Prospective father-in-law rejected marriage proposal request. What now?
July 17, 2012 11:40 PM Subscribe
I asked my girlfriend's father for permission to marry her and got shot down. What now?
posted by daeken to Human Relations (86 answers total) 2 users marked this as a favorite
After a while of not having the chance I sat my girlfriend's dad down, explained how I feel about her, and asked for her hand. He laughed for a moment, told me that we needed time and were too young -- we're 24 and 23 and have been together for about a year and a half, of which half we've been living together. That was followed up with financial advice, which (giving the benefit of the doubt) was likely intended to help, but came off... badly, to say the least.
While not traditional herself, she comes from a very traditional Greek family. I feel that if I ignore him on this, I'll drive a wedge between us (he and I) that will be difficult to remove, though we don't have a great relationship to begin with; no real problems per se, just two very, very different people.
At the same time, I feel like not continuing with my plans would be betraying how I feel about my girlfriend. There's zero doubt in my mind that this is the right move for us to take, outside of the father issue.
I don't expect answers here, but I'd love to hear from people who have been in this situation or something of that sort. Thanks in advance.