What are your best tips to get yourself out of feeling needy?
July 15, 2010 7:22 PM Subscribe
What are your best tips to get yourself out of feeling needy after a relationship is over?
posted by ArgyleMarionette to human relations (17 answers total) 27 users marked this as a favorite
I was dating someone for a few months when he out of the blue became aloof and uninterested. I've tried to ask him what happened, but so far, no response. I'm taking it very, very hard, even though it wasn't that long of a relationship. I've been having moments of extreme sadness and depression. Like, really severe depression, ideation, the works. (Yes I have a therapist, and friends; no, I am not a threat to myself.)
The depth of how bad I feel doesnt seem to match up to the depth of the relationship that just ended. I'm thinking that this feeling needy, depressed, and worthless has more to do with me than with him/my relationship with him -- I'm reacting really badly, feeling very dramatic ("I'll never find someone as good as him", etc.) and am generally very very crushed, more so than ever in the past.
Because I dont know why he became aloof and distant I feel like its something wrong with me, that it's something I did to make this happen. And I can't shake this feeling that I made this good thing go bad. I'd like to hear some advice on how to pick one's self up after a relationship. This neediness to be back in a relationship with him is really eating at me, even though I know he's got some issues too (who breaks up after a few months by disappearing? That's not right, either, and I do think of him kind of differently after all this...)
Anyway, thanks in advance for your advice.
And sorry for the ramble.