Men are simple creatures, right?
November 25, 2012 11:45 AM Subscribe
He's just not that into you, yadda yadda yadda... or is he?
posted by anonymous to human relations (21 answers total) 2 users marked this as a favorite
I know the rules. Blah blah blah. But I'm not sure they make sense here.
I developed a massive crush on a guy that I see every day, we have classes together and study together (mostly his choice), and occasionally go out for a few beers (usually with others). For the first couple of weeks, I thought it was reciprocal, as all the signs were there - lots of eye contact, always wanting to be near me/contact me, blah blah blah, and then we went out for some drinks with friends, all signs were go that we were going to drunkenly head home together, and then he said, "I'm going home now," hugged me and headed off in the other direction (leaving me to wait for a cab by myself... special). This happened again, after we kissed in a bar (very drunkenly). We are mid-20s adults, in graduate school. Day to day, nothing has really changed -- he's single, I'm single, we're friends, we hang out, we laugh, he tries to be near me, I've caught him checking me out, we went out on a pseudo-date one night, but what the hell is going on? We've been doing this for several months now. My first theory was that he was getting over another girl, second theory was that he's inexperienced, and now I'm trying to figure out whether I should continue to pursue the crush, or find a way to move on while still seeing him every day. Is he scared? Am I stupid?