Dealing with bisexuality
February 12, 2011 8:51 AM Subscribe
Being bisexual in a relationship... How do you deal with being attracted to the other sex? How do you know you're supposed to be with the sex you're with?
posted by anonymous to human relations (15 answers total) 6 users marked this as a favorite
I'm bi (but I'm not really out to myself or anyone else... a few select individuals know I'm attracted to girls, including my boyfriend... but I am kinda finding it hard to accept fully considering that I feel our society is really bi-phobic, more so than homophobic.. but internalized bi-phobia is a different issue).
So, I like girls. I have been in a relationship with a man for 2 years. I love him. But I am feeling confused... how do I know I shouldn't be with a girl?
If you're bi but have never been with the same sex how do you know you're.. not supposed to be with them or something? I'm worried I am actually supposed to be dating a girl; like that would feel more "right," like maybe I'm actually a lesbian. If my boyfriend and I ever broke up I think I would like to be in a serious relationship with a woman.
Am I just doing the grass is greener thing but with women?
Also I have OCD and thinking I'm gay/thinking my boyfriend isn't right for me is a major theme... but I'm wondering, maybe it's not the disease, maybe the reason these thoughts keep occurring is because they are true.
I dunno, can someone just share experiences of being bi in a relationship with the opposite sex?
Just to clarify I have no intentions of cheating on my boyfriend and we have sorta-kinda an open relationship. But I don't know if I can handle being in a relationship with a man and a woman at the same time.