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November 30

Can you talk me down from my anxiety?

I have a therapist (but won't be able to get into see him for a month), I do CBT and mindfulness and other useful things but the last 6 weeks have blown my stress levels sky-high (over 360 on that psychological scale thing). I'm a late diagnosed aspie with a heaping of lifelong social anxiety on the side. I have some repetitive intrusive thoughts that I can't dislodge and I need your gentle help and logic please.   [more inside]
posted by b33j at 12:25 PM - 20 answers

How even do you talk to people?

Being around actual people over Thanksgiving weekend showed me exactly where my weaknesses are in conversation. While I'm keenly interested in others' lives, I have no idea how to express such without feeling like I'm conducting an interrogation over pumpkin pie. [more inside]
posted by The Almighty Mommy Goddess at 10:52 AM - 17 answers

Should I branch out from OkCupid?

I've been using OkCupid successfully for many years, but I'm wondering if I'm likely to have more success elsewhere now. What's the best option for finding poly/ENM people in the Boston area? [more inside]
posted by Cogito at 7:09 AM - 3 answers

Help me think through paganism

I just started going out with a delightful man. He's neopagan and I'm Christian. I'm looking for resources and experiences to understand paganism better. [more inside]
posted by ramenopres at 7:09 AM - 9 answers

Popstar/Protégé Kink over Distance

My long-distance girlfriend and I are going to try a roleplay D/s esque scenario where she's the Popstar and I'm their protégé/assistant/houseboi type person. What sort of things could we do over distance? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 12:13 AM - 2 answers

Dating Filter: Something feels off

I've been dating someone long distance for a few months and have noticed a sudden shift in our conversations the last two weeks. He is still in contact daily but has subtly become less affectionate. I feel like he is no longer emotionally invested and I don't want to continue. How do I extricate myself gracefully from an undefined relationship? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 12:13 AM - 10 answers

November 29

How do I get my child's father to respect my wishes regarding her care?

My child's father and I recently had a disagreement about when to start solids. I told him I didn't think child was ready; he said everyone thought I was wrong and planned to start them anyway. I asked for advice elsewhere about being okay with him starting before I felt she was ready and was told that as the child's mother, it is my right to decide how she is cared for. How do I get Father to understand that? [more inside]
posted by Autumn at 9:28 PM - 30 answers

Should I date a semi-famous person on the other side of the country?

The title of this question doesn't even begin to convey all the issues here. He lives in Hollywood and is charting a path toward becoming a celebrity. I live on the East Coast, am a bookish introvert, and don't particularly want to get my heart smashed to pieces. I also have ZERO interest in the entertainment industry. Yet we share other interests and have major sparks. [more inside]
posted by Guinevere at 9:16 PM - 22 answers

Should I try to "grow" feelings for this person or listen to my anxiety?

I have been dating this guy for just over a month now. I knew him previously from HS, but we reconnected through a dating site. I had a huge crush on him in HS but I wasn't sure how I'd feel as that was a long time ago (25 now). Before we met I was honest and said I wanted friendship to start off with, cause I assumed he'd expect a hook up right away. We've hung out five times now, and been texting a lot but I'm not sure how I feel still. [more inside]
posted by oracleia at 1:52 PM - 16 answers

Who makes policy decisions at Twitter?

Say I wanted to contact the people who make policy decisions at Twitter. For example, the people who decide what types of users to delete and under what circumstances. Who are those people? [more inside]
posted by latkes at 8:38 AM - 4 answers

I forgot how dating works!

Is it typical for a partner to not stay over after having sex for the first time, if it's not a casual sex situation and there's no obvious reason that they need to leave? [more inside]
posted by deus ex machina at 8:07 AM - 33 answers

How do I new therapist?

My therapist became seriously ill suddenly and can't work with me any more. I need to find a new one but I can't face the thought of having to bring a totally new person up to speed with everything that's wrong with me. [more inside]
posted by terretu at 5:27 AM - 6 answers

C25k for emotional intelligence

Are there any systems for learning how to develop self/social awareness/management skills? Ones where I can track my progress? [more inside]
posted by Crookshanks_Meow at 5:15 AM - 4 answers

If a friend is never happy for me, does that make her my frenemy?

I feel like my friend keeps sizing me and others up. I feel uneasy about this. I'm not sure if this is enough reason to cut off the friendship. She's an otherwise nice person. Should I just accept this as a quirk of hers? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 2:05 AM - 18 answers

How to seduce my boyfriend?

Our sex life is dying, and my usual tricks don't work. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 2:03 AM - 39 answers

November 28

Transgender 101

My (niece) nephew came out as transgendered shortly before Thanksgiving. The extended family is accepting and wants to support him, but a lot of us don't really know much about transgendered folk. Is there a basic guide/introduction to this, somewhere online?. Nephew is quite introverted, so talking to him about it is not the best option.
posted by sarajane at 11:42 AM - 23 answers

How do you handle Christmas out-of-town with small kids?

For the first time, we're taking the Christmas show on the road, including two young kids. How do we handle gifts? [more inside]
posted by handful of rain at 7:17 AM - 38 answers

November 27

Dealing with estranged parent dying

I came here a while back with a question on dealing with my narcissistic father and have disengaged with my father for about a year or so. (The whole story is in that AskMe). Have you ever had to deal with a parent dying when you were estranged from them? How did it go? Do you have regrets if you stayed away? [more inside]
posted by GospelofWesleyWillis at 7:20 PM - 36 answers

Cancelled Reservation: Ask my kid for the money back?

So for Thanksgiving, my kid made the two us a reservation at a trendy vegetarian cafe, in the city, about 90 minutes drive from my place. We had to cancel (details follow), so I PayPal'd her the money to cover it, and she was going to find someone to go with. She didn't manage that; can I ask her for the money back? [more inside]
posted by quacky at 12:52 PM - 26 answers

Grown-Up Relationship Talks

In response to my last question, there was a reference to "grown-up relationship talks." I'm not sure what this entails. Looking for examples - whether from personal experience, movies or books. A certain degree of detail is helpful, as it the point in the relationship when it seemed appropriate to have a given sort of talk.
posted by bunderful at 11:30 AM - 12 answers

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