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Nonfiction describing learning/daily experience in profession/skill/etc?

I just finished Smoke Gets In Your Eyes, a book about working in a crematorium, and I am craving more nonfiction books describing what it is like to work in a particular field/profession, or just what it is like to learn or do a particular skill/hobby. Does not have to be sole focus of book, just occupy big chunks of it.
posted by Cozybee to Ask MetaFilter on Sep 12 at 9:37 PM
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I want to eat the same lunch every day.

I eat the same thing for breakfast every day and it really helps me keep my diet on track. Lunch is a separate beast. I also have obnoxious dietary restrictions including no dairy, eggs, or gluten. What should I eat every single day?
posted by rodneyaug to Ask MetaFilter on Sep 13 at 10:41 AM
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Songs you didn't know were covers b/c originals are relatively obscure

After the current bump in online chatter regarding Natalie Imbruglia's 1997 hit "Torn" actually being a cover of a relatively obscure song by relatively obscure group Ednaswap from 1993, I'm curious just how many of the songs I know and love are actually covers by popular artists of unknown/obscure bands/songs.
posted by tzikeh to Ask MetaFilter on Sep 16 at 12:14 PM
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How do you listen to music?

Ever since Spotify and Google Play became the way to listen to music, I have stopped listening to music because it feels like too much work (aka I don't understand the new way of picking songs and I don't want to spend my whole dinner party scrolling through my phone). Can you help me figure out how to put on some good music without a lot of fuss? I used to listen to music all the time and now it seems too hard. Because I am old? or because it is just complicated now? help!
posted by andreapandrea to Ask MetaFilter on Sep 14 at 9:52 AM
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It's easy: I have money, you have bills

What do I call the sort of organization/fund I'm looking for? I want to give people small sums to pay their bills.
posted by OrangeVelour to Ask MetaFilter on Sep 13 at 12:22 PM
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Alternatives to Root Beer Floats

What are some good soda + ice cream combinations, as alternatives to root beer floats?
posted by meese to Ask MetaFilter on Sep 17 at 2:58 PM
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Style Blogs

I wish to be someone who "knows fashion" and is not "basic". I currently live in a pretty androgynous-feminine space, haven't figured out how to stop wearing skinny jeans and can't be bothered to search for fashion inspiration. I'd like to know what the current silhouettes are (is it really just... very baggy everything?), how to wear them, and use that as a basis going forward. Is there a blogger who does broad-strokes work like that?
posted by lizifer to Ask MetaFilter on Sep 13 at 9:56 AM
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Self-contained foods

I like empanadas, hand pies, tamales, burritos, and other food that's encased in something starchy. I shouldn't eat (much) wheat. What else should I try making?
posted by sibilatorix to Ask MetaFilter on Sep 17 at 9:21 PM
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US food + UK food = ??

Help me think of typical UK foods with US ingredients and vice versa. This is for a party, and no idea is too crazy.
posted by tractorfeed to Ask MetaFilter on Sep 13 at 7:20 AM
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Perfect lunch quest

I'm looking for delicious and interesting recipes that make 4-8 servings, freeze excellently, and incorporate inexpensive cuts of meat and non-starchy vegetables. Rather than finding a few favorites and rotating them, I get bored. I do like new twists on old classics. In the past I've had good luck with just about anything involving chicken thighs in some kind of flavorful sauce or braise, brisket, goat stew, chilis, etc.
posted by bunderful to Ask MetaFilter on Sep 15 at 5:46 AM
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Speculative Fiction fit for the Trump era?

American War - The Mandibles - The Plot Against America - Underground Airlines - The Handmaid's Tale
posted by fso to Ask MetaFilter on Sep 12 at 1:15 PM
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I feel insanely unlikeable

... I'm pretty sure it's not just me. How do I work on this?
posted by Anonymous to Ask MetaFilter on Sep 17 at 6:49 AM
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researt & arsearcht

Who are some individuals who are top-notch artist-researchers and researcher-artists today? And how did they develop their expertise?
posted by icosahedron to Ask MetaFilter on Sep 13 at 8:06 AM
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What is the most creative way you can think of to drain a pool?

