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I am middle-aged and was recently officially diagnosed with (high-functioning) autism, what would previously probably have been called aspergers. Our kids are teens. What/how/how much do we tell them about autism and my diagnosis?
comment posted at 3:58 PM on Sep-23-18


Can someone help w/ a copycat-of-TV streamcast or YouTube channel?
comment posted at 1:30 PM on Aug-17-18


I have several questions, and I'd particularly like to hear from medical professionals.
comment posted at 9:12 AM on Jul-15-18


My partner (male) is unable to reach orgasm during sex (including fellatio). Other than general “don’t make a big deal out of it”, any suggestions for what I can do to help him know this isn’t a huge deal for me and that I think he is awesome. I'd also love any suggestions for me to make sure I am giving him the absolute most I can during our "interludes".
comment posted at 6:14 PM on Jul-10-18


Who decided babies are supposed to smell like that?
comment posted at 12:29 PM on Jun-28-18


I am deeply in love with a woman, but she refuses to acknowledge or believe it. She has an intense need to be loved, but she also seems to be consumed with self-hate, and she is incapable of accepting love. Instead, she express distrust, doubt, guilt, and self-loathing. She is convinced all my expressions of love are utterly disingenuous and phony, and she beats herself up over every little perceived shortcoming. I find this incredible painful and frustrating. How do I get past this obstacle?
comment posted at 7:55 AM on Jun-28-18


Next week, I'll be driving from Boston to coastal Maine. I've heard of at least three border control checkpoints going up on my intended route (some combination of Routes 93, 95, and 1, traveling through MA, NH, and ME) in the past week, and I want to have a strategy to deal with one in the best way possible if I encounter one while en route.
comment posted at 11:15 AM on Jun-25-18


I have a collapsing bed. It's a wood frame with slats, and the slats keep popping out of their rests, because the central metal rail/support has distorted. I think it's a basic design flaw, as the single vertical supporting rod gets skewed if the bed moves at all, and then the weight of self+partner just pushes things skew. So, what to do?
comment posted at 10:06 AM on Jun-3-18


We're looking at moving to the pacific northwest in the next few years. We'd love to find a neighborhood of Portland or Vancouver that's walkable for groceries, library and restaurants. We'll be bringing our jobs with us, so that's one concern taken care of. We'll be taking a trip out there to investigate on our own, but are there any recommendations from the hivemind? I did see this question, but we're not bound to WA, and didn't know if things had changed in a year.
comment posted at 2:37 PM on May-21-18


I'm a man married to a woman, and we have two toddlers. We love each other, and for the most part we have a good relationship. Lately, though, I've come to feel that my wife's behavior is sometimes abusive, and I don't know what to do about it.
comment posted at 8:22 AM on May-21-18


Which mass noun has the largest individual units? Some mass nouns signify non-physical concepts (e.g. peace), others something that can be made up of different kinds of things (e.g. trash), while some refer to liquids (e.g. gasoline). But some refer to a substance that's made up of individual units of the same thing (e.g. wheat, spaghetti, rice). I'm interested in that last category. Which mass noun in that category has the largest individual units? The biggest I've thought of is "bacon".
comment posted at 11:58 AM on May-21-18
comment posted at 6:08 PM on May-23-18


Ok, here goes: I have Xfinity gigabit ethernet. I have pretty good coverage over all of my house, but with more smart home devices being added each year (some outside) and 4k streaming, torrenting, etc. being part of my weekly usage, I'd like to utilize my fire hose as well as I possibly can.
comment posted at 9:17 AM on May-17-18


Next week I'll be in Carmel-by-the-Sea for a day with my six-month-old baby but without a car. What should we do?
comment posted at 11:29 AM on May-18-18


I'm doing an experiment with a rental car to see if having a car makes my life easier. I would like to get an app that will let me track how much I'm spending on gas per mile. What's the best iOS app for that? There seems to be a lot of options and I'd rather not have to do a bunch of trial and error.
comment posted at 8:43 AM on May-13-18


I'll try to keep this shortish and to the point. My sister is 25 and she's dating a guy who is 27. We have a daughter (3) and my sister and this guy she's dating have routinely looked after my daughter once a week. They've mainly done trips into the city, been to the park. Once or twice they've been swimming or to a play barn.
comment posted at 3:17 PM on May-11-18


