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Worlds of words to escape to

Yesterday, I read the gorgeous, perfect, sweet all-ages comic "The Tea Dragon Society" and fell in love. And then realized how badly I need to disappear into a really good book or 10. Recommendations? I'm looking for some fantasy, historical fiction, regular fiction, or sci-fi novels to read for the purposes of escapism. I'm open to webcomics, too, and podcasts/audiobooks, and kid's books, and movies. Anything where I can really sink into another world and lose myself.
posted by cnidaria to Ask MetaFilter on Nov 15 at 6:00 PM
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Can you re-mineralize/grow/repair your tooth enamel?

Googling this seems to provide conflicting answers. Would like fellow mefites' thoughts on my question. If you believe you can grow/repair/remineralize tooth enamel, links or product names would be appreciated.
posted by luvmywife to Ask MetaFilter on Nov 16 at 2:36 PM
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Keeping good habits

I'm struggling with keeping a few good habits that are essential for my life. No snowflakes here, just the regular stuff: exercising, eating well, meditating, limiting alcohol and caffeine.
posted by Anonymous to Ask MetaFilter on Nov 15 at 12:53 AM
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Are there British podcasts I'm missing out on?

I love podcasts. But I feel like I'm missing out on a wealth of British ones. Do you have any favorite UK podcasts or radio shows?
posted by actionpact to Ask MetaFilter on Nov 14 at 11:10 AM
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Stuff This: Stocking Stuffer Suggestions

My family and I usually each buy some stocking stuffers for each other. Any recommendations?
posted by kat518 to Ask MetaFilter on Nov 17 at 6:26 AM
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Book recomendation: fiction by authors who excell at anthropology + psyc

I love reading fantasy and science fiction, but my two favorite books are actually slightly off from the norms for these genres: "hyper-realistic culture-focused fiction" is what i'll call the target genre for this book search. All recommendations are welcome! :) And if you can tell me a bit about why the book(s) you recommend fit this category, that too would be much appreciated! :)
posted by ch3cooh to Ask MetaFilter on Nov 18 at 7:52 PM
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other names of the rose

I recently finished Umberto Eco's The Name Of The Rose and think it is a wonderful, wondrous book. I loved the interplay of language, theology, philosophy and mystery, the images, the characters, the narrative style. What else can I read?
posted by the man of twists and turns to Ask MetaFilter on Nov 20 at 11:19 AM
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What to do with my (literal) emotional baggage?

I have been decluttering and I find myself unable to throw out coursework/dissertation copies from undergrad/grad school as well as equipment etc. associated with failed passions/dreams.
posted by whitelotus to Ask MetaFilter on Nov 19 at 6:38 AM
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Cream cheese mix-ins

Can you suggest savory ingredients that I can mix into cream cheese to spread on toast and slather on potatoes?
posted by Triumphant Muzak to Ask MetaFilter on Nov 14 at 10:35 AM
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Mystery TV for my mother?

My mom loves mystery TV. She's seen every season of Midsomer Murders and I can only assume she's seen every mystery TV series on (Canadian) Netflix (Miss Fisher, etc.). She especially loves the Cumberbatch Sherlock, and is periodically obsessed with Jack the Ripper. What hasn't she seen that she might like?
posted by flibbertigibbet to Ask MetaFilter on Nov 17 at 4:20 AM
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What is the Snowcrash of today?

What is the Snowcrash of today? In my youth, the novel Snowcrash was quite a phenomenon: it was a fun, exciting read, with crazy ideas, and you didn't have to be into sci fi to enjoy it. People who were into literary fiction, or who didn't even normally read books, had read it. What book holds a similar sort of place nowadays? It doesn't have to be sci fi.
posted by surenoproblem to Ask MetaFilter on Nov 7 at 1:34 AM
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Objectively crappy/subjectively awesome movies to laugh at while tipsy

Some of my girlfriends and I have set up an “Oh God you have to see this amazing train wreck of a movie and also let’s drink” calendar. Finding just the right movies for this kind of activity is not easy, as the sweet spot is narrow, I looked at this ask, but those are mostly definitely not what I’m looking for (maybe one or two). Criteria inside:
posted by tzikeh to Ask MetaFilter on Nov 15 at 10:54 AM
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Looking for REALLY GOOD speeches/lectures/talks

I've noticed I enjoy listening to talks online. I want to find more good ones.
posted by monologish to Ask MetaFilter on Nov 16 at 2:56 PM
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How do I Confess if I've Harassed People in the Past?

