Online dating - help me figure out what I'm doing wrong! Multi-part question inside
I've been trying online dating for a while now and am starting to wonder if I'm just doing this all wrong. I started out on Match a little over a year ago - I was on for three months; forgot how many people I contacted but only had about 3-4 conversations (none led to a date). I deleted my account for reasons I won't go into here, then decided to try again with the much-venerated OkCupid.
I've been on almost three months and have messaged about 25 women. Of those, I've only had three contact me back. Two flaked out and stopped talking to me within 2-3 emails - the best I can figure is they were either window-shopping or met someone better. The third exchange was sort of complex: we seemed to hit it off really well, but I held off on suggesting a date due to workloads (we were both respectively swamped that week). I re-initiated contact the next week - after another week of very chatty, increasingly lengthy e-mails I finally thought "enough" and suggested we meet up offline. She never contacted me again.
I have had a couple of women contact me out of the blue as well. I did have a "normal" email conversation with one that led to a date, but we went our separate ways due to a lack of chemistry. The other seemed enthusiastic (and cute!), but again disappeared with no warning after only 3-4 emails.
My emails are okay I think, pretty much along the lines of what's discussed here
So first question: Are response rates really this low for most guys? I know these sites are by nature biased in a woman's favor, but it seems like several months of online "dating" should be able to produce more than one actual date. I don't personally know anyone else who's tried internet dating (all my friends married young) so I have no one to compare notes with.
Second question: What can I do to improve? My profile might not be the wittiest or most clever (I have a lot of strengths, but comedy is not
one of them), but unlike 90% of profiles I think it's through and unique. I'm not posting a link to it for obvious reasons, but would be happy to MeFi-mail a link to anyone interested in providing a critique.
Thanks in advance for any helpful advice!