March 18

How to structure/approach this relationship conversation?

My partner has a personality quirk that I find tedious and offputting and it's beginning to damage my feelings for him. I'd like to have a conversation with him about it, but I'm inexperienced with relationship conversations and I don't know how to approach the subject in a tactful manner given that it seems like it could potentially stem from thorny feelings, as well as being perhaps related to his neurodivergence. The gist of it is that he has a constant tendency to brag and try and put himself above others. Some examples below the fold. [more inside]
posted by anonymous to Human Relations at 11:15 PM - 9 answers

Taste the Rainbow....

A long time ago, I saw an amazing rainbow vitamin product packaging which I never saw again. Help me rediscover it? [more inside]
posted by Bigbootay. Tay! Tay! Blam! Aargh... to Health & Fitness at 10:36 PM - 1 answer

Reusable instant cold pack not cold

I just purchased and opened a Walgreens instant + reusable cold pack. I have tried to activate it, but it is not even a little cold. Help! [more inside]
posted by nat to Grab Bag at 8:28 PM - 3 answers

How to deal with the emotional pain of a missing cat?

My cat has been missing for over a month now. I am in unbelievable emotional pain. How can I get through this? [more inside]
posted by RoseyPosey to Pets & Animals at 5:38 PM - 7 answers

"Buffy" guest star who looks like someone else?

I'm rewatching "Buffy" from the beginning, and this guest star reminds me of another actor I can't place. [more inside]
posted by cozenedindigo to Media & Arts at 5:28 PM - 15 answers

Large group home for elders, who happened to be women

I’m looking for an article from two or three years ago about a group of single, retired women sharing a large home, more like a big lodge, and kitchen. They had a cook, or maybe two and it might have been a faith-based community. I think it was somewhere on the east coast. [more inside]
posted by Gusaroo to Society & Culture at 3:53 PM - 5 answers

Can you identify this painting behind a head?

I'm interested in this painting - any idea what it is? (The head isn't part of it, obviously.)
posted by amtho to Media & Arts at 3:50 PM - 0 answers

Why does everything just feel wrong?

I wake up with a sense of... if not anxiety then dread. During the day I'm okayish, and can get on with work and be reasonably productive. But everything just feels wrong somehow. [more inside]
posted by osmond_nash to Health & Fitness at 3:33 PM - 15 answers

Is it possible to use an old iPhone as a remote camera for a new iPhone?

I have an iPhone X and would love to be able to use it as a baby monitor showing on my iPhone. Is that possible? [more inside]
posted by Uncle to Computers & Internet at 3:16 PM - 6 answers

Class reunion planning sites/ apps: any recommendations?

High school reunion (USA). We have a planning committee and a Facebook group that includes more than a third of our class, but are shopping for an app/service with a few functions: [more inside]
posted by Sweetie Darling to Grab Bag at 3:15 PM - 0 answers

Going on antidepressants after years untreated

Seems like I will soon be prescribed an antidepressant. I’d like to hear stories of people who went on an antidepressant after years and years of untreated depression. Not sure what to google to find this. Would be grateful for either your personal experiences or maybe links to other sites. Thank you!
posted by iamsuper to Health & Fitness at 11:56 AM - 12 answers

Where should we stay in Paris?

I'll be in Paris with my sister from June 13-16 and we're trying to figure out where we should stay. I think we prefer to stay in a hotel, as these seem to be cheaper and more convenient than AirBnbs. I'd like to be near lots of vintage and thrift stores, but also boutiques that sell unique or artisan clothing and accessories. What neighborhoods would be best for this type of shopping? We'll be doing some cultural things and just hanging out in cafes, too, so bonus points for that kind of thing nearby.
posted by stinker to Travel & Transportation at 11:47 AM - 4 answers

Telegram chat vanished on both ends. Can it be recovered?

