What are the sexual steps you take while dating?
November 26, 2011 4:08 PM Subscribe
I'm female in my mid-twenties and due to circumstances have been a late entrant into dating. I've been out with several guys (ages 27 - 33) and am trying to get a better handle on how quickly things move forward in terms of physical/sexual. So while every guy, girl, and experience is different, could someone share what they might consider standard in their experience? I'd be curious to know what peoples' typical natural progressions are (for a person they're dating, not a hook up) in terms of the steps, not necessarily timing. For instance, do you generally do the first base/second base/third bases in order?
posted by sowrite to human relations (32 answers total) 24 users marked this as a favorite
A few related/follow-up questions:
1. If a girl you've been dating invites you up after the date, what would you expect? Or what if she randomly invites you over for a movie one night? (When I say "expect" I don't mean that, once X happens you demand to receive Y, but to the extent that there's a lot of nonverbal communication happening, what are you guessing she's trying to indicate by extending those invitations)
2. I've found that once I allow the removal of clothing, things often move very quickly. If I don't want to go too far, and I don't want to be misleading, should I try and stop things a few steps ahead? Or to put it another way, once she's in h
3. On the male-side, what are some "tests" that you do to try to get a sense of whether she wants you to move further? And what kind of responses do you wait for? (For instance, the kiss on the cheek to test for the kiss on the lips. Hand on the the thigh to test...I don't know what.)
4. Do you ever get to a point where you start ignoring mild resistance? For instance, if she let's you take off her clothes--down to bra and/or underwear--but then pushes your hands away at certain stages, would you view that as like a "just for show" resistance, and try to play through? (Not saying whether this is right or wrong; just wondering if once she's been OK with something--like taking off the bra--is that enough to indicate to you that she's actually fine with going further)