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November 5, 2007 10:47 AM Subscribe
How do I stop a two-night-stand from becoming more?
posted by anonymous to human relations (90 answers total) 11 users marked this as a favorite
3 weeks ago i slept with a perfectly nice, consenting 30 year old girl after picking her up at a bar. I should have left it there, but instead traded e-mails over the weeks. This last Friday we met and had more consensual sex.
I do not wish to continue this flirtation, relationship or fling for incredibly superficial reasons - sex is not that good, she's not very bright and i just can't be bothered with the effort for something i know will never, ever work.
I know that I have now led her on, but I need to end this, now, before she really gets hurt and gets her hopes up that I am becoming a boyfriend. Friday she showed me pictures of her family and friends with the terrifying qualifier: "don't worry, you'll meet all these people"
Truly, I am the furthest thing from a player, and have a one night stand every 5 years or so. I am a really nice guy that genuinely does not like to hurt peoples feelings, so I have absolutely no idea how to politely break up with this perfectly normal girl without coming off as a sleaze, user or scumbag (which I very well might be). I also need to do this before she expects the coming Friday to be spent together.
what do i say, do i say it in person, do i just pull the band-aid off quick, do i hang around and comfort her, do i answer or respond to my cell phone or email afterwards, do i lie completely, do i drop off the face of the earth? i'm getting stressed here and need a script