Need help with OKCupid. Difficulty: I'm creepy
In the spirit of Hogermite's question...
The basics: 25/Male/a little queer. Brooklyn. The profile in question
. I've been using okc for about a year and a half with varying levels of success - I have the usual difficulties getting dates, but once I do things usually work out. I have some ongoing friend-with-benefits situations from this, but they live hours away. I'm not desperate; just frustrated.
I have two related problems. 1: I'm into stuff that's pretty
out there but I'm not really into the whole BDSM or fetish scene. I'm aware of Fetlife's (and the mefite group's
) existence, but I don't feel like I fit in there, and I don't really know how to use it effectively to find people like me; the kink community skews way more renfaire than hipster.
2: There are most definitely a lot of attractive people on okc that skew kinky but I have a hard time writing to them. As open as I am telling a crowd what I want to do in general, I have a lot of difficulty saying what I want to do to you
So whom should I be pursuing? The least "lifestyle" people on fetlife, the handful of out kinksters on okc, or the general population and hope for the jackpot? And how do I go about that?