Unprotected sex without STD testing first?
August 29, 2010 8:47 AM Subscribe
Girlfriend of more than a year recently went on the Pill. I said we should get STD tested before having unprotected sex; my tests came back negative but she's reluctant to get one. Should I compromise?
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My girlfriend went to get tested but was only offered cervical swab tests which she doesn't want to do and nearly fainted when they showed her the needle for the blood tests. They apparently don't do any urinalysis tests, which surprised me. She's extremely low-risk, having had one other partner years ago and never having had unprotected sex.
But then again, I'm zero-risk, having never had a sexual partner before her! I took the test, even though it was completely academic, because I don't think it would have been right for me to put her in the position of having to trust my assurances that I was STD-free.
She reckons it'll be fine to just go bareback. The health worker even said to her, "look, you're low risk—we don't have to do this if you don't want to." I'm almost certain she doesn't have anything, but I don't feel that's the point. It's that I shouldn't have to take it on faith that she's telling the truth when it comes to making health decisions, just like I got the test done so she wouldn't have to trust my accurately reporting my sexual history.
Should I compromise on this?
Oh, and does anyone have experience managing STD tests for people who are self-conscious?
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