October 20

Who will protest Trump during Japan violence sit

Trump is coming to Japan from November 5 to 7, and I'd like to peacefully protest him with a sign. I can't find an event though, and I'm nervous about being alone. [more inside]
posted by sacchan to Law & Government at 2:27 AM - 2 answers

October 19

Looking for Expert Radiologist to Hire for MRI Analysis

So I am looking to hire an expert radiologist who specializes in brain and spine - or - 2 radiologists with expertise respectively in those 2 fields. Where can this be done ONLINE or in Israel? TIA
posted by watercarrier to Health & Fitness at 9:53 PM - 4 answers

Examples of rural tech communes?

Are there any contemporary examples of communes or intentional communities that are tech-centric -- that is, that sustain themselves economically through some clever use of computers? [more inside]
posted by Karmacane to Society & Culture at 8:30 PM - 4 answers

Autumnal brunch beverage ideas needed

What to drink with savory souffle at a sci-fi book club brunch? [more inside]
posted by esoterrica to Food & Drink at 6:38 PM - 14 answers

Is this pin frightening?

So this might be a stretch but I bought the "Zag on em" pin shown here. It basically looks like a snake 🐍 emoji with the words "Zag on em". I put it on my bag but then I was wondering if people would see that and think I'm some kind of Gadsden flag MAGA creep. Should I not have it on my bag? I don't want to make people feel unsafe when I'm commuting. Am I imagining a connection that most people aren't going to make? [more inside]
posted by bleep to Clothing, Beauty, & Fashion at 5:47 PM - 12 answers

Actual best way to clean e.g. extensive tile floors, stone showers, etc?

I do not have the time or spoons for cleaning, and as of a couple of weeks ago, I can't physically do certain things for a while due to a herniated disc. Google searches are stupid for this: a few months back I got pages of results insisting that baking soda and vinegar was the most effective way to clean an oven. It failed miserably, and I ended up going the chemical burns route for actual effectiveness. Please err on the side of chemical burns.* Even seconds saved counts for a lot right now. [more inside]
posted by moira to Home & Garden at 5:28 PM - 14 answers

Plain white (or undyed) family pajamas... do they exist?

My wife is trying to make costumes for Halloween and wants to find some cheap family pajama sets to embellish. The problem is there doesn't seem to be anywhere that sells simple cotton pajamas without patterns or frills. At best we have found heavy (and pricey) fleece pajamas and plain long johns (which are too thin and underwear-ish). Does something like this exist?
posted by lubujackson to Clothing, Beauty, & Fashion at 5:19 PM - 6 answers

What watch next

In keeping with my previous theme of caveman phrasing... I have run out of new comedies to fall in love with. Help me find more? [more inside]
posted by schadenfrau to Media & Arts at 5:03 PM - 30 answers

How to create and publish an elementary school literary magazine?

Hi, I am helping to start a literary magazine at my children's elementary school. The kids will (ideally) be very involved in designing and editing it. What software/sites/apps/etc. should we consider using to create and publish it? More inside... [more inside]
posted by mandlebrotz to Media & Arts at 4:54 PM - 1 answer

I'm not salty enough

I have postural orthostatic tachycardia syndrome and have been prescribed salt pills by my doctor. I feel sick every time I take them. Help? [more inside]
posted by brook horse to Health & Fitness at 4:33 PM - 10 answers

Help me find one jacket to rule them all!

Now that temperatures are dipping, I need a new jacket/coat. Help me find one (or two) that I can wear in the Bay Area (walking around and bike commuting) and in DC in January. Aesthetic - boring classic. Caveats - must be vegan, should be good for rain. [more inside]
posted by kendrak to Shopping at 2:19 PM - 4 answers

Geek toys for a 7year old girl

It turns out I'm the only geek in the life of a 7 year old girl, which means I'm responsible for nurturing the geeky side of her. Help me find a birthday present for her? [more inside]
posted by sodium lights the horizon to Sports, Hobbies, & Recreation at 2:15 PM - 17 answers

In search of Scotland mug

My sister used to own this mug and has lost it. I'd like to get her a new one for Christmas, but can't find it anywhere on the web. I think she bought it in Edinburgh, Scotland. Can you help me find it online? Thanks!
posted by amf to Shopping at 2:09 PM - 2 answers

Do I need to ask for any follow-up after surgery?

