March 28

Please help me nuke this credit card debt

I have three credit cards, two are fairly maxed but ok and on time. The third is a closed account that has the highest balance and I can't seem to get a handle on it. I'm three months late on that card. The card company is offering me a 45% settlement offer. This is very attractive but I'm sure that paying a settlement carries some long term risk. Someday I would like to buy a little house for me and my daughter. [more inside]
posted by bright and shiny to Work & Money at 4:46 PM - 2 answers

Downloaded Netflix Titles In Other Countries...

Looking for any anecdata re: downloaded Netflix titles working in other countries. According to Netflix.....maybe you can? [more inside]
posted by kuanes to Computers & Internet at 4:03 PM - 3 answers

Where to eat/what to do in Iceland?

So my dear friend is heading to Iceland next week for a week. Staying in an Air BnB outside of reykjavik. She will have a rental car for half a week. Where should she go? Where should she eat? What is she do? No food restrictions. Both adventurous hikers and eaters.
posted by Suffocating Kitty to Travel & Transportation at 4:00 PM - 2 answers

Excel (or other program) to find specific totals out of a list?

I have a list of charges and need to figure out which went through based on the total. Can Excel do this? Could a different program? Example below. [more inside]
posted by jenlovesponies to Computers & Internet at 3:54 PM - 2 answers

VPN Recs?

Congress just passed S.J.Res.34. So... I'm looking for VPN service recommendations/advice. I'm happy to pay (within reason) for reliability, privacy, and... any other considerations?
posted by coffee and minarets to Computers & Internet at 3:26 PM - 8 answers

Recommend me a tailor for a smaller person in Toronto or environs?

Can you help my friend find a good tailor? [more inside]
posted by radiocontrolled to Clothing, Beauty, & Fashion at 3:16 PM - 1 answer

Name that thing

In medical dramas on tv, the doctor will approach an illuminated wall-mounted box and clip x-rays under the clip at the top, just by pushing it underneath. Is there something like this for an office, without the backlight, for displaying pieces of mainly A4 paper? What is it called?
posted by bergnotburg to Work & Money at 2:07 PM - 10 answers

Strategies for getting sh*t done while depressed

For the last few months, I've been situationally depressed – I've been dealing with a breakup, shake-ups at work and other life stuff. I know that "this too shall pass" and I'm talking about all of this in therapy. HOWEVER, my therapist is not very good at giving me practical advice for keeping it together day-to-day, and that's what I'm asking about here. [more inside]
posted by cookiedough to Health & Fitness at 1:55 PM - 14 answers

Stand, old ivy

What are the stereotypes of Ivy league students and graduates? [more inside]
posted by the man of twists and turns to Education at 1:34 PM - 29 answers

U2 at Soldier Field...which seats are better?

I got seats to the upcoming U2 show at Soldier field. But I ended up with 4 tix, 2 seated, 2 GA. But GA has a weird code I can't figure out (*GAFL21*). Can you help me figure out which tickets to keep? [more inside]
posted by arniec to Sports, Hobbies, & Recreation at 1:20 PM - 2 answers

Where should I eat (alone) in Seattle?

I will be in Seattle alone for one Friday night. Where can I get a decent, sit down vegetarian meal for one? [more inside]
posted by vanitas to Food & Drink at 1:16 PM - 10 answers

Apple iCloud shenanigans - has my dad's Apple ID been hacked?

My Dad (75, moderately computer literate) has an iPhone, iPad and a Mac. Tonight I tried to change his Apple ID password for him, but couldn't because 2-factor authentication is switched on; he says not by him. Has his account been hacked, and if so, what should I do? [more inside]
posted by meronym to Computers & Internet at 1:03 PM - 5 answers

Casual Group Dinner in Midtown NYC

I need some suggestions for restaurants in Midtown that will accept a reservation of 15 people without going through the catering/special events departments and reserving a private room and all that. This is for a casual business meeting of high level execs who are not all that fancy, so a midrange bar & grill-type place is fine, but I'm not looking for like, TGIFridays in Times Square. Main priorities are 1. Not wildly expensive and 2. Have a liquor license. [more inside]
posted by something something to Travel & Transportation at 12:30 PM - 7 answers

Solution to Summer Marketing Intern Search

I am producing/curating a Artists and Fleas - like artisan faire in the Los Angeles area. Our flagship market is in South Pasadena and I'm dreaming of expanding it out to communities outside the DTLA/Westside center. It's time for a marketing assist and I would love to find a marketing/p.r. intern for the summer. My first thought is to approach FIDM (Fashion Institute) Calling on MeFites for suggestions for other local possibilities/solutions.
posted by goalyeehah to Clothing, Beauty, & Fashion at 12:10 PM - 6 answers

Solutions for storing a wide variety of spices?

