I hate my ex-girlfriend. How do I deal with her presence?
November 22, 2007 5:58 AM Subscribe
My ex-girlfriend humiliated me, now I'm obligated to attend social events with her presence. Avoidance has worked wonders, but I can't keep it up forever. How do I 'move on' or 'just forget that it happened'?
posted by chrisbucks to Human Relations (54 answers total) 13 users marked this as a favorite
As summarized as possible...
Not long after breaking up in messy circumstances my ex-girlfriend flirted with me on-line, and sent some revealing pictures, I reciprocated then it was revealed that it was actually her new boyfriend out to embarrass me and forwarded the photos to a lot of mutual contacts. When I called to ask what the hell was going on the boyfriend answered and I could hear her laughing in the background but I was told she wasn't there. Prior to this, although we had ended on ... non-agreeable terms, we were definitely friends and still enjoyed each others company.
This was about 7 months ago, and to be honest I'm still not "over it". I've tried to discuss it and try render things at least 'neutral' between us, but I get the "we've got nothing to talk about" block when I try calling. And when I ask her to at least tell me why she did that she said "did what?" and does everything to evade discussion.
Now. This wouldn't really be an issue, and I could just decide to never associate with these people ever again if it weren't for one thing. I co-author a zine and run a zine distro with her twin sister.
I haven't seen my ex in the last 7 months, and it's been good that way, but obviously I can't keep this up forever.
How do I get a resolution or at least deal with being in the presence of someone who frankly makes me want to chew off my own tongue.
This situation/relationship I have towards her has caused me a lot of anxiety and getting some form of closure would probably improve my current mood a great deal.
I know the answer is "just get over it", but how? Anecdotal advice gets bonus points.