and fears that she won’t be receptive. How can I explore this identity without acting in ways I might regret? I’d like to build my confidence before I become apathetic towards myself or stifle a part of myself. [more inside]
I will be spending 12 months on a round-the-world trip in which my girlfriend and I will visit twelve cities in ten countries, one city per month. I will have all business days free as she works remotely on her laptop solo. Please give me ideas for how to transform experience this from a merely fun and leisurely trip to something truly meaningful, magical, and that will jump out on a resume. [more inside]
I am about to start lacto-fermenting at home. I feel like I have always been doing this spiritually, but now I am about to do it physically. Your resources, recommendations and experiences please! [more inside]
I feel ridiculous asking this question, but I know nothing about DIY and I need help. I want to make abstract-ish fake flowers. In other words, I'm not trying to make fake flowers that look real. Instead, I'm trying to make something abstract-ish and modern that adds a pop of color for home decor. I have links to pictures inside showing exactly what I'm trying to do (as a starting point, anyway). [more inside]
Around or before summer 2014, there was a lovely zoetrope video that was posted on vimeo, and (maybe) posted on the blue. Help me find it? [more inside]
I feel tired almost all the time, and my boyfriend and I have noticed I need way, way more sleep than him. Does this sound like a health issue? [more inside]
My current direct supervisor is retiring. I don't know her socially at all, though I've liked her a lot as a manager. How can I politely express / request something like this: "Bye, I'll miss you as a boss, please be my reference for future hypothetical job searching, also I need your contact info because I don't know anything about you and you're not on social media." Help?
I've signed up for a raft trip through a beautiful,wild canyon, paid my deposit and about to pay the final balance. Reading the trip prep information it says I should be prepared to pay a 'customary' fee of 15%-20% of the trip fee to the guide. I've never encountered this before from an outfitter or business and wondering how to proceed. [more inside]
My husband and I are kind and generous souls. We'd both give you our last $40 or the shirt off of our back if you needed it. We just got rid of my sister as a roommate...now we have another...Mefites, help me be gracious. [more inside]
My wife and I are just now starting to move forward on planning our Christmas trip to Europe (fly into Prague, out of Vienna). However, there is a complication that is vexing us! How do we reserve lodging without an airline itinerary? [more inside]
I spend far too much time reading the news. Far, far, far too much time. It's embarrassing and I'm ashamed. I kind of want to totally disconnect, but I don't believe that would be effective ultimately. Does anyone have ideas for how to stay somewhat informed without getting sucked into an endless news spiral? I'd love it if there were some digital equivalent of a very thoughtful newspaper (without links!) with only the most important pieces in it, like with a paper newspaper. [more inside]
Pretty straightforward question. When the game came out I looked at the recommended specs and it didn't look like my computer (a Surface Pro 3) could. But I've played the demo on my computer and it works. Will the full game work too? [more inside]
My wife got into grad school at UO and so we are 90% sure we will be moving to Eugene (from Pennsylvania) this summer. Several questions about apartment hunting inside, chief among them: WHEN should we make a trip to secure a July 1 rental? [more inside]
My mother is evil, but my siblings and father are nice (if passive and somewhat in denial). What to do? [more inside]
I want to send Easter postcards to my 4-yo and 2-yo nieces. Any ideas of fun stuff that I can send them? Light DIY is fine (this is a shop that I can easily access).
I've recently accepted a job in Brooklyn. I'll have about $1,900 to spend on rent per month (less would be wonderful, obviously). I'm willing to live with a roomie, but would be open to a studio if that was at all possible in that price range (research suggests it's not). What are good options for places to look, given some criteria below the jump? [more inside]
I'm going to start a master's program in computer science in the fall. My current (Windows) laptop is great, but it's too heavy to carry to class. I'm looking for something under $1,000 (ideally closer to $500 or below; I'm poor) that I can bring in for in-class assignments and group work. What would you recommend?
It seems that there is a large proportion of Americans who support abortion only when certain circumstances caused the pregnancy. I'm trying to find any piece that actually argues for this. (Potential CW: sexual violence) [more inside]
Have you ever worked in a Japanese steakhouse? Ready to spill your secrets? [more inside]
I'm looking for a content management system that will allow for easy sharing of content, including PowerPoint presentations, pdfs, links to online content and videos, etc. [more inside]
So I just got an instapot, and one of the amazing features is the fact that you can drop in a frozen piece of chicken and have it perfectly cooked in no time. My highschool physics is not helping me understand why it's ok to do that with a pressure cooker but not by say baking it. My thoughts were baking may not get the temperature high enough in the frozen center for food safety. Is this not then true for pressure cooking? [more inside]
I'm a first time home buyer looking for Realtor recs and/or advice . I'm in Chapel Hill/Hillsborough/Durham, NC. Snowflakes within. [more inside]
My husband and I would like to adopt a cat! Complication: my husband has selective cat allergies, in that he has been varyingly allergic to some cats (ie, more severely allergic to individual cats at some times and in some situations than others) and not at all allergic to some other cats. We would obviously like to adopt a cat that my husband is less--or not at all--allergic to. The question is, how do we do this? [more inside]
Overwhelmed by this industry online and what deal sites are legit and what aren't. I've rooted around some blogs by people who do this for a living, but again -- they are being sponsored or run ads for these sites. Not sure if those are legit. Help! [more inside]
I went to Target last night to stock up on convenience meals, and noticed that the freezer unit housing the meals was fogged-up and that a lot of the cardboard inside was damp. The rest of the store was in some state of disarray, and there were random Amy's meals tossed into other areas of the freezer where the windows were clean and everything seemed to be pretty well frozen. But I was so dang desperate for my convenience meals that I bought a couple of them anyway. [more inside]
I do not think strategically, for reasons. Mostly principles, as it feels like manipulation which is not my jam. I am noticing that a colleague is getting ahead through strategy despite low quality work (lots of missed deadlines, typos, red flags in internal audits) and questionable technical skills, because she is managing up with the supervisor. It is clearly a "sucking up" approach, with a clear agenda in all conversations where boss is present that reads as this artificial "I am your friend and you really like me." How can I also get ahead, without resorting to tactics? [more inside]
When I approach jewelers both locally, and semi-locally (and maybe online), what kind of questions should I ask. What are some red flags I should look out for? [more inside]
I thought I was part of a whole new social circle of families in our small town, until I wasn't. [more inside]
The wife and I are considering moving into a condo. But, we know nothing about the condo world, or such a purchase. Please hope us! [more inside]
I am looking for a durable non-toxic jewelry glue that glues metal to metal with a flexible bond and dries clear without emitting harmful fumes. [more inside]
I went speed dating for the first time this past Tuesday (3/21). There were 6 women and 5 men. I got the email on Thursday that I matched with one man - the only information the company gave me was his first name and his email, so I sent him an email that afternoon (3/23). I haven't heard anything back. Do I let it go, or do I try to email again? [more inside]