Should I Man Up?
November 11, 2009 10:39 PM Subscribe
Should I Man Up?
posted by simpleton to Human Relations (55 answers total) 14 users marked this as a favorite
I've been struggling for a long time about what it means to be a man.
I feel like there are two sides to my personality:
A) Very supportive, sensitive and emotional. I guess this is my feminine side -:-))
B) Rough, Determined, tenacious, calm and strong under difficult conditions.
Personality A is more the norm for me.
Personality B rarely comes out - only when difficult conditions arise.
I didn't really have good male role models growing up. Dad was never around, etc.
I kind of see some movie stars as the "ideal" but that's not really realistic for me I think. Think James Bond or Tom Cruise, etc.
Ideally, I don't want to change my maleness but with Personality A, I notice that people take advantage of you much more often. They feel like they can get away with things.
I'm a patient person. So I give people second chances.
However, I think people (women especially) see this is a weak character in men. Let's say someone you trusted doesn't pay back 50 bucks and you try to get the money back but your aren't really aggressive about it. I would normally talk to the person and if they didn't pay me back I wouldn't hang around them very much or at all. But that's typically seen as weak, at least to one person I know.
I like Personality A better but I'm starting to think more and more that its not good to show it except with your very closest people.
But even then, I've betrayed more than once by the closest people.
I think people (close or not close) respect Personality A more.
I feel so confused about what a man should be in this day and age.
This isn't about trying to pick up girls or anything. There is a lot of material out there focusing on that.
I'm just trying to figure out characteristics that a man should have in this day and age and how to get them.
Any role models today (or past) that are relevant?