When your ex won't take no for an answer
April 12, 2010 3:17 PM Subscribe
You've broken up. Months ago. Your ex continues to reach out, trying to maintain contact when you've asked them not to. What do you do?
posted by anonymous to Human Relations (25 answers total) 8 users marked this as a favorite
Went out with a guy for four months. It didn't work out - just didn't feel right to me, I explained that, and was explicit in saying that I did not, nor did I ever want, a relationship with him. After receiving many long emails begging me to change my mind and explaining his suffering, I asked him not to contact me any further. Now, two months later, he's contacting me again, explaining that he can't move on unless I explain exactly what it is about him that doesn't work, and begging me to be his friend. I feel suffocated, trapped, and fearful that he will never stop bothering me.
What do you do when someone won't take no for an answer? Ignore them? Be truthful? Be mean? Hope that time makes them forget about you? I understand being hurt when a relationship ends, but I don't understand pestering someone like this.