Is it time for a dtr (define the relationship) talk? Is it too soon? How would I go about doing this?
This is the continuation of this post
. The TL;DR – I’ve been spending time/dating this woman and I’m not sure she’s as into me as I am into her. Last time I checked in, I tried to kiss her and she sort of dodged it.
We met up again since that last awkward time. Got into a comfortable position. I asked her (thanks to the hive mind) if I could kiss her. It got awkward. She said “sure I guess”, staring strictly ahead at the tv. I joked that she sounded so enthusiastic… blah blah blah. We talked for a little bit more. And then I went for it. And she let me. One thing led to another and… well… to be a gentleman I'll just leave it as :)
The next evening I called her to plan out the weekend. We both had to work parts of the weekend - but were both free Sat & Sun nights.
And here’s where I thought things got a little not-so-great:
1. Saturday night she said she couldn’t meet up because her friend was visiting from out of town and she was going to hang out with them. I noticed in other instances she mentions that she has lunch/dinner with friends – but I never get names or genders. I was a bit unhappy that she didn’t invite me to meet her friends. (I had brought her to dinner to meet some of my work friends.) I later saw 1 photo on FB tagged with her from Sat – it looks like it was mostly (hot) guy friends at a bar. I’m feeling jealous. Should I?
2. Sunday night we meet up and end up seeing a movie. Her body language always says “stay away.” In the theater, during some scary scenes, she cringed in the corner of the seat away from me. In the car, sometimes she’s all the way pressed towards the door. Walking to places, her hands are always occupied or in her pockets. When we got back to her place, after a while I kissed her again and we didn’t get much past a bit of making out when she asked me to leave because she had to go to bed for her really early morning shift. (How... frustrating!)
Thinking about it further, I noticed while we make out, she’s somewhat passive. Sure she’s kissing back, etc – but aside from her mouth she’s not doing much. I even made a joke “It’s ok to put your arm around me – you won’t catch anything.” I'm so confused - she'll make out with me, possibly even more
Some other notes: I call her most nights in the last few weeks. She’s never ONCE called me just to see what’s up.
I’m not sure when we’re going to next get together because of our terrible work schedules.
But really, I'm wondering what's going on this in relationship. Do we even have one?
I really like her - she's really smart, pretty worldly, and has a sense of humor that I can agree with.
I've been out of the dating game for a lonnnng time. Is it time for a dtr? Is it too soon? Am I rushing things? How would I go about doing this? Am I being too needy?
And, more importantly, should I call her tonight?
(I feel like the cliche girl who is picking a part a daisy: does she like me? does she like me not? etc)