My 72-year-old mother has been in the ICU for a week, and it's 50-50 on whether she'll pull through or die. I'm struggling to be a responsible adult about the whole thing. [more inside] posted by iarerach at 5:08 PM - 17 answers
I'm just back from staying over at a friend's place. I found a bed bug. My friend suffers from OCD, and they've brought up their fears about bed bugs previously. How do I break it to them without causing a flat spin? posted by A Friend of Dug [sock] at 5:12 AM - 18 answers
When Obamacare happened my private pay insurance coverage changed, but I didn't really pay attention to how. After a trip to the ER last night and to the pharmacy this morning, I now know that I have a very high deductible plan. $250 ER copay (full bill to follow), $530 for two prescriptions.
Meanwhile, I'm wondering if I have any room to negotiate the bill for the ER visit, especially if I am about to go to a more costly (for me) plan.
Have you ever negotiated a Kaiser bill, or another HMO bill? Specific advice on how to pitch this or if it's even possible sought. [more inside] posted by latkes at 3:58 PM - 14 answers
First date in NYC, near grand central and the Bryant park area, weekend afternoon.
Likes: animals, theatre, the arts, books. Fun and interactive things would be especially welcome. Suggestions? posted by raspberry jam and clothes iron at 8:40 AM - 7 answers
A male friend of mine has recently learned that he's not as good at dating women as he thought he was, and wants to get better. Where can I point him for sex and relationship advice, addressed to men, but written from a feminist perspective? [more inside] posted by psycheslamp at 9:20 PM - 7 answers
I am 34 years old, and for the first time in my life, I am embarking on a 'normal' relationship. My insecurities are causing me extreme anxiety, and I'd like your stories and insight and tips on what I might be being realistic about, and what I'm not. Apologies for a long explanation inside. [more inside] posted by anonymous at 8:03 PM - 29 answers
How would I go about achieving the ability to dance like Sam Rockwell in this audition video? Is it just a matter of imitating James Brown videos or is there a particular course of study? posted by steinsaltz at 6:56 PM - 2 answers
I started a postgraduate course 3 months ago and there was a girl who stood out a fair bit. There were various issues that stopped me from considering dating her so I went down the friend route. She seemed interested in me at first - we ended up being alone together twice on nights out with others from the class, walking around London and the river, but I, not interested in any kind of intimacy, kept these meetings platonic. It's only recently that I've gotten myself together mentally, gotten to know her better and decided I like what I see - am I too late? What should I do to move from a new friendship back to that stage of 'initial attraction'? [more inside] posted by Henners91 at 3:48 PM - 14 answers
I think my half-sister has some sort of personality disorder, and I want to limit her involvement in my life going forward. But I still want to have a relationship with our mutual father... [more inside] posted by anonymous at 12:16 PM - 11 answers
I'm in my mid-thirties - professionally successful, non-sociopath, etc.. When I look behind me, though, my past is littered with the corpses of dead friendships. Two part question: 1. Is this normal? 2. If so, how do I maintain my optimism about current and future friendships? Details inside. [more inside] posted by missrachael at 11:17 AM - 20 answers
My about 15-year marriage is in severe difficulty. A big part of this is me being too needy. My wife and I knew I was needy before we got married, but both thought that getting married would fix it. It hasn't. I'm taking an antidepressant, and we are in therapy and both committed to staying together. I've read some other answers on AskMi, and am following up with some book recommendations, but I feel like I need more help. [more inside] posted by anonymous at 7:38 AM - 29 answers
I’m currently broken up with a woman I’ve been in an on and off relationship with for the last 4 years and I want to finally close the door, let go and move on. [more inside] posted by blokefromipanema at 5:07 AM - 13 answers
I have a friend who is turning 30 at the end of this week. She's still quite a new friend, but I really like her and I think we'll probably have quite a long-lasting friendship, and so would like to get her a thoughtful gift. The thing is, I absolutely SUCK at choosing gifts, even for my closest friends/family, and the thought of it stresses me out. Ideas? [more inside] posted by pikeandshield at 1:54 AM - 13 answers
I have two questions about the "five love languages" paradigm (from Gary D. Chapman's books).
1. Is there any evidence backing it up (ie, academic studies)?
2. I am asking this because it doesn't "feel true" to me. That is, I can't for the life of me figure out which love language is mine; I think I have them all. I have taken quizzes, but they have been unhelpful. So, if this is a real thing, how else might I try to figure out what my love language is? posted by hishtafel at 5:56 PM - 18 answers