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March 11, 2014 9:20 PM Subscribe
A male friend of mine has recently learned that he's not as good at dating women as he thought he was, and wants to get better. Where can I point him for sex and relationship advice, addressed to men, but written from a feminist perspective?
posted by psycheslamp to Human Relations (7 answers total) 23 users marked this as a favorite
I'm looking for resources - books, blogs, magazine articles, whatever - that will help explain basic feminist concepts such as the sexual double standard, male privilege, why affirmative consent is important, and so on, and give practical advice for applying this in relationships
I read a lot of feminist blogs that cover these topics, but these are generally addressed at women, and are frequently somewhat snarky or suspicious when talking about men. For the purposes of this friend, something that assumes his good intentions will be much likelier to result in his changing his actions as opposed to getting defensive.
Resources from the BDSM or poly community that address boundaries, communication, consent, etc. might also be useful.