July 22

Replace an existing toilet – what are the most important measurements?

I have an existing toilet in a small bathroom. The rough-in at the bolts is 14 inches. I'm having trouble finding toilets with the same rough-in size. Tell me what I need to know about replacing this toilet in the most straightforward way. [more inside]
posted by amanda to Home & Garden at 4:09 PM - 1 answer

Advice for a first-time cannabis festival attendee

I'm going to a cannabis festival in October at Harry Brown's Farm in Maine. It's my first one. What should I expect? [more inside]
posted by archimago to Sports, Hobbies, & Recreation at 4:05 PM - 0 answers

Help me rent our parking space.

How do we properly value a parking space we own for rental purposes? [more inside]
posted by pdb to Travel & Transportation at 3:42 PM - 3 answers

Having a tuft time finding tufting info & supplies

Help me help my wife get into making tufted textiles, with one of those handheld sewing machine guns. I have questions below the fold. [more inside]
posted by a halcyon day to Media & Arts at 3:22 PM - 0 answers

Spain Foodie Tour 2017

Your must eats in Barcelona, San Sebastian, Seville, and Granada. Tell me them. Extra bonus points if you can recommend a good tour where we can see a Jamon Iberico (farm to table) production. [more inside]
posted by Karaage to Food & Drink at 3:04 PM - 2 answers

How do you decide on a course of treatment?

walk me through your thought process when making medical decisions? Tell me about the factors you consider and how you prioritize them; how you make sure you receive complete and thorough advice from doctors; how you set and manage your expectations and goals. I have a broken collarbone that needs decidin' about, and I have no idea how to decide what to do! [more inside]
posted by peachfuzz to Health & Fitness at 2:57 PM - 4 answers

shower-proofing the bathroom

So we've got this shiny new bathroom. The walls are drywall painted with Miller satin-finish acrylic paint (or they will be after we finish painting them). We got a free unused showerhead extender, which I think is super-neat. But it means the showerhead is higher than the walls of the shower/tub. Is there some sort of material I should put on the walls to protect them from splashback? [more inside]
posted by aniola to Home & Garden at 2:46 PM - 2 answers

Composting Toilet by the book

We want to build a composting toilet to meet all of the relevant requirements in our area (Portland, OR). The requirements are confusing, though, and state/local building officials tend to throw up their hands and say "I don't know!" when we ask questions about how to design it. Can anyone help clarify these several, sometimes conflicting, standards, or recommend a way to get good answers? [more inside]
posted by sibilatorix to Law & Government at 2:30 PM - 3 answers

Writing exercises to sort through personal issues?

I need some kind of writing framework to help sort through my personal issues. I have been working through the 12 steps, but I feel like I want to pursue something a little less higher power oriented. Are there similar things to the 12 steps that may help guide me along a path to working out some of my bullshit? Therapy is one thing, but I feel like stuff sticks better if I write.
posted by nurgle to Health & Fitness at 1:49 PM - 4 answers


Help me feel good about sending my kid to a Montessori school next month. [more inside]
posted by St. Peepsburg to Education at 1:11 PM - 15 answers

The dark side of tech

Having been in software for 35 years now, I'm seeing changes in the industry that are negatively impacting it as a career choice for young people. What are the industry trends affecting workers? [more inside]
posted by scorpia22 to Technology at 12:03 PM - 3 answers

Step 1: Cheap solar, Step 2: ???, Step 3: Profit

If I installed an inexpensive solar system without tying it into the grid, what are some useful things I could power with it? This guy set up a cheap 100w panel and used it to power a lamp and charge his computer. I'm looking for other similar ideas that would reduce my electric bill a bit without the big investment that full rooftop solar requires. [more inside]
posted by chrisamiller to Home & Garden at 11:44 AM - 9 answers

Building Twitter presence for a US state-level Political Candidate

I'm helping out on a political campaign for a progressive (Dem) candidate to my state's legislature. Election is in November. I offered to help start a Twitter account but am drawing a blank on how to "launch" said Twitter account. [more inside]
posted by nightrecordings to Law & Government at 11:44 AM - 1 answer