I had laparascopic gallbladder surgery on Monday at a small private hospital in England, subcontracted by the NHS. When I came to after general anaesthesia, I was told that my pulse had dropped to 28bpm during the surgery and I'd had to have an injection to speed it back up. The anaesthetist actually said to me that "it was scary!" During recovery my pulse dropped again to 31 and was up and down over about 24 hours before stabilising at my normal RHR of about 50bpm (I'm not an athlete but have always had a slow heart rate). [more inside]
posted by hazyjane to Health & Fitness at 1:35 PM - 4 answers

Lots of women wear head coverings - can I?

I am a white, non-religious woman in the US. Is it unprofessional or culturally appropriative for me to cover my hair with a scarf every day? [more inside]
posted by Seven Windows to Clothing, Beauty, & Fashion at 1:26 PM - 23 answers

Is an organizer appropriate for this?

I’m dealing with the aftermath of a sexual assault. It turns out that being assaulted is a lot of work; I’ve got all sorts of things I need to keep track of, and other parts of my life aren’t being attended to (normal things like dealing with my budget, and accomplishing bureaucratic tasks related to things like health insurance, savings accounts, etc.). Could an organizer help me get my affairs in order? I guess I’m looking for someone who can help me for an afternoon or two to deal with all these things that feel like I can’t quite manage on my own.
posted by superswell to Grab Bag at 1:03 PM - 10 answers

Clueless about how to ask questions to my SO about his work

I realized yesterday night I don't really know what my SO does and it makes me utterly sad and guilty. I'm crying writing this. [more inside]
posted by Ifite to Human Relations at 10:46 AM - 37 answers

Pressure relief valve drainage injuries

Has anyone ever been injured by a hot water heater's pressure relief valve draining inside a house? Apparently it is now code that it drain outside the dwelling, in order to prevent burns to the inhabitants, but I want to find out if anyone has ever had this happen to them. [more inside]
posted by wnissen to Home & Garden at 10:33 AM - 6 answers

Jung & Individuation

What book do you recommend for learning about Jung and his ideas about individuation? [more inside]
posted by falsedmitri to Human Relations at 10:17 AM - 1 answer

East Bay/Bay Area temple or church open late in the evenings?

Do people know of any temples, churches, or spaces of worship in the Bay Area (preferably the East Bay, but will consider San Francisco) that are open later in the evenings, around 8-9pm? [more inside]
posted by zestful to Religion & Philosophy at 10:05 AM - 2 answers

How do I let my friend know that I don’t want to go to Europe with her?

I’m facing a bit of a conundrum. About a month ago, I told my friend that I would like to go to Europe with her this summer. But after I did that, I started thinking about that choice. My friend has a bit of a drinking problem and can get pretty wild and out of hand. I now realize that going with her would be an unwise choice, and I wouldn’t feel all that safe – I feel like it would increase the chance that we may get in trouble, let alone putting a bit of responsibility on me to monitor her. I mentioned this to my boyfriend, and that I’d rather go with him – he and I both feel like this would be the safer choice. [more inside]
posted by ggp88 to Human Relations at 10:03 AM - 20 answers

How do I diplomatically resolve a possible dispute in my book club?

I run a book club through my church, and I am foreseeing some drama on the horizon. What do I do? Details inside. [more inside]
posted by zeusianfog to Human Relations at 9:47 AM - 5 answers

Keeping the entire vial of superglue from hardening (in the vial)

So I just went to superglue a butt cap back onto the bottom of the handle of a tennis racket, but the entire bottle of glue (which I bought about a month ago and used only once) has hardened in situ. Now here's the thing--this is nothing new. In fact I'm pretty sure this has happened every time I've bought superglue. Again, the sequence goes: new bottle, few drops, put away, weeks pass, need some SG, all the SG has hardened fuck now I have to buy more. I'm trapped in self-destructive pattern here, amigos. Anyone have any ideas?
posted by BadgerDoctor to Grab Bag at 9:45 AM - 15 answers

Fiancé resents having to write a letter (vows)in advance of our wedding.