Telegram chat vanished on both ends. Can it be recovered?how ever I have total backup in my icloud, this happened one day all of sudden for no reason , and I'm clueless ,also we did not delete deliberately
posted by muralipala to Computers & Internet at 11:43 AM - 0 answers

Best/Worst Online Promotional Tactics

Whether they were outlandish, clever, concerning, or bizarre, what are some examples of the most memorable ways you've seen something sold or promoted online?
posted by holdmusic to Computers & Internet at 11:33 AM - 6 answers

Online Sources for Gen 2 Prius Key Fob

I would like to buy a key fob for my 2008 Gen 2 Toyota Prius, and I'd like to do it online if possible. I can't figure out what is legit and what isn't online. [more inside]
posted by kensington314 to Grab Bag at 11:32 AM - 1 answer

Driving in New Mexico

We'll be in New Mexico later this week for a packed few days of seeing stuff. Are any of the roads we'll be on twisty turny side of mountain with a sheer drop off type roads? Route in the more inside. [more inside]
posted by misanthropicsarah to Travel & Transportation at 10:56 AM - 5 answers

old phrase "send money for your society" in letter?

I found a number of letters from my grandmother to her brother who had moved away, encouraging him to "send money for his society" home to his mom. What does it mean? [more inside]
posted by knownassociate to Writing & Language at 10:46 AM - 5 answers

Vietnam 101

I’m looking for approachable media that provide a solid understanding of the Vietnam war. There are a plethora of documentaries titled “The Vietnam War” - same for books. There are also tons of podcasts on the subject. A bit of help narrowing it down would be welcome. [more inside]
posted by bunderful to Law & Government at 10:22 AM - 14 answers

Looking for A Short Story about AI

I'm looking for a short story written in the last year or so, about a team of story generators (?) writing a YA novel in the latest iteration of AI, and is now so good would replace the last department with actual human writers. There was some weird sex or relationships. This was published in a literary magazine. Please help! [more inside]
posted by moiraine to Writing & Language at 9:52 AM - 3 answers

How to send a package without the recipient learning my address

Apologies for the vagueness, but here goes. I need to send a package, I need to be sure that it arrives, and I need to do it in a way that does NOT allow the person on the other end to find out where I live--not from a return address or anything. [more inside]
posted by anonymous to Travel & Transportation at 1:54 AM - 17 answers

March 17

I'm Basically My Friend's Only Friend, Feels Codependent. Advice?

My friend recently moved from City A to City B, and I haven't been to her new place. I steer clear of City B due mainly to crime and traffic, and have been clear with her about this before she even considered moving there. She told me last night that I'm basically her only friend at this point, and feels neglected because I haven't been able to meet up since starting my new (exhausting and busy) job. She works a few hours per week. I'm not interested in being someone's sole support system when they're capable of forming other relationships but are choosing not to. I feel this is an unhealthy dynamic, and am seeking advice in how to manage the situation. [more inside]
posted by anonymous to Human Relations at 11:40 PM - 9 answers

Travelling while trans - UK US edition

We're planning a family holiday later in the year - flying into JFK and out from DC. My son is trans and he is very worried about airport security. Is he likely to have problems and what sort of issues could there be? [more inside]
posted by anonymous to Travel & Transportation at 11:40 PM - 6 answers

How much leeway to give to people's capacity to change?

The core of the question I want to ask today is - how have you approached connections with people who have ideas that you don't respect about things like gender and self-expression? Also; people who are snobby/juvenile? I suppose under that question is - how do you figure out when to stick it out with a connection and see if the person grows and changes? [more inside]
posted by fantasticbotanical to Human Relations at 11:09 PM - 25 answers

Dual Citizen, Need to File Taxes in Both Countries? (US/Canada)

My spouse was born and raised in the US, as a US citizen. We just legally determined that they are also a Canadian citizen. Do they need to file taxes in both countries? [more inside]
posted by happy_cat to Law & Government at 7:42 PM - 12 answers

Should I trade in my Pixel 7 for a Pixel 8 Pro?