Atypical angina in the hemothorax? Get me 5000ccs of tamoxifen STAT

I'm looking for the most ridiculous misuses of medical jargon in film or television ever. There are surely loads of examples of horrific misapplications of real terminology - many bonus points shall be awarded for YouTube examples!
posted by Ten Cold Hot Dogs to Media & Arts at 11:44 AM - 1 answer

Welcome to Maine

I'd like to drive somewhere north with my dog for about 3 days next week. I'm in Portland, Maine. [more inside]
posted by pintapicasso to Travel & Transportation at 11:40 AM - 3 answers

Things you were never told about approaching 50

I'm not far out from being a half-century. Recently, in discussions with peers of a similar age, we've discovered several commonalities. For example, most now have little problem in dropping time-consuming people who drain us from networks, or even in mid-conversation, or saying "no" to pressurised requests. On the negative side, nearly all have annoying or restrictive medical ailments of food, bowel or colon. None of this we were told would be a fact of deep-middle age, at school, or college, or in the media. What else - good and bad - is a commonality of most people around the age of 50?
posted by Wordshore to Human Relations at 11:40 AM - 21 answers

Preserving cherries

I have forty pounds of organic bings (dark sweet cherries) that I need to deal with this weekend. We are pitting and freezing some-but need your best ideas for preserving the rest. [more inside]
posted by purenitrous to Food & Drink at 10:52 AM - 18 answers

Short term survival tips for a completely effed up workplace?

I took a job I shouldn't have and now I'm so completely demoralized I am having a hard time getting it together to even start a new job search. Any tips? [more inside]
posted by janey47 to Work & Money at 10:52 AM - 11 answers

Recommendations for a used car that's more spacious than a Honda Fit?

Because of a drunk driver totaling our perfectly functioning 2007 Honda Fit last weekend, we find ourselves in the market for another used car. Added wrinkle: I'm expecting a baby in early September and were thinking about maybe buying a somewhat more spacious car the next time round. [more inside]
posted by peacheater to Travel & Transportation at 10:10 AM - 19 answers

New York City heat-transfer/heat-press vinyl T-shirts ASAP

I would like to get custom heat-transfer/heat-press vinyl T-shirts made in New York City this weekend, ideally with sparkly/glitter/metal flake lettering. Can you recommend a shop? [more inside]
posted by limeonaire to Shopping at 9:58 AM - 3 answers

Warners A Night at the Movies

One of my favourite selection of dvd extras has been A Night at the Movies, the selection of shorts and trailers which accompany the releases of 30s, 40s & 50s films on Warners and some MGM discs. I'd like to collect the lot and I remember seeing a definitive list of them at some time but can't find anything only other some brief mentions in discussion boards. Does anyone have a list?
posted by feelinglistless to Media & Arts at 8:23 AM - 1 answer

Books recommendations on universal human truths?

Humankind has always believed in good and evil. It has believed in higher divine powers. Humankind has always had the need for love. These “human truths” and many more have formed the basis for most of the world’s greatest literature, film etc. What books (or websites) discuss these universal human truths across time and cultures?
posted by jacobean to Media & Arts at 8:19 AM - 6 answers

Good industry memoirs

I am looking for examples of memoirs which changed assumptions about particular industries or professions, or remoulded individual practitioners in the public conciousness. Not whistle-blowing, but books which exposed unusual facets of a particular job, or lifted the lid on unexpected excesses and humourous incidents. [more inside]
posted by mani to Media & Arts at 7:40 AM - 12 answers

Do Dagwood Bumstead and F. Scott Fitzgerald have the same hairdo?

Is Dagwood Bumstead's hairdo meant to be a stylized representation of the sort of 1930s hairdo that F. Scott Fitzgerald sports in this picture, that one and this other photo? [more inside]
posted by Kattullus to Clothing, Beauty, & Fashion at 7:05 AM - 5 answers

How do you keep your vintage-filled house smelling fresh?