My fiancé and I aren't very traditional, but we are deeply in love and devoted to one another and have a good relationship all around. Marriage wasn't really on our minds until this summer when we decided to marry to legalise his emigration to my home country so we could continue to be together. However, I also made it clear to him that even if we were doing this for the visa, that the marriage was important to me, and I asked him one night that he write me a letter about what our impending marriage means to him. I guess I was asking for vows. [more inside]
posted by jacobnayar to Human Relations at 9:19 AM - 42 answers

Good behavioral interview training?

Along with a few others at my company, I'm looking for behavioral interview training and having trouble finding it. We are hoping to find something in-person so that we can get actual practice and feedback, rather than just explanations. Any recommendations, especially if you've been through the training and found it useful? [more inside]
posted by greenmagnet to Work & Money at 8:23 AM - 3 answers

Every Episode of... Playing at the Same Time

How do create a video that is synchronized simultaneous playback four other videos? [more inside]
posted by zinon to Media & Arts at 8:21 AM - 6 answers

Help me remember the movie this line comes from

You all always know right away the movie I'm trying to remember, but this time it's a tough one. The line: "Screw you." Yep, that's it. More inside. [more inside]
posted by Fukiyama to Media & Arts at 8:10 AM - 17 answers

What are the most common phrases you type on your smart phone?

I would like to collect a sampling of phrases people type frequently on their smart phones. Please contribute yours. [more inside]
posted by Winnie the Proust to Writing & Language at 7:58 AM - 62 answers

Questions on the theory of constructed emotions

I recently listened to an audiobook of Lisa Barrett's book, How Emotions Are Made. The writing was compelling and the position well argued, but as a lay person, I find myself concerned as I am unable to really follow the research in depth. [more inside]
posted by Hactar to Science & Nature at 7:51 AM - 1 answer

Please pick my petite professional pannier/pack!

I'm looking for a combination backpack/pannier that acts and looks like a normal commuter backpack to take to work but I'm having trouble sorting through the options. Can you recommend one? [more inside]
posted by mosst to Shopping at 7:17 AM - 10 answers

Essay by daughter about immigrant father getting sick in factory?

I think I originally came across it via metafilter. I believe the family was from Southeast Asia, now in North America (California, maybe?). It is about the immigrant experience, as well as the father getting inadequate protection from hazardous airborne materials at work. I have searched extensively with no luck. If you have this bookmarked or favorited, I would appreciate the link. Thanks.
posted by neutralmojo to Writing & Language at 7:16 AM - 1 answer

How do I detoxify my marriage?

We have had a bad couple of years, both feel hopeless, and I want to give up. Partner doesn't. How do we climb out of the negative cycle to see if the marriage is salvageable? [more inside]
posted by What a Joke to Human Relations at 7:12 AM - 30 answers

iPhone reminder to do PT exercises?

I have to do a bunch of physical therapy exercises. Is there a good iPhone app to remind me to do them? [more inside]
posted by The corpse in the library to Technology at 7:09 AM - 4 answers

Looking for a database app

I don't think I have the right vocabulary to decribe this, but I'd like to find a app or website that's pleasant to use and that lets me creates flexible libraries of data of different sorts. To function a bit like memory out of my brain, and to store information about my various fields of engagement, add comments, link data up, etc. [more inside]
posted by miaow to Computers & Internet at 6:31 AM - 9 answers

What the heck are digital assistants good for?

I like the idea of Google Assistant, Alexa, etc. Having these things around feels like the future. But for the life of me I can't think of a single way in which these make my life easier. What are some useful ways you've put our new artificial servants to use? [more inside]
posted by FakeFreyja to Technology at 6:28 AM - 26 answers

Computer Editing Interface from Blade Runner 2049

Is anyone aware of a wireless editing tool like the one from the recent Blade Runner? It was like a tracking wheel that was held in the operator's hands... Thanks!
posted by Mr. Metaphor to Technology at 6:22 AM - 3 answers

How do I gracefully decline an internal job offer?

