Does happy lifelong singledom exist?
September 29, 2013 10:58 PM Subscribe
At 30 and after almost a decade of being unable to click with anyone at a romantic level, I'm starting to consider the possibility of my having to live as a single for the rest of the journey. Not that I plan to quit trying in the near future, but given the poor results so far, I am trying to imagine and anticipate what perpetual singledom may be, especially as one grows older. My questions are related to the possibilities for happiness, fulfillment and emotional stability while chronically single. Are they real? Do you think a person can be alone all his/her life and have a meaningful and fulfilling life? I have a clear sense of what sort of contributions I want to try to make to my environment and society, but I wonder if this purpose will be enough to keep my life motivation burning as I get older supposing that I do stay alone.
posted by Basque13 to human relations (22 answers total) 82 users marked this as a favorite
Although I have never been in a relationship, singledom didn´t use to look as such a big deal till recently. But in the last few years nearly all of my friends have found partners and I have inevitably become more self-conscious about my condition. I have also come to notice a number of single or divorced opposite sex people at work in their 40s and 50s who seem very needy (which shows for instance in their approaching me to share long unrequested stories about their lives). These people have got me thinking on whether that sort of attention seeking is the almost inevitable fate of someone who has been alone for too long.