This Proposal Is Over Starting Right Now
July 13, 2012 7:48 AM Subscribe
How do you cope with waiting for a proposal that isn't likely to come?
posted by anonymous to human relations (36 answers total) 13 users marked this as a favorite
I want to get married. He's "conflicted". He's been conflicted for nearly half a decade. I'm non-delusional enough to acknowledge that a proposal isn't likely to materialize. For reasons that are numerous, varied, and semi-unique to the situation, I DO NOT (I cannot stress this highly enough - I DO! NOT!) want to break up... even if my suspicions are well-founded and this relationship will never, ever result in marriage.
My question, HiveMind, is not "what do I do?" (because I know that I'm staying)... it's "how do I cope with this?" Have YOU been in a situation like this? How did YOU cope? The prevailing opinion among my friends (and in popular culture) seems to be "get what you want or get out of the relationship". However, things aren't that cut-and-dried. Some relationships are wonderful and unique and fulfilling... and incapable of satisfying 100% of one partner's wishes. People can and do make sacrifices of this nature without automatically becoming weak, pathetic doormats. Have you voluntarily deferred to a partner's wishes and abandoned a wish of your own? How did you deal with it? How did it pan out?