HPV: Do I stay or go?
February 1, 2013 7:35 AM Subscribe
The woman I'm dating has HPV. What now?
posted by anonymous to human relations (14 answers total) 1 user marked this as a favorite
I've seen previous questions about this, but they concern male/female transmission. I want to know about female/female.
We've been dating for a few weeks but aren't girlfriends yet. She informed me before anything happened that she had HPV, the genital-warts causing kind, and that it's a type not covered by the vaccinations as she'd had them before this. I've had Guardisil FWIW.
I've been taking time to think about whether or not I want to continue things. I absolutely do not want to get it, knowing myself it would be a big hit to my self esteem and take awhile to get past. I also have a friend with HSV1 and I've seen the stigma and poor reactions he gets in the dating world and don't want to put that on myself.
but I do want to continue things with her... I think. My questions are:
- Will we ever be able to have sex without barriers? I don't like them. At all.
- Will we ever be able to make out with tongue? Share drinks?
- What other things will we not be able to do that I haven't considered?
- If you have experience with this not related to the questions above, please feel free to share anyway. Thank you.
My main concern is that we will not be able to have a "normal" sexual relationship without risk to me. I don't like "please wait while I retrieve the condom" sex, and I read barriers don't work 100% anyway... Is continuing with her basically ensuring I get it too? Things are amazing and look promising with this person... should this be a deal breaker?