I know the topic of OKCupid profile critiques is polarizing. Those who enjoy picking apart profiles and judging photos, please bring your honesty and step on up.
Mefites have been generous in the past in critiquing my profile, and after a hiatus from dating, I'm back on OKCupid and hoping to find some decent matches.
My current profile is here.
The text is what I settled on after much agonizing over the following:
- Whether to get into specific bands/shows/movies (I decided for now not to list them, since matching on that particular topic wasn't super important to me)
- Whether to list specific date activities (something someone suggested last go-round, which I did try for a while...I found it just led to a bunch of bad matches messaging me with "I'LL GO THERE WITH YOU" but didn't do much to attract people who interested me)
- Whether I mention my kids too much (I tried paring it way down) and/or whether I list drinking too much (after a long, miserable marriage, I'm definitely a social butterfly and go out a fair amount, so I decided I wasn't too concerned about scaring off teetotalers).
I want my profile to come across as light-hearted, genuine, and direct. I'd love any suggestions that might help me achieve that better, as generally I feel that writing about myself results in me sounding like a self-conscious dork.
I'd also appreciate any feedback on the photos. I don't have many pictures of me doing stuff (I don't have a ton of hobbies, and don't usually have my picture taken when I'm doing the ones I have), so mainly I'm just going for pictures that look flattering and make me seem approachable. FWIW, all my pictures are recent and I believe they do look like the real me, for better or worse.
Thanks so much, as always, for any input.