I have a ton of spices, and the tins I keep them in don't fit in traditional American spice racks. If you keep a wide variety of spice on hand, what do you use to organize and store them? If you've got a funky DIY solution for this, I'd like to know about it. [more inside]
posted by Diablevert to Home & Garden at 12:00 PM - 28 answers

Making a political-compass style test for D&D character alignments

I'm looking for some way to make a D&D style character alignment test (lawful good, chaotic evil, etc) that lays out the results of the test similar to the 2-axis political spectrum/compass test, with the two axis being law-chaos and good-evil. I'm having trouble figuring out a way to do this. [more inside]
posted by Orca to Computers & Internet at 11:32 AM - 4 answers

Getting rid of mold in a dishwasher

How would you get rid of persistent mold in a dishwasher? [more inside]
posted by TinTitan to Home & Garden at 11:24 AM - 7 answers

Can I take 30 mg of OTC Prevacid?

You're not my doctor, but I can't get in touch with him right now. I typically take 15 mg of Prevacid (the only mg sold OTC that I can find) but I am having breakthrough heartburn a few days a week. I know prescription Prevacid comes in 30 mg, but the boxes of 15mg all say "Do not take more than 1 capsule a day." My plan was to take 30 mg all at once at the usual time I take 15mg (once a day.) Is this acceptable? Does the delayed-release aspect of the OTC Prevacid make this a bad idea?
posted by juniper to Health & Fitness at 9:48 AM - 14 answers

Seriously Hate This Task

Need a restaurant for Chicago, for dinner, this Thursday, for 7. Must have: good cocktails, at least one vegetarian option that is not pasta. Not be south of Congress, not be north of Montrose. Budget is pretty flexible, looking for nicer or something with a little wow factor, like a view. One diner really hates shared plates--so no small plate communal eating thing. [more inside]
posted by crush to Food & Drink at 8:54 AM - 12 answers

Greengages in New York City?

We recently received a fruit basket that contained a container of what I now know were greengages. I had never seen them before, and now we want more. We go to Fairway on the Upper West Side regularly and have never run across them, and I've never spotted them in Whole Foods either. Hoping someone has seen them either recently or regularly, ideally in Manhattan? Dean and DeLuca? Chinatown?
posted by Mchelly to Food & Drink at 8:46 AM - 4 answers

I can't sleep because of itching

In the last few months, I am often unable to sleep due to itching. Last night was the worst night, I think. I was up until 3am and woke up periodically through the night until I got up at 7am. [more inside]
posted by tcv to Health & Fitness at 8:14 AM - 38 answers

Removing part of a concrete slab

I have a yard of wall to wall poured ~50 y/o concrete. I'm interested in removing an 18-24" deep strip about 15' long along one edge (to plant some greenery in). Is there a way to remove it cleanly? [more inside]
posted by stewiethegreat to Home & Garden at 7:46 AM - 11 answers

What exotic fruits can I plant?

What exotic fruits could I grow (in US Zone 9)? [more inside]
posted by saladin to Home & Garden at 7:35 AM - 15 answers

This is an identify scroll. n--a cursed amulet of NethackW.

When I need to rest my brain, I tend to play NethackW (the tile interface, not ASCII). As of yesterday, my computer's anti-virus software decided that only NethackW, and not the ASCII version, was infected with a Trojan or malware (gen:Variant.Jaik.15909), and promptly wiped it off my computer. [more inside]
posted by thomas j wise to Computers & Internet at 7:27 AM - 4 answers

They practically raise themselves with the internet and all

I have a 5 year old, going on 6 who spends a lot of time on the internet. This has been pretty great for him- I'm sure his language skills, maths and general knowledge are far greater than they would have been without them. However I'm concerned that he will inevitably encounter things that I'd rather he didn't. Tools or rules for balancing giving him the freedom to explore without being too laissez-faire? [more inside]
posted by Gratishades to Computers & Internet at 6:19 AM - 15 answers

Listening to music in the 21st Century

I'm tired of trying to maintain a steady 78 rpm on my hand-cranked phonograph. Please explain wireless speaker systems to me like I'm some kind of Luddite. [more inside]
posted by monkey closet to Technology at 3:47 AM - 20 answers

Help me prove to my kid that they do better when rested.

