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Lend me your delightfully tedious hobbies

I love anything that is repetitive and keeps at least my hands busy. I knit repetitive sampler afghans; I buy wool sweaters from goodwill and dismantle them; I get $20 in pennies from the bank and sort them for wheat pennies. I LOVE to tear up a garden bed. All are mindless and require 1% of my attention so I can devote 99% listening to a podcast. I want MOOAR!
posted by pintapicasso to Ask MetaFilter on Oct 11 at 6:13 PM
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strategies for cheap eating

I've been unemployed for awhile so I've had to radically tighten my grocery budget. Since I was used to just buying whatever I felt like, I need to know how to be more responsible. I am not looking for recipes, I'm looking for general tips such as "buy toiletries from the dollar store, but produce at Aldi" or "download coupons from example.com."
posted by AFABulous to Ask MetaFilter on Oct 17 at 10:05 AM
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Tips to declutter when depression has made you neglect your apartment

My flat/apartment has got very neglected this year due to having a few months of depression.
posted by AuroraSky to Ask MetaFilter on Oct 11 at 1:59 PM
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Help me make a good, basic pizza at home.

I am a decent home cook and I would like to improve my homemade pizza-making skills. Can you recommend the techniques and equipment (and, perhaps, the ingredients and recipes) that will best help me do so?
posted by cheapskatebay to Ask MetaFilter on Oct 13 at 10:04 AM
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One Weird Trick to Save Money

I've made a fair few lifestyle changes to save money, but I've still got a ways to go before I pay off my debt. What's the one lifestyle change that saved you the most money?
posted by Ziggy500 to Ask MetaFilter on Oct 17 at 4:42 AM
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Alternatives to Love

I'm doing everything I can to "find someone", but started thinking that perhaps there are some other great experiences that would be more attainable that I could work towards.
posted by seraph9 to Ask MetaFilter on Oct 17 at 8:04 AM
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Local fast food

I'm interesting in your local fast food traditions.
posted by kevinbelt to Ask MetaFilter on Oct 15 at 6:17 PM
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Cheer up, bucko.

I wish to be cheerful, mortals.
posted by Evilspork to Ask MetaFilter on Oct 16 at 11:50 AM
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'We may not have much, but we have each other'

In search of books about simple living and appreciating the little things.
posted by castlebravo to Ask MetaFilter on Oct 16 at 2:59 PM
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Beyond vision boards

My therapist recently had me make vision boards showing the life I want to create. So I cut a bunch of stuff from magazines, got out the glue, found some old heavy cardstock posters from a dumpster behind Gamestop for grounds...and it was really satisfying, and fun, and actually inspirational.
posted by Archipelago to Ask MetaFilter on Oct 10 at 1:57 PM
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Another question about simplifying

I am inspired by minimalist philosophy and paring down to essentials in life. I have seen other asks and wanted to get the Hive Mind to weigh in on more.
posted by crunchy potato to Ask MetaFilter on Oct 12 at 11:05 AM
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Same song, different feeling

Looking for suggestions of songs with alternative arrangements or cover versions that interpret the same lyrics with different emotional notes: breezy, slightly off-putting, sad/deary/Sinister.
posted by divabat to Ask MetaFilter on Oct 15 at 10:53 PM
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How to have delicious red rice and refried beans always available

I would like to have a big pot of fluffy Mexican restaurant-style red rice and (separately) refried black/pinto beans ready to go in my kitchen at all times. What is going to be the best way to make this happen?
posted by Hermione Granger to Ask MetaFilter on Oct 14 at 4:14 PM
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Favorite standalone SFF novels

I'm starting a SFF book club, and we'd prefer to read and discuss standalone novels (if only to avoid hearing 'well maybe they wrap it up in Book 2!'). What are your favorite standalone SFF novels?
posted by palindromic to Ask MetaFilter on Oct 10 at 6:37 PM
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you can’t become world-class at everything, right?