A buddy of mine has to drain his pool. He asked on Facebook how to actually do that. We've given him a bunch of "helpful" ideas, but I'd like to get more help on this. The more unpractical your idea, the better. Let's science the crap out of this.
posted by jeffamaphone to Ask MetaFilter on Sep 12 at 8:22 AM
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Bisexual Visibility Day for a moot bisexual

I am bisexual in a way that kinda doesn't matter and very few people know. Would it be appropriate to make it more widely known?
posted by Anonymous to Ask MetaFilter on Sep 12 at 11:26 PM
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best books about U.S. health care?

I want to read 2-3 books about the current state of the United States health care system. My goal is to have a better working understanding of the current problems, potential solutions, political realities, etc. Bonus points for lively, compelling reads! What should I be looking at?
posted by this, of course, alludes to sex to Ask MetaFilter on Sep 17 at 12:38 PM
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Help me pivot my pizza sauce!

A few years ago I perfected my pizza sauce. Now I am getting a sensation of... Spaghetti. Help me tweak my recipe!
posted by rebent to Ask MetaFilter on Sep 15 at 11:45 AM
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Render unto me your papercraft recommendations

So I read the very interesting Irving Harper post and, looking at his papercraft stuff (especially the hanging sculptures) I thought, "I could do simpler, clumsier versions of that stuff and it would still look pretty neat".
posted by Frowner to Ask MetaFilter on Sep 18 at 7:06 AM
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Morning Face Time

A long time ago I came across an idea, from the now-deceased blogger Seth Roberts, that seeing faces in the morning is beneficial for sleep & mood. I've investigated it enough, on and off, to think there might be something to it. Now I want to properly test it for myself. Help me find some good sources of faces.
posted by gold-in-green to Ask MetaFilter on Sep 13 at 9:14 PM
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existential angst-filter