My child denies being tired in the morning and at night, especially when they clearly are. I am looking for age appropriate (7) tests or activities which they could perform periodically to measure their tiredness in a way which might illustrate to them that their mood or cognitive function is better when they are well rested. [more inside]
posted by therubettes to Health & Fitness at 3:36 AM - 19 answers

Can I do anything to prevent my MIL from being kicked onto the street?

I am in a dire situation with my mother in law who is poor and (now) homeless. She has been in the hospital for the past month+ due to a suicide attempt, which has also resulted in her being denied return to her independent living home. The hospital has decided she is no longer a threat to herself and needs to be discharged. The hospital social worker has been unable to find her low-income assisted living and is now threatening to put her in a cab and send her to a homeless shelter unless my husband and I take her in. We can't. What can we do? [more inside]
posted by anonymous to Health & Fitness at 12:46 AM - 11 answers

How to get a job at an organization that's not hiring?

I've been following an organization in my town closely for a while; they do awesome work in a field I'm interested in. A few weeks ago, they posted a job on their website. I sent in my resume and cover letter, but heard nothing. I checked the website a week ago and the job posting has been removed, replaced with "we are not currently hiring." I really want to work there, whether in that specific capacity, or another role. It's a small nonprofit (only 3 fulltime staff), so the staff wear many hats. I believe I have the skills and work experience to make myself a valuable addition. Assume this is my dream job. What can I do, if anything? Reach out to the director directly? Offer to volunteer? How much contact from a prospective employee (hopefully) is too much contact before they get annoyed?
posted by anonymous to Work & Money at 12:46 AM - 8 answers

Tips on Coming to Terms with Sexuality? And a bit of other stuff..

I'm a woman in my early twenties who is experiencing attraction to women and I'm confused. I’m feeling attraction towards my best friend who is bisexual, but I’m not sure if I should act on it, due to morality and fears that she won’t be receptive. How can I explore this identity without acting in ways I might regret? I’d like to build my confidence before I become apathetic towards myself or stifle a part of myself. [more inside]
posted by anonymous to Human Relations at 12:46 AM - 8 answers

March 27

Help me transform a year-long trip into something truly meaningful

I will be spending 12 months on a round-the-world trip in which my girlfriend and I will visit twelve cities in ten countries, one city per month. I will have all business days free as she works remotely on her laptop solo. Please give me ideas for how to transform experience this from a merely fun and leisurely trip to something truly meaningful, magical, and that will jump out on a resume. [more inside]
posted by fenwaydirtdog to Travel & Transportation at 10:01 PM - 19 answers

Your go-to lacto-fermentation resources

I am about to start lacto-fermenting at home. I feel like I have always been doing this spiritually, but now I am about to do it physically. Your resources, recommendations and experiences please! [more inside]
posted by turbid dahlia to Food & Drink at 8:26 PM - 25 answers

How do I make fake foliage that isn't supposed to look real (see images)

I feel ridiculous asking this question, but I know nothing about DIY and I need help. I want to make abstract-ish fake flowers. In other words, I'm not trying to make fake flowers that look real. Instead, I'm trying to make something abstract-ish and modern that adds a pop of color for home decor. I have links to pictures inside showing exactly what I'm trying to do (as a starting point, anyway). [more inside]
posted by 2oh1 to Home & Garden at 7:42 PM - 10 answers

Media Detective: Zoetrope Edition

Around or before summer 2014, there was a lovely zoetrope video that was posted on vimeo, and (maybe) posted on the blue. Help me find it? [more inside]
posted by tedious to Media & Arts at 7:40 PM - 2 answers

Am I abnormally tired?

I feel tired almost all the time, and my boyfriend and I have noticed I need way, way more sleep than him. Does this sound like a health issue? [more inside]
posted by ohsnapdragon to Health & Fitness at 7:39 PM - 18 answers

My manager is leaving. How do I ask her to be my future job reference?

