Friend sexually abused his girlfriends.
August 29, 2010 8:46 AM Subscribe
Found out a good friend sexually abused his girlfriends. Paralyzed.
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Last week I found out a friend I see on a daily basis sexually abused at least two of his former girlfriends. I'm close with his latest ex-girlfriend and we are talking about what happened to her.
"He says sometimes sex is just for him."
"He needs it at least three times a day."
"I said that I don't want to right now, but he kept going."
"I was bleeding from it being rough and told him to stop, but he said it's not too bad."
"I had tears in my eyes and stared at the ceiling while he did it."
I talked to my friend, but he seems to have a cold and rational alternative reality where sex is sometimes that gets (or rather has to be) traded for doing the dishes.
Right now, I'm trying to be there for the girl and help her as much a I can.
Personally however I'm paralyzed and helpless. How should I deal with my "friend"? I feel sick just seeing him and breathing the same air as him. Should I break off all contact and risk feeling guilty for him abusing his next girlfriend? Can I do something to make him see what he's doing and get professional help so it won't happen again? Should I try to persuade the girl to report him to the police, despite her saying she can't bear to relive everything again and just wants to forget?