About those "reformed" ex-boyfriends and girlfriends..
October 16, 2011 7:19 PM Subscribe
Reformed exes- "suck it and see", or leave it alone?
posted by anonymous to human relations (22 answers total) 4 users marked this as a favorite
LONG story short: dude and I sniff around each other for almost ten years. I was in love with him, but dating never really worked out. Sometimes I wasn't available, or had a boyfriend. More often, he wasn't ready for any sort of relationship. We always slept together anyway, with me pretending to not care. I got fed up eventually and went NC. A years-long period of not-talking led him to realize maybe he was wrong and we should start over. We did, with a ton of talking and a tiny bit of visiting, and he claims to be crazy about me now. Swoon! He's also apologized for our past. I believe he is sincere, however, my anxiety issues might be holding me back from 100% trusting him not to hurt me again. I waffle between feeling elated and feeling terrified; I don't want to go back to feeling like the rejected person I was for so many years. He still has faults, and I'm aware of them. I don't think this person has morphed into the perfect guy, but I do think that we are old enough now to work on things.
I've known from day one that this guy was just, IT for me. I never was able to stop thinking about him. I think he needed to sew his oats for awhile, which he's done. We've both also done a lot of growing up. We're both attractive and have/could have our pick of other sex partners if we wanted. We're both upfront about any 'currents'.
Am I just a sucker? A hopeless romantic? Has anyone had a situation like this actually work out- you get what you always wanted, and it's happily ever after? It seems too good to be true. We are long-distance right now, which makes everything feel a little heavier than it actually is. Please share your thoughts with me below.