help how does this work
January 11, 2013 8:12 PM Subscribe
So.... how does okcupid work for gay/bi women?
posted by anonymous to human relations (15 answers total) 3 users marked this as a favorite
Asking because I did the whole set-up-a-profile thing or whatever, but a) I have no experience with online dating, and b) Also, I have no experience with dating women (but obviously am interested). I'm just really not sure about the dynamics. Who messages who? What kind of messages do you send? What makes a "good" message-able profile? Not that I have to be the one being messaged. What makes a "good" message? What does the looking for "casual sex" versus "short-term dating" versus the other stuff mean in the context of gay/bi women on okcupid?
As is probably obvious I am the sort of person who picks up many social conventions through long and painful trial and error.
Other details: I'm not looking for a serious relationship (both that and "I've seen men before but not currently" are stated up front in my profile). Late-20s female in downtown Toronto. I think my profile is the pretty typical herearesomebooksthatIlike-Ilikegoingforbeers-ortogalleries-orresturants-etc. According to okCupid more "sex-driven" and "kinky" than average (thanks okcupid!). I have a non-identifying kind of half-face pic up (fwiw I wouldn't be that into putting identifying pics of myself up if I was on there as "straight" either). The profile is limited to non-straight people.