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Surprising Things You Enjoy

I just put on a pot of green beans, which I will be eating soon with some potatoes and olive oil on pasta. This will be breakfast. As it turns out, I much prefer non-breakfast food for breakfast. It only recently occurred to me that there's no actual requirement to eat oatmeal (or whatever) in the morning hours. I did not expect to find fun in eating pasta in the morning but I do. In what unexpected areas, no matter how small, have you discovered some amount of pleasure or joy?
posted by Bella Donna to Ask MetaFilter on Jun 25 at 9:36 AM
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Please describe for me your planning routines

I've realized I need to get better at planning at work - especially for medium- and long-range projects and goals. I have no trouble finding suggested planning methodologies and documents online. Where I struggle is in understanding where and how this fits into daily working life. Can you share your planning hacks, techniques, systems and routines with me?
posted by Miko to Ask MetaFilter on Jun 23 at 11:15 AM
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Quench my (very specific) thirst?

Seeking your recommendations for tasty, reasonably healthy, nonalcoholic, ideally-not-too-caffeinated cold beverages. Would welcome specific brand suggestions, general categories of beverage, and/or recipes (syrups? infusions? kombuchas?) to make at home. Some preferences below:
posted by ferret branca to Ask MetaFilter on Jun 27 at 6:58 PM
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What product(s) changed your life?

I'm interested in products that will help make my life easier. Hit me!
posted by mrfuga0 to Ask MetaFilter on Jun 28 at 8:45 AM
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I signed up for Lynda.com. What should I learn?

I want to upgrade my skills so I can make more money. I signed up for Lynda.com, and now I don't really know where to start. What are some in-demand skills I can learn there?
posted by Serene Empress Dork to Ask MetaFilter on Jun 22 at 2:01 PM
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excuse me i would like MORE magic dustpans

Fantasy where people who do housekeeping/domestic/child rearing activity are awesome because of it, and not in spite?
posted by joyceanmachine to Ask MetaFilter on Jun 23 at 7:59 AM
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How to have a calm life with a kid

We're old, married, set in our ways. Are we cut out for parenting?
posted by Anonymous to Ask MetaFilter on Jun 25 at 9:45 PM
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What should I add to my relationship contract?

My partner and I developed a cohabitation agreement before we moved in together, which primarily concerns: finances, house guests, logistics, and house-related decisions. It's time to revise/update it, and I'd like to expand it to address less concrete things concerning our relationship (something like mental loads, emotional labor, love languages, future expectations, areas of responsibility...). Do you have a "relationship contract"? What has worked for you? What should we add to ours? Details about us below.
posted by chemicalsyntheticist to Ask MetaFilter on Jun 27 at 12:00 PM
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YA fantasy for captivating a picky brain

I'm reading Garth Nix's Old Kingdom books again, and realised in doing so that it's been a long time since I read something that completely captivated me, and made me want to keep reading to the exclusion of other activities. I'm looking for more examples in a similar vein - YA fantasy series, with some specific likes/dislikes inside.
posted by terretu to Ask MetaFilter on Jun 28 at 6:13 AM
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Reasonably affordable, experiential gifts

I have a couple good friends who have upcoming birthdays. Last year I got them both introductory flight lessons, which they both loved. I've done indoor skydiving and jet boat rides (I'm in Portland, OR) previously. Any other great ideas out there for around $100?
posted by OneSmartMonkey to Ask MetaFilter on Jun 21 at 9:58 AM
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I feel like a weeble

I have been undergoing a series of stressful times one after the other, and I need to figure out what kind of extreme self-care I can do to keep my recurring depression/anxiety at bay.
posted by Ziggy500 to Ask MetaFilter on Jun 24 at 12:34 PM
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Books for procrastination/self-defeating help

Please recommend books for help with procrastination/self-defeating thinking; specifically the feeling that "it's too late" to do anything.
posted by Mid to Ask MetaFilter on Jun 21 at 9:16 AM
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Vacation with nieces & nephews - how to be entertaining?

What are some tips on how to be fun with younger kids without getting exhausted?? I'm spending four days at the beach next week with my partner's niece and nephews.
posted by amicamentis to Ask MetaFilter on Jun 22 at 6:16 AM
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Irish/Gaelic mythology literature

I’ve recently watched a few movies drawing on Irish/Gaelic (not sure of the difference) mythology: The Secret of Kells, The Secret of Roan Inish, and Song of the Sea. I'd like to go to the source of the myths. What books can you recommend?
posted by falsedmitri to Ask MetaFilter on Jun 24 at 7:44 AM
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Please help me with simple Instant Pot recipes to support bodybuilding

Here's the layout: I recently purchased an Instant Pot. I made a few things with it so far and they came out edible. I'm about to start a fitness program intended for bulking up (i.e., building muscle). To achieve my goals, I'll need a stock of meals with a strong protein bias. See inside for minor constraints and a plea for mercy.
posted by trevor_case to Ask MetaFilter on Jun 25 at 4:54 AM
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How to practice Ask Culture?