Have you liked or excelled at doing several very different things, and chosen to sacrifice some of them in exchange for gaining deep expertise in one or two things? Or have you decided to pursue everything or combine some of the things? I’m facing some choices and would like to hear your stories.
posted by icosahedron to Ask MetaFilter on Oct 14 at 11:03 AM
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Surgeries Optional

I've just read NEVER LET ME GO and THE UNIT and am looking for more books along those lines!
posted by moxiedoll to Ask MetaFilter on Oct 12 at 12:30 PM
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Eating Urges

I need advice on how to stop my constant desire/urge to eat. What is the best way to do this?
posted by Crystal Fox to Ask MetaFilter on Oct 15 at 5:07 PM
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Unputdownable podcasts or audio books (non fiction) please...

I like to listen to non fiction serialised podcasts on my commute. Favourites include Crimetown, Serial, S-Town, How to be a Girl and Up & Vanished. I could do with some recommendations for gripping non-fiction audio books or podcasts (serialised) in any genre.
posted by TheGarden to Ask MetaFilter on Oct 11 at 2:49 AM
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Organizing my life when I have A LOT to do

I have a lot going on in my life and am having a hard time keeping track of and managing it all. Please recommend an app/combination of apps to help me stay on track!
posted by galaxypeachtea to Ask MetaFilter on Oct 13 at 8:47 AM
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Tips to keep from crying