I was invited to apply for a position within the company I currently work for that I indicated I was interested in, and was told in a roundabout way that the job is mine if I want it. I've decided I'm better off staying where I am right now. How do I gracefully decline? [more inside]
posted by skycrashesdown to Work & Money at 6:06 AM - 6 answers

What should I do about my relationship?

I have been dating my boyfriend for 6 months. We are both in our early thirties. I have had a lot of doubts since the beginning of our relationship. There are aspects about him that I really like. He is very passionate with me. He is very knowledgeable about music, literature, philosophy. I like men who are easy-going, knowledgeable, ‘alternative’ and a bit rebel. He is all of that. The problem is that he does drugs. [more inside]
posted by Fromthesouth to Human Relations at 4:52 AM - 42 answers

Help me organize all of the images

I have thousands of digital photos, and I'm very unorganized. So pictures are in various folders, in various cloud services, etc. I'm sure there are many duplicates, even on my laptop alone. Is there software available (for pc) that helps me organize my pictures, which also points out and helps me deal with duplicate images?
posted by Ms. Next to Computers & Internet at 2:12 AM - 1 answer

Give me your Harriet Vanes!

I've been re-reading my dogeared Dorothy L Sayers books, specifically the ones featuring Harriet Vane. And I want more like that. [more inside]
posted by altolinguistic to Writing & Language at 1:40 AM - 15 answers

October 18

Headphone Filter: Over-Ear, Closed, Good Isolation & Noise Cancelling

Looking for closed-back, over-ear headphones that have a good passive noise isolation seal, and good active noice cancelling to help attenuate what gets past the seal. Bonus points for iPhone mic and remote. More points still for Bluetooth, since phone manufacturers seem to be dropping the headphone jack left and right. More details inside... [more inside]
posted by D.Billy to Technology at 10:00 PM - 14 answers

IoT Router

We are beginning a new home remodel. This will result in installation of a lot of IoT things. Our router is an OLD Mac Airport Extreme from the Cretaceous. It only does 802.11 a, b, and 5GHz bands. [more inside]
posted by BrooksCooper to Computers & Internet at 8:41 PM - 11 answers

Word processing on the go

I need suggestions on technology that will let me take notes quickly on the go. Writing by hand is too slow for my purposes, so I need something as portable as a journal that I can type on with a QWERTY keyboard. Netbook? Some other solution I'm not thinking of? [more inside]
posted by delight to Computers & Internet at 7:50 PM - 12 answers

Shopping for home insurance

It's easy to compare the price of home insurance, but how do you compare the quality —and whether the quality difference is worth the price. I'm thinking of both tangible specifics like deductibles and exclusions, and also less easy-to-pin-down qualities like customer service and how well they treat you when you need to use the insurance. Are there good lists of questions to ask on the phone, or good comparisons of providers available?
posted by spbmp to Work & Money at 5:35 PM - 7 answers

Universal Remotes - Upgrading a Harmony One

My Logitech Harmony One remote is wearing out (the buttons are failing) and I need to upgrade! I need to figure out the best upgrade path - if you have experience with or own Harmony products, or competing products, can you let me know what you'd suggest? [more inside]
posted by kalessin to Technology at 4:58 PM - 4 answers

how to deal with negative emotions while working through couple-issues

Partner & I have finally started to face up to issues that have been building for 10+ years, and it's all pretty raw. We're both seeing therapists individually, and a relationship counsellor together. But in between sessions, I need to be able to relate to my partner like a relatively normal human being, and right now I don't know how to do that. [more inside]
posted by anonymous to Human Relations at 3:18 PM - 10 answers

USA is to slavery as Germany is to Holocaust

Do all countries have an iconic or original sin? [more inside]
posted by bq to Society & Culture at 2:49 PM - 23 answers

Configure Outlook calendar with internal vs. external colors/categories?

I color code my Outlook calendar using categories to keep track of multiple projects I manage at work. I have a fully established personal color-coding system, but the admins have just mandated that we switch over to their system. Is there anyway to configure it so that I preserve my color-coded categories in my view, but everyone else sees a different set of colors when they look at my calendar? [more inside]
posted by crazy with stars to Technology at 2:27 PM - 7 answers

A comic about gaming culture's slope into misogynistic nonsense?

