Will our vegetable love grow?
June 6, 2005 5:57 PM Subscribe
If you don't fall in love with someone quickly will you fall in love with them at all?
posted by anonymous to human relations (24 answers total) 10 users marked this as a favorite
Situation: a relationship that's going on its third month. He's said that he loves me, but... I just don't feel it back (yet?). I like spending time with him, and I like him a lot, but I'm not in love. We're both in our late 20s, and are looking for long-term relationships, rather than something more casual. Every time I've been in love before I've experienced those feelings prior to this point in the relationship. But this guy is so sweet in so many ways that I'm wondering if it's best to stick it out and see if love will grow.
I guess I'd like to hear other people's experiences. When you found your spouse or other long-term love, did you fall in love with them right away, or did it take you a while to get from like to love? I don't believe in a flash of lightning that tells you when you've found 'the one', but should I be having this many doubts this early in the relationship? Are we doomed as a couple, or should I just wait and see if "our vegetable love will grow, vaster than empires, and more slow?"