What are some easy tricks to stop crying quickly or to prevent it when you can feel it coming on?
posted by armadillo1224 to Ask MetaFilter on Oct 12 at 1:40 PM
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Unless you have reason to think that she was intentionally acting out of spite for some reason (in which case, why would she allow her kids to go?), consider that there may have been something about the trip or the wedding that was so challenging to her that even her love for you and good wishes for your marriage could not overcome. Some... [more]
posted by Sublimity to Ask MetaFilter on Oct 13 at 5:30 PM
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I was initially captivated by her youth, beauty, and innocence. DUDE. Look, there is a Thing where older men date women in their very early twenties, because they are so Fresh and Innocent and Untouched and Free, and then those young women get a little older and a little more complicated and a little less breathlessly grateful for... [more]
posted by a fiendish thingy to Ask MetaFilter on Oct 16 at 10:24 AM
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I don't mean this to be unnecessarily harsh but I honestly don't have other words to describe what I felt when I read this - you are really emotionally manipulative, relatively narcissistic, and the reason she is feeling relieved is she may realize this now that she's out. Every step of the way here, you were in control of the power dynamic -... [more]
posted by notorious medium to Ask MetaFilter on Oct 16 at 8:59 AM
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While I think it makes all the sense in the world for you to contribute monthly for property tax, home insurance, maintenance, etc., calling it *rent* from a spouse seems bizarre to me. I would be hurt and offended by the word, as it makes it seem like you are not partners. [view]
posted by Kriesa to Ask MetaFilter on Oct 16 at 4:32 AM
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For example, the latest one was that we were watching a movie together, and he was chatting on an online chat server while we were hanging out together, and then when I saw it out of the corner of my eye and asked him what he was doing, he immediately said that he was just checking his email... but I knew that he wasn't because of the... [more]
posted by queenofbithynia to Ask MetaFilter on Oct 11 at 10:01 PM
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I dunno, this seems a lot more like "sometimes I just want to be alone to read the internet and listen to abrasive music while messily eating foods my partner dislikes", in that it's reasonable to want some non-on-call time to do things that your partner doesn't like. Your partner sometimes wants to be able to unwind, not to... [more]
posted by Frowner to Ask MetaFilter on Oct 11 at 2:40 PM
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Personally I suspect this has something to do with whatever vague reasons you have for being "unable" to be on the title or enter a long-term financial agreement. She's concerned about the money you owe or have owed to someone else or your inability to pay debts. I doubt that anyone here is going to be able to give you advice without... [more]
posted by possibilityleft to Ask MetaFilter on Oct 16 at 4:48 AM
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People who deeply care about you are generally happy to do stuff that makes you happy, especially when it's zero-stakes for them personally. They don't devalue your feelings, disrespect your private communications, or shrug or get mad when you express a concern or insecurity. This isn't really about the pictures, but you are being given a... [more]
posted by Lyn Never to Ask MetaFilter on Oct 15 at 5:14 PM
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Christ, don't make people on this site answer this - everyone will project all over it, ha. We can't answer - it depends so much on what he is like, what you are like, what you are like together, what you want out of life. What is clear is that you're suffering and he is suffering. Those issues should both be addressed. This is very important:... [more]
posted by karmachameleon to Ask MetaFilter on Oct 15 at 12:41 AM
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I'm sorry this ended badly, I'm sure there were failures and mistakes on both sides, but can you please take the lesson from this that you should only date people you respect? That means you cannot fetishize "youth, beauty, and innocence" when you yourself are approaching middle age. That is actually selecting for someone who will... [more]
posted by praemunire to Ask MetaFilter on Oct 16 at 9:01 AM
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Yeahhhhh I could have been your ex in my 20s, except I cut off my late-30s dude at the pass when it became clear that he expected me to "audition for the role of girlfriend." Lord knows where I found the wisdom and the strength. I am grateful on the daily. I read your whole question and honestly was like...wait a minute. Did... [more]
posted by We put our faith in Blast Hardcheese to Ask MetaFilter on Oct 16 at 10:56 AM
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Also if y'all are using the words profiteering and freeloading with one another, there's a bigger marriage problem here. Those are some pretty intense things to say about your loved ones. [view]
posted by sockermom to Ask MetaFilter on Oct 16 at 5:06 AM
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Hmm - if you were him, and a patient from 3 years has continued to persistently contact you, sent you letters which you kindly responded to, leaving a drunk voicemail, sending a bunch of texts, calling repeatedly, getting a (one assumes free) 40 minute call and requesting a (equally uncompensated) future in-person meeting, what would you do? If... [more]
posted by arnicae to Ask MetaFilter on Oct 15 at 11:30 AM
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Why didn't the single mom travel with three kids all weekend? Because she wanted everyone to be sane and alive on Monday. Give this person a break. It's not about you. It's about survival. ...this seems a little harsh to the OP? I think your sister bailing on your wedding last minute is certainly about you a little bit -- it was unkind to... [more]
posted by Countess Sandwich to Ask MetaFilter on Oct 13 at 5:50 PM
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I tried to use this period to show her what real partnership is This is not in any fashion what real partnership is, starting from the general problem that you've described it entirely as stuff you're doing for her. God, you say you love her but you don't even sound like you like her. You describe her like she's a fictional character... [more]
posted by Sequence to Ask MetaFilter on Oct 16 at 9:12 AM
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From across the Internet, taking a better-paid fulltime position over a contractor role seems a pretty good deal, and I don't even think you would burn bridges. If you get an offer, can you tell your boss at Org 1 and see if they can make a full-time role appear? [view]
posted by katrielalex to Ask MetaFilter on Oct 11 at 1:03 PM
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First of all, I think you need to cut out any guilt you might feel. You say "I" did this and that but he did it too and you don't have to protect him or his partner. I think you should try to put them out of your mind for now and focus on what's right for you and the baby. The "plot twist" for example has almost nothing to do... [more]
posted by hazyjane to Ask MetaFilter on Oct 18 at 4:11 AM
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It's a good thing that you are asking this question. Thanks. I think it's a good, really basic rule of thumb not to say (or think okay to be said) anything about women that you wouldn't say if women were present. [view]
posted by sophieblue to Ask MetaFilter on Oct 15 at 4:29 PM
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So you thought for years that she wasn't enough as she is (because she needs to do #badassmotoyoga to develop), she received this message, got progressively more annoyed by it, started noticing that she's surround by billions of other people and can find someone who takes her the way she is (which is fantastic) and left you and now you mad bro? [view]
posted by WeekendJen to Ask MetaFilter on Oct 16 at 9:35 AM
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Who hasn't left the odd angry demanding voice mail. Lots of people. No need to normalize this behavior IMHO. [view]
posted by The Toad to Ask MetaFilter on Oct 15 at 1:30 PM
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