How to build a new social circle?
September 8, 2008 6:14 PM Subscribe
How do I build myself a new social circle from scratch?
posted by anonymous to Human Relations (19 answers total) 31 users marked this as a favorite
Long story, I'll try to make it short.
In my childhood, my family moved a lot around the country, so I don't have any friends in any of those cities. When my father finally settled down, I moved out to go to college 1500 miles away, so no friends there either.
In the six years I spent in this city, I made some real good friends, just to move to another city (about 300 miles away) because of work. A couple of friends there, 18 months later, guess what? Moved to the other extreme of the country for a nice job opportunity, and nine months in I got transferred to the city in which I live today, since 2005.
In this job I travel a lot, and because of that I don't keep in touch with people from the office; also, the work environment is quite harsh and people aren't usually friends with each other. I brought my girlfriend to live with me, but she couldn't get a job, so we didn't have many friends from her side either. We broke up, she left, and I briefly dated another girl (whom I had known in the "other extreme of the country" and moved here), just to break up a couple of weeks ago.
I still travel a lot, don't have any friends from the work and is hard to keep in touch with friends from the previous cities, as they go on with their lives and we usually end up losing contact.
Now I have this big challenge: I am not leaving this city anytime soon, as I'm making good money, the company is nice and I have a decent living standard. I just need to make new friends, meet new people, perhaps a new girlfriend, I don't know. I am a shy person and have been in therapy for 12 months treating what? Social phobia :)
With that (awful lot) said, what are your suggestions for me to make new friends and start a new personal life?