I'm wondering if there are workbooks, books, guidelines etc where I could practice Ask Culture in my daily life. Philosophically Ask Culture feels comfortable and have adapted to it, however, being from a guess culture, I feel myself slipping back. I think some of this is because I've never been good at the ettiquette around asking. For example, I have a friend who I feel like could say and ask for anything and I am never offended. I feel like it's because she knows when to use a light delivery, humor, or to give appropriate context, or to appeals to the motivation in others. These are all things I tend to miss. I would like to be good at asking for things from the sweet Barista to my scary father. I would also like to know when you just sometimes suck it up and let it go. Any suggestions or resources to practice this?
posted by PeaPod to Ask MetaFilter on Jun 26 at 12:00 PM
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Software dev looking for daily edification

I'm working on creating good daily habits, and I'd like to incorporate some programming/CS/software dev exercises while I'm between school and work.
posted by stoneandstar to Ask MetaFilter on Jun 22 at 2:33 PM
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It's two ... two ... two songs in one!

I would like more examples of rock songs that have a significant shift partway through and which could be considered two separate songs.
posted by komara to Ask MetaFilter on Jun 26 at 12:07 PM
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First Trip to IKEA

Never been to IKEA. I'll be going soon with some family members who have also never been to IKEA. Probably won't go again anytime soon (far away). I'm looking for any tips for the experience, any items to avoid or really look for, and how to have the most enjoyable, fun time there. None of us are looking for anything specific, but are furnishing new homes or moving into new apartments. One of us has a nice-sized gift card to use (not me).
posted by Aranquis to Ask MetaFilter on Jun 22 at 11:11 AM
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Looking for science fiction book recommendations