My friend died. I am struggling with, I am sure, extremely normal feelings like "what's it all about anyway?" How do I work through this? My heart is telling me to quit my job and run away to the countryside but I'm fairly sure this is temporary craziness brought about by bereavement.
posted by sockandawe to Ask MetaFilter on Sep 18 at 4:12 AM
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If the point is to give your kids the experience of watching a birth and having newborns, why not foster a pregnant mama cat? Most of the folks I know who have had newborns have gotten them that way, and there's always a need for fosters. That way you also have the support of the adoption agency in placing the kittens, and with anything else you... [more]
posted by restless_nomad to Ask MetaFilter on Sep 18 at 9:18 AM
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He is a very selfless lover otherwise NOPE. Being that critical and utterly insensitive cancels out whatever tolerable skills he manages to muster. And he knows he was deliberately, repeatedly negging you during particularly vulnerable times, and had the gall to try to hand wave it away by telling you that you "always take the... [more]
posted by Iris Gambol to Ask MetaFilter on Sep 16 at 6:58 PM
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oh my god that is so bad and awful. I think you are falling into body insecurity because although that is extremely painful in its own way, it is painful in a different way to really see how hideous your friend is. and you can mask the latter with the former. of course there's nothing wrong with your body, no matter what he said. but it can be... [more]
posted by queenofbithynia to Ask MetaFilter on Sep 16 at 6:48 PM
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You aren't wrong about whether men can see past your imperfections, you were wrong about whether this particular man was a good person to hook up with and a good person in general. I would set a high standard for the people you are friends with and the people you hook up with and toss this guy from both categories. The way he spoke to you is... [more]
posted by alphanerd to Ask MetaFilter on Sep 16 at 6:43 PM
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This guy is a jerk. There are literally millions and billions of people with flawed bodies on the planet who have sex without this kind of assholery. Please do not sleep with him, do not consider him a friend, dump him and free up time in your life to meet someone who finds you incredibly hot. [view]
posted by warriorqueen to Ask MetaFilter on Sep 16 at 6:50 PM
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This world does not need another deliberately-bred cat. Foster a pregnant cat. Your kids will get this experience and a lesson in altruistic stewardship, and hopefully a strong dedication to spay/neuter, instead of...forcing something to reproduce for their edification. [view]
posted by Lyn Never to Ask MetaFilter on Sep 18 at 9:34 AM
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If I received that letter - even if I wanted to do everything I could to help you - there's no way in hell I would acknowledge receipt and say I would assist you. That opens me up to too much potential liability. [view]
posted by NotMyselfRightNow to Ask MetaFilter on Sep 13 at 4:52 AM
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I wouldn't frame this as punishing your father, but as keeping your child safe from a toxic and dangerous individual. [view]
posted by rockindata to Ask MetaFilter on Sep 18 at 1:02 AM
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It turned out not to be too loud, but I was glad I'd had the earplugs just in case. I wound up doing only enough of the anxiety meds to get there to let me get two drinks once they wore off, not because anybody else expected it but because it did help me relax. It also resulted in a micro-Metafilter-meetup when I ran into ephemerista at the bar... [more]
posted by Sequence to Ask MetaFilter on Sep 15 at 10:47 PM
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If the pool is an introvert you can take it to a very large party and force it to make smalltalk with all of the guests. [view]
posted by phunniemee to Ask MetaFilter on Sep 12 at 8:35 AM
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Closed communication divorce. Your lawyers should talk only. Block his phone number and email or route directly through your lawyer. Lawyers are useful if one party cannot handle communication appropriately (him). [view]
posted by Nanukthedog to Ask MetaFilter on Sep 12 at 5:28 PM
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One option in between ending the friendship completely and putting up with her nonsense is setting boundaries. "I don't agree with you about racism being over and I will not spend time with you if you say things like that." She'll push back; you stand firm. If she keeps arguing then leave. She'll either get angry with you and won't want... [more]
posted by chaiminda to Ask MetaFilter on Sep 17 at 6:59 AM
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All these other answers are overthinking the problem. Just turn it upside-down. [view]
posted by pipeski to Ask MetaFilter on Sep 12 at 8:53 AM
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a tirade about how the civil war was not fought for slavery, racism does not exist today, and people are trying to erase southern heritage... I feel terrible for considering stopping our friendship because I feel I must educate her and explain Your POC friends are right: it is not your job to educate her. Your very nice friend who you... [more]
posted by DarlingBri to Ask MetaFilter on Sep 17 at 6:48 AM
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Pre -empty the whole thing and cut them off at the pass by saying you'd really like to catch up with father and stepmother, you understand they don't know her daughter's schedule but you have a jam packed week and you are only available on xx day. You've booked a restaurant at xx place for the whole family and while you hope that daughter etc can... [more]
posted by Jubey to Ask MetaFilter on Sep 16 at 12:04 AM
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erratic meatsack has some excellent advice for dealing with body image issues, which tracks well with my own experience. I'm nobody's Adonis and I have my own issues around how my body looks, but when I'm hiking (my main physical activity) I feel a lot of pride about what my body can do and I feel good about it afterwards. Like, yeah, I have a... [more]
posted by Anticipation Of A New Lover's Arrival, The to Ask MetaFilter on Sep 16 at 7:30 PM
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I'm trying to imagine a scenario in which a man is actively receiving a blow job and, of all the things that could be going through his mind with enough coherence to become words that get spoken aloud, the ones he picks are, "You could stand to do some squats." That's a brave dude. Since you were nice enough to let him get... [more]
posted by Autumnheart to Ask MetaFilter on Sep 16 at 8:16 PM
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OP, I sympathise with you. I had similar problems in the past, myself. But I don't think this is appropriate. This is something you can probably -- probably -- ask of your SO, or closest friend but it's really not fair to ask random employees to police your purchases. You are putting everyone in a very uncomfortable position, especially if... [more]
posted by Room 641-A to Ask MetaFilter on Sep 13 at 5:00 AM
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I get the feeling that this isn't really about shoes in the house. If you can pay for a hotel room for her you can pay to get your floors steam cleaned after she leaves. My mother has to wear shoes because of her litany of foot and joint issues and her plantar fasciitis, she is truly in pain when she doesn't wear supportive shoes around the... [more]
posted by Mizu to Ask MetaFilter on Sep 15 at 10:21 PM
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Hi- I'll buck the trend and say: She's being very disrespectful. As a guest, she is responsible for paying attention to the ground rules you set. I would be inclined to tell her that you care a lot about her, and you really want to enjoy sharing her visit together, and it sounds like she would be more comfortable in a hotel. You mention in... [more]
posted by arnicae to Ask MetaFilter on Sep 15 at 11:38 PM
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