Can't be just friends.
April 7, 2009 8:52 AM Subscribe
I'm falling for my friend but she doesn't see me in that way.
posted by anonymous to human relations (26 answers total) 5 users marked this as a favorite
I met a girl last summer and we really hit it off. We hooked up a few times and then she told me that she didn't want to be in a relationship with me but wanted to be "best friends". I told her I would try, then I couldn't do it and we didn't see or talk to each other for about 8 months. That time off from each other was really hard on both of us.
Then we ran into each other at a bar earlier this year and we hit it off again, better than we had the first time. We ended up hooking up again for a few weeks until she told me that she didn't want to anymore and that she just wanted friendship. I was/am extremely broken up about this still, we didn't talk for about a week and then I just had to see her again. We have been hanging out about 3 to 4 times a week as friends since then (that was about two months ago). I thought I was doing well and I thought that maybe I could just hang out, but I'm just crazy about this girl and I don't think I can be just friends with her. I also don't want to cut her out of my life again, and I know that would be hard on her too.
Do I bring it up again hoping there is still a chance? Do I bring it up and tell her I can't put myself through this? Do I just do nothing and try harder to just be friends and find someone else? One thing that really gets to me is that I'm not good enough for her. I just can't reconcile how well we get along and that she liked me enough to hook up for a little while but then she just doesn't want to. I just lack something that she needs and I can't do anything about it... it really hurts so much. It's also really distracting me and sometimes it is all I think about. What should I do?