Asking the hivemind for a friend who can remember seeing this comic but can't seem to find it after some searching around. Their description: "It was a shitty sketch of a stick figure bending over to look down the pit. Like gamer culture>edgelord>MRA>>>white supremacy."
posted by Gymnopedist to Grab Bag at 2:13 PM - 2 answers

Can I Eat This: Soup avec Drainplug

Good news: Homemade veggie stock is delicious. Also, I just found my drain stopper that's been missing for a month. Bad news: Today I boiled a pot full of frozen veggie scraps from the last month. Unfortunately, unbeknownst to me, this bag of scraps also contained this black plastic InSinkErator drain plug. After 45 minutes of boiling, the drain plug does not appear malformed/melted in any way. Can I eat my delicious soup stock or will it kill me?
posted by HeroZero to Food & Drink at 2:00 PM - 10 answers

Help me plan the trip of a lifetime...at the last minute.

I'm moving to Santa Barbara, CA from Richmond, VA in two weeks. My amazing friend is taking a couple of weeks off work to drive out with me in my little VW Jetta. Help us plan an epic road/camping/hiking trip...at the last minute. More details inside. [more inside]
posted by sparringnarwhal to Travel & Transportation at 12:40 PM - 14 answers

Neighbor's tree on utilities- no one cares

Our neighbor has a huge cedar tree right next to the property line. This tree has been topped in the past, is rotten inside, and subsequently has a heavy broken branch being held up by the telephone line. I can't get anyone to take action- what can I do to get this cleared up? [more inside]
posted by oneirodynia to Law & Government at 12:39 PM - 21 answers

Is there a term for unsophisticated verbs in writing?

I'm trying to figure out how to explain why the usage of particular verbs is weak. [more inside]
posted by annabellee to Writing & Language at 12:24 PM - 18 answers

Ruth Bader Ginsburg Pun Costume Ideas ?

We (a bunch of us) are dressing up as a swarm of punny variations on Ruth Bader Ginsburg. Our ideas so far: Ruth Vader Ginsburg. Babe Ruth Bader Ginsburg. Ruth Badger Ginsburg. Ruth Masterbader Ginsburg. Ruth Bader Ginsburger and Fries. Give me more. Thanks
posted by Grandysaur to Clothing, Beauty, & Fashion at 11:44 AM - 77 answers

How much do you chew before swallowing?

I've realized I don't chew very much and actually enjoy the feeling of little food chunks going down my gullet. Apparently, soft foods should be chewed 5-10 times and tougher foods (meat, raw veggies) should be chewed up to 30 times! I probably chew most foods 5 times max. My tummy and bowels are fine, I'm not gassy/belchy, and my teeth are fine, so this seems to work for me. Does anyone else do this, or go to the other extreme and chew, say, 50 times before swallowing?
posted by stillmoving to Grab Bag at 11:43 AM - 20 answers

Dealing with nausea on a flight

I have been experiencing nausea since starting new medication last week. Tomorrow, I have to take a flight (a few hours in the air) and am dreading it, since I already get motion sickness on flights and other transportation. Any tips for coping? [more inside]
posted by cat potato to Health & Fitness at 11:33 AM - 21 answers

What to do with old math textbooks?

My father in law is a retired math professor, and has a number of math textbooks he is trying to get rid of. He is looking for somewhere to donate them "where they'll be more useful than just recycling them." Is there anything he can do with them/anywhere he can donate them? [more inside]
posted by quaking fajita to Education at 11:26 AM - 11 answers

Need to scan photos that are IN an album (and want them to stay there!)

I put hundreds of photos in a real-life album and I saved them all digitally but Life happened and my scans are now all gone. [more inside]
posted by DMelanogaster to Computers & Internet at 11:09 AM - 7 answers

Shortwave Radio Blues

Is my new shortwave radio defective or I am doing something wrong? [more inside]
posted by Mid to Sports, Hobbies, & Recreation at 10:55 AM - 9 answers

How now, soft towel?

How to have soft bath towels? [more inside]
posted by komara to Home & Garden at 10:52 AM - 15 answers