I just got the pixel 7 a year ago but I'm tempted, largely because I'll be visiting beautiful landscapes this summer and I think the camera on the pixel 8 pro might be a lot better. Is this foolish? Are there other reasons to upgrade after only a year?
posted by janey47 to Technology at 6:04 PM - 2 answers

3 leaf, 4 leaf, whatever

Do you have a clover lawn? If so, what can you tell me? [more inside]
posted by falsedmitri to Home & Garden at 5:01 PM - 10 answers

How to get along better when staying with family?

I'm temporarily living with my Aunt, but it's awkward..... snowflakes inside [more inside]
posted by lawgirl to Human Relations at 4:12 PM - 28 answers

Android phone lost all messages while travelling abroad

I am at my wit's end having spent a lot of time searching for an answer, and hoping someone here can help me find missing text messages. [more inside]
posted by Ensign to Technology at 3:59 PM - 4 answers

Name that actress.

Who is the actress standing between Margot Robbie and America Ferrera at the Oscars, as seen in this video of Ryan Gosling singing "I'm Just Ken"? She's singing here at 2:42. Thanks.
posted by themanwho to Media & Arts at 3:31 PM - 2 answers

How to use frozen vegetables

I broke my hand, which made chopping fresh vegetables difficult, and so I stocked up on frozen vegetables. But then I healed more quickly than anticipated! I need to use them up in tasty ways that can handle the texture/moisture differences of frozen. [more inside]
posted by Kutsuwamushi to Food & Drink at 11:38 AM - 21 answers

Airplane scam

I am on a flight from Salt Lake to Austin. There was a scam and everyone on flight is now a detective. No one has solved the case. [more inside]
posted by jasondigitized to Law & Government at 9:25 AM - 28 answers

Diagnosed with gluteal tendinopathy. Now what?

I was diagnosed with gluteal tendinopathy after several months of extreme pain in my hip. My orthopedist tells me the only way to "fix" the pain is to continue exercising, even though it's excruciating to do so. [more inside]
posted by Cat Pie Hurts to Health & Fitness at 8:15 AM - 11 answers

How do I find an... easier job

I have been in here with career questions before and am almost embarrassed to come back with this question, since last time I was languishing in a boring job hoping for a more interesting one, and I did find a more interesting one. But it's high-pressure, unpredictable, and generally miserable! I need to find something more chill, but job postings never sound chill at all. [more inside]
posted by space snail to Work & Money at 7:06 AM - 9 answers

dispute with psychotherapy training providier

For context, I am in the UK. I have been training to qualify as psychotherapist since 2019. I am now in my last year of training, having already qualified as psychotherapeutic councillor. I am also the primary carer of my spouse who has severe disability that impacts their mobility and unfortunately causes sudden arm and knee dislocation. As my spouse's condition worsened this year, I asked for a permission to attend some teaching sessions online (I am close to finishing the training) and the training organisation granted me this accommodation. [more inside]
posted by slimeline to Education at 5:54 AM - 3 answers

Dog problems

We recently took in 2 dogs due to a relative's health crisis, but haven't had a dog in 20 years (and the last one we had was very chill). One of the dogs has some health problems including recent removal of a lump on his leg. The other is extremely energetic. [more inside]
posted by Eyelash to Pets & Animals at 5:41 AM - 13 answers

March 16

Recipes with limited diet: low FODMAP, newly pre diabetic

I have been on a low FODMAP diet for IBS for about five years and have recently tested in the pre diabetic range. I feel like my diet has limited to the point that food is basically my nemesis at this point so need some ideas. [more inside]
posted by Francies to Food & Drink at 9:48 PM - 9 answers

Home purchase anxiety

I am addicted to real estate websites. I have a home already. Why can’t I stop? [more inside]
posted by ficbot to Work & Money at 5:05 PM - 17 answers

She wants to eat [sophisticated] cake in Vegas!