How do you keep your vintage-filled house smelling fresh? [more inside]
posted by mortaddams to Home & Garden at 4:34 AM - 15 answers

Planner words of the world unite

Planner nerds of the world, is there any way to use existing smart notebook/smart pen systems to create a paper planner that syncs with a digital one? (The existing systems seem to be designed for notetaking and sketching, but I'd like to be able to add calendar entries to Google Calendar, update an address book, keep lists, etc.) Bonus question: which of the existing smart notebooks allow you to save as vector files?
posted by Soliloquy to Technology at 1:09 AM - 3 answers

July 21

What's the best turntable I can buy for under/near $500

I have a good stereo setup (with phono preamp). Ideally I'd like a turntable that's pretty easy to set up and won't require a ton of tinkering. I'm not an audiophile or designer, but I'd like it to sound and look purty good.
posted by Joseph Gurl to Technology at 11:25 PM - 18 answers

Help put my feet in comfortable wunning shoes

I run/power walk/hike (or, I should say, I'm going to again) and need new shoes. I have no interest in running more than a 5k, but I like the convenient fitness aspect, that it's an easy way to get my heart rate up and that it makes me sweat and feel good. What kind of shoe do I need? [more inside]
posted by AnOrigamiLife to Health & Fitness at 11:14 PM - 7 answers

Cross rural China by train - must see places to stop in between?

I'm planning a trip to China and would like to see more of the countryside, starting from the east and moving by train to Xinjiang. Recommendations on rural pitstops along the way? [more inside]
posted by wallawallasweet to Travel & Transportation at 9:43 PM - 2 answers

Choreographer in Boston area

I'd like to work with an instructor and choreographer to come up with a couple of dances for myself and a couple of friends, technical dance novices all around. We're looking to create one burlesque and one lively coordinated pop dance number, and get both the choreography and dance instruction to make it happen. We would love to work with one person who could help with all of it if we hit it off, though happy to work with different artists if those styles don't come in the same person. They should be excited to work with a bunch of middle aged queer women to put together something sexy and fun but slightly weird or askew. Halp, please! Do you know of anyone?
posted by spindrifter to Sports, Hobbies, & Recreation at 8:53 PM - 3 answers

Raising prosocial kids: apology addition

I am raising a boy, and I am on a quest for ideas to help him become a good apologizer as he grows up. Details inside... [more inside]
posted by crunchy potato to Human Relations at 8:42 PM - 25 answers

public participation in Comprehensive Plan review

Our small town will be undertaking a 10th-year update of its comprehensive plan. What are some best practices, or strategies, for such a review, and particularly for gathering public input? Can you recommend a town or small city that has done this particularly well, given results? "Town hall" type meetings have not worked well in the past.
posted by mmiddle to Law & Government at 8:06 PM - 3 answers

Need to find a personal assistant for my remote, elderly mother

I live in California; my 79-year-old mother lives in an elderly community in Silver Spring, Maryland in a 2-bedroom apartment. How do I find someone to help her manage her life - take care of paperwork, track medical appointments, etc.? [more inside]
posted by mistersix to Human Relations at 7:52 PM - 13 answers

Veganish dinner party just got unexpectedly bigger; what (else) to cook?

I had a couple of last-minute RSVPs to a dinner party tomorrow, bringing the total up to a terrifying ten people. 2 of us are vegan, the rest are a mix of vegetarians and omnivores, but the menu I had planned is all vegan. Is this going to be enough food? And if it's not, what else can I serve that won't expand the budget and prep time too much? [more inside]
posted by Jeanne to Food & Drink at 7:41 PM - 25 answers

Looking for bluetooth wood-y speakers

10-ish years ago I had a pair of Edifier speakers that I picked up for $40 off a showroom floor, and they were perfect for me. They were probably an old model version of this. I'm looking at a couple of other Edifier models as replacements but don't know if I'm missing other options. [more inside]
posted by curious nu to Technology at 7:19 PM - 1 answer

Accidentally sent BIG amazon package to old address -- what do do now?

I am an idiot and accidentally sent my Amazon packages (some of which are pretty big) to an old address. My old landlord is understandably annoyed and doesn't want to deal with it. He's an old man, not a professional landlord in the business-y sense of the word. It is far away from where I live, and I don't know anyone in the area who can get them for me. [more inside]
posted by heavenknows to Shopping at 6:56 PM - 5 answers

I could be my own personal assistant?

I have a classic problem, which is that I'm productive as you could like all morning during work hours... just not at the right things. [more inside]
posted by stoneandstar to Work & Money at 6:51 PM - 9 answers

More sites for "Make Your Own Magazine Cover" type things?