My son, 15, is difficult to find books for. Despite the saying, he tends to judge them by the cover. He'll be away for a few weeks, with limited access to computers, so I'm looking to find some science fiction books for him.
posted by bondcliff to Ask MetaFilter on Jun 26 at 7:31 AM
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Y'know, this question made me a bit sad. When I was in my early 20s, I could have been this girl. I recall chatting with someone on the internet for a while, we went on a date to one of my favourite places, and we hung out a lot over a month or so. And I thought we were serious and kept feeling upset that the person never wanted to make plans apart... [more]
posted by kariebookish to Ask MetaFilter on Jun 23 at 12:23 PM
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Your SO didn't even come close to communicating that you'd like the house guest to leave on Sunday. "We both have work on Monday, so you'd be hanging out by yourself all day on Monday" sounds like you're just letting the house guest know they will have to entertain themselves that day. Heck, it doesn't even make it clear that you'd like... [more]
posted by cakelite to Ask MetaFilter on Jun 26 at 9:30 AM
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He's just not that into you. He's not interested in a monogamous, exclusive relationship with you and he's been pretty clear about that. He won't be interested later, either. Move on from this one, go no contact, and find someone who actually wants to be with you. [view]
posted by brainmouse to Ask MetaFilter on Jun 25 at 8:25 PM
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9) When I told her I wanted to take things slower 10) We've had sex, We've only been on two dates. Her calling you her boyfriend is almost as incoherent as this is. and she is showing you almost as much weird disrespect as you're showing her, so you should stop seeing her. Tell her in any venue you want, it doesn't matter... [more]
posted by queenofbithynia to Ask MetaFilter on Jun 23 at 12:50 PM
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You should invite your mom. Her problems are her own, but lying your way out of her knowing there's a wedding is you creating a new shared problem. You can (and should!) tell her to kindly STFU or not be invited, but I think lying about getting married altogether is just shitty and passive aggressive and lays the groundwork for extending this... [more]
posted by so fucking future to Ask MetaFilter on Jun 26 at 8:07 AM
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Be kind, for heaven's sake. I agree. And I don't think it's unkind to write her a short private message, wherever you usually communicate, that says "Hey, I am really sorry but I am not feeling the connection I need to continue dating. Best of luck in all your endeavors" and then leaving it at that. She will reply, but you are... [more]
posted by sockermom to Ask MetaFilter on Jun 23 at 12:25 PM
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Not all poor are created equal. Some pool will toil all of their days, pay taxes, and work factories. Those are the good poor. If they later in life need medical care... well, the rich have already extracted their value. It's like what happens to an egg laying chicken after it stop laying eggs. Do you feed it for a few years, or do you have a... [more]
posted by nobeagle to Ask MetaFilter on Jun 27 at 10:01 AM
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You need to be clear with this person right now. If I was visiting with someone "for the 4th," I would assume that included the 4th! [view]
posted by praemunire to Ask MetaFilter on Jun 26 at 9:31 AM
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"Mom, I am still getting married as planned. The reason I told you that it was postponed is that your negativity and questions were making me distressed and because you were not listening to me. Because I love you, I wanted to give you another chance to earn my honesty and trust. You are wrong, you are acting irrational, and you are harming... [more]
posted by theweasel to Ask MetaFilter on Jun 26 at 8:31 AM
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The part that you may be missing is that there will always be another Joe for Chet to exploit. It's like asking how do cigarette companies manage to stay in business when their product actually kills people. They just move to other markets. So it's not just the control feature which nebulainwdphone mentions but it's also that you sort of let... [more]
posted by jessamyn to Ask MetaFilter on Jun 27 at 10:04 AM
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Where I live, you have to be separated for one year before filing for divorce. As a result some stay separated for a long time. Personally, I don't think lack of divorce paperwork means a person is "taken". It's fine for you decide not to date men in this situation, but you way overstepped in deciding that for your friend. The friend... [more]
posted by crazycanuck to Ask MetaFilter on Jun 27 at 6:56 PM
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It seems to me that the answer is contained within your question. The associate dean has the power to change the grade. The associate dean told your daughter the following: Something is going to have to change in the way you manage your communications with your faculty and our office. So, if your daughter wants the grade changed, she is... [more]
posted by pretentious illiterate to Ask MetaFilter on Jun 25 at 7:41 PM
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I love my kid greatly. That said, I think breeding is overrated. There's a book about happiness that notes that couples are supposedly happier before they have children and after the children move out. I think raising kids is often joyful but can also be really hard, especially if a kid has special needs of any sort and especially if you, as a... [more]
posted by Bella Donna to Ask MetaFilter on Jun 25 at 11:07 PM
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How should you proceed? Dump her. This person worries me. Do it over the internet if you want, or in a public place. This person is a red flag factory! I don't think etiquette needs to be considered that much here. [view]
posted by agregoli to Ask MetaFilter on Jun 23 at 12:04 PM
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It's not that they have OCPD, it's that they deal with it by way of raging at you and threatening to leave the relationship because they think your mistakes are intentional. Someone who, despite multiple conversations, chooses to believe the worst of their partner while at the same time acknowledging that they have OCPD which is causing this total... [more]
posted by Jubey to Ask MetaFilter on Jun 28 at 12:41 AM
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BAGS. BUY THE BAGS. You will laugh when I tell you to buy at least 5 but then you will find yourself using them for laundry, for packing, for storage, for carrying bags of soil from your car, etc. I once carried at least 60 pounds' worth of other IKEA products in two of those bags, one on each shoulder, wrangled a sofa piece with my hands, and... [more]
posted by rachaelfaith to Ask MetaFilter on Jun 22 at 11:42 AM
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There's a showroom upstairs. They have stocking filler things up there, but you probably won't need a bag. If you're planning to buy furniture, however, grab a pencil, notepaper and paper tape measure on your way up from the entrance. Get a cart and bag downstairs in the marketplace. Check the "As Is" section right before the registers.... [more]
posted by caek to Ask MetaFilter on Jun 22 at 11:16 AM
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I'm not a huge fan of putting a dog in that position of having to deal with an unfamiliar unpredictable puppy-animal, especially when the dog is performing territorial marking on that animal's toys. This isn't elimination urination, it's either marking or there are some smells that trigger some dogs to try to "cover" the smell (I have... [more]
posted by Lyn Never to Ask MetaFilter on Jun 23 at 11:08 AM
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They want the poor to pay for themselves. Typically, when Republicans are polled, they say that government programs, including food stamps, free or reduced cost meals, unemployment insurance and healthcare subsidies, breed dependency. They believe that poor people prefer to remain poor and live off taxpayer funding if they are given no... [more]
posted by zarq to Ask MetaFilter on Jun 27 at 10:36 AM
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It really sounds to me like you're at a point where you need to be talking to whatever disability support services you have access to about the fact that your current level of support is just not enough to allow you guys to survive in your current living situation. This isn't something where you just aren't trying hard enough, or where you just... [more]
posted by Sequence to Ask MetaFilter on Jun 26 at 11:36 AM
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