Seven years ago, ya'all helped me find a great tasting sophisticated cake in Los Angeles. Our small birthday group is now on the road and will be in Las Vegas. Where should we look for a great tasting and beautiful birthday cake? [more inside]
posted by calgirl to Food & Drink at 4:25 PM - 3 answers

Staying organized as a traveling group, 2024 edition

Five whole years ago I asked this question, and there wasn't a good answer. Is there one now? I'll shortly be traveling, and I'd love an app or system to help me keep track of all the details + inform others in the group of what we're doing each day. [more inside]
posted by BlahLaLa to Travel & Transportation at 3:35 PM - 9 answers

Looking for Accessibility Tips for Hip Arthritis

Hi folks, I'm looking for accessibility tips for hip arthritis. Searching online has led me to good but generic advice around exercise, physiotherapy, and so forth. I'm hoping for some practical task-focused tips I can put to use. [more inside]
posted by haunted_pomegranate to Health & Fitness at 3:22 PM - 5 answers

Wifi Extender? Explain like I'm 5!

Hello! We just moved from a studio apartment to a much larger space. I think I need a wifi extender/mesh/thing, but I am lost! Help! [more inside]
posted by something_witty to Technology at 1:35 PM - 11 answers

Where should we stay between London and Cornwall?

I need help planning for three full days and nights to spend “somewhere” between London and Penzance, Cornwall. See below for specifics. [more inside]
posted by gryphonlover to Travel & Transportation at 12:24 PM - 7 answers

History of the fragrance free movement?

It seems like a lot of places are scent free these days. I'd like to know the history of how this all started, so that I can try to do something similar for fluorescent lights.
posted by wheatlets to Health & Fitness at 12:02 PM - 6 answers

What's the modern version of Trivial Pursuit?

I'd like to play more general knowledge quizzes with my family, and I used to enjoy Trivial Pursuit. Has it kept up with the times, or are there better options today? [more inside]
posted by snarfois to Sports, Hobbies, & Recreation at 11:47 AM - 8 answers

Amazon subscribe-and-save price for wildly fluctuating item

I buy diapers for my daughter from Amazon. The price varies from $50 a pack up to $95. I've got a camelcamelcamel alert set up so that I know when low prices happen, but sometimes there are long stretches between low prices and our stock runs out. I see that there's an option to "Subscribe and Save" 5%-15%, but... what's the subscribe-and-save price? Is it whatever the price is that day, i.e. it'll bounce around between $50 and $95? Or is the price locked in when you first subscribe?
posted by clawsoon to Shopping at 8:14 AM - 7 answers

The conundrum of depression surrounding multiple friendships ending simu

At the ripe old age of 52 I've been through this scenario at least five separate times. I'm not sure when the death or slow fade is breaking my heart or my broken heart is what begins the slow fade...(continued) [more inside]
posted by The_imp_inimpossible to Human Relations at 6:01 AM - 8 answers

Laptop battery management software - your recommendations?

The capacity of a laptop battery degrades pretty quickly, but it will last longer if you use clever battery management software, which will charge it only up to 80 %. No such apps are available for my make/model - but perhaps the Mefi crowd can recommend some third party apps? [more inside]
posted by Termite to Computers & Internet at 3:34 AM - 10 answers

March 15

Severe bursitis pain ow ow ow

YANMD. Today I was diagnosed with bursitis (dr didn't say which kind) in my right hip and given a steroid shot and a lidocaine shot. This is a really uncomfortable sort of pain, deep and tingly and stabby and floaty at once. Have you found anything that helps in terms of what positions are best, where/if to elevate, any tips for walking, etc? [more inside]
posted by mermaidcafe to Health & Fitness at 8:59 PM - 7 answers

My dried cherries need to be made merry

I've got my hands on a smashing amount of dried cherries, now in the freezer. But- I need recipes which are not leafy salads or desserts. [more inside]
posted by panhopticon to Food & Drink at 7:12 PM - 23 answers

Which federal troops protected civil rights in Birmingham in May 1963?

