(NSFW) Easy sex positions for my wife and I

September 17, 2013 7:48 PM

My wife can't spread her legs do to her disability. I can just about get my head between her legs with lots of stretching to eat her out but thats about it.

So when we have sex we have a modified missionary position (very similar to: http://zenkarma.org/images/101-Sex-Positions-Raising-the-Mast.jpg, or http://www.the-sex-website.org/manontop/manontop%20(42).jpg ), doggie style, spooning and one with her on top (http://www.sex-techniques-and-positions.com/picturesextra/Pc059900.jpg).

So, given this restriction, can you all point me to sex positions that are easier on my quads then the first one. She cannot straddle me.

posted by snow_mac to Human Relations (15 answers total)

Women's Health has a sex position guide where you can search by flexibility, penis length, stamina, and who'll get the most uumph from the overall experience.
posted by spunweb at 8:18 PM on September 17, 2013 [2 favorites]

Could she manage doggy style? If she can't support herself you could use the edge of the bed or a variety of angled cushions and supports. In fact the cushions and supports might possibly help in whatever position you are in.

You don't say how much strength she has to move around, but also would you sitting in a chair and she sitting on your lap facing away work? She would not have to straddle you and could bend forward for access. Pick a nice sturdy armchair and she can use her arms to help her move or you could put a sturdy table or something within reach. You can help her lift herself up and down or she can put her feet on the ground and you spread your legs to help with movement.
posted by wwax at 8:23 PM on September 17, 2013

Can you lay on your side, with her on her back, with her knees over your bum? Does that make sense?
posted by kellyblah at 10:11 PM on September 17, 2013 [1 favorite]

Response by poster: @kellyblah, do you have an illustration?
posted by snow_mac at 10:51 PM on September 17, 2013 [1 favorite]

Response by poster: She can handle doggie style no problem. She can walk with crutches she just can't spread her legs.
posted by snow_mac at 10:51 PM on September 17, 2013

Some women find clitoral stimulation more pleasurable with their legs pressed together. You can try manually, orally or mechanically pleasuring her this way in a variety of positions- her sitting in your lap at the time might also enable penetration.
posted by windykites at 11:09 PM on September 17, 2013 [1 favorite]

I think this is what kellyblah is talking about.
posted by escapepod at 5:17 AM on September 18, 2013 [2 favorites]

@snow_mac, I think kellyblah may have been referring to the "Afternoon Delight" as illustrated here.
posted by cior at 8:58 AM on September 18, 2013

Is she completely unable of having her legs apart at all, or are you able to assist in positioning her legs even if she can't move them into that position herself?
posted by yohko at 2:43 PM on September 18, 2013

Might a Liberator chair/pillow (or a cheaper equivalent) be useful?
posted by softlord at 7:28 PM on September 18, 2013

Response by poster: @ yohko her hamstrings are so tight that you cannot move her legs apart very much. My assisting results in lots of pain and discomfort.
posted by snow_mac at 8:49 AM on September 19, 2013

Response by poster: @cior @escapepod thank you! I am going to try that. Are there more like that? That's what I'm looking for.
posted by snow_mac at 8:50 AM on September 19, 2013

Response by poster: @windykites is there a way to have her legs pressed together with my penis in her?
posted by snow_mac at 8:51 AM on September 19, 2013

Doggy-style, but with her laying face down. Bonus pretzel: She can hump a pillow during.
posted by ostranenie at 7:38 PM on September 19, 2013

For variation on the first position that might be easier on your quads, she can use pillows to raise the height of her hips. Liberator also makes some wedge shaped pillows that are very firm and stable, while being narrow enough that you should be able to have your own knees around the pillow.
posted by yohko at 7:56 PM on September 19, 2013