We've been together about a year and when I first met him he was far more motivated. We are both writers and at the time I was too scared to actually starting performing my work in front of people - with his encouragement I finally overcame that hurdle. He was given an award for his writing from a well-known author and was doing well - but since we graduated (met at uni) he's more or less stopped writing altogether and is still working at the part time retail job he was at during his uni years. [more inside] posted by Kat_Dubs at 3:10 AM - 37 answers
A photo was taken of my 10 year old daughter doing a racist impression of an asian classmate. I found the photo on my daughter's phone and subsequently discovered that she had sent this to two of her friends. She has been duly punished and lectured on why this was wrong and my wife contacted the parents of her friends to ensure that the photo was also deleted from their phones (which it was). We had hoped this would be the last of it, however someone informed the school of this and now things have blown up into a much bigger issue; it turns out that there has been an ongoing campaign of bullying against the asian girl by all the girls in the class and this incident, combined with another far worse incident, has meant this has been dragged in front of the entire class, with my daughter now the target for abuse because other parents refuse to believe that their girls could be involved.
If we had kept our mouths shut and kept this incident entirely within the family, the chances are nobody else would have ever heard about this but my daughter would still have been punished and taught a major life lesson. Now she is learning a far more frightening life lesson (that adults can be shit too) and things are spiraling out of control. I am now suffering guilt about the pandora's box I have opened on her.
Could I have handled this better? [more inside] posted by anonymous at 5:55 PM - 53 answers
Dating this new guy is crazymaking. I can't figure out if there's genuine interest, if I'm being strung along, or if it's my own anxiety tying me up in knots. Please help! [more inside] posted by cucumber patch at 3:40 PM - 25 answers
What's a good title that has the same sense as Philosopher King but can be used by a woman? Don't start me on "Philosopher Queen" -- You and I both know that it's not the same thing at ALL. [more inside] posted by janey47 at 3:30 PM - 45 answers
My wife and I used to go out fairly frequently - not partying but dinner, museum, movie, etc. Almost two years ago we had a child, whom we both adore. However, we have not been out since. We have had offers to watch the child so we could go out and she would not take any up on it. What can I say for my wife to accept a date with me? [more inside] posted by anonymous at 3:15 PM - 51 answers
A family member who lives in another state has an open child protective services case. All we know is that one parent is not allowed to be alone with the child for the next ninety days. We are aware that the social worker from CPS can't reveal any information, but we are concerned for the safety of the child (of course) but also for the well-being of the parent. The parent is not communicating with family. Now what? [more inside] posted by anonymous at 3:15 PM - 7 answers
Social Media / General Etiquette: Acceptable to ask a friend to invite some of their Facebook friends to follow your artistic website’s Facebook page? [more inside] posted by cotesdurhone at 11:31 PM - 44 answers
I'm a bisexual woman in my 20s, and I started online dating in January.
I moved to a new country so I am totally content with meeting new people and learning more about the city through them. I also really enjoy just talking to new people in general without any expectations, but I wonder if can do something better so I can actually have something romantic? [more inside] posted by anonymous at 7:49 AM - 5 answers
I'm female, 23, and have virtually no romantic experience (limited to a couple kisses when I was younger). I have a new crush and really want to kiss him! But I have no idea how to get from where we are now (just barely friends) to kissing, or even how to convey my romantic interest to Boy without explicitly telling him that I like him. [more inside] posted by tango! at 7:21 AM - 17 answers
For just over a year I have been with a guy who is perfect for me on paper. He is sweet, kind, intelligent, hardworking, loves me and would do anything for me... we get on with each other’s families. We share values, interests, friends, ideas about where to go on holiday. But although I care about him a lot I’m not 'in love' with him, and I’m not sure I will ever be. [more inside] posted by Britchick35 at 8:13 AM - 65 answers
People with aging parents (not newly retired, but also not ready for home care/retirement home): how are your parents getting food and transportation? [more inside] posted by cranberryskies at 2:08 PM - 21 answers
I am interested to read some commentary / discussion / critiques / first-person accounts about social climbing in our current society (preferably U. S. based). About both sides of the coin - people who are either successful or unsuccessful at navigating a change from lower-class to upper-middle-class, or beyond. [more inside] posted by vignettist at 10:14 AM - 5 answers
You and some friends (guys and gals) are hanging out chatting. It's all really casual and you guys are all good friends. One friend pulls out their knitting and starts working on it. (No charts, no pattern, just really simple stockinette stitch.)
Do you feel slighted? Like she's checked out of the conversation? Like she's bored with you and the group? Do you wish she'd just put it away and pay attention? [more inside] posted by unlapsing at 4:38 AM - 139 answers
I have been asked by my roommate's boyfriend to covertly find her ring size for an engagement ring. He suggested digging through her stuff until I find a ring to use with an online ring sizing guide. I'm uncertain whether the surprise factor is a bigger deal than the invasion of privacy. [more inside] posted by Durin's Bane at 2:50 PM - 57 answers
My partner (29 years old woman) and I (34 year old man) are in the same academic field. For various reasons, I've had more success lately than her. How can I best be supportive and helpful as she navigates new issues? (I am, of course, a special snowflake just like all of you, as detailed inside!) [more inside] posted by still bill at 10:34 AM - 29 answers