When I was having a particularly rough time at home I told a good friend that I was thinking about living in my car for a while. Some time later he mentioned having told another friend about it, laughing about how ridiculous of an idea it was. I feel betrayed. I've told him how that made me feel and he doesn't seem to care so I don't know what to do. [more inside] posted by blackzinfandel at 8:08 PM - 8 answers
Getting back in the online dating saddle, and I would love some honest critiques of my profile. In the past I haven't had much luck, but I've decided to give it another go (and yes, I'm aware of the dismal stats on black women, but I also think my profile could have been stronger). So for those of you who enjoy this sort of thing, any advice you have to offer would be fantastic. [more inside] posted by Fiorentina97 at 4:20 PM - 16 answers
For the past few years, I've had to deal with what seems like procrastination's more stubborn cousin. It's not just a tendency to put things off- it feels like a visceral, physically-manifested resistance to doing things that should involve no forethought in terms of effort whatsoever, or that do, but that would only serve to help me better myself if I managed to get them done. [more inside] posted by marsbar77 at 3:26 PM - 14 answers
First off I absolutely am not a gal on the whole 50 shades bandwagon. Let's get this straight right now ;). I'm talking about actual kink. When I say daddy dom, I'm not meaning full on age play, just doing the bratty sub thing. (Almost like a little but not quite to the same extent).
[more inside] posted by neanderloid at 2:18 AM - 11 answers
I've always known that I want to find someone and fall in love and raise a family, the whole bit. That's my end-goal, no other ambition in my life is more important to me.. But I always freak out in relationships. I'm almost always the one moving things forwards, because I know what I want, but I get so anxious sometimes..
I'm currently dating someone who is actually perfect for me. He's like me in every way, I've never had better. I don't want to lose him, and I'm not planning on it, but I'm hoping to get advice as to how to stop "freaking out". [more inside] posted by Ellabelle797 at 7:58 PM - 6 answers
I'm self-aware enough to know I am a perfectionist with Impostor Syndrome, but I'm clueless as to how to fix this. I need to kick this before I crash and burn at my new, fabulous job. [more inside] posted by sevensnowflakes at 7:48 PM - 14 answers
My dad will be making his last child support payment to my mother next month for my brother who is 19 and no longer in full time education (he’s going to university). After then he will no longer financially support my brother - he hasn't financially supported me since I was 18 when he made his last support payment. I am now thinking of asking him directly to make a monthly payment to me and my brother since he isn’t supporting us in any other way. [more inside] posted by fallingleaves at 2:29 PM - 38 answers
Me and my ex are still friends, we still talk and we're friendly with each other but he never gave me a reason not to be anyway. We just started talking again a few weeks ago after being broken up for 2 years. [more inside] posted by earthquakeglue at 2:23 PM - 21 answers
This is a pretty specific case, but I'm hopeless when it comes to relationships. Plus I got such great responses on other questions, I thought you all might have some good feedback for me. Thanks ahead of time!! [more inside] posted by lfergie401 at 2:04 PM - 15 answers
Last week I saw my snarly, reclusive next door neighbor dump something on the fence where the neighborhood cats come in, and then put a cap back on a jar the stuff came from. Twice in one week. Looked like a Drano jar to me from afar. I later snuck over to the fence and got a sample of it and put it in an envelope. So before I go off the deep end, where do I get this stuff analyzed? [more inside] posted by PJSibling at 1:35 PM - 23 answers
I'm struggling in a few areas of my life (mostly related to doing the bulk of the parenting for two little kids, with a spouse who works long hours and travels frequently) and having a bit of trouble staying focused at work. I was looking into our employee assistance program, which is run through HRI, and they offer "short-term counseling" and online/telephone life coaching. I would like to hear the experiences of anyone who has used this type of service; I have never used any flavor of mental health care. [more inside] posted by telepanda at 11:09 AM - 18 answers
It's only temporary, but will likely last a few months. I'm looking for any tips for taking care of myself, as well as my relationship with my extremely supportive husband, and my wonderful children. Also, any Seattle-specific advice would be great (should I stay at the Homewood Suites next to the office? Should I get an apartment? How does one get a furnished apartment?? Should I get a UV lamp?). Thank you! [more inside] posted by CruiseSavvy at 8:57 AM - 11 answers
My partner frequently tells small lies. They also keep certain things secret, including behaviors they deem private. This is a lifelong strategy that long precedes me, and in many ways, has nothing to do with me, however, it drives me up the fucking wall. [more inside] posted by socks-o-neurosis at 9:34 PM - 30 answers
Earlier this year, my partner of 4 years and I broke up amicably. I'm seeing someone new. Ex and I both frequent some of the same territories in my city. Should I pre-emptively tell him about the new guy so that he doesn't find out from the grapevine, or seeing us out together? [more inside] posted by anonymous at 3:04 PM - 27 answers