I've started a real nice friendship with someone in a serious relationship. I can't help it but I feel like I'm starting to develop strong feelings. I need to stop and prevent these thoughts from going any further. [more inside] posted by MeaninglessMisfortune at 9:32 PM - 7 answers
(Or, How I Learned Not to Meddle With the Affairs of Others)
Someone is incredibly angry with another party, and you are caught in the middle. You may not know the entire picture, but you've seen enough to conclude that the Angry Person is letting his emotions get the best of him, even if he occasionally raises some good points. You have tried reasoning with Angry Person but he just dishes out comeback after comeback. You are exhausted with the drama and it seems like Angry Person has just begun gaining momentum. What do you do when reason fails?
Snowflakes inside. [more inside] posted by bigasthesky at 6:17 AM - 20 answers
How do I find a facilitator? I'm looking for someone who can help a group work through some personality conflicts and agree on some on some goals and mission. Whatever I'm searching for is not working. posted by katinka-katinka at 8:58 PM - 9 answers
My Grandmother has dementia. She calls her old phone number 20+ times a day to ask for a ride home.
Unfortunately, this number is now used by a business, the owner of which is not too pleased with the multiple phone calls a day. [more inside] posted by backwords at 10:41 AM - 30 answers
I've been with my girlfriend for just over a year, and we are really in love. A few months into the relationship I discovered some diaries etc of her, which I know I should never have read, but did. I discovered how obsessed she was for years about an ex that dumped her and who she idealised, and now I really need some help to get out of this rut of insecurity and jealousy which I have created for myself. [more inside] posted by lichen at 4:03 AM - 32 answers
I had a friend that I met periodically- a few times a month- when I used to live in another country - we kept in touch exclusively by phone, I don't know his e-mail address. I lost my phone, and then had to abruptly leave the country, and I've been wondering if there's any way to get in touch with him with the limited information I have. [more inside] posted by Enchanting Grasshopper at 7:25 AM - 10 answers
We've been together about a year and when I first met him he was far more motivated. We are both writers and at the time I was too scared to actually starting performing my work in front of people - with his encouragement I finally overcame that hurdle. He was given an award for his writing from a well-known author and was doing well - but since we graduated (met at uni) he's more or less stopped writing altogether and is still working at the part time retail job he was at during his uni years. [more inside] posted by Kat_Dubs at 3:10 AM - 37 answers
A photo was taken of my 10 year old daughter doing a racist impression of an asian classmate. I found the photo on my daughter's phone and subsequently discovered that she had sent this to two of her friends. She has been duly punished and lectured on why this was wrong and my wife contacted the parents of her friends to ensure that the photo was also deleted from their phones (which it was). We had hoped this would be the last of it, however someone informed the school of this and now things have blown up into a much bigger issue; it turns out that there has been an ongoing campaign of bullying against the asian girl by all the girls in the class and this incident, combined with another far worse incident, has meant this has been dragged in front of the entire class, with my daughter now the target for abuse because other parents refuse to believe that their girls could be involved.
If we had kept our mouths shut and kept this incident entirely within the family, the chances are nobody else would have ever heard about this but my daughter would still have been punished and taught a major life lesson. Now she is learning a far more frightening life lesson (that adults can be shit too) and things are spiraling out of control. I am now suffering guilt about the pandora's box I have opened on her.
Could I have handled this better? [more inside] posted by anonymous at 5:55 PM - 53 answers
Dating this new guy is crazymaking. I can't figure out if there's genuine interest, if I'm being strung along, or if it's my own anxiety tying me up in knots. Please help! [more inside] posted by cucumber patch at 3:40 PM - 25 answers
What's a good title that has the same sense as Philosopher King but can be used by a woman? Don't start me on "Philosopher Queen" -- You and I both know that it's not the same thing at ALL. [more inside] posted by janey47 at 3:30 PM - 45 answers
My wife and I used to go out fairly frequently - not partying but dinner, museum, movie, etc. Almost two years ago we had a child, whom we both adore. However, we have not been out since. We have had offers to watch the child so we could go out and she would not take any up on it. What can I say for my wife to accept a date with me? [more inside] posted by anonymous at 3:15 PM - 51 answers
A family member who lives in another state has an open child protective services case. All we know is that one parent is not allowed to be alone with the child for the next ninety days. We are aware that the social worker from CPS can't reveal any information, but we are concerned for the safety of the child (of course) but also for the well-being of the parent. The parent is not communicating with family. Now what? [more inside] posted by anonymous at 3:15 PM - 7 answers