I'm a straight white man who is in my thirties. When I was younger, I didn't always treat people well. I had "nice guy" tendencies, and while I never subscribed to their ideology, I did internalize that same grievance. Because of this I didn't always treat women well.
posted by Anonymous to Ask MetaFilter on Nov 17 at 8:06 AM
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Best Family Boardgames

Ticket to Ride was a big hit with the grandkids last year. I'd like to get them another game. Suggestions?
posted by FencingGal to Ask MetaFilter on Nov 20 at 12:58 PM
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Two Buck Chuck, but Six

I am looking for a cheap, decent red wine as a stable for our liquor cabinet. Give me your best recommendations of bottles between $0-$10!
posted by Suffocating Kitty to Ask MetaFilter on Nov 19 at 2:31 PM
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I don't think that I can take it, 'cause it took so long to bake it

Can you recommend a great, relatively simple birthday cake recipe? Amazing buttercream frosting is a must; other specifics inside.
posted by Metroid Baby to Ask MetaFilter on Nov 20 at 1:32 PM
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How do you do anger as a female person?

I just don't know how, and I've got a lot of it.
posted by lauranesson to Ask MetaFilter on Nov 15 at 12:45 AM
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Mind Growing Book Ideas

I have been sending books I find interesting and thought provoking to my brother in law, who has been devouring them at a fantastic rate. I'm looking for more book ideas to send his way!
posted by zug to Ask MetaFilter on Nov 14 at 11:13 AM
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Funny, quirky, earnest movies?

