Help! I may be an asshole
December 2, 2010 9:36 PM Subscribe
I seem to have a neverending list since adulthood of people that just simply do not like me, and increasingly shorter list of those that do. How do I become less of an asshole?
posted by anonymous to human relations (55 answers total) 41 users marked this as a favorite
I have no real friends other than distant acquaintances. I bounced from group to group in high school and college, then during my 20's, always having drinking buddies but no real friends other than those of my various significant others that i socialized with.
I don't think i'm angry, or a bad person (morally or otherwise), or argumentative or unpleasant to be around. In fact i feel i'm a great person to know, I'm rather social and inquisitive, never boastful or overtly political or otherwise polarizing. However, the feedback i keep getting from new people is 'meh, not a fan', the results i'm getting from old friends is 'i'm writing you off', with no particulars mentioned.
i do tend to challenge people and voice a strong opinion sometimes, but the converse seems to be gliding through life nodding my head just to be liked. have i not found my subset of folks, or am i doing something fundamentally wrong? How do i become someone that people define as 'a good guy' ?