I love the Pulp-O-Mizer, a site that lets you make your own spoofy magazine covers-- also "Break Your Own News!" What other generate-your-own-fake-graphics sites would I enjoy? Thanks!
posted by The otter lady to Media & Arts at 6:30 PM - 1 answer

Concord, NH weekend -- worth it?

We will be attending a wedding in Concord NH in October. The wedding is on a Sunday night, and we're considering heading up there on Saturday morning to make a weekend of it. Is Concord fun? [more inside]
posted by Bebo to Travel & Transportation at 4:49 PM - 8 answers

Feminist information/ mythology/ explanations about menstruation

I need help conceptualizing what happens to my mind when I'm PMSing from a holistic/ feminist /empowering perspective and am looking for traditional rituals, self care options, and/or mythological explanations that "value the divine feminine energy" instead of the misogynist assumption that "women are hormonal". I'm looking for spiritual/ psychological healing options rather than help with the physical cramps and headaches and etc. [more inside]
posted by winterportage to Religion & Philosophy at 4:11 PM - 8 answers

How do I keep track of sources/citations in Scrivener?

As I'm typing my draft in Scrivener, I want to keep track of my sources on the fly. I want to just be able to link a spot in the draft to a source, and I'm shocked there doesn't seem to be an easy way to do this. I'd also like to be able to toggle between viewing citations and not viewing them, if I just want a clean view of my draft. Why is this so hard? [more inside]
posted by Mystical Listicle to Writing & Language at 3:28 PM - 4 answers

I don't know how to talk to my boyfriend about his weight

I pointed out my boyfriend's lack of weight loss progress and regretted it immediately. He looked very hurt, and though he is not the type to acknowledge it or want to talk about it, I know that I wounded him deeply. I realize that by bringing it up so insensitively, I may have irreparably damaged the trust between us and maybe now there is no way to talk to him about it constructively without hurting him more. What do I do? [more inside]
posted by anonymous to Human Relations at 1:58 PM - 35 answers

Can I get these PF treatments more affordably?

I posted a while back about having had severe plantar fasciitis for over two years. (Link to that post below). My doctor and I agree that I've tried everything short of surgery, shockwave, and PCR (plasma replacement). I'm hoping to not have the surgery, but I'm trying to figure out how I can pay for other treatments. Difficulty level: low income meets Medicare. [more inside]
posted by mermaidcafe to Health & Fitness at 1:56 PM - 3 answers

avast antivirus update, computer will not accept logon profile

I accepted an avast update last night. Now the computer does not recognise my logon profile. I can use the guest account, but not my regular account. What should I do? [more inside]
posted by philfromhavelock to Computers & Internet at 1:54 PM - 3 answers

Espadrilles that won't fall apart

In the summer I like to wear alpargatas/espadrilles, but the Tom's canvas alpargatas I bought in late-May have already begun to fall apart. Any recommendations for sturdy, well-constructed espadrilles/alpargatas that won't fall apart? (note: not boat shoes) [more inside]
posted by dis_integration to Clothing, Beauty, & Fashion at 1:48 PM - 3 answers

Jamming during cardio

Can you recommend to me uptempo songs with a heavy bass I can listen to while doing cardio? Ideally the song should stay uptempo the whole way through - many I've thought would work well actually slow down during parts of the song. [more inside]
posted by srrh to Media & Arts at 1:24 PM - 5 answers

Getting information about non-valuable old pocket watches

I've just been given some old pocket watches that belonged to my grandmother. I don't want to sell them and don't care what they're worth (probably very little), but I want more information. What's a good place to look? [more inside]
posted by centrifugal to Society & Culture at 12:45 PM - 6 answers

Detecting (and maybe repairing?) corrupted files

I recovered a bunch of files from a failed hard drive but it appears a chunk of them are corrupted (i.e. photos are messed up, files won't open, etc). There are all kinds: photos, music files, documents, spreadsheets . . . Is there a tool to scan through all of these and detect which ones are good and which ones aren't without manually opening each one? I'm on a Windows 10 computer. I just want to stop encountering random files that I can't open nor fix. [more inside]
posted by schroedinger to Computers & Internet at 12:01 PM - 3 answers

Establishing WA state residency headaches!

