Are there places online where I can fill this need for social interaction?
February 10, 2012 2:07 PM Subscribe
I'm an out-of-place extrovert living in an isolated location with no friends and not a lot of hope of finding any real connections in the near future, and desperately need some sort of human contact, even if just online. Please help me find some.
posted by sockless to human relations (33 answers total) 23 users marked this as a favorite
I have no problem making friends but there are really none to make where I am, or rather, finding potential friends may take years. I've already been here for two years and will be here for many more. I am here willingly, but I could not have anticipated how hard it would be to find friends. Old friends are now far away and living very different lives and communications are few and far between, and it's not enough. For those who might think that there is no situation or location where somebody could not find new friends, or who want to comment that I should just move (not an option), please MeMail me and I will explain why I am in this remote area and why the potential friend-pool is so small-- to describe my situation here would compromise my anonymity.
I'm female, late twenties, happily married and in general quite content. When I'm happy, I'm happy-- but on occasion (and especially lately) I find myself bitterly lonely. My husband is everything to me but we both know that I need more socially than just him-- and he's not able to be at home as much as we both would like, so that leaves me with just my pets for company most of the time. He's at a loss to help me on this one (he doesn't know many people our age here either), though he cares deeply and is always encouraging and supportive.
I actually enjoy being alone quite a bit, but this is too much. I encounter remarkably few people each day and I'm at the point where favorites on Metafilter and re-pins on Pinterest feel like quality social interactions. For a couple of weeks now I've been entrenched in this utterly soul-crushing situational depression that's purely about this loneliness-- crying episodes, feeling hopeless and irritable and desperate, accomplishing nothing and unable to keep house (I'm sufficiently medicated for clinical mental illness, so this is definitely situational). The fact that I'll be in this situation/location for a couple of decades is making it especially hard. My daily life is quite good overall and I don't have much to complain about-- it's the lack of social interaction that is making me feel more and more hopeless. Perhaps most importantly, being alone and in my head all the time is taking a serious toll on my sanity.
Is there a place online where you have found connections and friendships with people you can relate to? Or have you been in this kind of situation? I'm seeking mostly female friendship, not looking for anything else, just people to communicate with regularly-- not a "talk to a random person" site, but something of more substance. I know from looking through previous questions about loneliness that I'm lucky to be in a good relationship but please be nice, I'm struggling right now.