My department (about 12 people), plus a few others, are all going on a group vacation abroad. I have deliberately been excluded, which makes me feel awful, and I don’t know what resolution I could get from the whole situation.
comment posted at 12:20 PM on May-6-18


Thinking about the last season of Twin Peaks, I was wondering what the distinctive font is that is used for street addresses, like the 3 and the 6 here. There are street numbers in a similar style on houses in California and other places, and I wonder where this started.
comment posted at 10:22 AM on Apr-30-18
comment posted at 8:54 AM on May-1-18


I am a tenured professor at a large, R1 state flagship university, a huge place with many multi-million dollar renovations and innovations constantly going on. This is one of the major state universities in the nation. We faculty do not get a summer salary. (Staff does, not faculty.)
comment posted at 9:12 AM on Apr-26-18


It's overly loud, less than studio quality, usually crowded. You have to sit through the bad songs. Most musicians are only barely performance artists. I just don't get the appeal.
comment posted at 11:23 AM on Apr-23-18


Last Sunday I sexted with this guy from Tinder. It's the first time I've done this. Now he starts texting me in the middle of the day with screenshots of sexual things I said. It really freaks me out like he's trying to control me or something. What should I do? Is this actually dangerous or am I freaking out over nothing?
comment posted at 1:22 PM on Apr-20-18


Bedroom music producers/singers: Are you comfortable writing and practicing original music in your home when others are around, knowing they can might hear what you're doing? How do you get comfortable with this?
comment posted at 7:57 AM on Apr-20-18


Easy, under the radar methods of sending myself non-work documents-in-progress to and from an increasingly monitored work account?
comment posted at 8:34 AM on Apr-19-18


What breed is my cat? He might be mixed, but I would like to have an idea what he might be mixed with if he is. Photo Gallery
comment posted at 9:03 AM on Apr-9-18


I was lucky enough to get firstlastname.com but the domain company (Hover) does not do website hosting. I looked at Squarespace and similar but I don't want a fancy template, I want a completely clean slate that I can just FTP stuff that I create, and I don't want to buy a domain name from the hosting company. I am fine with paying $5/month or whatever. Can I get an account at Squarespace and just delete all their crap? Or what's a better site?
comment posted at 9:40 AM on Apr-2-18


What kind of influence should my husband’s conservative religious family have in our household and traditions?
comment posted at 12:41 PM on Apr-1-18


I don't think this is a job for a "handyman," but I don't know of another kind of person who would be the right person to call for this kind of thing. I have a TV, and I have a sound-bar-and-bass-thing, and I want them to go. I hooked them up with a digital audio cable and then rage-quit. Where can I get someone to do this one thing, in Chicago, without it costing me a lot of money? I searched TaskRabbit with some keywords, but nothing comes up.
comment posted at 6:42 PM on Mar-31-18


I (36 F) and Mr. Millipede (40 M) are trying to conceive, via fertility treatments, after a 6-month break from doing so. Last time, it was increasingly emotionally hard each cycle. This time, it is already emotionally hard. I seek your strategies for mental and emotional stability during this time.
comment posted at 8:52 AM on Mar-26-18


We are an overseas couple who are considering eloping to a US city. As we will be on holiday, time will be limited, so we want somewhere which is basically first come, first served. Any suggestions?
comment posted at 9:15 AM on Mar-25-18


Why, if there's a universal translator in Star Trek, do some words and phrases in alien languages go untranslated?
comment posted at 2:57 PM on Mar-16-18


A few friends and I have formed a practice club to work on our nosework skills with our dogs. We are trying to come up with a name but none of us are very creative.
comment posted at 8:48 AM on Mar-16-18


I've been trying to meet people online for five years and am still friendless and single.
comment posted at 11:52 AM on Mar-2-18


I feel like I'm losing my mind looking for this bit. The bit is a comedian on stage doing a standup act, but he actually says a not of nothing.
comment posted at 2:13 PM on Mar-1-18


