Do people marry someone similar?
August 15, 2012 11:41 AM Subscribe
My friend has heard that people marry those who are similar to themselves (in looks, age, social class, education etc). He worries this will rule out all the "good" women.
Help me advise him how marriages really work.
posted by EatMyHat to human relations (36 answers total) 15 users marked this as a favorite
Despite being good looking and smart my friend has not had an easy life (health problems and family issues) and claims that any woman who is "any good" would not want him, and a woman like him would be "too much trouble". Clearly he has self esteem issues, but I worry he is getting the wrong idea about marriage because of this idea that people marry those who are similar.
Can you tell me:
Did you marry someone similar or quite different to you in age, looks, social class, education or other major characteristics? How did your marriage work out?
What advice can I give to my friend, (apart from "fix your self esteem so that 'someone like you' is not such a bad concept"?)