WASH THIS MAN RIGHT OUTTA MY HAIR
December 12, 2010 2:51 PM Subscribe
How can I enjoy things that are tainted with memories of my ex?
posted by anonymous to Human Relations (23 answers total) 23 users marked this as a favorite
My ex dumped me (hard and badly) after a long (10+ years) relationship. In that time I came to have many new interests that he sort of introduced me to. Now, everything I used to enjoy is tainted with memories, and even new things remind me of him; how he introduced me to this band, how he used to love these places in the city, how he would have loved this new outfit/band/movie. I can't even be sure if, for example, I like Steampunk, because he liked Steampunk, so I don't know if I like it because of him, or I like it on my own, or I don't like it because it reminds me of him. Even my own art and stories and stuff were influenced by him, and I feel like I can't work on my books or art any more because characters and images owe something to him. I feel like he's still there, haunting and ruining everything I try to do, and there's no "me" anymore, just "me and him" or just "him". Help.