Serious boyfriend was cheating, without condoms, throughout our relationship. He never had feelings for me; our entire relationship was a lie so he could use me. Now I'm doing everything right but nothing helps at all. What else?
comment posted at 11:57 AM on Mar-1-18


I have a lot of files in a Windows 10 filesystem. I want to put them online so that my solicitor (and nobody else) can access them. My best present solution: Zip the files, FTP the whole thing over to a filespace I own, password protect the directory, and let my solicitor download it in one big lump. It's an acceptable fallback but I'd rather have a nice interface we both can use to search and so forth. Suggestions?
comment posted at 8:39 PM on Feb-13-18


My poor husband has been diagnosed with severe periodontal disease and is going to have to get a few teeth pulled next week. I'm sure he's going to feel miserable after. What can I do to help him feel more comfortable after the extraction, both physically and mentally?
comment posted at 10:40 AM on Feb-11-18


I am struggling to get my primary care physician to take my ongoing (at times debilitating) pain seriously. Please help me frame my concerns to him in such a way that he won’t keep blowing me off.
comment posted at 11:15 AM on Feb-9-18


What would you do if your open relationship got real, real fast?
comment posted at 12:46 PM on Feb-8-18


My Dear Hive Mind: Next week, the staff in my lab will have two evenings in a row where we will have to stay late for meetings. We all hate evening meetings, so I'd like to do something to make the second one a little easier (I don't have control over the first one). I was planning to order dinner for us, but one of the staffers feels uncomfortable eating in public, and wouldn't eat at a meeting. What are non-food ways of making this meeting more pleasant (aside from keeping it as short as possible)?
comment posted at 1:41 PM on Jan-25-18


I've had life long struggles with hypochondria but recently an extreme focus of my anxiety has been around contracting herpes. Despite my bouts of panic stricken googling and webMD searches, I am realizing that I do not have accurate facts about symptoms, signs, transmission, etc. Looking to be educated / pointed towards quality resources so I can have a fruitful conversation with my doctor. Looking as well for any thoughts on how to deal with my anxiety.
comment posted at 1:27 PM on Jan-21-18


The company I work for wants me to absorb another job. I want to make sure I get paid appropriately. What should I expect my raise to be? Details within.
comment posted at 8:48 AM on Jan-11-18


I’d like to surprise the woman I’m going out with by leaving food for her at her workplace. I had to do some research to make it work. Do I do it?
comment posted at 8:10 AM on Jan-11-18


I was hit in as a pedestrian in a crosswalk recently by an (apparently!) inattentive driver. Online or in person, about 30% of the well-intended remarks by people whi hear this news either congratulate me on an aticipated settlement or advise me to get a lawyer. My medical insurance is excellent, and I do not expect to pay a penny. I hate lawyers and while I understand they are needed in certain situations, can't see how this is one. I'm not missing work or permanently disabled, and feel more anger at this set of well-intended advice interactions than the driver. What the hell? Do rhey live in a different culture than me? How can I get them to shut the fuck up? Additionally, are they right? Like, a million bucks is worth two days hanging out with lawyers. Five grand ain't.
comment posted at 8:06 AM on Dec-14-17


As a sex-less, conservative Christian, how do I cope with living in a very sexual world?
comment posted at 7:11 AM on Dec-14-17


My ten-year-old grandson is interested in carving. I would like to buy him a kit for Christmas, but I'm not thrilled with what I'm finding. Is this doable?
comment posted at 10:21 AM on Nov-13-17


I have 4 colors, in the following ratios: 2-white, 1-off white, 1-medium grey, 2-dark grey. The layout will be diamonds (roughly perfect squares on the diagonal), 3 tiles high, across a kitchen backsplash. How would YOU apportion these colors?
comment posted at 11:58 AM on Oct-29-17


Is calling a blog post a "blog" accepted usage?
comment posted at 11:40 AM on Oct-26-17


You all always know right away the movie I'm trying to remember, but this time it's a tough one. The line: "Screw you." Yep, that's it. More inside.
comment posted at 9:34 AM on Oct-19-17


My boyfriend didn't take any pictures of me in our two years together, and as soon as he took some, he also photographed an ex-love.
comment posted at 5:39 PM on Oct-15-17


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