Looking for movie recommendations for a blustery weekend. I loved "We Are The Best!" and "Lars and the Real Girl," because they were sweet and funny and slightly offbeat, but also earnest and thoughtful with endearing but not saccharine plots and characters. What other movies might I like?
posted by stillmoving to Ask MetaFilter on Nov 10 at 1:08 PM
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She's under-socialized, untrained, and under-exercised, maybe gets walked once a week. First of all, where does this dog toilet if she is not being walked? what the fuck. This dog needs to be rehomed with responsible owners, but your desire not to be physically attacked by an unsafely homed animal is totally fucking normal and valid... [more]
posted by poffin boffin to Ask MetaFilter on Nov 16 at 1:54 PM
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It's good that you recognize your wrongdoings, but consider that these women may not want to have this past pain opened up so that you can feel better about it. The right thing to do is to do better with every interaction with women you have going forward. [view]
posted by Lutoslawski to Ask MetaFilter on Nov 17 at 8:26 AM
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"I noticed that on FaceBook you praised some work from BGC while I worked there. Everyone at BGC works under a really strict non-disclosure agreement, so I can't say anything as to the authorship of that particular piece. But I have a number of samples that I'd love to show you that I think you'd find equally interesting." [view]
posted by ubiquity to Ask MetaFilter on Nov 17 at 7:40 AM
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Your boyfriend is prioritizing the dog over you. I suggest you leave. This is in no way your fault, and your boyfriend is the one in the wrong, 100%. This doesn't seem like a situation you can win, and frankly, this is unlikely to be the last time your boyfriend treats you this badly. DTMFA. [view]
posted by Slinga to Ask MetaFilter on Nov 16 at 1:53 PM
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Now what the hell does that mean, in the eyes of the outside observer? I think it means you need a new boyfriend, and your current one can't bring himself to say so. [view]
posted by mhoye to Ask MetaFilter on Nov 15 at 5:07 PM
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I personally wouldn't date anyone who treats their pet this carelessly. [view]
posted by cakelite to Ask MetaFilter on Nov 16 at 2:05 PM
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I don't have answers, and I know you want to do what's best for your son, but as someone with depression and anxiety, this reads to me as being deeply unhealthy, incredibly immature behavior. I say that not in judgement but because you seem to be entertaining this whole idea as though it were the product of a rational thought process. It doesn't... [more]
posted by marsbar77 to Ask MetaFilter on Nov 15 at 1:38 PM
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This dog is still being abused. Dogs needs stimulation and exercise, in varying amounts, but walked once a week is vastly too little. Dogs also need socialization and training for their safety, other dogs' safety, and peoples' safety. Your personal fear is valid, and it's a valid reason to leave. Untrained dogs can be honest to god dangerous.... [more]
posted by The Gaffer to Ask MetaFilter on Nov 16 at 2:00 PM
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What you do going forward: -Treat women well. -Call out other men, and ask for their help in changing male culture. That is it. Asking for forgiveness, desiring to be absolved of your guilt -- that is just another way of asking women to do emotional labor. Work it out on your own (or hire a therapist) and be a better person going forward. [view]
posted by epanalepsis to Ask MetaFilter on Nov 17 at 8:35 AM
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Shaving your head is definitely not the answer if you’re trying to avoid the obvious association. [view]
posted by kapers to Ask MetaFilter on Nov 17 at 3:36 PM
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This isn’t a sex problem, it’s a relationship problem. That might sound glib but you’re not gonna fix it by getting “better” at sex. I don’t know how invested you are in this relationship but sometimes the most effective way to improve your sex life is by finding a more compatible partner. [view]
posted by danny the boy to Ask MetaFilter on Nov 14 at 5:33 PM
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Sometimes, guilt isn't something you should "fix". If you were to come out about the issues, it wouldn't make anyone that was really impacted feel much better. It would only make you feel less guilty. Net: selfish. It might hurt your existing relationships - which, if you've already changed, wouldn't necessarily help you. It might... [more]
posted by bbqturtle to Ask MetaFilter on Nov 17 at 8:24 AM
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I was adopted. I lived with my birth mother for a time and then was given up for adoption. I was with a foster family for some amount of time and then was adopted around 6 months old. My adoptive mother, as part of birth story, would talk about how loving the foster family was. How the family had children of their own and they doted on me and loved... [more]
posted by amanda to Ask MetaFilter on Nov 17 at 12:27 PM
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My ex never hit me, I told people. He hit walls and shook furniture, and slammed doors, but he didn't hit me. Then people asked specifics. Ok, he grabbed my arm all the time. Yes, he stopped me leaving rooms physically. He kicked me, but that was an accident. I fell, but that was an accident. I bruised easily. I was too sensitive and I had a really... [more]
posted by dorothyisunderwood to Ask MetaFilter on Nov 19 at 6:58 AM
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i think it's great that you know exactly what you want out of a potential relationship. i 100% disagree completely with your actual opinions on whether or not someone who can't afford to take you out to dinner every night is "cheap" but like you said, these are cultural differences. i think it's really important to get these basic... [more]
posted by poffin boffin to Ask MetaFilter on Nov 20 at 3:21 AM
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Okay, just to recap: 1. There are things in the relationship that have been bothering you for a long time. 2. Partner doesn’t respond well to these conversations, checking out and otherwise acting like he can’t figure out how to improve. 3. The “things” you don’t like about the relationship is that he talks to you cruelly and condescendingly... [more]
posted by Autumnheart to Ask MetaFilter on Nov 19 at 6:06 AM
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I want the guys who behaved this way toward me in the past to do a few things. Mentor young men and explicitly state, as well as model, that this crap is not ok. Without the message of “I used to do this and I grew out of it.” Just, be very clear that it’s not ok. Engage in conversations with their (especially male) friends about the recent... [more]
posted by bilabial to Ask MetaFilter on Nov 17 at 8:39 AM
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Oh. Um. I just don’t generally trim or shave anything, and I don’t say anything. Not in advance, and not when I’m naked. I’m at the point in my life where, and I’m serious about this, if a guy comments negatively on my pit hair or my bush, I’m out. I have walked out on dates with guys who say that hair is gross* or weird or not sexy. I’m not... [more]
posted by bilabial to Ask MetaFilter on Nov 14 at 5:46 PM
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Whoa, dude. Read my first ask.me. It's, like, EXACTLY THE SAME minus the roommate component. Never have I felt more certain in my qualifications to answer an Ask. This relationship is not worth anymore of your time, energy, or emotional labor. It does not get better. Disentangle yourself and walk away. The dog is a red herring; rather, it is... [more]
posted by emkelley to Ask MetaFilter on Nov 16 at 2:48 PM
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Well, that was pretty rude of her. I guess that if you wanted to be gracious about it, I would just pretend it all never happened, since apparently that’s how she’s approaching it. No message, don’t show up, don’t bring it up again if you run into her. She could really have handled that better, though. [view]
posted by Autumnheart to Ask MetaFilter on Nov 19 at 5:54 AM
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