Should I use a condom if my girlfriend sleeps with women?
September 30, 2011 8:10 PM Subscribe
My girlfriend is going to start sleeping with other women. I'm a man, and I'm not. Should we go back to using condoms?
posted by anonymous to Human Relations (19 answers total) 7 users marked this as a favorite
I've looked through the safe-sex and non monogamy literature, and I haven't been able to gauge just how risky it is for me to have unprotected sex with my girlfriend after she's had oral sex with other women.
Some background: we've been monogamous and off condoms for years. She's on the pill, and that suits me just fine. But recently she's wanted to sleep with women. We've talked it over, and I've given it the green light.
At first she had planned to use dental dams, but it turns out that no one really uses those. We've heard that oral sex between women is considered "low risk," but we haven't heard what that means exactly.
Since I have no plans to sleep with anyone else, this question is just for my own sense of security. The easy answer is that I should go back to condoms, but if my risk really is very low, I'd prefer not to. It's only because I don't like how they feel.
Thanks in advance for your help. I set up this throwaway email account in case anyone wants to get in touch: email@example.com