My current direct supervisor is retiring. I don't know her socially at all, though I've liked her a lot as a manager. How can I politely express / request something like this: "Bye, I'll miss you as a boss, please be my reference for future hypothetical job searching, also I need your contact info because I don't know anything about you and you're not on social media." Help?
posted by nicebookrack to Work & Money at 4:05 PM - 11 answers

15% gratuity on a raft trip fee

I've signed up for a raft trip through a beautiful,wild canyon, paid my deposit and about to pay the final balance. Reading the trip prep information it says I should be prepared to pay a 'customary' fee of 15%-20% of the trip fee to the guide. I've never encountered this before from an outfitter or business and wondering how to proceed. [more inside]
posted by diode to Sports, Hobbies, & Recreation at 3:32 PM - 26 answers

Another roommate???? At 44 years old?????

My husband and I are kind and generous souls. We'd both give you our last $40 or the shirt off of our back if you needed it. We just got rid of my sister as a we have another...Mefites, help me be gracious. [more inside]
posted by Amalie-Suzette to Human Relations at 2:43 PM - 26 answers

Lodging reservations when it's too early to get airline tickets?

My wife and I are just now starting to move forward on planning our Christmas trip to Europe (fly into Prague, out of Vienna). However, there is a complication that is vexing us! How do we reserve lodging without an airline itinerary? [more inside]
posted by Don_K to Travel & Transportation at 2:39 PM - 5 answers

Avoiding internet time-suck

I spend far too much time reading the news. Far, far, far too much time. It's embarrassing and I'm ashamed. I kind of want to totally disconnect, but I don't believe that would be effective ultimately. Does anyone have ideas for how to stay somewhat informed without getting sucked into an endless news spiral? I'd love it if there were some digital equivalent of a very thoughtful newspaper (without links!) with only the most important pieces in it, like with a paper newspaper. [more inside]
posted by tangerine_poppies to Computers & Internet at 2:18 PM - 18 answers

Can My Computer Play Civ 6 if it Can Play the Demo?

Pretty straightforward question. When the game came out I looked at the recommended specs and it didn't look like my computer (a Surface Pro 3) could. But I've played the demo on my computer and it works. Will the full game work too? [more inside]
posted by any portmanteau in a storm to Computers & Internet at 12:59 PM - 5 answers

Eugene, Oregon moving recommendations

My wife got into grad school at UO and so we are 90% sure we will be moving to Eugene (from Pennsylvania) this summer. Several questions about apartment hunting inside, chief among them: WHEN should we make a trip to secure a July 1 rental? [more inside]
posted by nakedmolerats to Home & Garden at 12:59 PM - 5 answers

Is it possible to cut off just *one* toxic family member?

My mother is evil, but my siblings and father are nice (if passive and somewhat in denial). What to do? [more inside]
posted by Guinevere to Human Relations at 12:47 PM - 23 answers

Easter postcard ideas

I want to send Easter postcards to my 4-yo and 2-yo nieces. Any ideas of fun stuff that I can send them? Light DIY is fine (this is a shop that I can easily access).
posted by Foci for Analysis to Sports, Hobbies, & Recreation at 12:38 PM - 2 answers

Brooklyn Apartment Hunting

I've recently accepted a job in Brooklyn. I'll have about $1,900 to spend on rent per month (less would be wonderful, obviously). I'm willing to live with a roomie, but would be open to a studio if that was at all possible in that price range (research suggests it's not). What are good options for places to look, given some criteria below the jump? [more inside]
posted by codacorolla to Work & Money at 12:13 PM - 21 answers

Best affordable, light laptop for programming work?

I'm going to start a master's program in computer science in the fall. My current (Windows) laptop is great, but it's too heavy to carry to class. I'm looking for something under $1,000 (ideally closer to $500 or below; I'm poor) that I can bring in for in-class assignments and group work. What would you recommend?
posted by marfa, texas to Computers & Internet at 11:16 AM - 20 answers

Looking for arguments supporting exceptions to abortion bans

It seems that there is a large proportion of Americans who support abortion only when certain circumstances caused the pregnancy. I'm trying to find any piece that actually argues for this. (Potential CW: sexual violence) [more inside]
posted by Hactar to Society & Culture at 10:31 AM - 16 answers

Japanese steakhouse broth soup recipe please?

Have you ever worked in a Japanese steakhouse? Ready to spill your secrets? [more inside]
posted by thebrokenmuse to Food & Drink at 9:59 AM - 16 answers

Content management system for large organization?

