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July 15

Clash of the conflict styles: shutting down vs talking it out

Until now, my newish (7 months) relationship has been excellent in almost every way. But with growing familiarity, some cracks have begun to show in the way we deal with conflict. I raise what I think is a relatively small problem, he shuts down, I keep talking, fight ensues. [more inside]
posted by wreckofthehesperus at 6:11 PM - 23 answers

Unusual historical date format

A friend has a photo of relative from 1901, and both the birth and photo date (printed in the photo presumably from writing on the negative) are in the format dd/mm.yy - A stroke between day and month, and a dot between month and year. I couldn't find anything about that forat with some cursory googling. Has anybody encountered this format before or know anything about it?
posted by colin_l at 5:35 PM - 4 answers

July 14

How to get over this ??

I don't know what to do other than despair.... Relationship gone majority wrong if it can be called that?? [more inside]
posted by Reetz30 at 3:00 PM - 13 answers

Yet Another OKCupid Profile Help Question - "Old, Awkward, ASD" Edition

I need help with my OKCupid profile, and I trust the Hive to give it to me straight (uh... advice, that is. Nothing else! We're just friends!). Snowflakes inside, but basically: I'm 35, I'm socially-awkward, and I probably have a zesty little dash of autism spectrum disorder. [more inside]
posted by julthumbscrew at 2:09 PM - 28 answers

Life is unfair

My mom's cousin is dying of pancreatic cancer and I want to be supportive of my family without overstepping boundaries. [more inside]
posted by pintapicasso at 11:28 AM - 15 answers

Au Pair vs. Nanny Share

Should we terminate our current au pair relationship and switch to a nanny share? [more inside]
posted by DuckGirl at 10:57 AM - 12 answers

July 13

Does this use of "females only" carry a trans-exclusionary implication?

An event on gender equity I've been asked to participate in has separate sessions, one open to "females only" and the other open to "all gender identities". I'm trying to guess the intended scope of these two terms (please take it as given that there are reasons not to explicitly ask right now). [more inside]
posted by saltbush and olive at 4:43 PM - 35 answers

What can I do to make myself be a better person around my parents?

Especially my immigrant mother, who I butt heads with. [more inside]
posted by socky bottoms at 3:36 PM - 9 answers

Taking Others' Sides in a Relationship

Say your partner is having an issue/conflict with someone else. They tell you about it, and you actually feel like the other person may not entirely be in the wrong or that your partner's the one overreacting, etc, do you share your feelings or shut up and take your partner's side? [more inside]
posted by monologish at 7:27 AM - 25 answers

Space Invaders

I'm renting a house from a retired couple who are living out of state until the fall. They are back for a couple of weeks to paint the house and it's stressing me out. I need solitude and space where I live and having them around the house is putting me on edge, big time. I feel like I can't relax or be myself and am avoiding all common areas and just keeping to my room. Any suggestions on what I can do to alleviate this feeling? More below the fold. [more inside]
posted by holmesian at 7:09 AM - 16 answers

July 11

To go or not to go

How do you know you need to leave someone you love? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 11:48 PM - 23 answers

Dating someone fresh off a LTR

How do you approach a relationship with someone who still loves/misses someone else? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 11:47 PM - 22 answers

Strategies to deal with a pedantic partner

My new boyfriend is a bit of a pedant and it can be frustrating at times. How should I go about dealing with these moments? [more inside]
posted by thebots at 2:18 PM - 29 answers

How can I help my girlfriend with her guilt?

I'm getting a divorce for Reasons, one of the big ones being that we tried an open marriage and, big surprise, it didn't work. I've become close with a woman who was involved, and now she feels a crushing sense of guilt at being a "homewrecker." She's tearing herself up with the imagined judgement of friends. I don't think there's anything I can do here, other than to be open, supportive, and listen. But I don't want to miss an opportunity to help, either. What can I do / say? [more inside]
posted by joebakes at 1:40 PM - 9 answers

How can I courteously be alone during trips with friends and family?

I wanted to take a car to get a break from a camping trip, my friend wanted to come, I didn't want her to, it turned weird. What happened here and how can I plan better for future trips where I know I'll need some space to myself? [more inside]
posted by ramenopres at 8:48 AM - 31 answers

July 10

Am I the problem in my relationship?

I feel like something is holding me back from going all in to my relationship. Am I the problem or is my relationship not right for me? Lack of perspective and religious implications are complicating factors. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 9:37 PM - 14 answers

What do you and your spouse do?

How do you and your spouse spend the evening after work? I'm especially interested in what people without children do. Do you eat together? Do you talk while eating? Do you do activities or hobbies together? Do you watch TV together? How connected do you feel to one another in the evening? Do you enjoy this time together? Or is it a bore? [more inside]
posted by OrangeDisk at 5:44 PM - 49 answers

Clashes between racist family and partner

The short version: various members of my family are openly, loudly racist. I still want a relationship with my parents, and for my child to have a relationship. This upsets my partner. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 3:00 PM - 22 answers

Should I move out or stay?

I have a complicated situation. I have had a roommate for over two years now. We re-signed the lease for a third year in May but now I want to move out for various personal reasons, though she doesn't want me to and when we talk about it she guilts me for wanting to leave and leaving her in the lurch. I feel this is a bad situation though and don't know if I can handle staying here for another ten months now. [more inside]
posted by Evermoor at 12:36 PM - 21 answers

Am I over reacting with my fiance

My fiance and I have been together for 3 yrs now and as of yet his mother and sister don't approve of our relationship and they both have never gave me a chance to be around them. The reason why is because he had a previous relationship and had two kids with his ex, things didn't work out and moved on. Well his mom is so religious and old fashion that she states he needs to let me go and he needs to move back and make a family with his ex. We have been together dated for two years and now live together. [more inside]
posted by lizcrycas at 11:19 AM - 34 answers

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