I recently moved back to Seattle after 7 years away. I need to get a WA license and change my car's registration information from Virginia to Washington. However, establishing proof of residency here by the guidelines of the WA DOL is proving to be a headache. They don't appear to accept things like my lease agreement and the documents they do accept are things I don't have (I don't have any utility bills because my landlord is paying for that, my employer, The UW, doesn't offer physical paystubs or checks anymore (it's 2017, after all), etc.). [more inside] [more inside]
posted by Holygrail2 to Law & Government at 12:00 PM - 12 answers

I want other people's memories.

I collect other people's old photographs. The vast majority of which that I have access to are from antique stores, junk shops, and sometimes estate sales, where I only see photographs from around 1965 or earlier. Where are all of the more recent photographs, and how can I get some of them?
posted by cmoj to Grab Bag at 11:27 AM - 9 answers

Career options for former journalist / writer / fiction MFA?

All-around smart person and good writer with varied employment history (magazine editorial, freelance journalism, nonfiction author, adjunct writing teaching, fiction MFA) seeks to understand the career options from here. [more inside]
posted by toomuchkatherine to Work & Money at 11:25 AM - 5 answers

Chevy Volt through the Drive Green with Mass Energy program?

I live in Boston and have never owned a car. I use Lyft/Zipcar/Turo/Enterprise a few times a month, and otherwise stick to public transit. But I'm very tempted by the Chevy Volt advertised through the Drive Green with Mass Energy program -- $115 to lease, no money down, or $16,500 to buy. Is this as good an idea as it seems? Snowflakes and fretting inside ... [more inside]
posted by john hadron collider to Travel & Transportation at 11:24 AM - 2 answers

Inspecting the "Final Inspection"

Is there existing research or journalism answering the (disputed) question of the authorship of "The Final Inspection"? [more inside]
posted by WCityMike to Grab Bag at 11:10 AM - 3 answers

How to best deal with an irresponsible/dramatic housemate?

My housemate had some serious health problems this year and then her long term boyfriend broke up with her. She's going off the rails, causing drama, being manipulative and clinging to a burdensome victim narrative without taking any responsibility for her own actions. How do I deal with this? Snowflakes below. [more inside]
posted by JaneTheGood to Human Relations at 10:47 AM - 18 answers

The best fountain pen money can buy?

On the spur of the moment, I have been tasked to research the purchase of a fountain pen that will be a gift by a large group of people to someone on a special occasion. The person in question will be using the pen, so it needs to be known for its function in addition to any other qualities pens of this price range may possess. The price range would need to be anywhere from 300-600 (cost matters, it can't be cheap even if a cheaper pen is better, hey, I know).
posted by nanook to Shopping at 10:12 AM - 15 answers

Sudden bloating

One of my very best friends suddenly looks pregnant. [more inside]
posted by Mr. Yuck to Health & Fitness at 9:18 AM - 21 answers

What is the RLI?

The song "Radio Bomb" by the Matthew Good Band makes a reference to an organization called the RLI. The song is about pirate radio operators and the lyric in question is The RLI and the FCC will be driving around in their little undercover RVs. The context is (probably) 1990s Canada. What the heck is the RLI? [more inside]
posted by capricorn to Media & Arts at 8:47 AM - 4 answers

I need some wind in my sails, but is this a reasonable expectation?

I realised that my partner does nothing for my ego. Which leads to the conclusion that I need a partner to do something for my ego. So. Is this a relationship problem or my problem? [more inside]
posted by anonymous to Human Relations at 7:04 AM - 30 answers

Way to figure out which banks are in which states?

I'm trying to find a bank that has locations in Georgia, SC (negotiable), IN, WI, and IL, other than Wells Fargo. Is there an easy way to figure this out? [more inside]
posted by needlegrrl to Work & Money at 6:00 AM - 3 answers

Where to spend a few hours with kids between Paris/CDG & Beaune?

I'm driving from CDG to slightly before Beaune and have some time to kill. Any suggestions for places that can accommodate jet-laggy 9-12 year olds and their grown ups? We gravitate toward open spaces, mild activity (lazy swimming, kayaking, etc.), local shops/groceries, small towns, cafés, maybe a nap spot, and the unusual. [more inside]
posted by cocoagirl to Travel & Transportation at 5:06 AM - 4 answers