I'm looking for a content management system that will allow for easy sharing of content, including PowerPoint presentations, pdfs, links to online content and videos, etc. [more inside]
posted by Karessa to Technology at 9:52 AM - 14 answers

Why can you pressure-cook frozen meat?

So I just got an instapot, and one of the amazing features is the fact that you can drop in a frozen piece of chicken and have it perfectly cooked in no time. My highschool physics is not helping me understand why it's ok to do that with a pressure cooker but not by say baking it. My thoughts were baking may not get the temperature high enough in the frozen center for food safety. Is this not then true for pressure cooking? [more inside]
posted by aeighty to Food & Drink at 9:41 AM - 10 answers

Help a first timer find a realtor in the triangle (NC)

I'm a first time home buyer looking for Realtor recs and/or advice . I'm in Chapel Hill/Hillsborough/Durham, NC. Snowflakes within. [more inside]
posted by sazerac to Human Relations at 9:23 AM - 7 answers

Cat adoption and allergies.

My husband and I would like to adopt a cat! Complication: my husband has selective cat allergies, in that he has been varyingly allergic to some cats (ie, more severely allergic to individual cats at some times and in some situations than others) and not at all allergic to some other cats. We would obviously like to adopt a cat that my husband is less--or not at all--allergic to. The question is, how do we do this? [more inside]
posted by millipede to Pets & Animals at 8:51 AM - 12 answers

How can I get the best travel deals?

Overwhelmed by this industry online and what deal sites are legit and what aren't. I've rooted around some blogs by people who do this for a living, but again -- they are being sponsored or run ads for these sites. Not sure if those are legit. Help! [more inside]
posted by MMALR to Travel & Transportation at 8:30 AM - 6 answers

Frozen meal from a sketchy freezer: Can I eat it?

I went to Target last night to stock up on convenience meals, and noticed that the freezer unit housing the meals was fogged-up and that a lot of the cardboard inside was damp. The rest of the store was in some state of disarray, and there were random Amy's meals tossed into other areas of the freezer where the windows were clean and everything seemed to be pretty well frozen. But I was so dang desperate for my convenience meals that I bought a couple of them anyway. [more inside]
posted by witchen to Food & Drink at 8:14 AM - 6 answers

How to get ahead at work as an introvert without strategizing?

I do not think strategically, for reasons. Mostly principles, as it feels like manipulation which is not my jam. I am noticing that a colleague is getting ahead through strategy despite low quality work (lots of missed deadlines, typos, red flags in internal audits) and questionable technical skills, because she is managing up with the supervisor. It is clearly a "sucking up" approach, with a clear agenda in all conversations where boss is present that reads as this artificial "I am your friend and you really like me." How can I also get ahead, without resorting to tactics? [more inside]
posted by crunchy potato to Human Relations at 7:38 AM - 22 answers

How should I choose a jeweler to create a custom ring?

When I approach jewelers both locally, and semi-locally (and maybe online), what kind of questions should I ask. What are some red flags I should look out for? [more inside]
posted by czytm to Shopping at 7:20 AM - 4 answers

Dealing with middle-school-like rejection drama as an adult

I thought I was part of a whole new social circle of families in our small town, until I wasn't. [more inside]
posted by wannabecounselor to Human Relations at 6:56 AM - 13 answers

Please explain condo purchasing like I'm an eight year old

The wife and I are considering moving into a condo. But, we know nothing about the condo world, or such a purchase. Please hope us! [more inside]
posted by Thorzdad to Home & Garden at 6:45 AM - 10 answers

Strong non-toxic jewelry glue that doesn't emit harmful fumes?

I am looking for a durable non-toxic jewelry glue that glues metal to metal with a flexible bond and dries clear without emitting harmful fumes. [more inside]
posted by whitelotus to Sports, Hobbies, & Recreation at 5:42 AM - 4 answers

Help a hapless speed dater

I went speed dating for the first time this past Tuesday (3/21). There were 6 women and 5 men. I got the email on Thursday that I matched with one man - the only information the company gave me was his first name and his email, so I sent him an email that afternoon (3/23). I haven't heard anything back. Do I let it go, or do I try to email again? [more inside]
posted by anonymous to Human Relations at 5:41 AM - 12 answers