Just fade out?
April 13, 2009 1:02 PM Subscribe
To piggyback on this previous question
, should you let the other person know that you are severing ties?
posted by blithecatpie to Human Relations (11 answers total) 4 users marked this as a favorite
I'm in a similar situation to anon (dated briefly, he wasn't emotionally available, he wanted to be friends, not working out for me), only I've decided resolutely to cut ties. The difference is that we don't talk and hang out quite as much as anon and his friend do (every 2-3 weeks, as opposed to anon's 3-4x a week).
In this situation, do you feel it's necessary to say anything to the other person? Or should I just let things dwindle and fade away? My friends say the latter, but I'd feel bad for doing that. I normally like to be honest and direct about my feelings and he's always been kind and honest to me. However, I hesitate to bring up the matter because I fear another sad, long, drawn-out discussion similar to the one we had when we were breaking up (my ex was uncertain of what he wanted), and I'm thinking we could both do without that drama.
I'm wondering what people would advise is the best way to go about doing this.