How to stop married man from flirting when it's reciprocal
April 14, 2009 7:08 PM Subscribe
How to stop married man from flirting when it's reciprocal? I'm a notoriously bad crusher. Even though almost everyone would describe me as a competent, sensible, self-assured and promising young woman, I completely loose myself when someone breaks through to my inner core. It's not that it happens all the time either, but when it does it's with a vengeance. I would definitely describe it as a 'crushing' sensation.
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Particularly this time, of course, because it's an impossible crush, as he's married with kids.
Made worse by the fact that I think I even like him for all the right reasons: he's a nice guy, down-to-earth, straightforward, considerate, well-spoken, same career path etc.
Made muchmuchmuch worse by the fact that the attraction seems to be mutual (there's been some pretty classic signs, complete with unusually long eye contact, teasing, finding excuses to be really close, nervousness, blushing...you name it). In fact, while he is respectful about it, he is the more obvious of the two of us.
So this fact makes it all the more pertinent that I stop this thing in its tracks. But the willpower it takes to NOT look at him when I know he's looking at me, etc. is harder than I thought it might be (because it's just so great when your crush likes you back!) AND, I feel like it would be cold to just ignore him entirely. So how do I manage this? He's a coworker; I don't see him that often but when I do I hate myself. A lot.
I know that it's wrong, and I definitely don't need advice on why seducing a married man is a bad idea. But I need to regain control of myself ASAP.