Stop Shooting Myself in the Foot
April 26, 2012 5:41 PM Subscribe
I keep picking women who don't give as much as I feel I give and so I always end up feeling used. And because I keep picking them (even though the last one should've been enough to warn me off of the next one), I also end up feeling stupid too. Meanwhile, I've had women who've given to me the way I've given to those others, but I never seem to end up with them, even though they are exactly what I say I've wanted. How can I keep the good one and stop picking the bad ones? What is my problem?
posted by anonymous to human relations (15 answers total) 7 users marked this as a favorite
I've heard of women doing this when they pick bad boys to rehabilitate. These women aren't so much bad girls as they seem really focused on me and us in the beginning but eventually center on themselves; taking what I give but not giving much back in any love language. My cousin chided me to stop picking what she called "Urban Renewal Projects." But am I doing it on purpose? If yes, why? And how to love the good girl who wants to love me back?