On May 12, 1963, President Kennedy 1) federalized the Alabama National Guard and 2) deployed federal troops outside Birmingham. Which US military units did he deploy?
posted by LonnieK to Law & Government at 6:40 PM - 1 answer

What's good on daytime TV these days?

I'm taking looooong flights in the US this weekend with an Airline that provides access to Live TV. I haven't had Live TV in 10 years. I'll be traveling during the daytime hours on both Saturday and Sunday - let's say 9am-10pm ET. Any good talk shows these days? A new Judge Judy? Soaps not to miss? I realize the weekends are different - are there still Saturday morning cartoons? [more inside]
posted by Toddles to Travel & Transportation at 6:29 PM - 5 answers

Look in the paper! Don't blame me if the guy's a nut.

I'm trying to remember the name of the rumored They Might Be Giants compilation album that was supposed to come out in the mid-90s. I think I read about it on Usenet at the time. It would have been similar to Miscellaneous T in that it would have included all the B-sides from the Elektra singles. [more inside]
posted by themanwho to Media & Arts at 3:57 PM - 4 answers

How do I get Onitsuka Tigers in the US now?

Looking for legit ways to buy/order Onitsuka Tigers in the US [more inside]
posted by zara to Clothing, Beauty, & Fashion at 3:12 PM - 8 answers

Leg exercises that can strengthen quadriceps

Years ago, I developed a bad case of tendonitis in my right knee, and that knee has never been the same since. Every few years, I get a flare-up of pain in it. I found that the best way to treat this pain is to strengthen my quadriceps muscles using a leg extension machine, like this one. I'm seeking alternatives that don't involve me joining a gym just to use one piece of equipment. [more inside]
posted by akk2014 to Health & Fitness at 1:02 PM - 11 answers

How to keep birds off my air conditioner?

I have my AC compressor mounted on the side of my house about 12 feet off the ground. While having maintenance done it was discovered birds are pecking at the insulation. This is bad. What's the best humane way to stop them from landing on my compressor? Are the spikes as bad as they seem?
posted by rhymedirective to Pets & Animals at 12:31 PM - 9 answers

What do I send to a long-lost cousin to say I am thinking about her?

Due to immigration and displacement, I have family members all over Europe. My much younger adult cousin (who I have never met and lives in Germany) recently lost her father (my uncle) who I met only once as a very small child. [more inside]
posted by Lescha to Human Relations at 12:08 PM - 7 answers

LegXercise feedback

Hi. If you use a LegXercise (or perhaps if someone in your household does), I'd be curious to know your thoughts about it. Specifically, how effective has it been in terms of building and strengthening leg muscles and improving circulation in the legs and feet? [more inside]
posted by DavidfromBA to Health & Fitness at 10:57 AM - 0 answers

Managed WordPress hosting for a small association

I am looking for the best managed WordPress hosting solution for a small association with a low-traffic website. They do not have the technical ability to manage their own server. I'm looking at WPEngine and DreamHost presently. Are there any other hosts I should look at? Any watchouts for WPEngine and DreamHost?
posted by rednikki to Computers & Internet at 10:40 AM - 3 answers

You're single and you own a house. How do you make it weird?

Pop quiz, hotshot. You own a house. There's not really a yard to speak of. No one else has a veto. You can do anything you like with it. You don't care if the house is later listed on sites where people gawk at real estate listings and wonder what on earth the owner was thinking. In fact you want to make it weird, like that one video about the tiny house with fold-away furniture. What do you do? [more inside]
posted by Number Used Once to Home & Garden at 10:38 AM - 60 answers

Help me sell a literal ton of turqouise.

I have inherited what I estimate to be literally one ton of turquoise and other semiprecious stones in Tucson, AZ. I have reason to believe that there could be a significant (six figure) amount of value in this collection. Do you know of a reputable local place I can sell this to? [more inside]
posted by cmoj to Grab Bag at 9:50 AM - 7 answers